What's the biggest secret you're keeping from your SO?

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Anonymous wrote:Having online "relationships" with other women.

I thought I was your only SO!

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Anonymous wrote:That the father of our 4yo DD is my former AP and not my DH. I ended and ghosted my AP before he knew I was pregnant and my DH never suspecting anything. I'm not telling.

With the popularity of Ancestry results you aren't going to keep this a secret.

Totally - I’m pretty sure that in the future everyone will have their 23andme/ancestry/similar done (well, the future is almost now). There is no way anyone can keep any genetic secret - including donor eggs and such. Good all days of the early 20th century are gone forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That I had a 2nd prehensile penis removed just before we started dating in college. I told DW it was a tumor, but I used it to save up enough money for law school.

What? How did you use it to save money?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having online "relationships" with other women.

Some of them aren't "women".

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Anonymous wrote:That I had a 2nd prehensile penis removed just before we started dating in college. I told DW it was a tumor, but I used it to save up enough money for law school.

What? How did you use it to save money?!

And what is a prehensile penis?

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Anonymous wrote:Having online "relationships" with other women.

Some of them aren't "women".

Some, yes.

But if I ask for a pic of x and then I get it one more it's later, then I know.

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Anonymous wrote:That I had a 2nd prehensile penis removed just before we started dating in college. I told DW it was a tumor, but I used it to save up enough money for law school.

What? How did you use it to save money?!

I'm guessing some kind of porn thing. People will pay money for weird sex stuff.

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Anonymous wrote:When we were dating I had sex with a woman I knew for a long time. It was unprotected and dirty. Later on met up with wife - then girlfriend - and she was "interested". So without a shower in between she gave me oral and Injad sex with her. Best day ever.

Wait, does dirty mean anal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this unusual? Married for 20 years and I do not know how many sexual partners (or who) DH had before me and he doesn't know my number. I could probably guess his. We may have talked about this drunkenly when we were dating and I think he said 5.

I very recently talked about my first boyfriend (age 15) and told DH the truth that inthis relationship, we never had sex. DH seemed surprised and a bit relieved.

Kind of don't ask, don't tell.

We haven't either. Not really either of our business as long as one of us had no disease or something like that. And anyone who would demand to know, and expect that to say something about me (or vice versa), is not someone I want to be with.

[Anonymous]

That I often read about the shows we watch together and then pretend I don't know what's going to happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That I think our lives are better now that his dad is gone.

+1000

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Anonymous wrote:I would like an addition to the house. Like a mini studio so I can live there alone.

You can get a casita no questions asked by moving to the Southwest. If you have a big enough yard and prime location you can get a Tiny House and rent it out occasionally with the other times for your use.

No. Bad weather freaks my cat out. I want a permanent structure connected to the house with a covered walkway. I already secretly drew up the plans. Backyard is never used and big enough for a studio.

My husband is noisey, very early riser, napper, constantly watching tv and he likes to cook. I just want my own nice quiet place. I don't hate him. I just want to be alone. A nice intercom system so we can talk maybe.

He would be highly offended by my secret.

I divorced for much less. Happier than I have ever been. I think solitude is totally underrated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That I often read about the shows we watch together and then pretend I don't know what's going to happen.

Haha I do this too

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Anonymous wrote:I hate his guts and fantasize about his funeral. What I'll wear. How I'll act. What I'll do immediately after. How well I will sleep that first night alone .....

I fantasize when I can't get in touch with my husband for a few hours that he's had a heart attack and I'll find him dead on the floor when I get home. (He had a heart attack a couple years ago.). Literally my only reaction to that fantasy is to think, "My mornings would be more hectic because I'd have to get the kids out of the house by myself, and I would probably have to sign up for a few extra hours per week of after-school care for the kids." My life would be so much better (no one yelling at me...) if he weren't here.

Imagine being with someone for 10 years and having kids with them and her not being sorry if you died.

I simply cannot believe another human being thinks like this.

You would believe it if your spouse were emotionally abusive. I'm actually a very nice, compassionate person.