Just got grief for bringing 5 yo DS into the women's locker room

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This argument, which happens at least once a year, is absurd. If you don't like the rules of the club, don't go to that club.

Why should my 10 year old daughter have to deal with your 5+ year old son staring at her while she changes?

You can change you son at home, in the car, or even by putting a towel around his waist so that he can do a deck change.

You could also accompany him into the men's locker room. As a father, I would rather you see me naked than have your son see my daughter naked.

When you break the rule and bring your son into the ladies locker room, you are just saying that you think his welfare is more important than the welfare of my daughter and all of the other young girls in that locker room.

Firstly my 5 year old son has ABSOLUTELY ZERO interest in looking at your 10 year old daughter. Secondly, if your 10 year old daughter should think that my 5 year old son was looking at her it is YOUR DUTY as a parent to tell her that he's just a little kid, that she should mind her own business and get on with getting clothed. Where are all you people that see so much nudity in the changing room anyway? I certainly don't ever see ANYONE naked, nor am I, myself, standing there naked in any way that people can really see anything significant.

That is just the most ridiculous response. How exactly do you reason with a pre-teen about something like this? Do you have a daughter?

As noted above, why don't you go into the men's changing room with your son. You should not worry about anyone looking at you, you should just mind your own business and get on with getting clothed.

No, yours is the most ridiculous response. You are really advocating that a grown woman go in the men's? No, you clearly passed on your ridiculous hang ups to your TEN YEAR OLD. She's 10. Tell her to grow the hell up and that a 5 year old isn't ogling her then get on with your business.

But why does your 5 year old need to be there in the first place?

The same reason that your 10 year old needs to be there. Let's fix this, shall we, why don't you keep your 10 year old at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This argument, which happens at least once a year, is absurd. If you don't like the rules of the club, don't go to that club.

Why should my 10 year old daughter have to deal with your 5+ year old son staring at her while she changes?

You can change you son at home, in the car, or even by putting a towel around his waist so that he can do a deck change.

You could also accompany him into the men's locker room. As a father, I would rather you see me naked than have your son see my daughter naked.

When you break the rule and bring your son into the ladies locker room, you are just saying that you think his welfare is more important than the welfare of my daughter and all of the other young girls in that locker room.

Firstly my 5 year old son has ABSOLUTELY ZERO interest in looking at your 10 year old daughter. Secondly, if your 10 year old daughter should think that my 5 year old son was looking at her it is YOUR DUTY as a parent to tell her that he's just a little kid, that she should mind her own business and get on with getting clothed. Where are all you people that see so much nudity in the changing room anyway? I certainly don't ever see ANYONE naked, nor am I, myself, standing there naked in any way that people can really see anything significant.

That is just the most ridiculous response. How exactly do you reason with a pre-teen about something like this? Do you have a daughter?

As noted above, why don't you go into the men's changing room with your son. You should not worry about anyone looking at you, you should just mind your own business and get on with getting clothed.

No, yours is the most ridiculous response. You are really advocating that a grown woman go in the men's? No, you clearly passed on your ridiculous hang ups to your TEN YEAR OLD. She's 10. Tell her to grow the hell up and that a 5 year old isn't ogling her then get on with your business.

But why does your 5 year old need to be there in the first place?

The same reason that your 10 year old needs to be there. Let's fix this, shall we, why don't you keep your 10 year old at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn't the real issue that the mothers want their sons in the locker so that the mothers can keep and eye on the child while the mother changes? Boys can change with a towel around their waist pretty easily, so they really don't need to be in any locker room to change.

A mother can throw on sweats to drive home or else change in a restroom. The real issue is that some think they are entitled to get their way to hell with everyone else.

Please explain. If the mother is changing in the restroom how is this different from changing in the changing room (and typically the restroom is INSIDE the changing room). Where are her children while she is in the restroom? How is this different from when she's in the changing room? She is still leaving her 5 year old unsupervised somewhere, against the rules of the facility.

Sigh. Let me break it down for you: swimming ends. At poolside mom throws on sweats. Mom then either throws on clothes or a robe on kid over kid's wet suit and drives him home OR takes kid into the women's restroom (NOT the locker room) OR changes kid poolside with a towel around him OR allows kid to change himself.

Many a time I've held a towel up for my then 5 year old and used my TOES to help pull his suit down.

Let me break it down for YOU: restroom is INSIDE the locker room. Changing poolside is strictly prohibited (and enforced). It is 32 degrees outside. Understand, you old prude?

Aside: it's actually hilarious to me that adult women think that there is an issue with being seen by or seeing a 5 year old changing their clothes. Seriously, people, who are you? Do you even remember what a 5 year old looks like? I have one. They are innocent little kids!

So, what's the problem with toweling off poolside and then throwing on sweats over the suit, like many PPs have suggested?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This argument, which happens at least once a year, is absurd. If you don't like the rules of the club, don't go to that club.

Why should my 10 year old daughter have to deal with your 5+ year old son staring at her while she changes?

You can change you son at home, in the car, or even by putting a towel around his waist so that he can do a deck change.

You could also accompany him into the men's locker room. As a father, I would rather you see me naked than have your son see my daughter naked.

When you break the rule and bring your son into the ladies locker room, you are just saying that you think his welfare is more important than the welfare of my daughter and all of the other young girls in that locker room.

Firstly my 5 year old son has ABSOLUTELY ZERO interest in looking at your 10 year old daughter. Secondly, if your 10 year old daughter should think that my 5 year old son was looking at her it is YOUR DUTY as a parent to tell her that he's just a little kid, that she should mind her own business and get on with getting clothed. Where are all you people that see so much nudity in the changing room anyway? I certainly don't ever see ANYONE naked, nor am I, myself, standing there naked in any way that people can really see anything significant.

If you think nudity is such a non-issue, just change your son outside the locker room in the lobby. If he protests that people are looking at him, just tell him to mind his own business and get on with getting clothed. And people are not objecting to boys under 5, they are objecting to boys older than 5.

A girl should feel free to change in the girl's locker room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This argument, which happens at least once a year, is absurd. If you don't like the rules of the club, don't go to that club.

Why should my 10 year old daughter have to deal with your 5+ year old son staring at her while she changes?

You can change you son at home, in the car, or even by putting a towel around his waist so that he can do a deck change.

You could also accompany him into the men's locker room. As a father, I would rather you see me naked than have your son see my daughter naked.

When you break the rule and bring your son into the ladies locker room, you are just saying that you think his welfare is more important than the welfare of my daughter and all of the other young girls in that locker room.

Firstly my 5 year old son has ABSOLUTELY ZERO interest in looking at your 10 year old daughter. Secondly, if your 10 year old daughter should think that my 5 year old son was looking at her it is YOUR DUTY as a parent to tell her that he's just a little kid, that she should mind her own business and get on with getting clothed. Where are all you people that see so much nudity in the changing room anyway? I certainly don't ever see ANYONE naked, nor am I, myself, standing there naked in any way that people can really see anything significant.

That is just the most ridiculous response. How exactly do you reason with a pre-teen about something like this? Do you have a daughter?

As noted above, why don't you go into the men's changing room with your son. You should not worry about anyone looking at you, you should just mind your own business and get on with getting clothed.

No, yours is the most ridiculous response. You are really advocating that a grown woman go in the men's? No, you clearly passed on your ridiculous hang ups to your TEN YEAR OLD. She's 10. Tell her to grow the hell up and that a 5 year old isn't ogling her then get on with your business.

But why does your 5 year old need to be there in the first place?

The same reason that your 10 year old needs to be there. Let's fix this, shall we, why don't you keep your 10 year old at home.

No, the 10-year-old is using the facilities for the purpose for which they are provided. The 5-year-old is not. So, again, why can't you just towel off and throw on sweats poolside?

[Anonymous]

Do any of the posters who think boys 5,6 & 7 should be in the women's locker room have daughters?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This argument, which happens at least once a year, is absurd. If you don't like the rules of the club, don't go to that club.

Why should my 10 year old daughter have to deal with your 5+ year old son staring at her while she changes?

You can change you son at home, in the car, or even by putting a towel around his waist so that he can do a deck change.

You could also accompany him into the men's locker room. As a father, I would rather you see me naked than have your son see my daughter naked.

When you break the rule and bring your son into the ladies locker room, you are just saying that you think his welfare is more important than the welfare of my daughter and all of the other young girls in that locker room.

Firstly my 5 year old son has ABSOLUTELY ZERO interest in looking at your 10 year old daughter. Secondly, if your 10 year old daughter should think that my 5 year old son was looking at her it is YOUR DUTY as a parent to tell her that he's just a little kid, that she should mind her own business and get on with getting clothed. Where are all you people that see so much nudity in the changing room anyway? I certainly don't ever see ANYONE naked, nor am I, myself, standing there naked in any way that people can really see anything significant.

That is just the most ridiculous response. How exactly do you reason with a pre-teen about something like this? Do you have a daughter?

As noted above, why don't you go into the men's changing room with your son. You should not worry about anyone looking at you, you should just mind your own business and get on with getting clothed.

No, yours is the most ridiculous response. You are really advocating that a grown woman go in the men's? No, you clearly passed on your ridiculous hang ups to your TEN YEAR OLD. She's 10. Tell her to grow the hell up and that a 5 year old isn't ogling her then get on with your business.

I am advocating you going into the men's locker room with your son. You area a grown woman, you can get over yourself. No one in the men's locker room will be interested in ogling your middle aged body. I will trade my discomfort with having you in a locker room with me if I can spare my daughter the discomfort of having to be in the locker room with your son.

[Anonymous]

Don't most pools have rules about the age of children in locker rooms for the opposite sex? Our pool in the summer says no kids under six are allowed. It doesn't really matter what everyone thinks is appropriate. Op: I would just find out what the rule is at that pool and keep doing what you're doing if your child is allowed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't most pools have rules about the age of children in locker rooms for the opposite sex? Our pool in the summer says no kids under six are allowed. It doesn't really matter what everyone thinks is appropriate. Op: I would just find out what the rule is at that pool and keep doing what you're doing if your child is allowed.

Yes, but PPs are claiming that they get to disregard that rule because of...reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't most pools have rules about the age of children in locker rooms for the opposite sex? Our pool in the summer says no kids under six are allowed. It doesn't really matter what everyone thinks is appropriate. Op: I would just find out what the rule is at that pool and keep doing what you're doing if your child is allowed.

Yes, but PPs are claiming that they get to disregard that rule because of...reasons.

No, PP are saying their kids are six and under but those are still complaining when they can easily go into a stall for privacy. No one wants to see them naked either. Not all six year olds are able to go alone either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't most pools have rules about the age of children in locker rooms for the opposite sex? Our pool in the summer says no kids under six are allowed. It doesn't really matter what everyone thinks is appropriate. Op: I would just find out what the rule is at that pool and keep doing what you're doing if your child is allowed.

Yes, but PPs are claiming that they get to disregard that rule because of...reasons.

The reasons being: pride parades, North Korea, and laws prohibiting discrimination against people who are transgender.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This argument, which happens at least once a year, is absurd. If you don't like the rules of the club, don't go to that club.

Why should my 10 year old daughter have to deal with your 5+ year old son staring at her while she changes?

You can change you son at home, in the car, or even by putting a towel around his waist so that he can do a deck change.

You could also accompany him into the men's locker room. As a father, I would rather you see me naked than have your son see my daughter naked.

When you break the rule and bring your son into the ladies locker room, you are just saying that you think his welfare is more important than the welfare of my daughter and all of the other young girls in that locker room.

Firstly my 5 year old son has ABSOLUTELY ZERO interest in looking at your 10 year old daughter. Secondly, if your 10 year old daughter should think that my 5 year old son was looking at her it is YOUR DUTY as a parent to tell her that he's just a little kid, that she should mind her own business and get on with getting clothed. Where are all you people that see so much nudity in the changing room anyway? I certainly don't ever see ANYONE naked, nor am I, myself, standing there naked in any way that people can really see anything significant.

That is just the most ridiculous response. How exactly do you reason with a pre-teen about something like this? Do you have a daughter?

As noted above, why don't you go into the men's changing room with your son. You should not worry about anyone looking at you, you should just mind your own business and get on with getting clothed.

No, yours is the most ridiculous response. You are really advocating that a grown woman go in the men's? No, you clearly passed on your ridiculous hang ups to your TEN YEAR OLD. She's 10. Tell her to grow the hell up and that a 5 year old isn't ogling her then get on with your business.

I am advocating you going into the men's locker room with your son. You area a grown woman, you can get over yourself. No one in the men's locker room will be interested in ogling your middle aged body. I will trade my discomfort with having you in a locker room with me if I can spare my daughter the discomfort of having to be in the locker room with your son.

You do realize there are rules about being in the opposite gender's restrooms... you do read the news where everyone is up in arms over transgendered people doing it. Take your daughter into a private stall as most people do who want privacy. Problem solved. No reason why a mother cannot bring her child in for a quick change. We are in and out in a few minutes at most.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't most pools have rules about the age of children in locker rooms for the opposite sex? Our pool in the summer says no kids under six are allowed. It doesn't really matter what everyone thinks is appropriate. Op: I would just find out what the rule is at that pool and keep doing what you're doing if your child is allowed.

Yes, but PPs are claiming that they get to disregard that rule because of...reasons.

No, PP are saying their kids are six and under but those are still complaining when they can easily go into a stall for privacy. No one wants to see them naked either. Not all six year olds are able to go alone either.

Read the thread again. There are plenty of people saying that the parent, not the club, decides whether the son should change in the woman's locker room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This argument, which happens at least once a year, is absurd. If you don't like the rules of the club, don't go to that club.

Why should my 10 year old daughter have to deal with your 5+ year old son staring at her while she changes?

You can change you son at home, in the car, or even by putting a towel around his waist so that he can do a deck change.

You could also accompany him into the men's locker room. As a father, I would rather you see me naked than have your son see my daughter naked.

When you break the rule and bring your son into the ladies locker room, you are just saying that you think his welfare is more important than the welfare of my daughter and all of the other young girls in that locker room.

Firstly my 5 year old son has ABSOLUTELY ZERO interest in looking at your 10 year old daughter. Secondly, if your 10 year old daughter should think that my 5 year old son was looking at her it is YOUR DUTY as a parent to tell her that he's just a little kid, that she should mind her own business and get on with getting clothed. Where are all you people that see so much nudity in the changing room anyway? I certainly don't ever see ANYONE naked, nor am I, myself, standing there naked in any way that people can really see anything significant.

That is just the most ridiculous response. How exactly do you reason with a pre-teen about something like this? Do you have a daughter?

As noted above, why don't you go into the men's changing room with your son. You should not worry about anyone looking at you, you should just mind your own business and get on with getting clothed.

No, yours is the most ridiculous response. You are really advocating that a grown woman go in the men's? No, you clearly passed on your ridiculous hang ups to your TEN YEAR OLD. She's 10. Tell her to grow the hell up and that a 5 year old isn't ogling her then get on with your business.

I am advocating you going into the men's locker room with your son. You area a grown woman, you can get over yourself. No one in the men's locker room will be interested in ogling your middle aged body. I will trade my discomfort with having you in a locker room with me if I can spare my daughter the discomfort of having to be in the locker room with your son.

You do realize there are rules about being in the opposite gender's restrooms... you do read the news where everyone is up in arms over transgendered people doing it. Take your daughter into a private stall as most people do who want privacy. Problem solved. No reason why a mother cannot bring her child in for a quick change. We are in and out in a few minutes at most.

Do you have a daughter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This argument, which happens at least once a year, is absurd. If you don't like the rules of the club, don't go to that club.

Why should my 10 year old daughter have to deal with your 5+ year old son staring at her while she changes?

You can change you son at home, in the car, or even by putting a towel around his waist so that he can do a deck change.

You could also accompany him into the men's locker room. As a father, I would rather you see me naked than have your son see my daughter naked.

When you break the rule and bring your son into the ladies locker room, you are just saying that you think his welfare is more important than the welfare of my daughter and all of the other young girls in that locker room.

Firstly my 5 year old son has ABSOLUTELY ZERO interest in looking at your 10 year old daughter. Secondly, if your 10 year old daughter should think that my 5 year old son was looking at her it is YOUR DUTY as a parent to tell her that he's just a little kid, that she should mind her own business and get on with getting clothed. Where are all you people that see so much nudity in the changing room anyway? I certainly don't ever see ANYONE naked, nor am I, myself, standing there naked in any way that people can really see anything significant.

That is just the most ridiculous response. How exactly do you reason with a pre-teen about something like this? Do you have a daughter?

As noted above, why don't you go into the men's changing room with your son. You should not worry about anyone looking at you, you should just mind your own business and get on with getting clothed.

No, yours is the most ridiculous response. You are really advocating that a grown woman go in the men's? No, you clearly passed on your ridiculous hang ups to your TEN YEAR OLD. She's 10. Tell her to grow the hell up and that a 5 year old isn't ogling her then get on with your business.

I am advocating you going into the men's locker room with your son. You area a grown woman, you can get over yourself. No one in the men's locker room will be interested in ogling your middle aged body. I will trade my discomfort with having you in a locker room with me if I can spare my daughter the discomfort of having to be in the locker room with your son.

You do realize there are rules about being in the opposite gender's restrooms... you do read the news where everyone is up in arms over transgendered people doing it. Take your daughter into a private stall as most people do who want privacy. Problem solved. No reason why a mother cannot bring her child in for a quick change. We are in and out in a few minutes at most.

FFS, towel off and put on sweatpants by the side of the pool! You're fine, your kid's fine, everyone's fine, win-win-win!