DD suddenly stops shaving

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Anonymous wrote:See, hairy poster, even guys are into manscaping! Time to bury the lead

It’s bury the lede, and I don’t think it means what you think it does.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this a trend? Asked DD if she need new razors to shave right before spring break trip - she would be wearing a bathing suit. Said no. She obviously had not shaved legs or her armpits either. I did ask her why and was it for philosophical reasons. She got uncomfortable and would not give a straight answer. She’s 15.
I don’t care much though honestly, don’t like the look. Just strange how uncomfortable she got with the discussion. It is unusual for her.

You tell her bluntly, hairy legs & armpits are not acceptable. My mom commented on mine for years & years and would tell me which spots I needed to shave better, as well as buy me interesting shaving devices. So grateful.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

Thanks for the laugh. I needed that today.

I’m pp. I am being completely serious.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this a trend? Asked DD if she need new razors to shave right before spring break trip - she would be wearing a bathing suit. Said no. She obviously had not shaved legs or her armpits either. I did ask her why and was it for philosophical reasons. She got uncomfortable and would not give a straight answer. She’s 15.
I don’t care much though honestly, don’t like the look. Just strange how uncomfortable she got with the discussion. It is unusual for her.

You tell her bluntly, hairy legs & armpits are not acceptable. My mom commented on mine for years & years and would tell me which spots I needed to shave better, as well as buy me interesting shaving devices. So grateful.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

Thanks for the laugh. I needed that today.

I’m pp. I am being completely serious.

DP. We know you are. Makes it even funnier.

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Anonymous wrote:I assume girls who don’t shave may be lesbian.

I hate to break it to you but girls who do shave may be lesbian.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this a trend? Asked DD if she need new razors to shave right before spring break trip - she would be wearing a bathing suit. Said no. She obviously had not shaved legs or her armpits either. I did ask her why and was it for philosophical reasons. She got uncomfortable and would not give a straight answer. She’s 15.
I don’t care much though honestly, don’t like the look. Just strange how uncomfortable she got with the discussion. It is unusual for her.

You tell her bluntly, hairy legs & armpits are not acceptable. My mom commented on mine for years & years and would tell me which spots I needed to shave better, as well as buy me interesting shaving devices. So grateful.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

Thanks for the laugh. I needed that today.

I’m pp. I am being completely serious.

Tell us about the interesting shaving devices your mom bought you!

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She is your daughter & you have a right & a duty to be concerned.

Have a polite & calm discussion with your daughter.

Totally agree with this advice. Your instincts are right, and this is a red alert... No one loves your kid like you and her dad do. I would lovingly and calmly find out what her thinking is. Help her to see she is a beautiful human being -- inside and out -- and that fashion, how we groom, etc. communicates who we are within the current cultural context. We all don uniforms of sorts... What uniform is she trying to wear? Yes, fashions change, but what is the message she is signaling right now through this fashion choice? The uniform she chooses will also shape how she sees herself.

Ask what she thinks she's saying by not shaving. Then find out where this is coming from. Who or what has caused her to develop this philosophy? Someone from school? A friend? Someone on social media? Why does the source's opinion matter?

At best, maybe she's just afraid she'll cut herself with the razor. Who even likes to shave, right? At worst, someone could be lying to her about who she is as a young woman, and she has taken her first steps down a dangerous path. Save your child from the disaster you sense could be ahead.

I sure hope this is parody.

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Anonymous wrote:See, hairy poster, even guys are into manscaping! Time to bury the lead

*Some* guys are into manscaping. Everyone knows this. That doesn't mean that all negative comments about girls having leg hair aren't sexist or even disturbing.

Also the insult "hairy" isn't landing the way you're hoping it's landing. It makes you sound not just old, but insecure.

How is hairy an insult?! It’s just an opposite of shaven

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Anonymous wrote:I have never shaved. It's people who think that the prepubescent look should be the norm who are weird, not your daughter. Leave her alone.

Cannot believe there are grown women that don’t at least shave bikini line. Do you never wear a swimsuit or just don’t care that pubes hang out?

I haven’t shaved in a years. Like many moms, I wear swim shorts and a rash guard now.

Also I swim in my own pool so no one sees me but my family

Your teens don’t want to see your pubic hair

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Anonymous wrote:What I would say:
Look, I can tell you that no matter what they say, and especially what other girls or women say, most boys and men prefer shaved. Now, I am not saying you should make sacrifices to be liked by boys better. All I am saying is that’s a well known fact, it’s just not ok to say it outright anymore because equality and all that. It is up to you how to deal with the knowledge I shared with you, I am not going to come back to this conversation unless you bring it up, and thank you for listening despite feeling uncomfortable!

This article is mostly about armpit hair but OPs daughter is hardly alone, younger women are shaving less than we did
https://nypost.com/2022/03/02/gen-z-gals-on-growing-out-body-hair-its-sexy-and-empowering/"35 percent of Americans have no preference if women shave or not, while 7 percent said they should not shave. For respondents between the ages of 18 and 35, female fur proved to be even less of an issue, with a majority confessing that they either find armpit hair attractive or don’t care if a woman has it."

I’d like to meet a man openly admitting he prefers no hair in our turbulent times

Don’t worry, there are plenty of Andrew Tates out there

Hm, fewer than you think, or at least those who are open about it. Even a DH won’t always tell his DW he prefers when she shaves.

Nope. There are way more Andrew Tate fans than you could imagine. And even a non-radical 16-year old boy who doesn’t have great social graces will have no problem loudly proclaiming that he thinks leg hair on girls is gross.

I will say though that I personally would never say to my daughter “hey fyi boys like it when you do like this” with the heavy implication that they should do it. Boys also like tight clothes, right?

Luckily plenty of girls don’t care what that type of boy wants

Disagree. They care, plenty.

Sure. Insecure girls or girls who like dude-bros care. Many many girls and women don't care. Personally I'd like to attract a person who accepts me for who I am and appreciates how I like to express myself.

But you’d like someone who is good looking, not socially awkward, earns a good salary?
-DP

Ha!
Unless she's hooking ip with someone in sales, there is no correlation.
Now a full head of hair..

I am a woman but if I were a good looking high earning male, why would I date someone who isn’t shaving if there are so many women who do? Sure I could be struck by the lightning of love but let’s be realistic? Sorry if I am not progressive enough

I know this may shock you because the messaging/marketing around shaving is so persistent but there are many men who like hairy women. Search some hashtags.

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Anonymous wrote:I have never shaved. It's people who think that the prepubescent look should be the norm who are weird, not your daughter. Leave her alone.

Cannot believe there are grown women that don’t at least shave bikini line. Do you never wear a swimsuit or just don’t care that pubes hang out?

I haven’t shaved in a years. Like many moms, I wear swim shorts and a rash guard now.

Also I swim in my own pool so no one sees me but my family

Your teens don’t want to see your pubic hair

They shouldn’t be looking anyway

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Anonymous wrote:Is this a trend? Asked DD if she need new razors to shave right before spring break trip - she would be wearing a bathing suit. Said no. She obviously had not shaved legs or her armpits either. I did ask her why and was it for philosophical reasons. She got uncomfortable and would not give a straight answer. She’s 15.
I don’t care much though honestly, don’t like the look. Just strange how uncomfortable she got with the discussion. It is unusual for her.

You tell her bluntly, hairy legs & armpits are not acceptable. My mom commented on mine for years & years and would tell me which spots I needed to shave better, as well as buy me interesting shaving devices. So grateful.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

Thanks for the laugh. I needed that today.

I’m pp. I am being completely serious.

Tell us about the interesting shaving devices your mom bought you!

Different kinds of expensive electronic razors & also the best non-electronic ones. Used nair at times, too.

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My 17 year old doesn’t. Que sera sera.

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Anonymous wrote:My 17 year old doesn’t. Que sera sera.

Are they a boy?

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She is your daughter & you have a right & a duty to be concerned.

Have a polite & calm discussion with your daughter.

Totally agree with this advice. Your instincts are right, and this is a red alert... No one loves your kid like you and her dad do. I would lovingly and calmly find out what her thinking is. Help her to see she is a beautiful human being -- inside and out -- and that fashion, how we groom, etc. communicates who we are within the current cultural context. We all don uniforms of sorts... What uniform is she trying to wear? Yes, fashions change, but what is the message she is signaling right now through this fashion choice? The uniform she chooses will also shape how she sees herself.

Ask what she thinks she's saying by not shaving. Then find out where this is coming from. Who or what has caused her to develop this philosophy? Someone from school? A friend? Someone on social media? Why does the source's opinion matter?

At best, maybe she's just afraid she'll cut herself with the razor. Who even likes to shave, right? At worst, someone could be lying to her about who she is as a young woman, and she has taken her first steps down a dangerous path. Save your child from the disaster you sense could be ahead.

This is the single sanest post on this thread.