Teen won't drink water in school unless I get her a Stanley Cup

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Anonymous wrote:There is middle ground between "buy every trend" and "never give in to trends" I occasionally buy trendy things and sometimes I buy no name stuff. I think most people are like that. Maybe buy the Stanley and see where it leads, you can always have a conversation if you feel like it's getting out of hand.

True, but I think Op’s daughter has a really bad attitude about this and I don’t think she should be rewarded with a Stanley for it. Saying the other cups are trashy and saying she’s going be judged by using one is I’m mentality that I think should not be rewarded. Refusing to drink water because she doesn’t have a Stanley cup is worse than the behavior of a bratty two-year-old. This is why I wouldn’t get her one. I would be having a completely different reaction if her daughter would be having a different attitude.

I have commented on here before that it’s a relatively harmless and benign trend. It’s dumb, but harmless. But if you want to follow a trend, you need to have a better attitude.

I'm more anti-trendy cup than you are I think (for us, it's a lot of money), but the bolded is really key for me. Thinking other kids are going to make fun of you can be a chance to talk about bullying, but thinking other cups are trashy is the mindset of a bully, not a bullying victim. I don't want to hear the word "trashy" leave my kid's mouth, it's too close to the kinds of things my family got called growing up. She's not so far removed from being called PWT that I'm going to ignore that.

I am on board with you 100% and you are smart not to waste money on fleeting, quick trends.

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You beat me to it. What the hell is “something cool in the kitchen?” I have the raddest old cast iron pan. Is this vintage awesomeness? And let me brag about my water distiller… You’re not cool if you don’t have a water distiller! On Wednesdays, my friends and I distill water, wearing pink.

Oh, aren't you edgy? Next, you'll learn how to properly quote.

But you got the point didn't you?

I'm wondering if anyone is ever going to explain what it would be "cool" to have in the kitchen, because I genuinely have no idea.

Really? Are you new to Google? I see you managed to navigate a message board.

Google will tell me things I can buy for my kitchen, but that doesn't really answer the question. What are you buying for your kitchen that you bought to fit in with the cool kids?

I’m not sure why you’re struggling so much with this. The ‘fit in’ comment was directly tied to a question about clothes. The rest were tied to fads.

I'm not sure why you're struggling to give a simple answer. What did you buy for your kitchen because it was a fad? I couldn't answer this question, but you seem to think it's obvious, so give us your answer.

I bought my daughter a waffle maker that makes heart-shaped waffles and a homemade donut maker for Christmas. She made it all with friends after a sleepover, and they thought it was all fun and cool. So, go ahead and pick that apart to continue your ironic bullying campaign on this minor point.

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Is this where the bullying comes in?

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Anonymous wrote:First of all I don’t think water bottles in school is an urgent thing. I didn’t have it and I was fine. It’s a recent trend. The mom is insisting on it, if she really wants to encourage the daughter to do it then yes, get her the fancy water bottle. But don’t be surprised if she still doesn’t even use it that much, or loses it. There’s not a lot of time to go to the bathroom. She’s not dying of thirst. Just make sure she drinks a lot at home. In other countries there’s not this obsession with hydration like in the us. Those kids are just fine.

A lot of schools require it. It’s annoying how many activities tell you to bring a water bottle. Something I always forgot. When my daughter was 8 and taking a basketball skills class for only 1 hour! They had a water break. The kids would bring their bottles out and I’d point to the water fountain. She didn’t care where the water came from.

Now capitalism has taken over and evil marketing departments preying on preteens telling them what they need.

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You beat me to it. What the hell is “something cool in the kitchen?” I have the raddest old cast iron pan. Is this vintage awesomeness? And let me brag about my water distiller… You’re not cool if you don’t have a water distiller! On Wednesdays, my friends and I distill water, wearing pink.

Oh, aren't you edgy? Next, you'll learn how to properly quote.

But you got the point didn't you?

I'm wondering if anyone is ever going to explain what it would be "cool" to have in the kitchen, because I genuinely have no idea.

Really? Are you new to Google? I see you managed to navigate a message board.

Google will tell me things I can buy for my kitchen, but that doesn't really answer the question. What are you buying for your kitchen that you bought to fit in with the cool kids?

I’m not sure why you’re struggling so much with this. The ‘fit in’ comment was directly tied to a question about clothes. The rest were tied to fads.

I'm not sure why you're struggling to give a simple answer. What did you buy for your kitchen because it was a fad? I couldn't answer this question, but you seem to think it's obvious, so give us your answer.

I bought my daughter a waffle maker that makes heart-shaped waffles and a homemade donut maker for Christmas. She made it all with friends after a sleepover, and they thought it was all fun and cool. So, go ahead and pick that apart to continue your ironic bullying campaign on this minor point.

That sounds like something you bought because you thought it was fun to own and use. How is that like buying a cup because otherwise you'll be bullied?

Why is every fad, trend, etc. being conflated with bullying? We all take part in it the phenomenon. OP's kid wants a water bottle that's currently trendy. Part of that (but not all) involves a bullying element.

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Isn't parenting fun? Just get her the cup.

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You beat me to it. What the hell is “something cool in the kitchen?” I have the raddest old cast iron pan. Is this vintage awesomeness? And let me brag about my water distiller… You’re not cool if you don’t have a water distiller! On Wednesdays, my friends and I distill water, wearing pink.

Oh, aren't you edgy? Next, you'll learn how to properly quote.

But you got the point didn't you?

I'm wondering if anyone is ever going to explain what it would be "cool" to have in the kitchen, because I genuinely have no idea.

Really? Are you new to Google? I see you managed to navigate a message board.

Google will tell me things I can buy for my kitchen, but that doesn't really answer the question. What are you buying for your kitchen that you bought to fit in with the cool kids?

I’m not sure why you’re struggling so much with this. The ‘fit in’ comment was directly tied to a question about clothes. The rest were tied to fads.

I'm not sure why you're struggling to give a simple answer. What did you buy for your kitchen because it was a fad? I couldn't answer this question, but you seem to think it's obvious, so give us your answer.

I bought my daughter a waffle maker that makes heart-shaped waffles and a homemade donut maker for Christmas. She made it all with friends after a sleepover, and they thought it was all fun and cool. So, go ahead and pick that apart to continue your ironic bullying campaign on this minor point.

That sounds like something you bought because you thought it was fun to own and use. How is that like buying a cup because otherwise you'll be bullied?

Why is every fad, trend, etc. being conflated with bullying? We all take part in it the phenomenon. OP's kid wants a water bottle that's currently trendy. Part of that (but not all) involves a bullying element.

OP's kid wants a water bottle that's not "trashy" and for which she will not be "judged." That's ultimately about status and the threat of bullying. "I saw this and it looks (fun/cute/whatever)" is a different thing. I'm saying they're different, don't conflate them. When an adult buys a fun kitchen toy, they're not engaging in a "trend" in the way OP's daughter wants to.

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You beat me to it. What the hell is “something cool in the kitchen?” I have the raddest old cast iron pan. Is this vintage awesomeness? And let me brag about my water distiller… You’re not cool if you don’t have a water distiller! On Wednesdays, my friends and I distill water, wearing pink.

Oh, aren't you edgy? Next, you'll learn how to properly quote.

But you got the point didn't you?

I'm wondering if anyone is ever going to explain what it would be "cool" to have in the kitchen, because I genuinely have no idea.

Really? Are you new to Google? I see you managed to navigate a message board.

Google will tell me things I can buy for my kitchen, but that doesn't really answer the question. What are you buying for your kitchen that you bought to fit in with the cool kids?

I’m not sure why you’re struggling so much with this. The ‘fit in’ comment was directly tied to a question about clothes. The rest were tied to fads.

I'm not sure why you're struggling to give a simple answer. What did you buy for your kitchen because it was a fad? I couldn't answer this question, but you seem to think it's obvious, so give us your answer.

I bought my daughter a waffle maker that makes heart-shaped waffles and a homemade donut maker for Christmas. She made it all with friends after a sleepover, and they thought it was all fun and cool. So, go ahead and pick that apart to continue your ironic bullying campaign on this minor point.

That sounds like something you bought because you thought it was fun to own and use. How is that like buying a cup because otherwise you'll be bullied?

Why is every fad, trend, etc. being conflated with bullying? We all take part in it the phenomenon. OP's kid wants a water bottle that's currently trendy. Part of that (but not all) involves a bullying element.

OP's kid wants a water bottle that's not "trashy" and for which she will not be "judged." That's ultimately about status and the threat of bullying. "I saw this and it looks (fun/cute/whatever)" is a different thing. I'm saying they're different, don't conflate them. When an adult buys a fun kitchen toy, they're not engaging in a "trend" in the way OP's daughter wants to.

In other words, it also describes something that is trendy.

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Anonymous wrote:Let her dehydrate. She sounds like a silly insecure fool,

Rude. If you were a kid new to a country you would want to assimilate. It’s normal. Hopefully by high school she’ll get better quality friends.

She's not new to the country. They MOM is a first generation immigrant. Kid was likely born her and is acting entitled.

With my kids when they wanted something name brand, I told them I would give them the amount I would spend on a non-name brand item and they could pay the difference. So when my kids wanted Uggs or Birkenstocks, I would give them how much I would spend on a regular pair of boots or sandals and they could add that to their money to buy the name brand.

Also, my HS son never brings a water bottle either. Not because of wanting a brand name (he couldn't care less) but because he doesn't want to carry anything additional. He uses the water fountain and drinks a couple glasses of water when he gets home. Your daughter will survive without a water bottle.

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Get her some of the things she wants and let her earn others so she can decide if it’s really important. I have a strong, confident kid but she wants some of the stuff too. I definitely wanted certain jeans in middle school.

It doesn’t mean she will be end up being a vapid, materialistic adult. I don’t care about any labels, cars etc now. She’s an adolescent, it’s normal for her to care about fitting in and valuing her friends opinions more than her parents.

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You beat me to it. What the hell is “something cool in the kitchen?” I have the raddest old cast iron pan. Is this vintage awesomeness? And let me brag about my water distiller… You’re not cool if you don’t have a water distiller! On Wednesdays, my friends and I distill water, wearing pink.

Oh, aren't you edgy? Next, you'll learn how to properly quote.

But you got the point didn't you?

I'm wondering if anyone is ever going to explain what it would be "cool" to have in the kitchen, because I genuinely have no idea.

Really? Are you new to Google? I see you managed to navigate a message board.

Google will tell me things I can buy for my kitchen, but that doesn't really answer the question. What are you buying for your kitchen that you bought to fit in with the cool kids?

I’m not sure why you’re struggling so much with this. The ‘fit in’ comment was directly tied to a question about clothes. The rest were tied to fads.

I'm not sure why you're struggling to give a simple answer. What did you buy for your kitchen because it was a fad? I couldn't answer this question, but you seem to think it's obvious, so give us your answer.

I bought my daughter a waffle maker that makes heart-shaped waffles and a homemade donut maker for Christmas. She made it all with friends after a sleepover, and they thought it was all fun and cool. So, go ahead and pick that apart to continue your ironic bullying campaign on this minor point.

That sounds like something you bought because you thought it was fun to own and use. How is that like buying a cup because otherwise you'll be bullied?

Why is every fad, trend, etc. being conflated with bullying? We all take part in it the phenomenon. OP's kid wants a water bottle that's currently trendy. Part of that (but not all) involves a bullying element.

OP's kid wants a water bottle that's not "trashy" and for which she will not be "judged." That's ultimately about status and the threat of bullying. "I saw this and it looks (fun/cute/whatever)" is a different thing. I'm saying they're different, don't conflate them. When an adult buys a fun kitchen toy, they're not engaging in a "trend" in the way OP's daughter wants to.

In other words, it also describes something that is trendy.

Still waiting to hear what kitchen gadget you bought because it was cool and all the cool girls had one.

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Anonymous wrote:Being a first generation immigrant, i just don't get it. 8th grade DD goes all day without drinking water even though her dermatologist and her doctor told her she needed to. She said any other water bottles aside from a Stanley Cup is "trashy" and she would be judged by "people in the hallway". She would rather go for 7 hours without a drop of liquid and it's clearly taking a toll on her skin and overall health. Her close friends are kind although all of them have the "right" sneakers and "right" water bottles. She's in a MoCo public school, which has both FARMS kids and kids from relatively affluent families, I was really hoping to raise a confident daughter who's not too worried about how shes' being perceived by others when it comes to material processions. Am I sending the wrong message by giving in?

This is a ridiculous. Your child is yanking your chain or better explained is lying to you. My son carries water in a generic container from Costco (ThermoFlask) where ever he goes. He loves it. He does not carry a Stanley Cup and would never dare ask me to buy him one.

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Just asked my 17 yo about this and he said this is a trend and that it will be over in a few months.

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Boys don’t seem to care about Stanley cups, but girls do so I’m not shocked two boys thought it was silly or not aware of it.

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You beat me to it. What the hell is “something cool in the kitchen?” I have the raddest old cast iron pan. Is this vintage awesomeness? And let me brag about my water distiller… You’re not cool if you don’t have a water distiller! On Wednesdays, my friends and I distill water, wearing pink.

Oh, aren't you edgy? Next, you'll learn how to properly quote.

But you got the point didn't you?

I'm wondering if anyone is ever going to explain what it would be "cool" to have in the kitchen, because I genuinely have no idea.

Really? Are you new to Google? I see you managed to navigate a message board.

Google will tell me things I can buy for my kitchen, but that doesn't really answer the question. What are you buying for your kitchen that you bought to fit in with the cool kids?

I’m not sure why you’re struggling so much with this. The ‘fit in’ comment was directly tied to a question about clothes. The rest were tied to fads.

I'm not sure why you're struggling to give a simple answer. What did you buy for your kitchen because it was a fad? I couldn't answer this question, but you seem to think it's obvious, so give us your answer.

I bought my daughter a waffle maker that makes heart-shaped waffles and a homemade donut maker for Christmas. She made it all with friends after a sleepover, and they thought it was all fun and cool. So, go ahead and pick that apart to continue your ironic bullying campaign on this minor point.

That sounds like something you bought because you thought it was fun to own and use. How is that like buying a cup because otherwise you'll be bullied?

Why is every fad, trend, etc. being conflated with bullying? We all take part in it the phenomenon. OP's kid wants a water bottle that's currently trendy. Part of that (but not all) involves a bullying element.

OP's kid wants a water bottle that's not "trashy" and for which she will not be "judged." That's ultimately about status and the threat of bullying. "I saw this and it looks (fun/cute/whatever)" is a different thing. I'm saying they're different, don't conflate them. When an adult buys a fun kitchen toy, they're not engaging in a "trend" in the way OP's daughter wants to.

In other words, it also describes something that is trendy.

Still waiting to hear what kitchen gadget you bought because it was cool and all the cool girls had one.

DP here, but kitchenaid mixers, instant pots, air fryers, and sous vide cookers have been all over my social media feed, and been suddenly trendy at various times in the past few years.

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You beat me to it. What the hell is “something cool in the kitchen?” I have the raddest old cast iron pan. Is this vintage awesomeness? And let me brag about my water distiller… You’re not cool if you don’t have a water distiller! On Wednesdays, my friends and I distill water, wearing pink.

Oh, aren't you edgy? Next, you'll learn how to properly quote.

But you got the point didn't you?

I'm wondering if anyone is ever going to explain what it would be "cool" to have in the kitchen, because I genuinely have no idea.

Really? Are you new to Google? I see you managed to navigate a message board.

Google will tell me things I can buy for my kitchen, but that doesn't really answer the question. What are you buying for your kitchen that you bought to fit in with the cool kids?

I’m not sure why you’re struggling so much with this. The ‘fit in’ comment was directly tied to a question about clothes. The rest were tied to fads.

I'm not sure why you're struggling to give a simple answer. What did you buy for your kitchen because it was a fad? I couldn't answer this question, but you seem to think it's obvious, so give us your answer.

I bought my daughter a waffle maker that makes heart-shaped waffles and a homemade donut maker for Christmas. She made it all with friends after a sleepover, and they thought it was all fun and cool. So, go ahead and pick that apart to continue your ironic bullying campaign on this minor point.

That sounds like something you bought because you thought it was fun to own and use. How is that like buying a cup because otherwise you'll be bullied?

Why is every fad, trend, etc. being conflated with bullying? We all take part in it the phenomenon. OP's kid wants a water bottle that's currently trendy. Part of that (but not all) involves a bullying element.

OP's kid wants a water bottle that's not "trashy" and for which she will not be "judged." That's ultimately about status and the threat of bullying. "I saw this and it looks (fun/cute/whatever)" is a different thing. I'm saying they're different, don't conflate them. When an adult buys a fun kitchen toy, they're not engaging in a "trend" in the way OP's daughter wants to.

In other words, it also describes something that is trendy.

Still waiting to hear what kitchen gadget you bought because it was cool and all the cool girls had one.

Yeah and I walk around w a kitchen gadget so my “friends” won’t judge me. If the story doesn’t have it then I starve myself until some buys it for me.

I now understand more why the 22 year olds in my office are self entitled and not capable of much.

Not all. The ones who don’t act like this get promoted and we show off as examples. The others are out after 15 months.