Sad about minuscule pool of eligible men after divorce at 44

[Anonymous]

I am really sad about the tiny chances of partnering up with a cultured, emphatic man in my age group who is not tangled in some energy-draining co-parenting situation. In my opinion/experience, all good men between 40 and 55 are taken. Those who have never married have issues. Those who get divorced have issues (certainly including me).

There really is a reason why most marriages take place between the ages of 25 and 30, when both genders are at the peak of their physical beauty.

FWIW, I am successful, in shape and take care of myself. I have an 11 year-old.

I am just very disheartened at the thought that the ship sailed for me 20 years ago. I find the whole idea of online dating repulsive - it is like a meat market out there.

[Anonymous]

Marry in haste, repent in leisure.

[Anonymous]

Maybe just enjoy being yourself without a partner. It’s possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am really sad about the tiny chances of partnering up with a cultured, emphatic man in my age group who is not tangled in some energy-draining co-parenting situation. In my opinion/experience, all good men between 40 and 55 are taken. Those who have never married have issues. Those who get divorced have issues (certainly including me).

There really is a reason why most marriages take place between the ages of 25 and 30, when both genders are at the peak of their physical beauty.

FWIW, I am successful, in shape and take care of myself. I have an 11 year-old.

I am just very disheartened at the thought that the ship sailed for me 20 years ago. I find the whole idea of online dating repulsive - it is like a meat market out there.

Maybe all the men you would find acceptable value self-awareness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am really sad about the tiny chances of partnering up with a cultured, emphatic man in my age group who is not tangled in some energy-draining co-parenting situation. In my opinion/experience, all good men between 40 and 55 are taken. Those who have never married have issues. Those who get divorced have issues (certainly including me).

There really is a reason why most marriages take place between the ages of 25 and 30, when both genders are at the peak of their physical beauty.

FWIW, I am successful, in shape and take care of myself. I have an 11 year-old.

I am just very disheartened at the thought that the ship sailed for me 20 years ago. I find the whole idea of online dating repulsive - it is like a meat market out there.

Maybe all the men you would find acceptable value self-awareness.

Right? OP wouldn't date herself and is somehow sad that other people won't date her either.

[Anonymous]

I’ve noticed the exact opposite of the co-parenting issue. Most men with kids are either weekend-only dads, or their kids live in another state entirely and they see them only a couple times a year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve noticed the exact opposite of the co-parenting issue. Most men with kids are either weekend-only dads, or their kids live in another state entirely and they see them only a couple times a year.

OP here. Now that is really sad. I honestly would not want to be with a man who places such little value on being with his children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve noticed the exact opposite of the co-parenting issue. Most men with kids are either weekend-only dads, or their kids live in another state entirely and they see them only a couple times a year.

OP here. Now that is really sad. I honestly would not want to be with a man who places such little value on being with his children.

Ok but something has got to give. Everyone has more “baggage” by that point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am really sad about the tiny chances of partnering up with a cultured, emphatic man in my age group who is not tangled in some energy-draining co-parenting situation. In my opinion/experience, all good men between 40 and 55 are taken. Those who have never married have issues. Those who get divorced have issues (certainly including me).

There really is a reason why most marriages take place between the ages of 25 and 30, when both genders are at the peak of their physical beauty.

FWIW, I am successful, in shape and take care of myself. I have an 11 year-old.

I am just very disheartened at the thought that the ship sailed for me 20 years ago. I find the whole idea of online dating repulsive - it is like a meat market out there.

Maybe all the men you would find acceptable value self-awareness.

Right? OP wouldn't date herself and is somehow sad that other people won't date her either.

OP here. Yes, I see your point.

[Anonymous]

I would not want to date an emphatic man; he would probably be overbearing.

An empathetic man is another thing.

[Anonymous]

I found a guy. He is younger.

[Anonymous]

So you're a parent, but you want a non-parent to be interested?

I find this funny. Its like the fat women who only want athletic men.

[Anonymous]

The majority of the single guys in your age range are someone’s ex and the majority of the single women are successful with ex husbands. This tracks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you're a parent, but you want a non-parent to be interested?

I find this funny. Its like the [b]fat women who only want athletic men[b]

Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you're a parent, but you want a non-parent to be interested?

I find this funny. Its like the fat women who only want athletic men.

But see, men do this a lot. They have 2 families- one early in life and then in their 40s divorce, find a younger woman and have a second family.

OK, maybe not a lot but more frequently than woman. If OP were a man looking for a woman who was in her 30s at age 44, many would not bat an eye...

Yes, biology plays a role here, but so does our gender constructs