Style choices that age women in their 40s

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

Women. We really are our own worst enemy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

Women. We really are our own worst enemy.

Yeah… b cup here…. You sound incredibly bitter. Maybe you should work on body acceptance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wanna see the gen x moms with the purple hair. I haven’t seen any! I go to farmers markets and everything.

My purple streaks only come out in the fall - go, Ravens!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

This response is something else. Geez. No one controls what size they are, absent surgery.

[Anonymous]

PP again, so as a person with a so called “bosom”, I am starting to think the key is posture exercises. And of course, a good fitting bra.

[Anonymous]

As someone with 34ddd boobs and nearing 40, I can unfortunately assure all of you that men in particular still give me a lot of attention, even though those breasts are sitting a bit lower than when I was 20 or so. But I am just choosing to assume that it is because I am so cute.

Nor did I take them “out” when I was in my 20s! I was very modest!

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Anonymous wrote:Hair dyed in fad colors like pink or blue. It seems like there are countless women over 40 out there who thought it would make them look young and hip and edgy. Now I just think of it as old lady-ish when I see it. It doesn't look edgy at all, it looks like someone is trying way too hard and didn't have any real knowledge or understanding of what would look good. Also regarding the comments about short/long hair -- both can age you depending on the style; but not much is worse than limp, un-styled, long hair.

Definitely agree with everyone mentioning skinny jeans and tunics. I think people want to hide their waistline, which I can understand. But it screams unfashionable late middle age to me.

Also bright-colored cheap t-shirts; like in fuchsia, turquoise, etc. Especially paired with white capris.

I'm 5'7" and look fine in capris, but I wouldn't wear white ones. My sister is 5'4" and she does not.

I live outside Chicago and the neon colored hair is like a middle class mom cliche here. Fuchsia hair + ironic band tank top + jean shorts, and usually with some tattoos. No one is mistaking you for a 20 something hipster, ladies.

Oh, whatever. We Gen X moms don’t want to look 20, we just want to listen to the Smiths and swap colonoscopy tips. We have literally been wearing the same thing since New Order were Joy Division.

I feel like I hit a nerve here. I listen to the same music as you, lady! I don't need Mrs. Slocum hair to enjoy it. Just saying it's not flattering.

The purple hair Gen Xers will ALWAYS drop some music reference, it’s hysterical. It would be like millennial women always referencing Backstreet Boys when talking about their side parts.

The difference is that New Wave is actually really good, still.

-a side-parted millennial who saw the Cure last week!

[Anonymous]

Age, age is what is aging me at 45! But the alternative is being dead and it’s not like today’s 20 year olds are not going to age too… they will, if they are lucky.

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Most have been said but I think:
-weight (too heavy or too thin)
-bad color choices in makeup/hair/clothing
-not getting your hair prof done to add lots of color dimension
-wearing clothing that reads middle aged (yes, capris, but also more ‘modern’ middle aged fashion choices that read old millennial that hasn’t left 2010)
-not blending your makeup thoroughly (I love a sponge for this) and wearing powder based products instead of cream based
-wearing trendy items (current or past trends)
-not wearing appropriate undergarments. A supportive, shaping bra is crucial
-not taking skincare and sun protection very seriously

[Anonymous]

So it’s aging to wear your “old” clothes from 10 years ago, but also aging to wear trendy young people clothes. And also aging to wear high end middle age lady clothes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So it’s aging to wear your “old” clothes from 10 years ago, but also aging to wear trendy young people clothes. And also aging to wear high end middle age lady clothes.

Yes. And it’s aging to have long hair, short hair, beachy hair, shoulder length and pink hair. It’s aging to have gray hair and not gray hair.

Capris are aging. Skinny jeans are aging. Tunics, too, oh my.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

Women. We really are our own worst enemy.

Yeah… b cup here…. You sound incredibly bitter. Maybe you should work on body acceptance.

I mean, I agree, but I also think it’s telling that this anger/bitterness is coming from someone who was obviously shamed for being flat chested when she was younger.

Like she’s being rude, but I imagine it’s coming from a place of hurt from being told for years that there was something wrong with HER body. So there might be a lesson in there for everyone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So it’s aging to wear your “old” clothes from 10 years ago, but also aging to wear trendy young people clothes. And also aging to wear high end middle age lady clothes.

Yes. And it’s aging to have long hair, short hair, beachy hair, shoulder length and pink hair. It’s aging to have gray hair and not gray hair.

Capris are aging. Skinny jeans are aging. Tunics, too, oh my.

And to have large breasts. God forbid!

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

Women. We really are our own worst enemy.

Yeah… b cup here…. You sound incredibly bitter. Maybe you should work on body acceptance.

I mean, I agree, but I also think it’s telling that this anger/bitterness is coming from someone who was obviously shamed for being flat chested when she was younger.

Like she’s being rude, but I imagine it’s coming from a place of hurt from being told for years that there was something wrong with HER body. So there might be a lesson in there for everyone.

Agreed, and I'll join you in starting that it's wrong and cruel to tell people with flatter chests that they can't be womanly. My God, women turn heads with a very slim and/or small-breasted body shape all the time. All the time!

Also, it's a pretty gross look to try to get yours by making other women feel bad about themselves, too. It's also patiently untrue -- and you know it. She knows it. All you end up doing with that tack is to reinforce to yourself that you have to base your own feeling good on a lie. This isn't good for her, either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As someone with 34ddd boobs and nearing 40, I can unfortunately assure all of you that men in particular still give me a lot of attention, even though those breasts are sitting a bit lower than when I was 20 or so. But I am just choosing to assume that it is because I am so cute.

Nor did I take them “out” when I was in my 20s! I was very modest!

34 DDD isn’t that big. Trust me. That’s like saying “I’m a size 8 and I don’t think I’m fat.”

Most of us with bigger boobs didn’t even know our cup sizes existed for most of our lives.