What do you the most judgemental about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here is another kind of people that I judge:
People who sell their reproductive cells to people who want to pretend they had kids.
This folks - the sellers and the buyers - don't think about the danger of kids from a same "seller" meeting during adult life and producing offspring.
Oh well, everybody had such "ewwwwwww" reactions when mackenzie phillips said her dad slept with her. I can't get over the fact that people actually think incest is gross when it is known but it is ok when it's unknown and we're not doing anything to avoid it.
EEEEEWWWWWWWWW GROSSSSSS!!!

What the hell is your problem? Really? Bad experience of some sort? I'd think there would be a MUCH higher risk of unknown siblings from old fashioned infidelity. You are just insane. Hateful, and insane.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I judge people that can't get over the fact that they cannot produce offspring so they buy stranger's reproductive cells just to pretend they had a kid.
Or even worse, they pay someone to carry the child and take the kiddo away to pretend they had it.
The kid is not yours anyway so why don't you raise a kid that is already out there waiting for help?
Yes, I judge people that are so selfish to the point they'll let a kiddo die just because they want to pretend they had their own child.

Wow. I have mixed feelings on some of the reproductive technologies out there, and sometimes think people go to extremes to have their "own" child, but I couldn't generate even .001% of the vitriol in your post, PP. You're a remarkably hateful person. I would say "shame on you" but I suspect you have no ability to feel shame, as that would require some sort of empathy or conscience, and based on your post, those must be lacking in your life.

I never said I hate them. I feel sorry for them and judge them, that's it.

Let me add that I judge people who make assumptions about others based only on what they read in an anonymous forum.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I judge women who work out like fiends well into their pregnancies. I'm not talking about continuing to be active and get exercise - that's all well and good - I'm talking about the crazies who proudly boast that they continued running into their third trimester, then switched to spinning classes for something "less intense". To me that screams "more concerned with my looks than my baby!"

Have you read that today medicine and science believe that exercising is actually good for the pregnant mother and baby?
Have you read that pregnancy is not a disease and there's nothing wrong with exercising the same intensity being preggo or not?
Have you read that your body tells you when to slow down or stop? You just have to listen to it.
I think you should read a little more too.

ps. I'm not the work out mom you're talking about.

Yes, I am quite well read, thanks.

Review the post: exercise is good. Crazy intense exercise well into late pregnancy - a bit twisted. Your body really isn't designed to run marathons at 38 weeks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge people that can't get over the fact that they cannot produce offspring so they buy stranger's reproductive cells just to pretend they had a kid.
Or even worse, they pay someone to carry the child and take the kiddo away to pretend they had it.
The kid is not yours anyway so why don't you raise a kid that is already out there waiting for help?
Yes, I judge people that are so selfish to the point they'll let a kiddo die just because they want to pretend they had their own child.

Wow. I have mixed feelings on some of the reproductive technologies out there, and sometimes think people go to extremes to have their "own" child, but I couldn't generate even .001% of the vitriol in your post, PP. You're a remarkably hateful person. I would say "shame on you" but I suspect you have no ability to feel shame, as that would require some sort of empathy or conscience, and based on your post, those must be lacking in your life.

I never said I hate them. I feel sorry for them and judge them, that's it.

Let me add that I judge people who make assumptions about others based only on what they read in an anonymous forum.

Uh - what? Sympathetic and judgemental all at the same time? Neat trick.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I secretly judge formula feeders. I'd never say anything though. Don't bother with the explanations, PLEASE! We've all heard about reason and your right and your personal choice yadda yadda yadda.

I judge formula feeders too. And if they used formula from the first day, I judge them more harshly. It's one of the most selfish "personal choices" there is.

And formula stinks. I gag just looking at it.

I judge those that are judgemental about things that don't affect them one bit...seriously, what difference does it make to you how I feed my kid.

Now, seeing your saggy boob, that's another story. Bleh!

I judge women who put their personal appearance above the well-being of their children.

[Anonymous]

I judge women who put their personal appearance above the well-being of their children.

Totally agree - both in the context of obsession over weight gain during pregnancy, breastfeeding, and dropping weight after delivery ("I couldn't breastfeed, I had no milk supply" (while aggressively trying to lose baby weight)).

[Anonymous]

I have to admit I judge my friends who take their kids to one of those in-home daycares that has only one woman watching 6 or 8 kids. I just don't think it can be that safe or great for development. BTW, these people (both surgeons) can easily afford a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge people that can't get over the fact that they cannot produce offspring so they buy stranger's reproductive cells just to pretend they had a kid.
Or even worse, they pay someone to carry the child and take the kiddo away to pretend they had it.
The kid is not yours anyway so why don't you raise a kid that is already out there waiting for help?
Yes, I judge people that are so selfish to the point they'll let a kiddo die just because they want to pretend they had their own child.

Wow. I have mixed feelings on some of the reproductive technologies out there, and sometimes think people go to extremes to have their "own" child, but I couldn't generate even .001% of the vitriol in your post, PP. You're a remarkably hateful person. I would say "shame on you" but I suspect you have no ability to feel shame, as that would require some sort of empathy or conscience, and based on your post, those must be lacking in your life.

I never said I hate them. I feel sorry for them and judge them, that's it.

Let me add that I judge people who make assumptions about others based only on what they read in an anonymous forum.

Uh - what? Sympathetic and judgmental all at the same time? Neat trick.

So what? I cannot have an opinion about someone and be sorry for their poor choice at the same time?

No, I don't hate them. I only think they're extremely selfish and unhappy. And Yes, I feel sorry for unhappy people that have to pretend during their entire lives.

And you're ok to judge me for that.

[Anonymous]

I think his/her point, which I mostly agree with, is if you & your husband can't have your own children, why not just adopt?

[Anonymous]

When I see kids that look homeless and raggy, yet the parents are well put together, I judge the parents. If your kid's pants are two inches too short they need new pants. If their belly is showing their shirt is too small.

I judge when I see kids eating lunchables.

I judge when I see old toddlers, bordering 4/5 years old with pacifiers.

I judge people who complain they can't afford anything but buy bmw's and go on fancy vacations.

I judge men who have no time for their family but are always at some happy hour or sporting event.

I judge people who don't have time for their kids.

I judge people who don't keep their homes semi clean, not spotless, but not a dirty mess.

I judge people at the park who let their kids run around in short sleeves when the weather call for a sweater.

I judge people who ask questions on DCUM, when they should call a doctor. Not the "have you experienced this" stuff, but the "my kid has a red bottom and I can't get her the doctor for 7 days" stuff. Really? Come on.

I judge people who snark moms who decide to formula feed. It is their choice, not yours.

I judge my neighbors who put trash out in bags a day before trash pick up only to have the crows rip it open and drag it all over. WTF? Really? We are not *trashy* people! Put the trash in a can or take it out that morning!

I judge people who walk around with a baby and hot coffee. What if?

I judge people who allow their teens to run the house. A bad teenager who throws fits and talks back is just as bad as a tantrum-y toddler.

I judge people who claim to only *bathe* their child every 2-4 weeks. Gross.

I also judge the grammar police. It's a message board. We all make mistakes while typing.

I judge people who feed their kids lots of processed foods.

I judge people who have playrooms that rival Toys R Us.

I judge my ex who cannot afford $200 a month, yes only $200 in child support but has two new cars and four redskins season tickets.

I judge people who drive like nitwits whlie talking on the phone.

Smokers, I judge smokers. For the love of god QUIT, if not for your own health for your family!

Wow, I am a judgy mcjudgerstein!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think his/her point, which I mostly agree with, is if you & your husband can't have your own children, why not just adopt?

I always wondered that too. I think it's because there are some women who are yearn for the pregnancy as much as for the child. There are also other women who feel they are more in control if they are the one in charge of the pregnancy. There are probably couples who don't want people to know about their reproductive issues, and if they are the one's giving birth no one will question them. Then there are the fears that the adoption could fall through.

[Anonymous]

I also judge gay couples that undergo fertility treatment to have "their own kids".
WTH? You chose to be with a partner of the same sex, OK it's your choice.
Now, you want to have children... and instead of adopting you get both pregnant or you pay a woman to get pregnant with both of your sperm?
Who are you kidding with such behavior?
If you really wanted to have children you should think twice before getting in such relationship.
If nature already said that being with a partner of the same sex means not generating offspring why would you fake it?
And kiddos out there are still waiting for a loving family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also judge gay couples that undergo fertility treatment to have "their own kids".
WTH? You chose to be with a partner of the same sex, OK it's your choice.
Now, you want to have children... and instead of adopting you get both pregnant or you pay a woman to get pregnant with both of your sperm?
Who are you kidding with such behavior?
If you really wanted to have children you should think twice before getting in such relationship.
If nature already said that being with a partner of the same sex means not generating offspring why would you fake it?
And kiddos out there are still waiting for a loving family.

Actually, in nature there are many animals that can produce with no partner or with a partner of the same sex. Don't you watch Animal Kingdom or Discovery Channel?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit I judge my friends who take their kids to one of those in-home daycares that has only one woman watching 6 or 8 kids. I just don't think it can be that safe or great for development. BTW, these people (both surgeons) can easily afford a nanny.

You must have reviewed your surgeon friends' student loan balances, right, so you know they're debt free and raking in the cash? I'm a lawyer, and my student loan bills exceed my mortgage payment. My family thinks I'm rich because I get paid a lot. They forget that I incurred a lot of debt along the way to the degree that allows me to be well paid, and now I have to pay off that debt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really enjoyed reading this thread. I know I am judged everywhere I go.

I'm overweight, have been since I was a baby (I was even breast fed!). I remember dieting as early as 10 years old.

I formula fed one of my children (Breastmilk is not always best - I breast fed the first and he has all sorts of health concerns. My breast milk was poor quality)

I have an out of date hair style and wardrobe - why? I'll still be ugly with new clothes and new hair.

I believe in God, therefore I am stupid on top of all my other problems.

I smoke - not in front of the kids, but in the late evening when I feel like eating.

I curse - I actually lived in a trailer park for 4 years (I am slowly learning that a lot of things I do are WRONG because of my upbringing).

I am white (but I wish I wasn't so Iwould have some excuse for being so angry all the time)

I shop at Walmart - that is what we can afford and we live close by.

I actually did make most of our baby food so I am not a total loser.

I really hate this area...and I wish that my husband (surprisingly I found someone dumber than me to marry me) never took a job in this area. He promised me a better life.

I wish I never found this website.

Hugs to you, honey!! Not everyone on this website -- and in this area -- is as bitchy as some of the posters above.

Many of us are more live-and-let-live types who care far more about people's hearts than we do about their clothes, hair, weight etc.