What's the biggest secret you're keeping from your SO?

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Anonymous wrote:My SO is annoyed that I let my German Shepherd sleep on the bed. What he doesn't know is that when he travels on business my German Shepherd replaces him in bed.

You bang your dog? Gross!

Yeah I thought I was reading that wrong at first. You're a freak, PP!

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Got pregnant "accidentally" on purpose

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That I watch John Oliver on Monday mornings without him and then pretend I haven't seen it when we watch it later together.

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Anonymous wrote:Maxed out two credit cards, took out a secret loan to pay them off, then maxed them out again, took out another secret loan to pay off the first loan and the maxed credit cards.

Cleaned out child's savings account.

Spent $700 at a strip club.

Took out two random secret loans over 3 years for $3k and $5k.

Maxed out the credit cards again with cash advances to the amount of $20k.

Took out another secret loan to cover the credit cards again.

Acquired a third secret card and maxed it.

Stopped making payments on the secret loan and secret credit card last year and now both items have been discharged[u] and balance is 30k.


I mean "CHARGED OFF."

Can't get any more loans.

Spouse wants to start buying a house.

Jesus... what's your total debt right now? No offense but this is something you need therapy for as that habit is absolutely going to bankrupt you.

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Dollars to donuts that PP is a guy.

Is this a common thing to hide from a marriage partner? This amount of debt and spending? It seems really unreasonable to me, financial infidelity is still infidelity, no???

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Anonymous wrote:I have 2.

1. Right before her death, DH's mother confided in me that he and his brother have different fathers. His brother's father is actually his uncle (FIL's brother). No one else (including FIL) knows this.

2. I had multiple affairs early in our marriage. At one point, I was sleeping with three different people besides him.

Has your DH, BIL, or anyone else in the family expressed interest in the DNA/ancestry testing? I hope not! You'll have to gently talk them out of it somehow.

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Anonymous wrote:I have 2.

1. Right before her death, DH's mother confided in me that he and his brother have different fathers. His brother's father is actually his uncle (FIL's brother). No one else (including FIL) knows this.

2. I had multiple affairs early in our marriage. At one point, I was sleeping with three different people besides him.

Has your DH, BIL, or anyone else in the family expressed interest in the DNA/ancestry testing? I hope not! You'll have to gently talk them out of it somehow.

Maybe...the blood brother of his father may be a close enough match.

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Anonymous wrote:My SO is annoyed that I let my German Shepherd sleep on the bed. What he doesn't know is that when he travels on business my German Shepherd replaces him in bed.

You bang your dog? Gross!

Yeah I thought I was reading that wrong at first. You're a freak, PP!

It's really enjoyable. Just wear a t-shirt so you don't get scratched.

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1. Right before her death, DH's mother confided in me that he and his brother have different fathers. His brother's father is actually his uncle (FIL's brother). No one else (including FIL) knows this.

Has your DH, BIL, or anyone else in the family expressed interest in the DNA/ancestry testing? I hope not! You'll have to gently talk them out of it somehow.

Maybe...the blood brother of his father may be a close enough match.


My office manager (who is 62) found out that her dad who passed away a few years ago is not her biological father from her ancestery dna profile. Her mom is still around but doesn't fell the need to confront her. However, now she know why her mom always called her the rebel child and treated her different even though she was not the rebel child of the 2 other sisters.

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I kept my secret until I needed to use it to hurt him. It devastated him. I waited almost 8 years for the opportunity.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate his guts and fantasize about his funeral. What I'll wear. How I'll act. What I'll do immediately after. How well I will sleep that first night alone .....

I fantasize when I can't get in touch with my husband for a few hours that he's had a heart attack and I'll find him dead on the floor when I get home. (He had a heart attack a couple years ago.). Literally my only reaction to that fantasy is to think, "My mornings would be more hectic because I'd have to get the kids out of the house by myself, and I would probably have to sign up for a few extra hours per week of after-school care for the kids." My life would be so much better (no one yelling at me...) if he weren't here.

Imagine being with someone for 10 years and having kids with them and her not being sorry if you died.

I simply cannot believe another human being thinks like this.

You would believe it if your spouse were emotionally abusive. I'm actually a very nice, compassionate person.

+1. I spent 5 years with my undiagnosed mentally ill partner. It was traumatizing. 10 years later I still fantasize or dream that he will die in a plane accident everytime he travels. It is hard to live with a physically or emotionally abusive partner. Even when the abise is driven by mental illness, it has a deeply traumatizing affect. Even when you are separated, the relationship via the kids constantly re-exposes you to trauma. Fantasizing that it somehow magically ends is a normal response to an abnormal situation.

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Anonymous wrote:that I've slept with many of my coworkers.

Are you male or female? Do the coworkers that you've slept with know about each other? If not, how did you pull it off?

Do you work for Amazon?

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Anonymous wrote:My SO is annoyed that I let my German Shepherd sleep on the bed. What he doesn't know is that when he travels on business my German Shepherd replaces him in bed.

You bang your dog? Gross!

What?????

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Anonymous wrote:I kept my secret until I needed to use it to hurt him. It devastated him. I waited almost 8 years for the opportunity.

Proud of yourself? You sound like you were just waiting to screw with him.

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Anonymous wrote:Maxed out two credit cards, took out a secret loan to pay them off, then maxed them out again, took out another secret loan to pay off the first loan and the maxed credit cards.

Cleaned out child's savings account.

Spent $700 at a strip club.

Took out two random secret loans over 3 years for $3k and $5k.

Maxed out the credit cards again with cash advances to the amount of $20k.
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Took out another secret loan to cover the credit cards again.

Acquired a third secret card and maxed it.

Stopped making payments on the secret loan and secret credit card last year and now both items have been discharged[u] and balance is 30k.


I mean "CHARGED OFF."

Can't get any more loans.

Spouse wants to start buying a house.

Jesus... what's your total debt right now? No offense but this is something you need therapy for as that habit is absolutely going to bankrupt you.

Your family will hate you when they find out. My mother did this to my father. He found out when I was in elementary school. I have vivid memories of that time. I hate my mother for it and have cut her off.

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that I think his idea for a novel sounds boring/confusing.

that I do not like kissing him (too much forceful tongue, ugh).


that's about it--although there's stuff we just dont ask each other about--I manage our finances, but rarely ask about how he spends and vice versa, unless there's an issue. Or how many previous sexual partners, etc. So I am not keeping a secret from him, but I think he would be a little surprised to know about some of my experiences. I'd be happy to share but he is pretty vanilla)....