Remarried boomer parent takes his wife and her adult kids and their families on vacation

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s a combo:
1) women plan these things and she naturally wants to spend more time with her kids than her stepkids.
2) men do tend to forget about their prior family when they remarry.
3) Dad has specific maybe even justifiable reasons to avoid spending time with or money on OP and siblings.

Frankly, I would have hated it if my father had remarried after my mom died. I don't think it would have worked for me, even if it had worked for him ...
It wouldn't have been so bad if my father had a no-strings attached type relationship with a someone, but another woman moving in with him, or remarrying ... no way.

You sound selfish. It's not about what works for you PP. It's about sharing their life with a partner. It's not a void you can fill even as a bio child. You need to live your life and stop being so entitled.

You can call me selfish and entitled but there is one thing I know for sure: my dad was broken, sad and vulnerable after my mom died. Some women take advantage of the situation.
My dad then had a 'girlfriend' for a while. She was a family friend and 16 years younger than him. Sure, they liked each other, but eventually my dad ended it because she always expected him to pay for things. She also relied on her own parents to support her financially. She was 40!
My dad stayed single after this. Once bitten, twice shy.

I hope your dad finds and falls in love with a good woman and leaves your sorry a** alone.

This thread has brought all the angry defensive stepmoms crawling out of the woodwork.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can we stop blaming this on boomers? I am a boomer and my 80+ year old silent generation father has done the same thing. Same with a couple of friends of mine. And plenty of younger men have done this as well. This has nothing to do with generations and everything to do with individual people and relationships.

So you’re saying it’s a guy thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can we stop blaming this on boomers? I am a boomer and my 80+ year old silent generation father has done the same thing. Same with a couple of friends of mine. And plenty of younger men have done this as well. This has nothing to do with generations and everything to do with individual people and relationships.

So you’re saying it’s a guy thing?

Troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s a combo:
1) women plan these things and she naturally wants to spend more time with her kids than her stepkids.
2) men do tend to forget about their prior family when they remarry.
3) Dad has specific maybe even justifiable reasons to avoid spending time with or money on OP and siblings.

Frankly, I would have hated it if my father had remarried after my mom died. I don't think it would have worked for me, even if it had worked for him ...
It wouldn't have been so bad if my father had a no-strings attached type relationship with a someone, but another woman moving in with him, or remarrying ... no way.

You sound selfish. It's not about what works for you PP. It's about sharing their life with a partner. It's not a void you can fill even as a bio child. You need to live your life and stop being so entitled.

You can call me selfish and entitled but there is one thing I know for sure: my dad was broken, sad and vulnerable after my mom died. Some women take advantage of the situation.
My dad then had a 'girlfriend' for a while. She was a family friend and 16 years younger than him. Sure, they liked each other, but eventually my dad ended it because she always expected him to pay for things. She also relied on her own parents to support her financially. She was 40!
My dad stayed single after this. Once bitten, twice shy.

I hope your dad finds and falls in love with a good woman and leaves your sorry a** alone.

Oh look! It's OP's step mom!