Update to previously deleted thread- my sister won’t let anyone hold her baby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how do you know the nanny asked to take the baby out and she said no? Just wondering where you’re getting your info and if it’s possible that it might be incorrect.

She told me herself. I asked how the nanny was going etc.

She knows you are not behaving in a safe way so why are you surprised she doesn't want to see you. Her child, her rules. If you want to see her and the child, change your behavior.

NP OMG STFU. Nothing OP said points to unsafe behavior. Not sure there is such a thing as unsafe behavior anymore actually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how do you know the nanny asked to take the baby out and she said no? Just wondering where you’re getting your info and if it’s possible that it might be incorrect.

She told me herself. I asked how the nanny was going etc.

Oy, that nanny is not going to last long.

6 month olds don't need classes. The adults go for their own needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how do you know the nanny asked to take the baby out and she said no? Just wondering where you’re getting your info and if it’s possible that it might be incorrect.

She told me herself. I asked how the nanny was going etc.

Oy, that nanny is not going to last long.

6 month olds don't need classes. The adults go for their own needs.

Agree about the classes, but no outdoor walks? Ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how do you know the nanny asked to take the baby out and she said no? Just wondering where you’re getting your info and if it’s possible that it might be incorrect.

She told me herself. I asked how the nanny was going etc.

Oy, that nanny is not going to last long.

6 month olds don't need classes. The adults go for their own needs.

Agree about the classes, but no outdoor walks? Ridiculous.

This is either fake or OP needs to grow up and understand why her sister is concerned. OP is not taking any precautions and it could be very serious for their family.

[Anonymous]

At this point it’s really the dad’s fault for not stepping in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how do you know the nanny asked to take the baby out and she said no? Just wondering where you’re getting your info and if it’s possible that it might be incorrect.

She told me herself. I asked how the nanny was going etc.

She knows you are not behaving in a safe way so why are you surprised she doesn't want to see you. Her child, her rules. If you want to see her and the child, change your behavior.

NP OMG STFU. Nothing OP said points to unsafe behavior. Not sure there is such a thing as unsafe behavior anymore actually.

Op is an inappropriate nut and is probably a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how do you know the nanny asked to take the baby out and she said no? Just wondering where you’re getting your info and if it’s possible that it might be incorrect.

She told me herself. I asked how the nanny was going etc.

She knows you are not behaving in a safe way so why are you surprised she doesn't want to see you. Her child, her rules. If you want to see her and the child, change your behavior.

NP OMG STFU. Nothing OP said points to unsafe behavior. Not sure there is such a thing as unsafe behavior anymore actually.

It's surging again. There is definitely unsafe behavior for anyone whose idea of "safe" = not getting covid. If you are fine with getting covid, you don't care, but many people still do for legit reasons.

So why don't you STFU? You are ignorant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I guess I should be a screenwriter if you all think I’m just making things up. I wish I were. Do I need to
Post screenshots of the texts between my sister and me and among our family?

She hired a new nanny this week. Nanny asked to take baby on a stroll around neighborhood or to the park. She said no- again citing COVID. Nanny was asked to double mask around the baby.

My sister is talking about plans for baby number 2. Her dh is not on board until she addressed her anxiety and mental health. My sister is livid and claims yo not understand why he’s “being like this.”

No, you shouldn’t be a screenwriter, because screenwriters have to write CREDIBLE fiction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how do you know the nanny asked to take the baby out and she said no? Just wondering where you’re getting your info and if it’s possible that it might be incorrect.

She told me herself. I asked how the nanny was going etc.

She knows you are not behaving in a safe way so why are you surprised she doesn't want to see you. Her child, her rules. If you want to see her and the child, change your behavior.

NP OMG STFU. Nothing OP said points to unsafe behavior. Not sure there is such a thing as unsafe behavior anymore actually.

She was clear she is going to large group gatherings for one. I think sister is right.

[Anonymous]

Your sister likely has PPD and sever covid anxiety syndrome. It sounds like she is prone to health anxiety .
If she was my sister, and you were me, I would have an honest convo with her, devil take it all, but my sister knows that I am that kind of an honest person and that I am worried for her. She might be mad at me for a few days, but would realize that I mean well and would listen to me.
Anxiety manifests as the need to be in control of every thing and when it becomes constrictive or harmful to others in her circle such as her DH and her kid it should be acted upon.
If not acting is in fact, harming your own sister, as she becomes more and more unreasonable in her actions, as there is no science behind her craziness now, covid is not a danger to her child in any substantial way, particularly not outdoors, it is time to take action.
If her kid is less than two months old, ease up on her, and hope that she will sort herself out and that this is just early post birth craziness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your sister likely has PPD and sever covid anxiety syndrome. It sounds like she is prone to health anxiety .
If she was my sister, and you were me, I would have an honest convo with her, devil take it all, but my sister knows that I am that kind of an honest person and that I am worried for her. She might be mad at me for a few days, but would realize that I mean well and would listen to me.
Anxiety manifests as the need to be in control of every thing and when it becomes constrictive or harmful to others in her circle such as her DH and her kid it should be acted upon.
If not acting is in fact, harming your own sister, as she becomes more and more unreasonable in her actions, as there is no science behind her craziness now, covid is not a danger to her child in any substantial way, particularly not outdoors, it is time to take action.
If her kid is less than two months old, ease up on her, and hope that she will sort herself out and that this is just early post birth craziness.

Stop with diagnosing strangers. Sister is right. Op probably was always a bully and sister had enough.

[Anonymous]

I just cannot believe that OP is still harping in this. Yes the sister sounds overprotective at best and suffering from severe anxiety at worst.

But why OP is getting so worked up about not being able to hold this baby is beyond me. And OP is backtracking a little and now expressing worry about the sister “missing out” on time with the family (missing out in quotes because I sure wouldn’t think I was missing out if I avoided OP’s company), but OP’s whole issue started with a hissy fit about not being allowed to hold a one-month old infant during a pandemic. That’s far more bizarre than not allowing somebody to hold an infant at this stage of the pandemic.

If OP’s sister were here I’d tell her “get some help for your anxiety.” But since it’s only OP, I’ll just say to OP that you need to learn to respect boundaries, mind your own business, and stop making yourself the center of the universe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Thanks for the update. It was harder to tell before whether or not your sister was being reasonable or not. Now it's clear she's severely disordered and is hurting her baby's development.

I don't know what to suggest, except that her husband, the baby's father, has to be the one to lead on this. Surely he must be concerned, too. I hope he can connect with the baby's pediatrician and hatch a plan.

OP has been told this since the early days of the thread but the point seems lost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how do you know the nanny asked to take the baby out and she said no? Just wondering where you’re getting your info and if it’s possible that it might be incorrect.

She told me herself. I asked how the nanny was going etc.

Oy, that nanny is not going to last long.

I’m surprised she didn’t quit the first week. Nannies are in demand right now, no use being with such a restrictive family.

[Anonymous]

This is her husband's place to manage. It's his family, his wife and his child. If he thinks his wife is unwell it is his responsibility to get her help. You may choose to express an opinion on the matter to her or to him - but do so at your own relationship risk.