Why do grown women post photos of social events?

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

Most people do share my outlook, according to this thread.

Lol “most people” are not the women of DCUM. Just imagine how sad of a world that would be.

Do you live under a rock? Social media is not the postive wonderful connecting people app you think it is.

For you, maybe. And I understand that. So stay off of it.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

Most people do share my outlook, according to this thread.

Lol “most people” are not the women of DCUM. Just imagine how sad of a world that would be.

DP. Uh, have you been out in the world lately? It’s pretty sad out there with most people marching around like robots staring at the screen in their hands. Are you trying to tell us that they’re all actually just lost in happiness for their friends’ digital lives?

Like you right now?

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

Most people do share my outlook, according to this thread.

Lol “most people” are not the women of DCUM. Just imagine how sad of a world that would be.

Do you live under a rock? Social media is not the postive wonderful connecting people app you think it is.

For you, maybe. And I understand that. So stay off of it.

Lol. One day you will catch up.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

DP. I’m sorry to tell you, but nobody really cares about this.

See, this is why you’re nasty. The poster isn’t Kim Kardashian. She’s posting on social media to her “family and friends.” Consider the possibility that she comes from a functioning and loving family and has real friends. A foreign concept for many of you, I’m sure.

I love my family and friends, and I know they love me. But those video clips of kids doing sports… I would never presume that that’s interesting to anyone but me, my spouse and of course, my kid. Concerts, too. Please don’t post clips of concerts. I have no doubt these things are amazing in real time, but you really did have to be there.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

DP. I’m sorry to tell you, but nobody really cares about this.

Did it feel good saying that?

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

Most people do share my outlook, according to this thread.

Lol “most people” are not the women of DCUM. Just imagine how sad of a world that would be.

Do you live under a rock? Social media is not the postive wonderful connecting people app you think it is.

For you, maybe. And I understand that. So stay off of it.

Lol. One day you will catch up.

Never. I will never share your sad world view. I’m not a “my way or the highway” kind of person.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

Most people do share my outlook, according to this thread.

Lol “most people” are not the women of DCUM. Just imagine how sad of a world that would be.

DP. Uh, have you been out in the world lately? It’s pretty sad out there with most people marching around like robots staring at the screen in their hands. Are you trying to tell us that they’re all actually just lost in happiness for their friends’ digital lives?

Like you right now?

100% I having been staring at my phone all morning and it doesn’t make me feel happy at all. I’m going for a run, bye!

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

DP. I’m sorry to tell you, but nobody really cares about this.

See, this is why you’re nasty. The poster isn’t Kim Kardashian. She’s posting on social media to her “family and friends.” Consider the possibility that she comes from a functioning and loving family and has real friends. A foreign concept for many of you, I’m sure.

I love my family and friends, and I know they love me. But those video clips of kids doing sports… I would never presume that that’s interesting to anyone but me, my spouse and of course, my kid. Concerts, too. Please don’t post clips of concerts. I have no doubt these things are amazing in real time, but you really did have to be there.

Just don’t look. See how easy that is?

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

Most people do share my outlook, according to this thread.

Lol “most people” are not the women of DCUM. Just imagine how sad of a world that would be.

Do you live under a rock? Social media is not the postive wonderful connecting people app you think it is.

For you, maybe. And I understand that. So stay off of it.

Lol. One day you will catch up.

Never. I will never share your sad world view. I’m not a “my way or the highway” kind of person.

You just said you were.

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Anonymous wrote:Facebook, for all its flaws, it wonderful when it brings up memories from the past. I adore that feature.

A few Thanksgivings ago, I put a call out to old high school/childhood friends that I happened to be in our hometown, anyone else? And a small group was able to get together, at Applebee’s of all places, which was entirely fitting as that’s where we used to “go out” when we were driving and had a little money from babysitting and our first jobs.

We posted photos from that night, not to brag, but to celebrate. Not everyone was around or could make it, but even those who weren’t there commented how great it was, they were so happy for us, you guys look great, “blast from the past,” that sort of thing. And we said, truthfully, we had toasted to the whole high school crew.

People post for all sorts of reasons, OP. People who aren’t insecure know that most of those reasons are simply to celebrate life and generate memories.

That sounds like a lovely gathering and memory.

Agree that it’s not an all-or-nothing issue, but because so many things posted on social media are public forever, concerns about unintended consequences, especially for kids, deserve to be considered, too.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

This is a weird response because I never once said I have taken this personally. In fact I said I don’t find it offensive and I don’t even really use social media because it’s all irrelevant. I actually have multiple groups of friends, friends from preschool and friends from childhood and none of us post social gatherings. We just share photos among ourselves, so again, I was just wondering why people post things on social media that aren’t relevant to most of the people following them. I think that’s a fair question and you certainly seemed to get very defensive and resorted to calling me a “small person”… lol.

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s my take. If you really have a problem with this you’re just a small and jealous person with no friends who needs to get off of social media. I don’t buy the posters who will insist otherwise and say their concern is either with the overly exuberant social media posters or other people they might unknowingly be hurting because y’all are too nasty to really care about other people and it’s really all about you.

Sounds like you have an empathy chip missing. I have a lot of friends who have struggled with infertility- because of that I didn’t post about my pregnancies and shared them quietly with the people who care about me. A lot of friends have complicated relationships with their parents and families, or family members have died. I don’t post about how much I love my parents on Mother’s Day and Father’s Day- I just tell them personally. I also don’t feel the need to post social gatherings when I know there are people who could potentially see the photos and feel left out. So, yes, I do care how other people perceive things. That’s a personal choice and it doesn’t mean that I’m judging others- however, for you to not understand how people could be sensitive to others reeks of sociopathy.

[Anonymous]

They are all such stupid glory hounds that they are too weak to realize that no one cares what restaurant they ate at. Stay off all social media. Withdraw your FB account. Now is the time to live free and unencumbered.

[Anonymous]

I’m not on social media but I don’t understand what the problem is with people sharing photos…isn’t that the entire point?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not on social media but I don’t understand what the problem is with people sharing photos…isn’t that the entire point?

It might make other people feel bad.