DD suddenly stops shaving

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Anonymous wrote:I have never shaved. It's people who think that the prepubescent look should be the norm who are weird, not your daughter. Leave her alone.


Cannot believe there are grown women that don’t at least shave bikini line. Do you never wear a swimsuit or just don’t care that pubes hang out?


I haven’t shaved in a years. Like many moms, I wear swim shorts and a rash guard now.


Also I swim in my own pool so no one sees me but my family


Your teens don’t want to see your pubic hair

They shouldn’t be looking anyway


Hate to tell you put pubic hair growing out of swimsuit is super obvious. A gorilla between your legs isn’t exactly inconspicuous.
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Anonymous wrote:I have never shaved. It's people who think that the prepubescent look should be the norm who are weird, not your daughter. Leave her alone.


Cannot believe there are grown women that don’t at least shave bikini line. Do you never wear a swimsuit or just don’t care that pubes hang out?


I haven’t shaved in a years. Like many moms, I wear swim shorts and a rash guard now.


Also I swim in my own pool so no one sees me but my family


Your teens don’t want to see your pubic hair

They shouldn’t be looking anyway


Hate to tell you put pubic hair growing out of swimsuit is super obvious. A gorilla between your legs isn’t exactly inconspicuous.


I’m the “shaving devices” poster. My mom always told me to put shorts on on days when I was too hairy in that area. She told me how important it was to keep it shaven.
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Anonymous wrote:I have never shaved. It's people who think that the prepubescent look should be the norm who are weird, not your daughter. Leave her alone.


Cannot believe there are grown women that don’t at least shave bikini line. Do you never wear a swimsuit or just don’t care that pubes hang out?


I haven’t shaved in a years. Like many moms, I wear swim shorts and a rash guard now.


Also I swim in my own pool so no one sees me but my family


Your teens don’t want to see your pubic hair

They shouldn’t be looking anyway


Hate to tell you put pubic hair growing out of swimsuit is super obvious. A gorilla between your legs isn’t exactly inconspicuous.


“My mama always said…”

I’m the “shaving devices” poster. My mom always told me to put shorts on on days when I was too hairy in that area. She told me how important it was to keep it shaven.
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Anonymous wrote:What I would say:
Look, I can tell you that no matter what they say, and especially what other girls or women say, most boys and men prefer shaved. Now, I am not saying you should make sacrifices to be liked by boys better. All I am saying is that’s a well known fact, it’s just not ok to say it outright anymore because equality and all that. It is up to you how to deal with the knowledge I shared with you, I am not going to come back to this conversation unless you bring it up, and thank you for listening despite feeling uncomfortable!


This article is mostly about armpit hair but OPs daughter is hardly alone, younger women are shaving less than we did
https://nypost.com/2022/03/02/gen-z-gals-on-growing-out-body-hair-its-sexy-and-empowering/"35 percent of Americans have no preference if women shave or not, while 7 percent said they should not shave. For respondents between the ages of 18 and 35, female fur proved to be even less of an issue, with a majority confessing that they either find armpit hair attractive or don’t care if a woman has it."


I’d like to meet a man openly admitting he prefers no hair in our turbulent times


Don’t worry, there are plenty of Andrew Tates out there


Hm, fewer than you think, or at least those who are open about it. Even a DH won’t always tell his DW he prefers when she shaves.


Nope. There are way more Andrew Tate fans than you could imagine. And even a non-radical 16-year old boy who doesn’t have great social graces will have no problem loudly proclaiming that he thinks leg hair on girls is gross.

I will say though that I personally would never say to my daughter “hey fyi boys like it when you do like this” with the heavy implication that they should do it. Boys also like tight clothes, right?

Luckily plenty of girls don’t care what that type of boy wants



Disagree. They care, plenty.


Sure. Insecure girls or girls who like dude-bros care. Many many girls and women don't care. Personally I'd like to attract a person who accepts me for who I am and appreciates how I like to express myself.


But you’d like someone who is good looking, not socially awkward, earns a good salary?
-DP


Ha!
Unless she's hooking ip with someone in sales, there is no correlation.
Now a full head of hair..



I am a woman but if I were a good looking high earning male, why would I date someone who isn’t shaving if there are so many women who do? Sure I could be struck by the lightning of love but let’s be realistic? Sorry if I am not progressive enough

I know this may shock you because the messaging/marketing around shaving is so persistent but there are many men who like hairy women. Search some hashtags.


I know they exist. I wouldn’t exactly say there are many. And I am sure they would let their partner know! Kind of strange to be marketing to that audience?
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She is your daughter & you have a right & a duty to be concerned.

Have a polite & calm discussion with your daughter.


Totally agree with this advice. Your instincts are right, and this is a red alert... No one loves your kid like you and her dad do. I would lovingly and calmly find out what her thinking is. Help her to see she is a beautiful human being -- inside and out -- and that fashion, how we groom, etc. communicates who we are within the current cultural context. We all don uniforms of sorts... What uniform is she trying to wear? Yes, fashions change, but what is the message she is signaling right now through this fashion choice? The uniform she chooses will also shape how she sees herself.

Ask what she thinks she's saying by not shaving. Then find out where this is coming from. Who or what has caused her to develop this philosophy? Someone from school? A friend? Someone on social media? Why does the source's opinion matter?

At best, maybe she's just afraid she'll cut herself with the razor. Who even likes to shave, right? At worst, someone could be lying to her about who she is as a young woman, and she has taken her first steps down a dangerous path. Save your child from the disaster you sense could be ahead.





This is the single sanest post on this thread.







"Save your child from the disaster you sense could be ahead." You mean the single most *insane* post on the thread?
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Anonymous wrote:What I would say:
Look, I can tell you that no matter what they say, and especially what other girls or women say, most boys and men prefer shaved. Now, I am not saying you should make sacrifices to be liked by boys better. All I am saying is that’s a well known fact, it’s just not ok to say it outright anymore because equality and all that. It is up to you how to deal with the knowledge I shared with you, I am not going to come back to this conversation unless you bring it up, and thank you for listening despite feeling uncomfortable!


This article is mostly about armpit hair but OPs daughter is hardly alone, younger women are shaving less than we did
https://nypost.com/2022/03/02/gen-z-gals-on-growing-out-body-hair-its-sexy-and-empowering/"35 percent of Americans have no preference if women shave or not, while 7 percent said they should not shave. For respondents between the ages of 18 and 35, female fur proved to be even less of an issue, with a majority confessing that they either find armpit hair attractive or don’t care if a woman has it."


I’d like to meet a man openly admitting he prefers no hair in our turbulent times


Don’t worry, there are plenty of Andrew Tates out there


Hm, fewer than you think, or at least those who are open about it. Even a DH won’t always tell his DW he prefers when she shaves.


Nope. There are way more Andrew Tate fans than you could imagine. And even a non-radical 16-year old boy who doesn’t have great social graces will have no problem loudly proclaiming that he thinks leg hair on girls is gross.

I will say though that I personally would never say to my daughter “hey fyi boys like it when you do like this” with the heavy implication that they should do it. Boys also like tight clothes, right?

Luckily plenty of girls don’t care what that type of boy wants



Disagree. They care, plenty.


Sure. Insecure girls or girls who like dude-bros care. Many many girls and women don't care. Personally I'd like to attract a person who accepts me for who I am and appreciates how I like to express myself.


But you’d like someone who is good looking, not socially awkward, earns a good salary?
-DP


Ha!
Unless she's hooking ip with someone in sales, there is no correlation.
Now a full head of hair..



I am a woman but if I were a good looking high earning male, why would I date someone who isn’t shaving if there are so many women who do? Sure I could be struck by the lightning of love but let’s be realistic? Sorry if I am not progressive enough

I know this may shock you because the messaging/marketing around shaving is so persistent but there are many men who like hairy women. Search some hashtags.


I know they exist. I wouldn’t exactly say there are many. And I am sure they would let their partner know! Kind of strange to be marketing to that audience?

There's no money in women who don't shave
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Anonymous wrote:I have never shaved. It's people who think that the prepubescent look should be the norm who are weird, not your daughter. Leave her alone.


Cannot believe there are grown women that don’t at least shave bikini line. Do you never wear a swimsuit or just don’t care that pubes hang out?


I haven’t shaved in a years. Like many moms, I wear swim shorts and a rash guard now.


Also I swim in my own pool so no one sees me but my family


Your teens don’t want to see your pubic hair

They shouldn’t be looking anyway

DP. I had a mother who didn’t shave. I always felt awkward seeing her hair.
I didn’t specifically look but I couldn’t exactly unsee either.
My legs aren’t always shaved (lazy) but my armpits are, and of course no pubic hair visible.
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I'm opposed to pressuring others to shave their pubes, but I also don't want others to see my pubes. The problem isn't shaving, the problem is that normal women's bathing suits give you the choice between shaving and all that entails or letting somebody see your pubes.

DD wears bike shorts and a sports bra to swim, but hiding her pubes isn't the first consideration, she just doesn't like showing so much butt and thigh out in public.
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A lot of lesbian women do not shave.
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Anonymous wrote:A lot of lesbian women do not shave.


And a lot of them do. A growing number of straight women don’t. Kids these days, you just can’t tell!
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Anonymous wrote:A lot of lesbian women do not shave.


And a lot of them do. A growing number of straight women don’t. Kids these days, you just can’t tell!


Which, as I said before, is why OP is worried.
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She is your daughter & you have a right & a duty to be concerned.

Have a polite & calm discussion with your daughter.


Totally agree with this advice. Your instincts are right, and this is a red alert... No one loves your kid like you and her dad do. I would lovingly and calmly find out what her thinking is. Help her to see she is a beautiful human being -- inside and out -- and that fashion, how we groom, etc. communicates who we are within the current cultural context. We all don uniforms of sorts... What uniform is she trying to wear? Yes, fashions change, but what is the message she is signaling right now through this fashion choice? The uniform she chooses will also shape how she sees herself.

Ask what she thinks she's saying by not shaving. Then find out where this is coming from. Who or what has caused her to develop this philosophy? Someone from school? A friend? Someone on social media? Why does the source's opinion matter?

At best, maybe she's just afraid she'll cut herself with the razor. Who even likes to shave, right? At worst, someone could be lying to her about who she is as a young woman, and she has taken her first steps down a dangerous path. Save your child from the disaster you sense could be ahead.





This is the single sanest post on this thread.







"Save your child from the disaster you sense could be ahead." You mean the single most *insane* post on the thread?


No I actually think that point is exactly correct. I would be very concerned if my 15 YO DD appeared headed down this path.
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She is your daughter & you have a right & a duty to be concerned.

Have a polite & calm discussion with your daughter.


Totally agree with this advice. Your instincts are right, and this is a red alert... No one loves your kid like you and her dad do. I would lovingly and calmly find out what her thinking is. Help her to see she is a beautiful human being -- inside and out -- and that fashion, how we groom, etc. communicates who we are within the current cultural context. We all don uniforms of sorts... What uniform is she trying to wear? Yes, fashions change, but what is the message she is signaling right now through this fashion choice? The uniform she chooses will also shape how she sees herself.

Ask what she thinks she's saying by not shaving. Then find out where this is coming from. Who or what has caused her to develop this philosophy? Someone from school? A friend? Someone on social media? Why does the source's opinion matter?

At best, maybe she's just afraid she'll cut herself with the razor. Who even likes to shave, right? At worst, someone could be lying to her about who she is as a young woman, and she has taken her first steps down a dangerous path. Save your child from the disaster you sense could be ahead.





This is the single sanest post on this thread.







"Save your child from the disaster you sense could be ahead." You mean the single most *insane* post on the thread?


No I actually think that point is exactly correct. I would be very concerned if my 15 YO DD appeared headed down this path.


What path?? Where does this lead? I want details.
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She is your daughter & you have a right & a duty to be concerned.

Have a polite & calm discussion with your daughter.


Totally agree with this advice. Your instincts are right, and this is a red alert... No one loves your kid like you and her dad do. I would lovingly and calmly find out what her thinking is. Help her to see she is a beautiful human being -- inside and out -- and that fashion, how we groom, etc. communicates who we are within the current cultural context. We all don uniforms of sorts... What uniform is she trying to wear? Yes, fashions change, but what is the message she is signaling right now through this fashion choice? The uniform she chooses will also shape how she sees herself.

Ask what she thinks she's saying by not shaving. Then find out where this is coming from. Who or what has caused her to develop this philosophy? Someone from school? A friend? Someone on social media? Why does the source's opinion matter?

At best, maybe she's just afraid she'll cut herself with the razor. Who even likes to shave, right? At worst, someone could be lying to her about who she is as a young woman, and she has taken her first steps down a dangerous path. Save your child from the disaster you sense could be ahead.





This is the single sanest post on this thread.







"Save your child from the disaster you sense could be ahead." You mean the single most *insane* post on the thread?


No I actually think that point is exactly correct. I would be very concerned if my 15 YO DD appeared headed down this path.


What path?? Where does this lead? I want details.


Trans or lesbian

(Not that I am opposed to either, but those are the “paths” pp is scared of)
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She is your daughter & you have a right & a duty to be concerned.

Have a polite & calm discussion with your daughter.


Totally agree with this advice. Your instincts are right, and this is a red alert... No one loves your kid like you and her dad do. I would lovingly and calmly find out what her thinking is. Help her to see she is a beautiful human being -- inside and out -- and that fashion, how we groom, etc. communicates who we are within the current cultural context. We all don uniforms of sorts... What uniform is she trying to wear? Yes, fashions change, but what is the message she is signaling right now through this fashion choice? The uniform she chooses will also shape how she sees herself.

Ask what she thinks she's saying by not shaving. Then find out where this is coming from. Who or what has caused her to develop this philosophy? Someone from school? A friend? Someone on social media? Why does the source's opinion matter?

At best, maybe she's just afraid she'll cut herself with the razor. Who even likes to shave, right? At worst, someone could be lying to her about who she is as a young woman, and she has taken her first steps down a dangerous path. Save your child from the disaster you sense could be ahead.





This is the single sanest post on this thread.







"Save your child from the disaster you sense could be ahead." You mean the single most *insane* post on the thread?


No I actually think that point is exactly correct. I would be very concerned if my 15 YO DD appeared headed down this path.


What path?? Where does this lead? I want details.


Trans or lesbian

(Not that I am opposed to either, but those are the “paths” pp is scared of)


NP but some of you are unhinged.
Signed,
Straight not-too-hairy woman who doesn't shave, doesn't think not shaving means a girl is a lesbian but so what if she is, and certainly doesn't think not shaving is a slippery slope towards being talked into transitioning to male.
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