Style choices that age women in their 40s

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Well, yeah. You're talking about a physical attribute that people don't really have control over and ascribing a negative attribute to it. And of course it's based on male perceptions of the worth of women. So it's offensive and upsetting.

If I said I think curly hair makes you look mentally ill people would rightly find that offensive. I realize this is an anonymous forum so you don't care, but you kind of suck.

Nobody is saying “large boobs look bad.” The point was that you might want to consider wearing minimizing bras instead of bras that emphasize or boost. That’s all.

Do you even know how a minimizing bra makes your breasts look? I know some women prefer them for comfort, and that's fine, of course, but the results don't make anyone more attractive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Well, yeah. You're talking about a physical attribute that people don't really have control over and ascribing a negative attribute to it. And of course it's based on male perceptions of the worth of women. So it's offensive and upsetting.

If I said I think curly hair makes you look mentally ill people would rightly find that offensive. I realize this is an anonymous forum so you don't care, but you kind of suck.

Nobody is saying “large boobs look bad.” The point was that you might want to consider wearing minimizing bras instead of bras that emphasize or boost. That’s all.

PP was saying exactly that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hair dyed in fad colors like pink or blue. It seems like there are countless women over 40 out there who thought it would make them look young and hip and edgy. Now I just think of it as old lady-ish when I see it. It doesn't look edgy at all, it looks like someone is trying way too hard and didn't have any real knowledge or understanding of what would look good. Also regarding the comments about short/long hair -- both can age you depending on the style; but not much is worse than limp, un-styled, long hair.

Definitely agree with everyone mentioning skinny jeans and tunics. I think people want to hide their waistline, which I can understand. But it screams unfashionable late middle age to me.

Also bright-colored cheap t-shirts; like in fuchsia, turquoise, etc. Especially paired with white capris.

I'm 5'7" and look fine in capris, but I wouldn't wear white ones. My sister is 5'4" and she does not.

I live outside Chicago and the neon colored hair is like a middle class mom cliche here. Fuchsia hair + ironic band tank top + jean shorts, and usually with some tattoos. No one is mistaking you for a 20 something hipster, ladies.

Oh, whatever. We Gen X moms don’t want to look 20, we just want to listen to the Smiths and swap colonoscopy tips. We have literally been wearing the same thing since New Order were Joy Division.

[Anonymous]

I wanna see the gen x moms with the purple hair. I haven’t seen any! I go to farmers markets and everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hair dyed in fad colors like pink or blue. It seems like there are countless women over 40 out there who thought it would make them look young and hip and edgy. Now I just think of it as old lady-ish when I see it. It doesn't look edgy at all, it looks like someone is trying way too hard and didn't have any real knowledge or understanding of what would look good. Also regarding the comments about short/long hair -- both can age you depending on the style; but not much is worse than limp, un-styled, long hair.

Definitely agree with everyone mentioning skinny jeans and tunics. I think people want to hide their waistline, which I can understand. But it screams unfashionable late middle age to me.

Also bright-colored cheap t-shirts; like in fuchsia, turquoise, etc. Especially paired with white capris.

I'm 5'7" and look fine in capris, but I wouldn't wear white ones. My sister is 5'4" and she does not.

I live outside Chicago and the neon colored hair is like a middle class mom cliche here. Fuchsia hair + ironic band tank top + jean shorts, and usually with some tattoos. No one is mistaking you for a 20 something hipster, ladies.

Oh, whatever. We Gen X moms don’t want to look 20, we just want to listen to the Smiths and swap colonoscopy tips. We have literally been wearing the same thing since New Order were Joy Division.

I wish we could hang out!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hair dyed in fad colors like pink or blue. It seems like there are countless women over 40 out there who thought it would make them look young and hip and edgy. Now I just think of it as old lady-ish when I see it. It doesn't look edgy at all, it looks like someone is trying way too hard and didn't have any real knowledge or understanding of what would look good. Also regarding the comments about short/long hair -- both can age you depending on the style; but not much is worse than limp, un-styled, long hair.

Definitely agree with everyone mentioning skinny jeans and tunics. I think people want to hide their waistline, which I can understand. But it screams unfashionable late middle age to me.

Also bright-colored cheap t-shirts; like in fuchsia, turquoise, etc. Especially paired with white capris.

I'm 5'7" and look fine in capris, but I wouldn't wear white ones. My sister is 5'4" and she does not.

I live outside Chicago and the neon colored hair is like a middle class mom cliche here. Fuchsia hair + ironic band tank top + jean shorts, and usually with some tattoos. No one is mistaking you for a 20 something hipster, ladies.

Oh, whatever. We Gen X moms don’t want to look 20, we just want to listen to the Smiths and swap colonoscopy tips. We have literally been wearing the same thing since New Order were Joy Division.

Middle aged woman in a Joy Division tshirt here. I want to look 20.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hair dyed in fad colors like pink or blue. It seems like there are countless women over 40 out there who thought it would make them look young and hip and edgy. Now I just think of it as old lady-ish when I see it. It doesn't look edgy at all, it looks like someone is trying way too hard and didn't have any real knowledge or understanding of what would look good. Also regarding the comments about short/long hair -- both can age you depending on the style; but not much is worse than limp, un-styled, long hair.

Definitely agree with everyone mentioning skinny jeans and tunics. I think people want to hide their waistline, which I can understand. But it screams unfashionable late middle age to me.

Also bright-colored cheap t-shirts; like in fuchsia, turquoise, etc. Especially paired with white capris.

I'm 5'7" and look fine in capris, but I wouldn't wear white ones. My sister is 5'4" and she does not.

I live outside Chicago and the neon colored hair is like a middle class mom cliche here. Fuchsia hair + ironic band tank top + jean shorts, and usually with some tattoos. No one is mistaking you for a 20 something hipster, ladies.

Oh, whatever. We Gen X moms don’t want to look 20, we just want to listen to the Smiths and swap colonoscopy tips. We have literally been wearing the same thing since New Order were Joy Division.

I feel like I hit a nerve here. I listen to the same music as you, lady! I don't need Mrs. Slocum hair to enjoy it. Just saying it's not flattering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hair dyed in fad colors like pink or blue. It seems like there are countless women over 40 out there who thought it would make them look young and hip and edgy. Now I just think of it as old lady-ish when I see it. It doesn't look edgy at all, it looks like someone is trying way too hard and didn't have any real knowledge or understanding of what would look good. Also regarding the comments about short/long hair -- both can age you depending on the style; but not much is worse than limp, un-styled, long hair.

Definitely agree with everyone mentioning skinny jeans and tunics. I think people want to hide their waistline, which I can understand. But it screams unfashionable late middle age to me.

Also bright-colored cheap t-shirts; like in fuchsia, turquoise, etc. Especially paired with white capris.

I'm 5'7" and look fine in capris, but I wouldn't wear white ones. My sister is 5'4" and she does not.

I live outside Chicago and the neon colored hair is like a middle class mom cliche here. Fuchsia hair + ironic band tank top + jean shorts, and usually with some tattoos. No one is mistaking you for a 20 something hipster, ladies.

Oh, whatever. We Gen X moms don’t want to look 20, we just want to listen to the Smiths and swap colonoscopy tips. We have literally been wearing the same thing since New Order were Joy Division.

I feel like I hit a nerve here. I listen to the same music as you, lady! I don't need Mrs. Slocum hair to enjoy it. Just saying it's not flattering.

The purple hair Gen Xers will ALWAYS drop some music reference, it’s hysterical. It would be like millennial women always referencing Backstreet Boys when talking about their side parts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hair dyed in fad colors like pink or blue. It seems like there are countless women over 40 out there who thought it would make them look young and hip and edgy. Now I just think of it as old lady-ish when I see it. It doesn't look edgy at all, it looks like someone is trying way too hard and didn't have any real knowledge or understanding of what would look good. Also regarding the comments about short/long hair -- both can age you depending on the style; but not much is worse than limp, un-styled, long hair.

Definitely agree with everyone mentioning skinny jeans and tunics. I think people want to hide their waistline, which I can understand. But it screams unfashionable late middle age to me.

Also bright-colored cheap t-shirts; like in fuchsia, turquoise, etc. Especially paired with white capris.

I'm 5'7" and look fine in capris, but I wouldn't wear white ones. My sister is 5'4" and she does not.

I live outside Chicago and the neon colored hair is like a middle class mom cliche here. Fuchsia hair + ironic band tank top + jean shorts, and usually with some tattoos. No one is mistaking you for a 20 something hipster, ladies.

Oh, whatever. We Gen X moms don’t want to look 20, we just want to listen to the Smiths and swap colonoscopy tips. We have literally been wearing the same thing since New Order were Joy Division.

Middle aged woman in a Joy Division tshirt here. I want to look 20.

I don’t want to look 20.
I just don’t want to look 50, but I do. So here we are…

[Anonymous]

Guys my dress from Soft Surroundings is coming and I hope this is a new era for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guys my dress from Soft Surroundings is coming and I hope this is a new era for me.

I’m excited for you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

Holy cannoli, you are a real piece of work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

Holy cannoli, you are a real piece of work.

Where’s the lie?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

Where’s the trade off? You know how much of that attention was from pervy older men? You know how much of a PITA big boobs are to have while trying to run, stay cool in the summer or nurse?

You just suck, full stop. Go sit in the corner and soak your head.

Lady, pervy old guys are creepy to everyone. That wasn’t something special that happened to you because you had a big rack. Lots of perverts like the pre-pubescent look of a flat chest. Perverts are equal opportunity.

But if you’ve got decent sized boobs and you’re heterosexual, bi, or a femme lesbian, guarantee you worked them for attention when you were young. Back when you were going out to bars and parties, it was tits up, because it got people to pay attention to you and made you feel good. Great.

And now those same tits are drooping. They are probably even bigger thanks to pregnancy and breastfeeding. And yes, they are making you look a little matronly. Oh well, that’s life.

Women with small or no boobs get body shamed for it all the time, btw. From puberty. You’ve probably participated in it. But I guess that doesn’t count because it didn’t happen to you.

Holy cannoli, you are a real piece of work.

Where’s the lie?

NP. It's not that there is a lie; it's that you put a lot of energy into making other women feel shitty. And you can't let it go.

Big breasts do change as you age, but the key isn't to minimize them (ask Helen Mirren). Wear excellent, expensive bras and start with that good foundation. And if you insist that breasts like this inherently make you look matronly, well, that's just the same sour grapes you've always had about them.