I do not like the parent population at my kids school

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

I do not like the parent population at your kid's school either. They’re a bunch of a-holes.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

Translation: I'm a horrible human being who will judge you based on your job, clothes, country club, friends, school. I am one of those moms who will give you my elevator pitch on where I went to college twenty years ago, every job I have had since then, and I'll be sure to let you know how rich I am. I am shallow and don't have much depth as a human being so when I see you don't have value you to me I'll ignore you and pretend you don't exist. But I sure am hell nice to people who I deem rich and worthy and you'll see me pandering and lollygagging around them. So if your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alumni network aren't up to mine don't bother talking to me.

Are you new here, sweetie? Welcome to Washington. Don’t act like some babe in the woods when you moved to the most ruthlessly competitive, superficial and status and power obsessed place in the Western Hemisphere. Then chose to send your kid to an even more stratified private school. As for OP, if nobody liked him/her before the kid was in private, why would they magically like them now? Nobody likes a thirsty low born interloper; especially a creepy 30, 40 or 50 something one (we’re a long ways from being teenagers first week of college). If you’re that hard up for a friend, go get a spaniel.

DP. Holy shit are you okay? You sound off the hinges psychotic and mean. Op never said no one disliked them before private. They are saying they want to feel welcome at their kids new private. I suspect you may be part of the group she is referring to and now you feel you need to defend yourself and attack op? Please be a better person.

Context is key. Dislike in this context doesn't mean disliked in general, in life, we are specifically referring to the pedigreed private school parents the striver OP seeks to orbit. The point is if OP is an outsider, not a peer or a mutual i.e. friend of a friend to this network of parents, why would she suddenly become fast friends with them just because her kid goes to school there? It is delusional. It is actually pretty wormy and creepy to think or hope that your kid's new school gives you a new group of higher status friends. And if OP's obsessed enough to make a thread crying about it, it certainly projects in real life, which makes her seem transparently pushy and sketchy to the very people she seeks to orbit. You only get one first impression, you know. Rich and powerful are pretty guarded. In Washington, you could be Project Veritas or some foreign spook for all they know. Or just a low born waste of their time. Sorry, only so many hours in a day.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Cool outgoing rich parents come to you. They size you up pretty quickly and invite you into their circle if they deem you a peer. They can glance at your LinkedIn and Facebook for 30 seconds to see the friends you have in common, where you went to college, where you work, and where you live. Zillow stalking takes another 30 seconds. I'm afraid they don't see you as being on their level. But it sounds like your kids are having better luck and that's what it's all about, right?

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Cool outgoing rich parents come to you. They size you up pretty quickly and invite you into their circle if they deem you a peer. They can glance at your LinkedIn and Facebook for 30 seconds to see the friends you have in common, where you went to college, where you work, and where you live. Zillow stalking takes another 30 seconds. I'm afraid they don't see you as being on their level. But it sounds like your kids are having better luck and that's what it's all about, right?

We are nobodies (feds in a small house with no social cred) and our kids are at the Cathedral schools. IME some of the most connected, wealthiest parents are actually the nicest and most inclusive. It's the strivers (who are far more like us on paper then they'd ever admit) that can be mean.
It's a tale as old as time. If you've really "made it" then you're free to be nice to the small people--many of whom are actually very interesting people. If you're continually clawing and insecure you're often preoccupied by who else may move into your spot.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

Translation: I'm a horrible human being who will judge you based on your job, clothes, country club, friends, school. I am one of those moms who will give you my elevator pitch on where I went to college twenty years ago, every job I have had since then, and I'll be sure to let you know how rich I am. I am shallow and don't have much depth as a human being so when I see you don't have value you to me I'll ignore you and pretend you don't exist. But I sure am hell nice to people who I deem rich and worthy and you'll see me pandering and lollygagging around them. So if your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alumni network aren't up to mine don't bother talking to me.

Are you new here, sweetie? Welcome to Washington. Don’t act like some babe in the woods when you moved to the most ruthlessly competitive, superficial and status and power obsessed place in the Western Hemisphere. Then chose to send your kid to an even more stratified private school. As for OP, if nobody liked him/her before the kid was in private, why would they magically like them now? Nobody likes a thirsty low born interloper; especially a creepy 30, 40 or 50 something one (we’re a long ways from being teenagers first week of college). If you’re that hard up for a friend, go get a spaniel.

DP. Holy shit are you okay? You sound off the hinges psychotic and mean. Op never said no one disliked them before private. They are saying they want to feel welcome at their kids new private. I suspect you may be part of the group she is referring to and now you feel you need to defend yourself and attack op? Please be a better person.

Context is key. Dislike in this context doesn't mean disliked in general, in life, we are specifically referring to the pedigreed private school parents the striver OP seeks to orbit. The point is if OP is an outsider, not a peer or a mutual i.e. friend of a friend to this network of parents, why would she suddenly become fast friends with them just because her kid goes to school there? It is delusional. It is actually pretty wormy and creepy to think or hope that your kid's new school gives you a new group of higher status friends. And if OP's obsessed enough to make a thread crying about it, it certainly projects in real life, which makes her seem transparently pushy and sketchy to the very people she seeks to orbit. You only get one first impression, you know. Rich and powerful are pretty guarded. In Washington, you could be Project Veritas or some foreign spook for all they know. Or just a low born waste of their time. Sorry, only so many hours in a day.

I prefer to be a "low born waste of time." My relationships are real and I never worry that someone likes me because of some arbitrary external characteristic.

I assume you are intentionally misreading OP's original post in order to make yourself feel better. Is that because you know others only care about you because of your status? Or just because reading comprehension is not your thing?

Please get therapy.

The rest of us are busy building quality communities for our children through respecting each other and our differences.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Cool outgoing rich parents come to you. They size you up pretty quickly and invite you into their circle if they deem you a peer. They can glance at your LinkedIn and Facebook for 30 seconds to see the friends you have in common, where you went to college, where you work, and where you live. Zillow stalking takes another 30 seconds. I'm afraid they don't see you as being on their level. But it sounds like your kids are having better luck and that's what it's all about, right?

We are nobodies (feds in a small house with no social cred) and our kids are at the Cathedral schools. IME some of the most connected, wealthiest parents are actually the nicest and most inclusive. It's the strivers (who are far more like us on paper then they'd ever admit) that can be mean.
It's a tale as old as time. If you've really "made it" then you're free to be nice to the small people--many of whom are actually very interesting people. If you're continually clawing and insecure you're often preoccupied by who else may move into your spot.

We’re there too and are private firm nobodies and we… don’t care? At all? Is this really odd? I’m confused. It’s my kids school not a social club like wtf

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Cool outgoing rich parents come to you. They size you up pretty quickly and invite you into their circle if they deem you a peer. They can glance at your LinkedIn and Facebook for 30 seconds to see the friends you have in common, where you went to college, where you work, and where you live. Zillow stalking takes another 30 seconds. I'm afraid they don't see you as being on their level. But it sounds like your kids are having better luck and that's what it's all about, right?

We are nobodies (feds in a small house with no social cred) and our kids are at the Cathedral schools. IME some of the most connected, wealthiest parents are actually the nicest and most inclusive. It's the strivers (who are far more like us on paper then they'd ever admit) that can be mean.
It's a tale as old as time. If you've really "made it" then you're free to be nice to the small people--many of whom are actually very interesting people. If you're continually clawing and insecure you're often preoccupied by who else may move into your spot.

We’re there too and are private firm nobodies and we… don’t care? At all? Is this really odd? I’m confused. It’s my kids school not a social club like wtf

No, you are normal. OP is the weirdo who thinks a private school buys parents a new friend group.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

Translation: I'm a horrible human being who will judge you based on your job, clothes, country club, friends, school. I am one of those moms who will give you my elevator pitch on where I went to college twenty years ago, every job I have had since then, and I'll be sure to let you know how rich I am. I am shallow and don't have much depth as a human being so when I see you don't have value you to me I'll ignore you and pretend you don't exist. But I sure am hell nice to people who I deem rich and worthy and you'll see me pandering and lollygagging around them. So if your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alumni network aren't up to mine don't bother talking to me.

Are you new here, sweetie? Welcome to Washington. Don’t act like some babe in the woods when you moved to the most ruthlessly competitive, superficial and status and power obsessed place in the Western Hemisphere. Then chose to send your kid to an even more stratified private school. As for OP, if nobody liked him/her before the kid was in private, why would they magically like them now? Nobody likes a thirsty low born interloper; especially a creepy 30, 40 or 50 something one (we’re a long ways from being teenagers first week of college). If you’re that hard up for a friend, go get a spaniel.

DP. Holy shit are you okay? You sound off the hinges psychotic and mean. Op never said no one disliked them before private. They are saying they want to feel welcome at their kids new private. I suspect you may be part of the group she is referring to and now you feel you need to defend yourself and attack op? Please be a better person.

Context is key. Dislike in this context doesn't mean disliked in general, in life, we are specifically referring to the pedigreed private school parents the striver OP seeks to orbit. The point is if OP is an outsider, not a peer or a mutual i.e. friend of a friend to this network of parents, why would she suddenly become fast friends with them just because her kid goes to school there? It is delusional. It is actually pretty wormy and creepy to think or hope that your kid's new school gives you a new group of higher status friends. And if OP's obsessed enough to make a thread crying about it, it certainly projects in real life, which makes her seem transparently pushy and sketchy to the very people she seeks to orbit. You only get one first impression, you know. Rich and powerful are pretty guarded. In Washington, you could be Project Veritas or some foreign spook for all they know. Or just a low born waste of their time. Sorry, only so many hours in a day.

I prefer to be a "low born waste of time." My relationships are real and I never worry that someone likes me because of some arbitrary external characteristic.

I assume you are intentionally misreading OP's original post in order to make yourself feel better. Is that because you know others only care about you because of your status? Or just because reading comprehension is not your thing?

Please get therapy.

The rest of us are busy building quality communities for our children through respecting each other and our differences.

We all know why OP craves to make fast friends with private school privates. For superficial, social climbing reasons. Private parents are seen as wealthier, more powerful, members of clubs, and more connected. So who's really the shallow one? It's not the parents at the school living their life, it's OP for even having this scheme in the first place. Most parents are too busy with life, too busy with their career, obsessing over making new friends at their kid's new school is not on their radar. When it is on your radar, as OP admits, it's weird and creepy. No surprise if parents at the new school see right through that. And if you've gone 40 something years without this caliber of friend group, what makes you entitled to it now? It's frankly delusional.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

Translation: I'm a horrible human being who will judge you based on your job, clothes, country club, friends, school. I am one of those moms who will give you my elevator pitch on where I went to college twenty years ago, every job I have had since then, and I'll be sure to let you know how rich I am. I am shallow and don't have much depth as a human being so when I see you don't have value you to me I'll ignore you and pretend you don't exist. But I sure am hell nice to people who I deem rich and worthy and you'll see me pandering and lollygagging around them. So if your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alumni network aren't up to mine don't bother talking to me.

Are you new here, sweetie? Welcome to Washington. Don’t act like some babe in the woods when you moved to the most ruthlessly competitive, superficial and status and power obsessed place in the Western Hemisphere. Then chose to send your kid to an even more stratified private school. As for OP, if nobody liked him/her before the kid was in private, why would they magically like them now? Nobody likes a thirsty low born interloper; especially a creepy 30, 40 or 50 something one (we’re a long ways from being teenagers first week of college). If you’re that hard up for a friend, go get a spaniel.

DP. Holy shit are you okay? You sound off the hinges psychotic and mean. Op never said no one disliked them before private. They are saying they want to feel welcome at their kids new private. I suspect you may be part of the group she is referring to and now you feel you need to defend yourself and attack op? Please be a better person.

Context is key. Dislike in this context doesn't mean disliked in general, in life, we are specifically referring to the pedigreed private school parents the striver OP seeks to orbit. The point is if OP is an outsider, not a peer or a mutual i.e. friend of a friend to this network of parents, why would she suddenly become fast friends with them just because her kid goes to school there? It is delusional. It is actually pretty wormy and creepy to think or hope that your kid's new school gives you a new group of higher status friends. And if OP's obsessed enough to make a thread crying about it, it certainly projects in real life, which makes her seem transparently pushy and sketchy to the very people she seeks to orbit. You only get one first impression, you know. Rich and powerful are pretty guarded. In Washington, you could be Project Veritas or some foreign spook for all they know. Or just a low born waste of their time. Sorry, only so many hours in a day.

You're a moron. What school is your family at? Tell us! Is it a big 3? 4? 5? Keep your orbit safe!

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

Translation: I'm a horrible human being who will judge you based on your job, clothes, country club, friends, school. I am one of those moms who will give you my elevator pitch on where I went to college twenty years ago, every job I have had since then, and I'll be sure to let you know how rich I am. I am shallow and don't have much depth as a human being so when I see you don't have value you to me I'll ignore you and pretend you don't exist. But I sure am hell nice to people who I deem rich and worthy and you'll see me pandering and lollygagging around them. So if your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alumni network aren't up to mine don't bother talking to me.

Are you new here, sweetie? Welcome to Washington. Don’t act like some babe in the woods when you moved to the most ruthlessly competitive, superficial and status and power obsessed place in the Western Hemisphere. Then chose to send your kid to an even more stratified private school. As for OP, if nobody liked him/her before the kid was in private, why would they magically like them now? Nobody likes a thirsty low born interloper; especially a creepy 30, 40 or 50 something one (we’re a long ways from being teenagers first week of college). If you’re that hard up for a friend, go get a spaniel.

DP. Holy shit are you okay? You sound off the hinges psychotic and mean. Op never said no one disliked them before private. They are saying they want to feel welcome at their kids new private. I suspect you may be part of the group she is referring to and now you feel you need to defend yourself and attack op? Please be a better person.

Context is key. Dislike in this context doesn't mean disliked in general, in life, we are specifically referring to the pedigreed private school parents the striver OP seeks to orbit. The point is if OP is an outsider, not a peer or a mutual i.e. friend of a friend to this network of parents, why would she suddenly become fast friends with them just because her kid goes to school there? It is delusional. It is actually pretty wormy and creepy to think or hope that your kid's new school gives you a new group of higher status friends. And if OP's obsessed enough to make a thread crying about it, it certainly projects in real life, which makes her seem transparently pushy and sketchy to the very people she seeks to orbit. You only get one first impression, you know. Rich and powerful are pretty guarded. In Washington, you could be Project Veritas or some foreign spook for all they know. Or just a low born waste of their time. Sorry, only so many hours in a day.

I prefer to be a "low born waste of time." My relationships are real and I never worry that someone likes me because of some arbitrary external characteristic.

I assume you are intentionally misreading OP's original post in order to make yourself feel better. Is that because you know others only care about you because of your status? Or just because reading comprehension is not your thing?

Please get therapy.

The rest of us are busy building quality communities for our children through respecting each other and our differences.

We all know why OP craves to make fast friends with private school privates. For superficial, social climbing reasons. Private parents are seen as wealthier, more powerful, members of clubs, and more connected. So who's really the shallow one? It's not the parents at the school living their life, it's OP for even having this scheme in the first place. Most parents are too busy with life, too busy with their career, obsessing over making new friends at their kid's new school is not on their radar. When it is on your radar, as OP admits, it's weird and creepy. No surprise if parents at the new school see right through that. And if you've gone 40 something years without this caliber of friend group, what makes you entitled to it now? It's frankly delusional.

Please get help. I beg of you for your kids sake. Op never said she was looking for friends. For gods sakes. She just said she would like to meet some friendly fellow parents and feel welcomed into her kids new school. Please get help and I am so concerned for your kids.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

Translation: I'm a horrible human being who will judge you based on your job, clothes, country club, friends, school. I am one of those moms who will give you my elevator pitch on where I went to college twenty years ago, every job I have had since then, and I'll be sure to let you know how rich I am. I am shallow and don't have much depth as a human being so when I see you don't have value you to me I'll ignore you and pretend you don't exist. But I sure am hell nice to people who I deem rich and worthy and you'll see me pandering and lollygagging around them. So if your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alumni network aren't up to mine don't bother talking to me.

Are you new here, sweetie? Welcome to Washington. Don’t act like some babe in the woods when you moved to the most ruthlessly competitive, superficial and status and power obsessed place in the Western Hemisphere. Then chose to send your kid to an even more stratified private school. As for OP, if nobody liked him/her before the kid was in private, why would they magically like them now? Nobody likes a thirsty low born interloper; especially a creepy 30, 40 or 50 something one (we’re a long ways from being teenagers first week of college). If you’re that hard up for a friend, go get a spaniel.

DP. Holy shit are you okay? You sound off the hinges psychotic and mean. Op never said no one disliked them before private. They are saying they want to feel welcome at their kids new private. I suspect you may be part of the group she is referring to and now you feel you need to defend yourself and attack op? Please be a better person.

Context is key. Dislike in this context doesn't mean disliked in general, in life, we are specifically referring to the pedigreed private school parents the striver OP seeks to orbit. The point is if OP is an outsider, not a peer or a mutual i.e. friend of a friend to this network of parents, why would she suddenly become fast friends with them just because her kid goes to school there? It is delusional. It is actually pretty wormy and creepy to think or hope that your kid's new school gives you a new group of higher status friends. And if OP's obsessed enough to make a thread crying about it, it certainly projects in real life, which makes her seem transparently pushy and sketchy to the very people she seeks to orbit. You only get one first impression, you know. Rich and powerful are pretty guarded. In Washington, you could be Project Veritas or some foreign spook for all they know. Or just a low born waste of their time. Sorry, only so many hours in a day.

You're a moron. What school is your family at? Tell us! Is it a big 3? 4? 5? Keep your orbit safe!

She is borderline psychotic. It is actually troubling to be honest. I can’t tell if she is really a parent or just a psychopath trolling dcum.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

Translation: I'm a horrible human being who will judge you based on your job, clothes, country club, friends, school. I am one of those moms who will give you my elevator pitch on where I went to college twenty years ago, every job I have had since then, and I'll be sure to let you know how rich I am. I am shallow and don't have much depth as a human being so when I see you don't have value you to me I'll ignore you and pretend you don't exist. But I sure am hell nice to people who I deem rich and worthy and you'll see me pandering and lollygagging around them. So if your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alumni network aren't up to mine don't bother talking to me.

Are you new here, sweetie? Welcome to Washington. Don’t act like some babe in the woods when you moved to the most ruthlessly competitive, superficial and status and power obsessed place in the Western Hemisphere. Then chose to send your kid to an even more stratified private school. As for OP, if nobody liked him/her before the kid was in private, why would they magically like them now? Nobody likes a thirsty low born interloper; especially a creepy 30, 40 or 50 something one (we’re a long ways from being teenagers first week of college). If you’re that hard up for a friend, go get a spaniel.

DP. Holy shit are you okay? You sound off the hinges psychotic and mean. Op never said no one disliked them before private. They are saying they want to feel welcome at their kids new private. I suspect you may be part of the group she is referring to and now you feel you need to defend yourself and attack op? Please be a better person.

Context is key. Dislike in this context doesn't mean disliked in general, in life, we are specifically referring to the pedigreed private school parents the striver OP seeks to orbit. The point is if OP is an outsider, not a peer or a mutual i.e. friend of a friend to this network of parents, why would she suddenly become fast friends with them just because her kid goes to school there? It is delusional. It is actually pretty wormy and creepy to think or hope that your kid's new school gives you a new group of higher status friends. And if OP's obsessed enough to make a thread crying about it, it certainly projects in real life, which makes her seem transparently pushy and sketchy to the very people she seeks to orbit. You only get one first impression, you know. Rich and powerful are pretty guarded. In Washington, you could be Project Veritas or some foreign spook for all they know. Or just a low born waste of their time. Sorry, only so many hours in a day.

I prefer to be a "low born waste of time." My relationships are real and I never worry that someone likes me because of some arbitrary external characteristic.

I assume you are intentionally misreading OP's original post in order to make yourself feel better. Is that because you know others only care about you because of your status? Or just because reading comprehension is not your thing?

Please get therapy.

The rest of us are busy building quality communities for our children through respecting each other and our differences.

We all know why OP craves to make fast friends with private school privates. For superficial, social climbing reasons. Private parents are seen as wealthier, more powerful, members of clubs, and more connected. So who's really the shallow one? It's not the parents at the school living their life, it's OP for even having this scheme in the first place. Most parents are too busy with life, too busy with their career, obsessing over making new friends at their kid's new school is not on their radar. When it is on your radar, as OP admits, it's weird and creepy. No surprise if parents at the new school see right through that. And if you've gone 40 something years without this caliber of friend group, what makes you entitled to it now? It's frankly delusional.

Caliber of friend group?

Wow.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

Translation: I'm a horrible human being who will judge you based on your job, clothes, country club, friends, school. I am one of those moms who will give you my elevator pitch on where I went to college twenty years ago, every job I have had since then, and I'll be sure to let you know how rich I am. I am shallow and don't have much depth as a human being so when I see you don't have value you to me I'll ignore you and pretend you don't exist. But I sure am hell nice to people who I deem rich and worthy and you'll see me pandering and lollygagging around them. So if your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alumni network aren't up to mine don't bother talking to me.

Are you new here, sweetie? Welcome to Washington. Don’t act like some babe in the woods when you moved to the most ruthlessly competitive, superficial and status and power obsessed place in the Western Hemisphere. Then chose to send your kid to an even more stratified private school. As for OP, if nobody liked him/her before the kid was in private, why would they magically like them now? Nobody likes a thirsty low born interloper; especially a creepy 30, 40 or 50 something one (we’re a long ways from being teenagers first week of college). If you’re that hard up for a friend, go get a spaniel.

DP. Holy shit are you okay? You sound off the hinges psychotic and mean. Op never said no one disliked them before private. They are saying they want to feel welcome at their kids new private. I suspect you may be part of the group she is referring to and now you feel you need to defend yourself and attack op? Please be a better person.

Context is key. Dislike in this context doesn't mean disliked in general, in life, we are specifically referring to the pedigreed private school parents the striver OP seeks to orbit. The point is if OP is an outsider, not a peer or a mutual i.e. friend of a friend to this network of parents, why would she suddenly become fast friends with them just because her kid goes to school there? It is delusional. It is actually pretty wormy and creepy to think or hope that your kid's new school gives you a new group of higher status friends. And if OP's obsessed enough to make a thread crying about it, it certainly projects in real life, which makes her seem transparently pushy and sketchy to the very people she seeks to orbit. You only get one first impression, you know. Rich and powerful are pretty guarded. In Washington, you could be Project Veritas or some foreign spook for all they know. Or just a low born waste of their time. Sorry, only so many hours in a day.

I prefer to be a "low born waste of time." My relationships are real and I never worry that someone likes me because of some arbitrary external characteristic.

I assume you are intentionally misreading OP's original post in order to make yourself feel better. Is that because you know others only care about you because of your status? Or just because reading comprehension is not your thing?

Please get therapy.

The rest of us are busy building quality communities for our children through respecting each other and our differences.

We all know why OP craves to make fast friends with private school privates. For superficial, social climbing reasons. Private parents are seen as wealthier, more powerful, members of clubs, and more connected. So who's really the shallow one? It's not the parents at the school living their life, it's OP for even having this scheme in the first place. Most parents are too busy with life, too busy with their career, obsessing over making new friends at their kid's new school is not on their radar. When it is on your radar, as OP admits, it's weird and creepy. No surprise if parents at the new school see right through that. And if you've gone 40 something years without this caliber of friend group, what makes you entitled to it now? It's frankly delusional.

Please get help. I beg of you for your kids sake. Op never said she was looking for friends. For gods sakes. She just said she would like to meet some friendly fellow parents and feel welcomed into her kids new school. Please get help and I am so concerned for your kids.

You mean that previous post wasn’t satire? Pls tell me it was satire.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Translation: I’m a striver and the rich cool parents haven’t invited me into their orbit. Sorry your social climbing scheme hasn’t worked. If you didn’t have a lot of rich outgoing friends before your kid went to private school — via your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alum network, travel sport circuit, church or synagogue — why would you have them now? You have nothing in common, you don’t speak their language, you don’t know so and so and so and so. And frankly, you’re delusional on what private school provides you as a parent. It doesn’t guarantee any parent some brand new social orbit. And anyone who goes in expecting or fishing for that is pegged a social climbing worm from the get-go.

Translation: I'm a horrible human being who will judge you based on your job, clothes, country club, friends, school. I am one of those moms who will give you my elevator pitch on where I went to college twenty years ago, every job I have had since then, and I'll be sure to let you know how rich I am. I am shallow and don't have much depth as a human being so when I see you don't have value you to me I'll ignore you and pretend you don't exist. But I sure am hell nice to people who I deem rich and worthy and you'll see me pandering and lollygagging around them. So if your neighborhood, career, country club, college and private school alumni network aren't up to mine don't bother talking to me.

Are you new here, sweetie? Welcome to Washington. Don’t act like some babe in the woods when you moved to the most ruthlessly competitive, superficial and status and power obsessed place in the Western Hemisphere. Then chose to send your kid to an even more stratified private school. As for OP, if nobody liked him/her before the kid was in private, why would they magically like them now? Nobody likes a thirsty low born interloper; especially a creepy 30, 40 or 50 something one (we’re a long ways from being teenagers first week of college). If you’re that hard up for a friend, go get a spaniel.

DP. Holy shit are you okay? You sound off the hinges psychotic and mean. Op never said no one disliked them before private. They are saying they want to feel welcome at their kids new private. I suspect you may be part of the group she is referring to and now you feel you need to defend yourself and attack op? Please be a better person.

Context is key. Dislike in this context doesn't mean disliked in general, in life, we are specifically referring to the pedigreed private school parents the striver OP seeks to orbit. The point is if OP is an outsider, not a peer or a mutual i.e. friend of a friend to this network of parents, why would she suddenly become fast friends with them just because her kid goes to school there? It is delusional. It is actually pretty wormy and creepy to think or hope that your kid's new school gives you a new group of higher status friends. And if OP's obsessed enough to make a thread crying about it, it certainly projects in real life, which makes her seem transparently pushy and sketchy to the very people she seeks to orbit. You only get one first impression, you know. Rich and powerful are pretty guarded. In Washington, you could be Project Veritas or some foreign spook for all they know. Or just a low born waste of their time. Sorry, only so many hours in a day.

You're a moron. What school is your family at? Tell us! Is it a big 3? 4? 5? Keep your orbit safe!

She is borderline psychotic. It is actually troubling to be honest. I can’t tell if she is really a parent or just a psychopath trolling dcum.

I'm not spending 40k to be around families like hers. She seems to be part of a group and that is batsh*t crazy.

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Cool outgoing rich parents come to you. They size you up pretty quickly and invite you into their circle if they deem you a peer. They can glance at your LinkedIn and Facebook for 30 seconds to see the friends you have in common, where you went to college, where you work, and where you live. Zillow stalking takes another 30 seconds. I'm afraid they don't see you as being on their level. But it sounds like your kids are having better luck and that's what it's all about, right?

We are nobodies (feds in a small house with no social cred) and our kids are at the Cathedral schools. IME some of the most connected, wealthiest parents are actually the nicest and most inclusive. It's the strivers (who are far more like us on paper then they'd ever admit) that can be mean.
It's a tale as old as time. If you've really "made it" then you're free to be nice to the small people--many of whom are actually very interesting people. If you're continually clawing and insecure you're often preoccupied by who else may move into your spot.

We’re there too and are private firm nobodies and we… don’t care? At all? Is this really odd? I’m confused. It’s my kids school not a social club like wtf

No, you are normal. OP is the weirdo who thinks a private school buys parents a new friend group.

DP. You sound familiar. Do you realize your kids know how cruel you are and they tell their friends that they hate you? They actually talk about you this way because you are so cruel.

There is nothing wrong with OP wanting to feel comfortable at her kids' school. She is new and it is NORMAL for her to want to have parents that say hello and make small talk. She never once said she is trying to get into a certain social crowd. What I find interesting is that a guilty conscience needs no accuser rings true here because you seem to know that maybe you and your vapid group could possibly be who she is talking about?