Why do grown women post photos of social events?

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested.
That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

I think the disconnect is that you're significantly older than many people here who don't want social media in our lives because we see the damage it does and especially to our children so we want to set a better example and ensure they have privacy. Lots of kids coming of age now had parents who exploited them for clicks and it wasn't all just cool, interesting fun. Yet you refuse to acknowledge anything outside your tiny insulated bubble.

Ha ha you were doing so well until you had to get personal and petty and nasty. Is that how you’re raising your kids too?

You can't keep slinging mud about how "nasty" everyone is while you keep dishing it out. What comes around goes around, but people who can see the downsides and are protecting kids aren't small. I bet the retired poster thinks nothing of posting pics of her grandkids without the parents' permission if she has any. Just no boundaries or ability to think about anyone else.

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s my take. If you really have a problem with this you’re just a small and jealous person with no friends who needs to get off of social media. I don’t buy the posters who will insist otherwise and say their concern is either with the overly exuberant social media posters or other people they might unknowingly be hurting because y’all are too nasty to really care about other people and it’s really all about you.

You're just another online bully. Nothing new.

Yes, completely different than bullying people who have the temerity to post on social media.

+1. Pot meet kettle.

Nope. Look at post two "Are you lonely and just wish you had friends?" Nobody has posted anything nearly as mean as that. I don't for a second believe they just want to spread the joy of meeting friends for coffee to their family and friends near and far. What a farce.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s my take. If you really have a problem with this you’re just a small and jealous person with no friends who needs to get off of social media. I don’t buy the posters who will insist otherwise and say their concern is either with the overly exuberant social media posters or other people they might unknowingly be hurting because y’all are too nasty to really care about other people and it’s really all about you.

You're just another online bully. Nothing new.

Yes, completely different than bullying people who have the temerity to post on social media.

+1. Pot meet kettle.

Nope. Look at post two "Are you lonely and just wish you had friends?" Nobody has posted anything nearly as mean as that. I don't for a second believe they just want to spread the joy of meeting friends for coffee to their family and friends near and far. What a farce.

You should see someone about your persecution complex.

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s my take. If you really have a problem with this you’re just a small and jealous person with no friends who needs to get off of social media. I don’t buy the posters who will insist otherwise and say their concern is either with the overly exuberant social media posters or other people they might unknowingly be hurting because y’all are too nasty to really care about other people and it’s really all about you.

You're just another online bully. Nothing new.

Yes, completely different than bullying people who have the temerity to post on social media.

+1. Pot meet kettle.

Nope. Look at post two "Are you lonely and just wish you had friends?" Nobody has posted anything nearly as mean as that. I don't for a second believe they just want to spread the joy of meeting friends for coffee to their family and friends near and far. What a farce.

You should see someone about your persecution complex.

Again, you're just in it for fun right? It makes you very happy, indeed.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested.
That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

I think the disconnect is that you're significantly older than many people here who don't want social media in our lives because we see the damage it does and especially to our children so we want to set a better example and ensure they have privacy. Lots of kids coming of age now had parents who exploited them for clicks and it wasn't all just cool, interesting fun. Yet you refuse to acknowledge anything outside your tiny insulated bubble.

Ha ha you were doing so well until you had to get personal and petty and nasty. Is that how you’re raising your kids too?

You can't keep slinging mud about how "nasty" everyone is while you keep dishing it out. What comes around goes around, but people who can see the downsides and are protecting kids aren't small. I bet the retired poster thinks nothing of posting pics of her grandkids without the parents' permission if she has any. Just no boundaries or ability to think about anyone else.

And you’d be betting wrong. No one’s been talking about posting pictures of kids or grandkids. You’ve turned the discussion into something completely different. I mean, as you yourself just said, you don’t even know if I have grandkids.

It’s not slinging mud to point out that it’s nasty to judge other people for making harmless decisions different than yours. If you want to talk about whether it’s harmless to post pictures of kids on social media have at it—but on a different thread because that’s not what this thread is about.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

DP. I’m sorry to tell you, but nobody really cares about this.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

Most people do share my outlook, according to this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

100 percent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

Most people do share my outlook, according to this thread.

Lol “most people” are not the women of DCUM. Just imagine how sad of a world that would be.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

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And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

Most people do share my outlook, according to this thread.

Lol “most people” are not the women of DCUM. Just imagine how sad of a world that would be.

Do you live under a rock? Social media is not the postive wonderful connecting people app you think it is.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

Most people do share my outlook, according to this thread.

Lol “most people” are not the women of DCUM. Just imagine how sad of a world that would be.

DP. Uh, have you been out in the world lately? It’s pretty sad out there with most people marching around like robots staring at the screen in their hands. Are you trying to tell us that they’re all actually just lost in happiness for their friends’ digital lives?

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

DP. I’m sorry to tell you, but nobody really cares about this.

See, this is why you’re nasty. The poster isn’t Kim Kardashian. She’s posting on social media to her “family and friends.” Consider the possibility that she comes from a functioning and loving family and has real friends. A foreign concept for many of you, I’m sure.