Why is it so acceptable to alienate Dad?

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Anonymous wrote:Part of the anti male bias.

Men give up on their kids then blame their ex for not playing secretary for them, and its the fault of anti male bias? Interesting!

Coordinating visits and phone calls is parenting, not a secretary.

There’s nothing to coordinate. Be a parent on your time. If you’re even close to competent, it will be half the time.

So, what about when dad shows up and mom refuses to let him have the kids? Police will not get involved in domestic disputes. Courts can only tell mom to give him the kids but if she does not there is no way to enforce the order.

Well here in the US of A where we live (not you though) yes, there is a way to enforce a court order. Police will look at the custody agreement and made the noncustodial parent give up the child.

You gonna handcuff a 5”9 15 y/o?

Police handcuff 15 year olds all the time of all sizes. The PP was talking about a mom who doesn't want to give up the kids for visitation though. So assuming the kids want to go, the police will absolutely intervene and enforce the order.

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It’s really weird how we have this second wife of a deadbeat absentee dad who NEEDS to constantly post about what a terrible father he was, while trying to convince us all he was helpless to maintain a relationship with his kids due to his evil cheating ex. Why is it so important for her to get other people to agree? Just stay in your delusional world and leave the rest of us out of it.

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Anonymous wrote:Part of the anti male bias.

Men give up on their kids then blame their ex for not playing secretary for them, and its the fault of anti male bias? Interesting!

Coordinating visits and phone calls is parenting, not a secretary.

There’s nothing to coordinate. Be a parent on your time. If you’re even close to competent, it will be half the time.

So, what about when dad shows up and mom refuses to let him have the kids? Police will not get involved in domestic disputes. Courts can only tell mom to give him the kids but if she does not there is no way to enforce the order.

Well here in the US of A where we live (not you though) yes, there is a way to enforce a court order. Police will look at the custody agreement and made the noncustodial parent give up the child.

You gonna handcuff a 5”9 15 y/o?

Wait I thought the mom wouldn’t let dad see the kid. Now it’s the kid who has a problem with dad? Why doesn’t he want to see his dad?

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Anonymous wrote:Custody agreements are unenforceable. What are you going to do, sedate the child to transport them if they refuse to go see the other parent? Physically grab them?

As a parent you enforce the schedule just like you do school and homework.

If you get to high school, and your relationship with your kids is such that you think someone needs to force them to see you, you've done the whole parenting thing wrong.

Not forcing a child is not alienation.

So, if your child says they will not go to school or do their homework, you don't enforce that? Sounds like a cop out to parenting and why your kids don't respect you.

You are trying to be purposefully obtuse. You can enforce those things up until about HS and then they either do it or they don't. If a father hasn't cultivated a parenting relationship with his child/ren up until then and they don't want to see him, it is NOT the mother's job to be the bad cop. I'm positive that if they didn't want to come back to her house, he would not enforce that either.

Yes, it is the mothers job to support the relationship. They know you don't want them to have a relationship and they will honor your wishes. Yes, you can enforce those things. Checked out parent like you are why kids have so many mental health and other behavioral issues. They need and want their parents support and co-parenting is part of it. He absolutely would have to enforce kids returning to her home, even with abuse or neglect. That's how i works. There is a court order.

Except you suck & that’s why your kids don’t want to see you. You also moved far away and choose not to have 50/50.

Sometimes it's the mom's that move. Sometimes it's like your situation where the mom's go above and beyond to be nasty to the Dad's and encourage the kids to behave in the same way. Its sad for the kids. You don't realize the harm you are doing to your kids.

And majority of the time it's fathers spewing this nonsense about moms so ease their own guilty conscience. It's always easier to blame others for your own shortcomings.

Many Dad's want their kids and people like you discourage the relationships and contact. If Mom moves, without Dad's consent, you expect Dad to drop everything and move cross country following her?

That is what ANY real parent would do. What was more important to him than his kids? Why didn’t he love them enough to do whatever it took?

My cousin did this. Ex-wife moved across country. Cousin spent the next three months looking for a job and then moved to be near his kids. Ex-wife was actually much better after that as she realized how serious he was about continuing to parent.

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Anonymous wrote:Custody agreements are unenforceable. What are you going to do, sedate the child to transport them if they refuse to go see the other parent? Physically grab them?

As a parent you enforce the schedule just like you do school and homework.

If you get to high school, and your relationship with your kids is such that you think someone needs to force them to see you, you've done the whole parenting thing wrong.

Not forcing a child is not alienation.

So, if your child says they will not go to school or do their homework, you don't enforce that? Sounds like a cop out to parenting and why your kids don't respect you.

You are trying to be purposefully obtuse. You can enforce those things up until about HS and then they either do it or they don't. If a father hasn't cultivated a parenting relationship with his child/ren up until then and they don't want to see him, it is NOT the mother's job to be the bad cop. I'm positive that if they didn't want to come back to her house, he would not enforce that either.

Yes, it is the mothers job to support the relationship. They know you don't want them to have a relationship and they will honor your wishes. Yes, you can enforce those things. Checked out parent like you are why kids have so many mental health and other behavioral issues. They need and want their parents support and co-parenting is part of it. He absolutely would have to enforce kids returning to her home, even with abuse or neglect. That's how i works. There is a court order.

Except you suck & that’s why your kids don’t want to see you. You also moved far away and choose not to have 50/50.

Sometimes it's the mom's that move. Sometimes it's like your situation where the mom's go above and beyond to be nasty to the Dad's and encourage the kids to behave in the same way. Its sad for the kids. You don't realize the harm you are doing to your kids.

And majority of the time it's fathers spewing this nonsense about moms so ease their own guilty conscience. It's always easier to blame others for your own shortcomings.

Many Dad's want their kids and people like you discourage the relationships and contact. If Mom moves, without Dad's consent, you expect Dad to drop everything and move cross country following her?

Mom would need permission to move, but nice try.

I'm not the pp you quoted, but I know a family where the mom moved with the kids--about 2000 miles away. Her new husband got a new job. The dad went to court to try to stop it but the judge still allowed the mom to move with the kids. This was about 5 years ago in VA.

Did the dad have custody? Normally there's a standard "no moving" order in 50/50 custody orders, so I'm guessing the dad had limited custody or just visitation, and therefore the courts allowed the person who had custody to move.

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Anonymous wrote:Custody agreements are unenforceable. What are you going to do, sedate the child to transport them if they refuse to go see the other parent? Physically grab them?

As a parent you enforce the schedule just like you do school and homework.

If you get to high school, and your relationship with your kids is such that you think someone needs to force them to see you, you've done the whole parenting thing wrong.

Not forcing a child is not alienation.

So, if your child says they will not go to school or do their homework, you don't enforce that? Sounds like a cop out to parenting and why your kids don't respect you.

You are trying to be purposefully obtuse. You can enforce those things up until about HS and then they either do it or they don't. If a father hasn't cultivated a parenting relationship with his child/ren up until then and they don't want to see him, it is NOT the mother's job to be the bad cop. I'm positive that if they didn't want to come back to her house, he would not enforce that either.

Yes, it is the mothers job to support the relationship. They know you don't want them to have a relationship and they will honor your wishes. Yes, you can enforce those things. Checked out parent like you are why kids have so many mental health and other behavioral issues. They need and want their parents support and co-parenting is part of it. He absolutely would have to enforce kids returning to her home, even with abuse or neglect. That's how i works. There is a court order.

Except you suck & that’s why your kids don’t want to see you. You also moved far away and choose not to have 50/50.

Sometimes it's the mom's that move. Sometimes it's like your situation where the mom's go above and beyond to be nasty to the Dad's and encourage the kids to behave in the same way. Its sad for the kids. You don't realize the harm you are doing to your kids.

And majority of the time it's fathers spewing this nonsense about moms so ease their own guilty conscience. It's always easier to blame others for your own shortcomings.

Many Dad's want their kids and people like you discourage the relationships and contact. If Mom moves, without Dad's consent, you expect Dad to drop everything and move cross country following her?

Mom would need permission to move, but nice try.

I'm not the pp you quoted, but I know a family where the mom moved with the kids--about 2000 miles away. Her new husband got a new job. The dad went to court to try to stop it but the judge still allowed the mom to move with the kids. This was about 5 years ago in VA.

Did the dad have custody? Normally there's a standard "no moving" order in 50/50 custody orders, so I'm guessing the dad had limited custody or just visitation, and therefore the courts allowed the person who had custody to move.

Ignore her, her H lied to her.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s really weird how we have this second wife of a deadbeat absentee dad who NEEDS to constantly post about what a terrible father he was, while trying to convince us all he was helpless to maintain a relationship with his kids due to his evil cheating ex. Why is it so important for her to get other people to agree? Just stay in your delusional world and leave the rest of us out of it.

OP has serious mental health issues and really no one should respond to her. It's like giving crack to an addict.

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Anonymous wrote:Part of the anti male bias.

Men give up on their kids then blame their ex for not playing secretary for them, and its the fault of anti male bias? Interesting!

Coordinating visits and phone calls is parenting, not a secretary.

There’s nothing to coordinate. Be a parent on your time. If you’re even close to competent, it will be half the time.

So, what about when dad shows up and mom refuses to let him have the kids? Police will not get involved in domestic disputes. Courts can only tell mom to give him the kids but if she does not there is no way to enforce the order.

Well here in the US of A where we live (not you though) yes, there is a way to enforce a court order. Police will look at the custody agreement and made the noncustodial parent give up the child.

You gonna handcuff a 5”9 15 y/o?

Police handcuff 15 year olds all the time of all sizes. The PP was talking about a mom who doesn't want to give up the kids for visitation though. So assuming the kids want to go, the police will absolutely intervene and enforce the order.

No, most will not as its a domestic dispute.

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Anonymous wrote:Custody agreements are unenforceable. What are you going to do, sedate the child to transport them if they refuse to go see the other parent? Physically grab them?

As a parent you enforce the schedule just like you do school and homework.

If you get to high school, and your relationship with your kids is such that you think someone needs to force them to see you, you've done the whole parenting thing wrong.

Not forcing a child is not alienation.

So, if your child says they will not go to school or do their homework, you don't enforce that? Sounds like a cop out to parenting and why your kids don't respect you.

You are trying to be purposefully obtuse. You can enforce those things up until about HS and then they either do it or they don't. If a father hasn't cultivated a parenting relationship with his child/ren up until then and they don't want to see him, it is NOT the mother's job to be the bad cop. I'm positive that if they didn't want to come back to her house, he would not enforce that either.

Yes, it is the mothers job to support the relationship. They know you don't want them to have a relationship and they will honor your wishes. Yes, you can enforce those things. Checked out parent like you are why kids have so many mental health and other behavioral issues. They need and want their parents support and co-parenting is part of it. He absolutely would have to enforce kids returning to her home, even with abuse or neglect. That's how i works. There is a court order.

Except you suck & that’s why your kids don’t want to see you. You also moved far away and choose not to have 50/50.

Sometimes it's the mom's that move. Sometimes it's like your situation where the mom's go above and beyond to be nasty to the Dad's and encourage the kids to behave in the same way. Its sad for the kids. You don't realize the harm you are doing to your kids.

And majority of the time it's fathers spewing this nonsense about moms so ease their own guilty conscience. It's always easier to blame others for your own shortcomings.

Many Dad's want their kids and people like you discourage the relationships and contact. If Mom moves, without Dad's consent, you expect Dad to drop everything and move cross country following her?

Mom would need permission to move, but nice try.

I'm not the pp you quoted, but I know a family where the mom moved with the kids--about 2000 miles away. Her new husband got a new job. The dad went to court to try to stop it but the judge still allowed the mom to move with the kids. This was about 5 years ago in VA.

Did the dad have custody? Normally there's a standard "no moving" order in 50/50 custody orders, so I'm guessing the dad had limited custody or just visitation, and therefore the courts allowed the person who had custody to move.

Either mom moved without court permission OR she argued or lied to the court and got the move granted. 50-50 is only in some more liberal states, not everywhere and not with all judges.

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Anonymous wrote:Part of the anti male bias.

Men give up on their kids then blame their ex for not playing secretary for them, and its the fault of anti male bias? Interesting!

Coordinating visits and phone calls is parenting, not a secretary.

There’s nothing to coordinate. Be a parent on your time. If you’re even close to competent, it will be half the time.

So, what about when dad shows up and mom refuses to let him have the kids? Police will not get involved in domestic disputes. Courts can only tell mom to give him the kids but if she does not there is no way to enforce the order.

Well here in the US of A where we live (not you though) yes, there is a way to enforce a court order. Police will look at the custody agreement and made the noncustodial parent give up the child.

You gonna handcuff a 5”9 15 y/o?

Wait I thought the mom wouldn’t let dad see the kid. Now it’s the kid who has a problem with dad? Why doesn’t he want to see his dad?

Because his dad sucks?

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Anonymous wrote:I honestly don't get this excuse-making. Maybe I'm crazy but I would never give up my parenting time because I "felt alienated". And I would be willing to live in an awful apartment with roommates, be on food stamps, work two jobs, whatever it took to live nearby. If I only got the worst parenting time, if it were only orthodontist visits and 5 am crew practice l, I'd be there. If I couldn't get parenting time, I would be at every public event. If my ex hates me and tried to make my DC hate me, I still wouldn't give up. I really don't understand people who give up trying to have a relationship with their kids.

You choose a bad spouse. Mine does all that and more, including the five am sports.

Did you even read the post you quoted? Your response makes no sense.

The post is complaining about every day parenting tasks. The things we all do.

You totally missed the point.

No, I did not. Both mom and dads do those things every day. Your ex may suck but there are lots of dads who do all that and more. It’s sad you hate men so much and are raising a son who is going to pick up on your nasty attitudes.

You don’t seem to get that if a mom moves, mom may not want dad involved if she has a new partner. She may want to hide the affair and pretend AP is dad. Not all men can just up and quit to chase around mom and her AP every time they move.

Not all moms will allow dads even their visitation time let alone extra time to go to school events, activities, etc and will tell the schools dad is not allowed and some schools follow the court order, some mom.

Who gives a flying eff what the mom wants?

Are you really saying that if your spouse moved your kid out of state with an AP you’d just give up? Prioritize keeping your military career over your relationship with your kids?

If so you’re a garbage parent and person.

You think you can just walk away and quit and give your two week notice? It doesn't work like that. And, it's often not easy getting a job outside the military as the career fields are not transferable which means you need to retrain or get a different degree. You think Dad should just up and move every time mom moves and chase her and hope she'll allow a visit? How would he pay child support an alimony if he quit his job? Then, you'd complain he was a deadbeat.

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Anonymous wrote:Custody agreements are unenforceable. What are you going to do, sedate the child to transport them if they refuse to go see the other parent? Physically grab them?

As a parent you enforce the schedule just like you do school and homework.

If you get to high school, and your relationship with your kids is such that you think someone needs to force them to see you, you've done the whole parenting thing wrong.

Not forcing a child is not alienation.

So, if your child says they will not go to school or do their homework, you don't enforce that? Sounds like a cop out to parenting and why your kids don't respect you.

You are trying to be purposefully obtuse. You can enforce those things up until about HS and then they either do it or they don't. If a father hasn't cultivated a parenting relationship with his child/ren up until then and they don't want to see him, it is NOT the mother's job to be the bad cop. I'm positive that if they didn't want to come back to her house, he would not enforce that either.

Yes, it is the mothers job to support the relationship. They know you don't want them to have a relationship and they will honor your wishes. Yes, you can enforce those things. Checked out parent like you are why kids have so many mental health and other behavioral issues. They need and want their parents support and co-parenting is part of it. He absolutely would have to enforce kids returning to her home, even with abuse or neglect. That's how i works. There is a court order.

Except you suck & that’s why your kids don’t want to see you. You also moved far away and choose not to have 50/50.

Sometimes it's the mom's that move. Sometimes it's like your situation where the mom's go above and beyond to be nasty to the Dad's and encourage the kids to behave in the same way. Its sad for the kids. You don't realize the harm you are doing to your kids.

And majority of the time it's fathers spewing this nonsense about moms so ease their own guilty conscience. It's always easier to blame others for your own shortcomings.

Many Dad's want their kids and people like you discourage the relationships and contact. If Mom moves, without Dad's consent, you expect Dad to drop everything and move cross country following her?

Mom would need permission to move, but nice try.

I'm not the pp you quoted, but I know a family where the mom moved with the kids--about 2000 miles away. Her new husband got a new job. The dad went to court to try to stop it but the judge still allowed the mom to move with the kids. This was about 5 years ago in VA.

Did the dad have custody? Normally there's a standard "no moving" order in 50/50 custody orders, so I'm guessing the dad had limited custody or just visitation, and therefore the courts allowed the person who had custody to move.

Either mom moved without court permission OR she argued or lied to the court and got the move granted. 50-50 is only in some more liberal states, not everywhere and not with all judges.

Being that it's 2023, and not 1987 or whatever year in the past you're posting from-it's very common and even presumed in most places. And permission to move is very rare at least where I am-there is a large military installation here and they don't let the parent (not always mom) move away from the other parent that is stationed here while they are stationed here.

But don't let facts get in the way of your rhetoric!

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Anonymous wrote:I honestly don't get this excuse-making. Maybe I'm crazy but I would never give up my parenting time because I "felt alienated". And I would be willing to live in an awful apartment with roommates, be on food stamps, work two jobs, whatever it took to live nearby. If I only got the worst parenting time, if it were only orthodontist visits and 5 am crew practice l, I'd be there. If I couldn't get parenting time, I would be at every public event. If my ex hates me and tried to make my DC hate me, I still wouldn't give up. I really don't understand people who give up trying to have a relationship with their kids.

You choose a bad spouse. Mine does all that and more, including the five am sports.

Did you even read the post you quoted? Your response makes no sense.

The post is complaining about every day parenting tasks. The things we all do.

You totally missed the point.

No, I did not. Both mom and dads do those things every day. Your ex may suck but there are lots of dads who do all that and more. It’s sad you hate men so much and are raising a son who is going to pick up on your nasty attitudes.

You don’t seem to get that if a mom moves, mom may not want dad involved if she has a new partner. She may want to hide the affair and pretend AP is dad. Not all men can just up and quit to chase around mom and her AP every time they move.

Not all moms will allow dads even their visitation time let alone extra time to go to school events, activities, etc and will tell the schools dad is not allowed and some schools follow the court order, some mom.

Who gives a flying eff what the mom wants?

Are you really saying that if your spouse moved your kid out of state with an AP you’d just give up? Prioritize keeping your military career over your relationship with your kids?

If so you’re a garbage parent and person.

You think you can just walk away and quit and give your two week notice? It doesn't work like that. And, it's often not easy getting a job outside the military as the career fields are not transferable which means you need to retrain or get a different degree. You think Dad should just up and move every time mom moves and chase her and hope she'll allow a visit? How would he pay child support an alimony if he quit his job? Then, you'd complain he was a deadbeat.

There is nothing I wouldn't do for my kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Custody agreements are unenforceable. What are you going to do, sedate the child to transport them if they refuse to go see the other parent? Physically grab them?

As a parent you enforce the schedule just like you do school and homework.

If you get to high school, and your relationship with your kids is such that you think someone needs to force them to see you, you've done the whole parenting thing wrong.

Not forcing a child is not alienation.

So, if your child says they will not go to school or do their homework, you don't enforce that? Sounds like a cop out to parenting and why your kids don't respect you.

You are trying to be purposefully obtuse. You can enforce those things up until about HS and then they either do it or they don't. If a father hasn't cultivated a parenting relationship with his child/ren up until then and they don't want to see him, it is NOT the mother's job to be the bad cop. I'm positive that if they didn't want to come back to her house, he would not enforce that either.

Yes, it is the mothers job to support the relationship. They know you don't want them to have a relationship and they will honor your wishes. Yes, you can enforce those things. Checked out parent like you are why kids have so many mental health and other behavioral issues. They need and want their parents support and co-parenting is part of it. He absolutely would have to enforce kids returning to her home, even with abuse or neglect. That's how i works. There is a court order.

Except you suck & that’s why your kids don’t want to see you. You also moved far away and choose not to have 50/50.

Sometimes it's the mom's that move. Sometimes it's like your situation where the mom's go above and beyond to be nasty to the Dad's and encourage the kids to behave in the same way. Its sad for the kids. You don't realize the harm you are doing to your kids.

And majority of the time it's fathers spewing this nonsense about moms so ease their own guilty conscience. It's always easier to blame others for your own shortcomings.

Many Dad's want their kids and people like you discourage the relationships and contact. If Mom moves, without Dad's consent, you expect Dad to drop everything and move cross country following her?

Mom would need permission to move, but nice try.

I'm not the pp you quoted, but I know a family where the mom moved with the kids--about 2000 miles away. Her new husband got a new job. The dad went to court to try to stop it but the judge still allowed the mom to move with the kids. This was about 5 years ago in VA.

Did the dad have custody? Normally there's a standard "no moving" order in 50/50 custody orders, so I'm guessing the dad had limited custody or just visitation, and therefore the courts allowed the person who had custody to move.

Either mom moved without court permission OR she argued or lied to the court and got the move granted. 50-50 is only in some more liberal states, not everywhere and not with all judges.

Being that it's 2023, and not 1987 or whatever year in the past you're posting from-it's very common and even presumed in most places. And permission to move is very rare at least where I am-there is a large military installation here and they don't let the parent (not always mom) move away from the other parent that is stationed here while they are stationed here.

But don't let facts get in the way of your rhetoric!

Let mom move. She just ups and takes the kids prior to filing for divorce. Once she moves nothing happens.

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Anonymous wrote:I honestly don't get this excuse-making. Maybe I'm crazy but I would never give up my parenting time because I "felt alienated". And I would be willing to live in an awful apartment with roommates, be on food stamps, work two jobs, whatever it took to live nearby. If I only got the worst parenting time, if it were only orthodontist visits and 5 am crew practice l, I'd be there. If I couldn't get parenting time, I would be at every public event. If my ex hates me and tried to make my DC hate me, I still wouldn't give up. I really don't understand people who give up trying to have a relationship with their kids.

You choose a bad spouse. Mine does all that and more, including the five am sports.

Did you even read the post you quoted? Your response makes no sense.

The post is complaining about every day parenting tasks. The things we all do.

You totally missed the point.

No, I did not. Both mom and dads do those things every day. Your ex may suck but there are lots of dads who do all that and more. It’s sad you hate men so much and are raising a son who is going to pick up on your nasty attitudes.

You don’t seem to get that if a mom moves, mom may not want dad involved if she has a new partner. She may want to hide the affair and pretend AP is dad. Not all men can just up and quit to chase around mom and her AP every time they move.

Not all moms will allow dads even their visitation time let alone extra time to go to school events, activities, etc and will tell the schools dad is not allowed and some schools follow the court order, some mom.

Who gives a flying eff what the mom wants?

Are you really saying that if your spouse moved your kid out of state with an AP you’d just give up? Prioritize keeping your military career over your relationship with your kids?

If so you’re a garbage parent and person.

You think you can just walk away and quit and give your two week notice? It doesn't work like that. And, it's often not easy getting a job outside the military as the career fields are not transferable which means you need to retrain or get a different degree. You think Dad should just up and move every time mom moves and chase her and hope she'll allow a visit? How would he pay child support an alimony if he quit his job? Then, you'd complain he was a deadbeat.

There is nothing I wouldn't do for my kid.

So, you’d get court marshaled and go to prison?