What's the biggest secret you're keeping from your SO?

[Anonymous]

He thinks I've been with 3 people. I've been 29 sonething people

[Anonymous]

That I was not really born into his culture. My parents are dead and I have no siblings or relatives I'm in contact with. DH wanted a girl from his culture and I wanted him, so I lied. His fault for being stupid enough to let something as stupid as "blood" almost come between us.

[Anonymous]

I have 2.

1. Right before her death, DH's mother confided in me that he and his brother have different fathers. His brother's father is actually his uncle (FIL's brother). No one else (including FIL) knows this.

2. I had multiple affairs early in our marriage. At one point, I was sleeping with three different people besides him.

[Anonymous]

He doesn't know about DCUM and my chats with other guys.

[Anonymous]

I have a fair amount of CC debt leftover from before I was divorced from my XH. Some of it came from bad joint decisions between us and I got a little screwed in the divorce. I don’t think my new SO would be upset because I pay it all myself and still contribute to our savings and overhead, but I’m embarrassed about it. It seems like small potatoes compared to some of these, though.

[Anonymous]

Maxed out two credit cards, took out a secret loan to pay them off, then maxed them out again, took out another secret loan to pay off the first loan and the maxed credit cards.

Cleaned out child's savings account.

Spent $700 at a strip club.

Took out two random secret loans over 3 years for $3k and $5k.

Maxed out the credit cards again with cash advances to the amount of $20k.

Took out another secret loan to cover the credit cards again.

Acquired a third secret card and maxed it.

Stopped making payments on the secret loan and secret credit card last year and now both items have been discharged and balance is 30k.

Can't get any more loans.

Spouse wants to start buying a house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

2. I had multiple affairs early in our marriage. At one point, I was sleeping with three different people besides him.

You sound like fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maxed out two credit cards, took out a secret loan to pay them off, then maxed them out again, took out another secret loan to pay off the first loan and the maxed credit cards.

Cleaned out child's savings account.

Spent $700 at a strip club.

Took out two random secret loans over 3 years for $3k and $5k.

Maxed out the credit cards again with cash advances to the amount of $20k.

Took out another secret loan to cover the credit cards again.

Acquired a third secret card and maxed it.

Stopped making payments on the secret loan and secret credit card last year and now both items have been discharged[u] and balance is 30k.


I mean "CHARGED OFF."

Can't get any more loans.

Spouse wants to start buying a house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maxed out two credit cards, took out a secret loan to pay them off, then maxed them out again, took out another secret loan to pay off the first loan and the maxed credit cards.

Cleaned out child's savings account.

Spent $700 at a strip club.

Took out two random secret loans over 3 years for $3k and $5k.

Maxed out the credit cards again with cash advances to the amount of $20k.

Took out another secret loan to cover the credit cards again.

Acquired a third secret card and maxed it.

Stopped making payments on the secret loan and secret credit card last year and now both items have been discharged[u] and balance is 30k.


I mean "CHARGED OFF."

Can't get any more loans.

Spouse wants to start buying a house.

Jesus... what's your total debt right now? No offense but this is something you need therapy for as that habit is absolutely going to bankrupt you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maxed out two credit cards, took out a secret loan to pay them off, then maxed them out again, took out another secret loan to pay off the first loan and the maxed credit cards.

Cleaned out child's savings account.

Spent $700 at a strip club.

Took out two random secret loans over 3 years for $3k and $5k.

Maxed out the credit cards again with cash advances to the amount of $20k.

Took out another secret loan to cover the credit cards again.

Acquired a third secret card and maxed it.

Stopped making payments on the secret loan and secret credit card last year and now both items have been discharged[u] and balance is 30k.


I mean "CHARGED OFF."

Can't get any more loans.

Spouse wants to start buying a house.

Jesus... what's your total debt right now? No offense but this is something you need therapy for as that habit is absolutely going to bankrupt you.

Therapy doesn't work, and hasn't worked, I tried it 3 times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maxed out two credit cards, took out a secret loan to pay them off, then maxed them out again, took out another secret loan to pay off the first loan and the maxed credit cards.

Cleaned out child's savings account.

Spent $700 at a strip club.

Took out two random secret loans over 3 years for $3k and $5k.

Maxed out the credit cards again with cash advances to the amount of $20k.

Took out another secret loan to cover the credit cards again.

Acquired a third secret card and maxed it.

Stopped making payments on the secret loan and secret credit card last year and now both items have been discharged[u] and balance is 30k.


I mean "CHARGED OFF."

Can't get any more loans.

Spouse wants to start buying a house.

Jesus... what's your total debt right now? No offense but this is something you need therapy for as that habit is absolutely going to bankrupt you.

Therapy doesn't work, and hasn't worked, I tried it 3 times.

You need to give credit up as a concept then. You're treating it like an addiction and it will break you, and he's likely going to leave you as well over it. Just cut up the cards and work toward paying them off and not opening any more

[Anonymous]

My SO is annoyed that I let my German Shepherd sleep on the bed. What he doesn't know is that when he travels on business my German Shepherd replaces him in bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maxed out two credit cards, took out a secret loan to pay them off, then maxed them out again, took out another secret loan to pay off the first loan and the maxed credit cards.

Cleaned out child's savings account.

Spent $700 at a strip club.

Took out two random secret loans over 3 years for $3k and $5k.

Maxed out the credit cards again with cash advances to the amount of $20k.

Took out another secret loan to cover the credit cards again.

Acquired a third secret card and maxed it.

Stopped making payments on the secret loan and secret credit card last year and now both items have been discharged[u] and balance is 30k.


I mean "CHARGED OFF."

Can't get any more loans.

Spouse wants to start buying a house.

Jesus... what's your total debt right now? No offense but this is something you need therapy for as that habit is absolutely going to bankrupt you.

Therapy doesn't work, and hasn't worked, I tried it 3 times.

You need to give credit up as a concept then. You're treating it like an addiction and it will break you, and he's likely going to leave you as well over it. Just cut up the cards and work toward paying them off and not opening any more

This is a "he." Doe sit change the situation, when this behavior is a man and not a woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maxed out two credit cards, took out a secret loan to pay them off, then maxed them out again, took out another secret loan to pay off the first loan and the maxed credit cards.

Cleaned out child's savings account.

Spent $700 at a strip club.

Took out two random secret loans over 3 years for $3k and $5k.

Maxed out the credit cards again with cash advances to the amount of $20k.

Took out another secret loan to cover the credit cards again.

Acquired a third secret card and maxed it.

Stopped making payments on the secret loan and secret credit card last year and now both items have been discharged[u] and balance is 30k.


I mean "CHARGED OFF."

Can't get any more loans.

Spouse wants to start buying a house.

Jesus... what's your total debt right now? No offense but this is something you need therapy for as that habit is absolutely going to bankrupt you.

+1

Dollars to donuts that PP is a guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My SO is annoyed that I let my German Shepherd sleep on the bed. What he doesn't know is that when he travels on business my German Shepherd replaces him in bed.

You bang your dog? Gross!