Sad about minuscule pool of eligible men after divorce at 44

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 36 and happily married but man, I do not understand wanting to find a new serious thing. If we got divorced it’d be hookups and sleeping TF alone for me.

I’m 33 year old woman, also happily married with kids, and I feel somewhat similarly. I’d date and hook up and even have long term semi casual relationships if that happened organically but I would absolutely be living alone. Even in the best relationships you have to make compromises, enjoy your freedom!

How do you know what you would want? You haven’t been in that situation. If you think being single sounds so great, why don’t you get divorced and see what it feels like?

I am in my early 40th, soon to be divorced. I am alone (no sex life due to husband's affair) for 2 years. I only need a vibrator, but not a new partner. My freedom, career and near college age child are my priorities. I might want to partner up with someone closer to 50 when my life is more settled after the divorce and my son is fully independent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 36 and happily married but man, I do not understand wanting to find a new serious thing. If we got divorced it’d be hookups and sleeping TF alone for me.

I’m 33 year old woman, also happily married with kids, and I feel somewhat similarly. I’d date and hook up and even have long term semi casual relationships if that happened organically but I would absolutely be living alone. Even in the best relationships you have to make compromises, enjoy your freedom!

How do you know what you would want? You haven’t been in that situation. If you think being single sounds so great, why don’t you get divorced and see what it feels like?

Good grief. I prefer being married to my husband, who I love, and raising our kids together to being single. If I had no husband, I wouldn’t go rushing out to find another. I understand wanting to find companionship in some form but, given that op has not found any good prospects, i do believe there is value in enjoying her time single.

[Anonymous]

I went on tons of first dates, a bunch of second dates, and then dated a few men for a few months each after my divorce at age 46 about two and a half years ago. I went into all my dates thinking I'd just enjoy a nice cup of coffee or glass of wine, and just have fun. And I did! Even the men who were clearly awful when we met made for a decent story to tell afterward. I met someone this past September who I never would have met had I not done online dating and probably wouldn't have gone out with I met him randomly in person because he wasn't really my type. We ended up falling absolutely head over heels in love. I still like living on my own and we would not blend our families as we both have teenagers, but we are serious about each other and I love seeing him when we can.