Is this appropriate for the community pool?

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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would think it's inappropriate for a family pool. Like a PP said, just kids, dads and moms there. And in none of those cases is it appropriate for you to walk around in front of them with your butt hanging out of your suit.[/quote]

+1 A family pool? Nope. It would cause a problem at our country club pool. I don't think the board would do anything but I do think there would be some social ostracization occurring because OP was wearing it at a family pool.[/quote]

Family pool? Only if you don't care that some will be talking about you. Resort? Sure. Vacation, yes. Right or wrong, most moms want to look like moms at community pools, not like the "hot mom" that everyone talks about. And if you want to be the hot mom then you better be hot.[/quote]

God, the internalized misogyny is so depressing.[/quote]


[b]NP. I don’t have a problem with it but[/b][b] the feminist in me is wondering why women’s bathing suits expose so much, compared to men’s? It just seems expected that we show most of our butts and boobs (and have perfectly flat abs if we’re going to expose them) but men are swimming in shorts literally down to their knees (many with guts). With the exception of rash guards, women’s suits are getting smaller and men’s suits are getting longer. It’s strange, isn’t it?[/b][/quote]

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There have never been such a variety of styles for women's swimsuit in history as now. Please, choose whatever you like. Actually, high waisted bikini bottoms are all the rage now, what do you mean 'women's bathing suits expose so much'?

Or would *you* like to be swimming in shorts down to your knees?

The feminist in me is all for women wearing whatever they want. Whether their swimsuit exposes too much or too little. But I am in Europe.

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Anonymous wrote:What is the deal with all your pools?? I am fit, wear bikinis, not thongs, not string bikinis, but normal ones, and nobody has ever made me feel like I’m walking about being judged and gossiped about at my pool. No idea if “the other dads” stare, doubt they do, but am I trying to seduce them or attract them? Uh, no. Most of your husbands are pale and flabby with Marvel trunks and ugly flip flops on. I am not interested. I hate this forum so much lately. It’s just constantly shaming other women for choices they make- Botox, bathing suits, jeans, makeup. Depressing to see how little all of you think of other women. And most of it is in your head.

Agree. How are adult women still hung up on bathing suits being operationally equivalent to underwear. True enough, but we do this so that we can swim, and we treat everyone else who's forced to do this with the benign neglect we expect to receive. All the more so at the community pool where it's only about the kids. To flip this social contract and shame everyone into wearing a wall of fabric is retrograde. I didn't like you gals when you wore pants under your skirts to use the playground equipment, and I can't believe after all these years you haven't progressed beyond your I see London phase. (If all you see is a covering, I've done my job.)

This forum has been awful lately. There an entire chorus that needs each topic answered as if they've dropped in from outerspace...

Wait -- are you saying you didn't like other children because they wore tumbling shorts under their skirts? Really? I don't ever remember wearing a skirt to the playground as a kid -- girls just didn't really do that in the 70s, skirts were for church and grandma's sunday dinner...but I cannot imagine liking or disliking another child based on whether they wore shorts under their skirts. And you're complaining about women being judgmental?

I think the point is, how many layers of fabric do you need between your vagina and the outside world to be considered appropriate? When you wear a skirt, the underwear covers your vagina. Now you’re telling me you need to cover the underwear, so no one can see that as well? Really, why? Because it’s touching your genitals?

I don’t care how many layers of fabric you have between your vagina and the outside world (although at least one is appreciated), but I strongly object to the idea that girls or women are going to judge other girls and women who choose to have more than one layer or choose to wear something a little less revealing. Boys are allowed to wear shorts on the playground equipment—why can’t girls? And if they want to put a skirt on over it so they have a little flounce, what is that something you have a problem with?
I wear swim shorts usually to the pool so I don’t have to shave my crotch or upper thighs so often. Men never shave their crotch—I’m not sure why we do. I’m happy with my choice but it sounds like you wouldn’t like me because of it. That seems like a weird decision, especially for someone who is complaining about women judging other women.

I'm the PP who mentioned "I see London" and you are really reaching if you think I judge women who cover up, that is not what I said. What I found annoying in preschool, was there was a certain sort who went out of their way to point out any sliver of underwear, you know the rhyme. And this thread is the grown up equivalent. OP owns the swimsuit, she must like it, why can't she wear it around children? How is that an affront to women who like wearing shorts and rash guards? It isn't. You're imagining this judgement. Personally I love the cheeky suits, they're flattering and it don't require shaving, the way hi-cuts or other front configurations may. I look terrible in lycra shorts, plus they can be chilly if it takes longer to dry off. But you do you.

lol you specifically said you did not like other girls who wore shorts under their skirts. When I was that age I liked to wear skirts and I also wanted to play. So my mom put me in a skirt with shorts underneath so I could enjoy myself without showing my underwear to everyone. Sorry your mom didn’t take care of you in the same way as a young girl. That must have been embarrassing and difficult. FYI, in case your mom didn’t teach you about slips, you may want to get up to speed. I bet you’re walking around in see through dresses and don’t even know it.

Wow the truth comes out, hope you didn’t land on your head too many times attempting cherry bombs in skirt, pants and a slip. Surely your mother didn’t let anyone glimpse the outline of your slacks through a skirt in full sun. Do you make your kids wear three swimsuits? I’m now convinced you were insufferable on the playground.

There’s at least two different women responding to you that were taken aback by you that as a child you didn’t like little girls who wore shorts under their skirts. I’m a little stunned you haven’t backed off that statement. I’m still hoping you just mis-spoke and that there are not little girls who make playground friends based on that.

Yep, multiple people responding to this ridiculous statement.

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Anonymous wrote:If you are fat/not in shape it would be disgusting. If your butt is firm/not covered in cellulite like most moms you can wear it. Most women cannot pull that cut off over the age of 25 or so....maybe 30.
If you do not have abs that is a non starter to wear that swimsuit- you need both sides working for you.

Nah. You don’t. If you’re fat and want to wear a bathing suit, wear it. Skinny, no curves? Wear it. Everyone is too busy worrying about their own body issues as we can see here. They’re actually not paying much attention to you at all so wear what you feel good in.

Most people would not agree with you. You can’t wear a two piece if you are over 25 and don’t have abs? Please. I agree with the other poster that mentioned misogyny on this thread. It is rampant in these responses.

The internalized misogyny on this forum is so sad. I teach teenagers who have great body positivity and don’t slam one another for how they look. Yet I come here and see grown women doing it over jeans, swimsuits, Botox, shoes. When do you grow up and start focusing on being happy with yourself instead of tearing down other women based on what they wear?

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Anonymous wrote:If you are fat/not in shape it would be disgusting. If your butt is firm/not covered in cellulite like most moms you can wear it. Most women cannot pull that cut off over the age of 25 or so....maybe 30.
If you do not have abs that is a non starter to wear that swimsuit- you need both sides working for you.

Nah. You don’t. If you’re fat and want to wear a bathing suit, wear it. Skinny, no curves? Wear it. Everyone is too busy worrying about their own body issues as we can see here. They’re actually not paying much attention to you at all so wear what you feel good in.

Most people would not agree with you. You can’t wear a two piece if you are over 25 and don’t have abs? Please. I agree with the other poster that mentioned misogyny on this thread. It is rampant in these responses.

You do realize that the t-shirts and term “no fat chicks” was not some giant conspiracy created by some secret fraternity?
Live in your bubble where most men really enjoy fat women in bikinis.

Newsflash. I don’t wear the bikini FOR MEN. I am not interested in any single man at that pool. I wear a bikini because it’s what I want to wear when it’s 96 degrees and humid. Get over yourself that you think my comfort and clothing choices are dictated by m e n. Lolllllll

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Anonymous wrote:What is the deal with all your pools?? I am fit, wear bikinis, not thongs, not string bikinis, but normal ones, and nobody has ever made me feel like I’m walking about being judged and gossiped about at my pool. No idea if “the other dads” stare, doubt they do, but am I trying to seduce them or attract them? Uh, no. Most of your husbands are pale and flabby with Marvel trunks and ugly flip flops on. I am not interested. I hate this forum so much lately. It’s just constantly shaming other women for choices they make- Botox, bathing suits, jeans, makeup. Depressing to see how little all of you think of other women. And most of it is in your head.

Agree. How are adult women still hung up on bathing suits being operationally equivalent to underwear. True enough, but we do this so that we can swim, and we treat everyone else who's forced to do this with the benign neglect we expect to receive. All the more so at the community pool where it's only about the kids. To flip this social contract and shame everyone into wearing a wall of fabric is retrograde. I didn't like you gals when you wore pants under your skirts to use the playground equipment, and I can't believe after all these years you haven't progressed beyond your I see London phase. (If all you see is a covering, I've done my job.)

This forum has been awful lately. There an entire chorus that needs each topic answered as if they've dropped in from outerspace...

Wait -- are you saying you didn't like other children because they wore tumbling shorts under their skirts? Really? I don't ever remember wearing a skirt to the playground as a kid -- girls just didn't really do that in the 70s, skirts were for church and grandma's sunday dinner...but I cannot imagine liking or disliking another child based on whether they wore shorts under their skirts. And you're complaining about women being judgmental?

I think the point is, how many layers of fabric do you need between your vagina and the outside world to be considered appropriate? When you wear a skirt, the underwear covers your vagina. Now you’re telling me you need to cover the underwear, so no one can see that as well? Really, why? Because it’s touching your genitals?

I don’t care how many layers of fabric you have between your vagina and the outside world (although at least one is appreciated), but I strongly object to the idea that girls or women are going to judge other girls and women who choose to have more than one layer or choose to wear something a little less revealing. Boys are allowed to wear shorts on the playground equipment—why can’t girls? And if they want to put a skirt on over it so they have a little flounce, what is that something you have a problem with?
I wear swim shorts usually to the pool so I don’t have to shave my crotch or upper thighs so often. Men never shave their crotch—I’m not sure why we do. I’m happy with my choice but it sounds like you wouldn’t like me because of it. That seems like a weird decision, especially for someone who is complaining about women judging other women.

I'm the PP who mentioned "I see London" and you are really reaching if you think I judge women who cover up, that is not what I said. What I found annoying in preschool, was there was a certain sort who went out of their way to point out any sliver of underwear, you know the rhyme. And this thread is the grown up equivalent. OP owns the swimsuit, she must like it, why can't she wear it around children? How is that an affront to women who like wearing shorts and rash guards? It isn't. You're imagining this judgement. Personally I love the cheeky suits, they're flattering and it don't require shaving, the way hi-cuts or other front configurations may. I look terrible in lycra shorts, plus they can be chilly if it takes longer to dry off. But you do you.

lol you specifically said you did not like other girls who wore shorts under their skirts. When I was that age I liked to wear skirts and I also wanted to play. So my mom put me in a skirt with shorts underneath so I could enjoy myself without showing my underwear to everyone. Sorry your mom didn’t take care of you in the same way as a young girl. That must have been embarrassing and difficult. FYI, in case your mom didn’t teach you about slips, you may want to get up to speed. I bet you’re walking around in see through dresses and don’t even know it.

Wow the truth comes out, hope you didn’t land on your head too many times attempting cherry bombs in skirt, pants and a slip. Surely your mother didn’t let anyone glimpse the outline of your slacks through a skirt in full sun. Do you make your kids wear three swimsuits? I’m now convinced you were insufferable on the playground.

There’s at least two different women responding to you that were taken aback by you that as a child you didn’t like little girls who wore shorts under their skirts. I’m a little stunned you haven’t backed off that statement. I’m still hoping you just mis-spoke and that there are not little girls who make playground friends based on that.

Yep, multiple people responding to this ridiculous statement.

Given the number of pages on this thread I have no trouble believing there at least three humorless prudes, but thanks for the count.

I can spell it out. I was not bullied for showing my underwear, because I didn't. I wore shorts without skirts, makes more sense to me. I don't have an issue with girls wearing shorts under their skirts, except that IME they often did it in part to police other (usually younger) girls, the tone of some of the objections to OP's suit brought that to mind, and these responses about my bad mother, and not understanding slips sure bear that out.

News flash when you wear a skirted suit into water, it sticks to your contours and you look very much like any other body in a pool. I think OP's suit is more practical.

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In the country where I live, almost everyone wears bikinis. Older women, chubby women, pregnant women, the majority are wearing two pieces. It would be strange for mothers with little kids to be wearing those giant American suits that cover everything: don't you WANT to feel the sun and air on your skin in stead of wet lengths of fabric? Why does your body become grotesque and shameful when you are an adult? Furthermore, why are you all staring at each other like that?

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Anonymous wrote:If you are fat/not in shape it would be disgusting. If your butt is firm/not covered in cellulite like most moms you can wear it. Most women cannot pull that cut off over the age of 25 or so....maybe 30.
If you do not have abs that is a non starter to wear that swimsuit- you need both sides working for you.

Nah. You don’t. If you’re fat and want to wear a bathing suit, wear it. Skinny, no curves? Wear it. Everyone is too busy worrying about their own body issues as we can see here. They’re actually not paying much attention to you at all so wear what you feel good in.

Most people would not agree with you. You can’t wear a two piece if you are over 25 and don’t have abs? Please. I agree with the other poster that mentioned misogyny on this thread. It is rampant in these responses.

You do realize that the t-shirts and term “no fat chicks” was not some giant conspiracy created by some secret fraternity?
Live in your bubble where most men really enjoy fat women in bikinis.

Nobody cares what “most men” “really enjoy” at the community pool.

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Anonymous wrote:In the country where I live, almost everyone wears bikinis. Older women, chubby women, pregnant women, the majority are wearing two pieces. It would be strange for mothers with little kids to be wearing those giant American suits that cover everything: don't you WANT to feel the sun and air on your skin in stead of wet lengths of fabric? Why does your body become grotesque and shameful when you are an adult? Furthermore, why are you all staring at each other like that?

This. I loved that in Italy, women in their 70s were still rocking the bikini. So refreshing, unself-conscious, and healthy. Meanwhile over here, 30 year olds are rocking back and forth in a corner because they have a dimple on their ass. Better wear that skirted swimsuit!

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Anonymous wrote:In the country where I live, almost everyone wears bikinis. Older women, chubby women, pregnant women, the majority are wearing two pieces. It would be strange for mothers with little kids to be wearing those giant American suits that cover everything: don't you WANT to feel the sun and air on your skin in stead of wet lengths of fabric? Why does your body become grotesque and shameful when you are an adult? Furthermore, why are you all staring at each other like that?

I don’t WANT to get melanoma. I stay out of the sun. I wear hats and a rash guard and when I have to go to the pool I cover up.

However, I have no issue with what PP wants to wear. I just cringe when I see white women baking in the sun.

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Anonymous wrote:In the country where I live, almost everyone wears bikinis. Older women, chubby women, pregnant women, the majority are wearing two pieces. It would be strange for mothers with little kids to be wearing those giant American suits that cover everything: don't you WANT to feel the sun and air on your skin in stead of wet lengths of fabric? Why does your body become grotesque and shameful when you are an adult? Furthermore, why are you all staring at each other like that?

I don’t WANT to get melanoma. I stay out of the sun. I wear hats and a rash guard and when I have to go to the pool I cover up.

However, I have no issue with what PP wants to wear. I just cringe when I see white women baking in the sun.

OMG yass mama, why do all these dumb pale chicks in bad bikinis WANT melanoma so bad? Yes. That’s if! Yes, end thread!

Or: let’s have you just STFU. You have no idea whether people have slathered on appropriate SPF. Calm your tits and your dramamama cringing.

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Anonymous wrote:In the country where I live, almost everyone wears bikinis. Older women, chubby women, pregnant women, the majority are wearing two pieces. It would be strange for mothers with little kids to be wearing those giant American suits that cover everything: don't you WANT to feel the sun and air on your skin in stead of wet lengths of fabric? Why does your body become grotesque and shameful when you are an adult? Furthermore, why are you all staring at each other like that?

I don’t WANT to get melanoma. I stay out of the sun. I wear hats and a rash guard and when I have to go to the pool I cover up.

However, I have no issue with what PP wants to wear. I just cringe when I see white women baking in the sun.

OMG yass mama, why do all these dumb pale chicks in bad bikinis WANT melanoma so bad? Yes. That’s if! Yes, end thread!

Or: let’s have you just STFU. You have no idea whether people have slathered on appropriate SPF. Calm your tits and your dramamama cringing.

Lol your post made me laugh out loud!

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Anonymous wrote:In the country where I live, almost everyone wears bikinis. Older women, chubby women, pregnant women, the majority are wearing two pieces. It would be strange for mothers with little kids to be wearing those giant American suits that cover everything: don't you WANT to feel the sun and air on your skin in stead of wet lengths of fabric? Why does your body become grotesque and shameful when you are an adult? Furthermore, why are you all staring at each other like that?

I don’t WANT to get melanoma. I stay out of the sun. I wear hats and a rash guard and when I have to go to the pool I cover up.

However, I have no issue with what PP wants to wear. I just cringe when I see white women baking in the sun.

OMG yass mama, why do all these dumb pale chicks in bad bikinis WANT melanoma so bad? Yes. That’s if! Yes, end thread!

Or: let’s have you just STFU. You have no idea whether people have slathered on appropriate SPF. Calm your tits and your dramamama cringing.

+1
How many ways can this thread be derailed? I think DCUM is good for a few more still.

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Anonymous wrote:In the country where I live, almost everyone wears bikinis. Older women, chubby women, pregnant women, the majority are wearing two pieces. It would be strange for mothers with little kids to be wearing those giant American suits that cover everything: don't you WANT to feel the sun and air on your skin in stead of wet lengths of fabric? Why does your body become grotesque and shameful when you are an adult? Furthermore, why are you all staring at each other like that?

I don’t WANT to get melanoma. I stay out of the sun. I wear hats and a rash guard and when I have to go to the pool I cover up.

However, I have no issue with what PP wants to wear. I just cringe when I see white women baking in the sun.

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Sunscreen, ma’am.

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Anonymous wrote:What is the deal with all your pools?? I am fit, wear bikinis, not thongs, not string bikinis, but normal ones, and nobody has ever made me feel like I’m walking about being judged and gossiped about at my pool. No idea if “the other dads” stare, doubt they do, but am I trying to seduce them or attract them? Uh, no. Most of your husbands are pale and flabby with Marvel trunks and ugly flip flops on. I am not interested. I hate this forum so much lately. It’s just constantly shaming other women for choices they make- Botox, bathing suits, jeans, makeup. Depressing to see how little all of you think of other women. And most of it is in your head.

Agree. How are adult women still hung up on bathing suits being operationally equivalent to underwear. True enough, but we do this so that we can swim, and we treat everyone else who's forced to do this with the benign neglect we expect to receive. All the more so at the community pool where it's only about the kids. To flip this social contract and shame everyone into wearing a wall of fabric is retrograde. I didn't like you gals when you wore pants under your skirts to use the playground equipment, and I can't believe after all these years you haven't progressed beyond your I see London phase. (If all you see is a covering, I've done my job.)

This forum has been awful lately. There an entire chorus that needs each topic answered as if they've dropped in from outerspace...

Wait -- are you saying you didn't like other children because they wore tumbling shorts under their skirts? Really? I don't ever remember wearing a skirt to the playground as a kid -- girls just didn't really do that in the 70s, skirts were for church and grandma's sunday dinner...but I cannot imagine liking or disliking another child based on whether they wore shorts under their skirts. And you're complaining about women being judgmental?

I think the point is, how many layers of fabric do you need between your vagina and the outside world to be considered appropriate? When you wear a skirt, the underwear covers your vagina. Now you’re telling me you need to cover the underwear, so no one can see that as well? Really, why? Because it’s touching your genitals?

I don’t care how many layers of fabric you have between your vagina and the outside world (although at least one is appreciated), but I strongly object to the idea that girls or women are going to judge other girls and women who choose to have more than one layer or choose to wear something a little less revealing. Boys are allowed to wear shorts on the playground equipment—why can’t girls? And if they want to put a skirt on over it so they have a little flounce, what is that something you have a problem with?
I wear swim shorts usually to the pool so I don’t have to shave my crotch or upper thighs so often. Men never shave their crotch—I’m not sure why we do. I’m happy with my choice but it sounds like you wouldn’t like me because of it. That seems like a weird decision, especially for someone who is complaining about women judging other women.

I'm the PP who mentioned "I see London" and you are really reaching if you think I judge women who cover up, that is not what I said. What I found annoying in preschool, was there was a certain sort who went out of their way to point out any sliver of underwear, you know the rhyme. And this thread is the grown up equivalent. OP owns the swimsuit, she must like it, why can't she wear it around children? How is that an affront to women who like wearing shorts and rash guards? It isn't. You're imagining this judgement. Personally I love the cheeky suits, they're flattering and it don't require shaving, the way hi-cuts or other front configurations may. I look terrible in lycra shorts, plus they can be chilly if it takes longer to dry off. But you do you.

lol you specifically said you did not like other girls who wore shorts under their skirts. When I was that age I liked to wear skirts and I also wanted to play. So my mom put me in a skirt with shorts underneath so I could enjoy myself without showing my underwear to everyone. Sorry your mom didn’t take care of you in the same way as a young girl. That must have been embarrassing and difficult. FYI, in case your mom didn’t teach you about slips, you may want to get up to speed. I bet you’re walking around in see through dresses and don’t even know it.

Wow the truth comes out, hope you didn’t land on your head too many times attempting cherry bombs in skirt, pants and a slip. Surely your mother didn’t let anyone glimpse the outline of your slacks through a skirt in full sun. Do you make your kids wear three swimsuits? I’m now convinced you were insufferable on the playground.

There’s at least two different women responding to you that were taken aback by you that as a child you didn’t like little girls who wore shorts under their skirts. I’m a little stunned you haven’t backed off that statement. I’m still hoping you just mis-spoke and that there are not little girls who make playground friends based on that.

Yep, multiple people responding to this ridiculous statement.

Given the number of pages on this thread I have no trouble believing there at least three humorless prudes, but thanks for the count.

I can spell it out. I was not bullied for showing my underwear, because I didn't. I wore shorts without skirts, makes more sense to me. I don't have an issue with girls wearing shorts under their skirts, except that IME they often did it in part to police other (usually younger) girls, the tone of some of the objections to OP's suit brought that to mind, and these responses about my bad mother, and not understanding slips sure bear that out.

News flash when you wear a skirted suit into water, it sticks to your contours and you look very much like any other body in a pool. I think OP's suit is more practical.

Who is wearing a skirted suit in the water? Multiple people are pointing out that your weird hang up around young girls wearing shorts under their skirt is just really, really, really strange. I am one of the pps above who wore shorts under skirts as a young girl and wears a slip and I see nothing wrong with the suit op posted and I definitely do not wear a skirt suit or a rash guard to the pool. Lol. Also elementary school must have really made an impression on you, I literally have not thought of what I wore to the playground I guess since that time. Seek help!

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Anonymous wrote:In the country where I live, almost everyone wears bikinis. Older women, chubby women, pregnant women, the majority are wearing two pieces. It would be strange for mothers with little kids to be wearing those giant American suits that cover everything: don't you WANT to feel the sun and air on your skin in stead of wet lengths of fabric? Why does your body become grotesque and shameful when you are an adult? Furthermore, why are you all staring at each other like that?

Yes! I’m originally from CA and lived in France and people are comfortable with themselves in a way that is seen as revolutionary here.