Anyone facing jealous friends now that your kids are in private school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on the school district. In Bethesda/Chevy Chase most of the kids going to private are special needs or come from snooty families. On the DC side of the border, it's people that want a good education for their kids without the fear of violence. No judgment. Families try to do what's best for their children. Certainly not jealous of families that choose private school

If you are wealthy why wouldn't you send your kids to private schools?

Is the money better spent on fancy German and Italian sports cars? If you have excess cash flow after savings, why not? I want to give my kids the best of everything. I still save and have a high net worth by even country club standards.

Because they're not better

Do you really think that some kid coming out of Landon is better prepared for college and life generally than next door Whitman? Or Walter Johnson? Or Churchill?

Do you think the families that send their kids to those schools don't value education? Or could afford private?

It's the difficult kids that are sent to private

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on the school district. In Bethesda/Chevy Chase most of the kids going to private are special needs or come from snooty families. On the DC side of the border, it's people that want a good education for their kids without the fear of violence. No judgment. Families try to do what's best for their children. Certainly not jealous of families that choose private school

If you are wealthy why wouldn't you send your kids to private schools?

Is the money better spent on fancy German and Italian sports cars? If you have excess cash flow after savings, why not? I want to give my kids the best of everything. I still save and have a high net worth by even country club standards.

Because they're not better

Do you really think that some kid coming out of Landon is better prepared for college and life generally than next door Whitman? Or Walter Johnson? Or Churchill?

Do you think the families that send their kids to those schools don't value education? Or could afford private?

It's the difficult kids that are sent to private

Well, maybe they teach punctuation? And yes, I do. I think they also have a better educational experience. And yes, I do think many parents at the public schools would like to do private. Not all, of course. But what point are you trying to make here? Nobody is convincing anyone. Your want to be assured that you are making the best decision. You don’t respect people that have a different world view or experience. You resort to pejorative insults about their kids. Maybe a more well rounded education could have helped you with some perspective taking and logical reasoning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on the school district. In Bethesda/Chevy Chase most of the kids going to private are special needs or come from snooty families. On the DC side of the border, it's people that want a good education for their kids without the fear of violence. No judgment. Families try to do what's best for their children. Certainly not jealous of families that choose private school

If you are wealthy why wouldn't you send your kids to private schools?

Is the money better spent on fancy German and Italian sports cars? If you have excess cash flow after savings, why not? I want to give my kids the best of everything. I still save and have a high net worth by even country club standards.

Because they're not better

Do you really think that some kid coming out of Landon is better prepared for college and life generally than next door Whitman? Or Walter Johnson? Or Churchill?




Keep telling yourself that.

Do you think the families that send their kids to those schools don't value education? Or could afford private?

It's the difficult kids that are sent to private

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We went through this a couple of times with both kids. There is jealousy and anger involved, especially if you tell them it is because of substandard MCPS.

We told people we wanted religious element in education and the satisfied them. But know that they are still steaming about it. One time I posted something on Facebook about common core and how I am glad my kids don't deal with it, and this rabid mom attacked me. She is one who asked my why I pulled my daughter out of MCPS before anyone. She also seemed happy to hear that it was religious reasons. But now she knows there are other benefits we enjoy and she is angry.

The person you describe is rude. But your ignorance and bigotry about something as mundane as an outline of fundamentals of curriculum, whose primary criticism is from the right wing culture warrior demagogues, shows that your judgment about quality education is meritless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ever since my kids were recently admitted to private schools, many friends in my W cluster have been making snippy comments about me sending my kids to private school. Has anyone else faced a similar situation?

It gets worse - wait until they go to college, get a decent job, etc. You will separate your "friends" relatively quickly!

Do what works for your family, OP. You have no obligation to miserable or personality disordered people, for that matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ever since my kids were recently admitted to private schools, many friends in my W cluster have been making snippy comments about me sending my kids to private school. Has anyone else faced a similar situation?

It gets worse - wait until they go to college, get a decent job, etc. You will separate your "friends" relatively quickly!

Do what works for your family, OP. You have no obligation to miserable or personality disordered people, for that matter.

they= your DC

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on the school district. In Bethesda/Chevy Chase most of the kids going to private are special needs or come from snooty families. On the DC side of the border, it's people that want a good education for their kids without the fear of violence. No judgment. Families try to do what's best for their children. Certainly not jealous of families that choose private school

If you are wealthy why wouldn't you send your kids to private schools?

Is the money better spent on fancy German and Italian sports cars? If you have excess cash flow after savings, why not? I want to give my kids the best of everything. I still save and have a high net worth by even country club standards.

Because they're not better

Do you really think that some kid coming out of Landon is better prepared for college and life generally than next door Whitman? Or Walter Johnson? Or Churchill?

Do you think the families that send their kids to those schools don't value education? Or could afford private?

It's the difficult kids that are sent to private

Insecure are we. You obviously have a chip on your shoulder because you don't send your child to private school.

[Anonymous]

I wish I had the money to send my kids to private school. I am most definitely jealous of parents who can afford to do it. Maybe don’t talk about it. That’s your solution.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We went through this a couple of times with both kids. There is jealousy and anger involved, especially if you tell them it is because of substandard MCPS.

We told people we wanted religious element in education and the satisfied them. But know that they are still steaming about it. One time I posted something on Facebook about common core and how I am glad my kids don't deal with it, and this rabid mom attacked me. She is one who asked my why I pulled my daughter out of MCPS before anyone. She also seemed happy to hear that it was religious reasons. But now she knows there are other benefits we enjoy and she is angry.

So you post something inflammatory on Facebook, and are annoyed that someone reacted to it? You can’t even see your part in this, can you?

Of course I do. But it was effective at knowing true feelings. I am always looking for opportunities to purge toxic people in my life.

So clearly you did it on purpose, and are now claiming that the responder is the toxic one. You sure are something else.

No not at all. It was a response to someone else's post on the subject, so just stating my opinion. But I really don't care because I knew all along there was fierce jealousy on her part. Her daughter exudes the jealousy to my daughter as well at the pool. She is always competing with her on things like what team she is on, etc. It is so funny to hear about.

That’s the thing - you do. You really really do. But since you are seriously lacking in self awareness, you’ll deny it ‘til the cows come home.

Nothing to deny. I clearly pointed out I knew exactly what is going on! Did I provoke her? No. She responded, and I knew right away I was right!

Well you better hope this ages well. Her child may very well end up a higher achiever and do much better than yours in the end. Ultimately it is not the school but the student. We go out of our way to avoid mentioning private and for those parents who choose public, make sure to praise the achievements of their kids. We also get shade from day private parents for choosing a great BS. We're not some kind of good people for this btw. But just why would you choose to send out that toxicity?

[Anonymous]

PP here also don't forget these are the people with whom yours will be networking later.

[Anonymous]

Ummm...no. Why in the world would they be jealous? This is absurd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on the school district. In Bethesda/Chevy Chase most of the kids going to private are special needs or come from snooty families. On the DC side of the border, it's people that want a good education for their kids without the fear of violence. No judgment. Families try to do what's best for their children. Certainly not jealous of families that choose private school

If you are wealthy why wouldn't you send your kids to private schools?

Is the money better spent on fancy German and Italian sports cars? If you have excess cash flow after savings, why not? I want to give my kids the best of everything. I still save and have a high net worth by even country club standards.

Because they're not better

Do you really think that some kid coming out of Landon is better prepared for college and life generally than next door Whitman? Or Walter Johnson? Or Churchill?

Do you think the families that send their kids to those schools don't value education? Or could afford private?

It's the difficult kids that are sent to private

Hmmm, my child was never pegged as difficult or diagnosed with anything. We made a decision to send her to private school for smaller class sizes and we could afford it on our two income household. She did very well and is thriving in college. Is she better prepared for college, I think so when compared to her small circle of friends. They spend weeks working on one paper and stress so much more than she does. Her executive management skills are on point and she can turn out a paper in one evening while at the library. Focus, that is what she best got from working in small classrooms. So, yes, I'd say private school kids to have a leg up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish I had the money to send my kids to private school. I am most definitely jealous of parents who can afford to do it. Maybe don’t talk about it. That’s your solution.

We send 1 kid to private and sacrifice a lot to do so. We spend about a quarter of our salary on this. Though we avoid mentioning this to people, I really find OP's attitude strange. You really should not feel bad or less than. Everyone chooses this for their own reasons. Sometimes it is the program or the child's strengths. Public excels at Stem and math. Many are great with this and want a career in these fields. Our kid wants to expand in a few additional areas which were harder to find at the age we began private. Ultimately it is absolutely about the student and not the school. If your child find ways to stand out, there is nothing he/she cannot achieve without the benefit of private. What's more, applicants to college from private are assessed against other private students, with all the benefits that entails. In the public larger pool, it can be easier to stand out- statistically at least. So before you feel too bad, consider that there are sometimes downsides to private as well, and with your encouragement, your child can and will succeed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ummm...no. Why in the world would they be jealous? This is absurd.

Ha! I had one parent on my daughters hockey team ask me not to talk about her day at her private school because she was having too much fun in science. That science teacher was amazing! So yes there is jealousy and yes my child was not invited to many social events because the parents were anti private school. At least one parent was honest with me, he is a well to do plastic surgeon in the Chevy Chase area and told me private school tuition would put too much of a dent into his lifestyle. He quizzed me often, I think wanted it for his children, but ultimately chose not to push that button. His kids are doing fine and are wonderful people and the family is still good friends with ours. But yes, there is obvious jealousy towards some by some, human nature I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on the school district. In Bethesda/Chevy Chase most of the kids going to private are special needs or come from snooty families. On the DC side of the border, it's people that want a good education for their kids without the fear of violence. No judgment. Families try to do what's best for their children. Certainly not jealous of families that choose private school

If you are wealthy why wouldn't you send your kids to private schools?

Is the money better spent on fancy German and Italian sports cars? If you have excess cash flow after savings, why not? I want to give my kids the best of everything. I still save and have a high net worth by even country club standards.

Because they're not better

Do you really think that some kid coming out of Landon is better prepared for college and life generally than next door Whitman? Or Walter Johnson? Or Churchill?

Do you think the families that send their kids to those schools don't value education? Or could afford private?

It's the difficult kids that are sent to private

Yes, lol, the review of transcripts, multiple recommendation letters, application essays from students, application essays from parents, interviews, additional submissions, etc., all this is to not choose the top performers but to find the difficult students.