I had a 5 year affair with a gorgeous woman who’s 17 years younger (and I’m not rich) - AMA

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Anonymous wrote:OP, what do you do for a living. And I don’t mean all the lying, cheating stuff. I mean - what is your actual, income-producing job?

What does that matter ?

He’s compensating for his lack of effectiveness in his marriage (wife won’t touch him) and career (he never says in these threads what value he produces to society) by engaging in ridiculous undercover affairs with at least one woman he makes fun of behind her back for being gullible enough to settle for cheap dates where he won’t be noticed with her. And he expects us to high-five him for that. My point is that he’s a loser trying to compensate for being a loser.

Totally.

A lot of midlife affairs are like this. Power play by men to feel powerful and get their anger at the world out . Get an inferior woman to worship them and trash her and talk ill of her. Build her up and tear her down.

That’s not normal. That’s your dysfunctional husband with the Ashley Madison affair(s?).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what do you do for a living. And I don’t mean all the lying, cheating stuff. I mean - what is your actual, income-producing job?

What does that matter ?

He’s compensating for his lack of effectiveness in his marriage (wife won’t touch him) and career (he never says in these threads what value he produces to society) by engaging in ridiculous undercover affairs with at least one woman he makes fun of behind her back for being gullible enough to settle for cheap dates where he won’t be noticed with her. And he expects us to high-five him for that. My point is that he’s a loser trying to compensate for being a loser.

Totally.

A lot of midlife affairs are like this. Power play by men to feel powerful and get their anger at the world out . Get an inferior woman to worship them and trash her and talk ill of her. Build her up and tear her down.

That’s not normal. That’s your dysfunctional husband with the Ashley Madison affair(s?).

Nice try PP, but there’s a poster on this thread (an OP impersonator lol) who gloats that his affair partner is gullible enough to be “impressed” by cheap “ethnic” eateries (his words, not mine) and cheap wine, as compared to his wife, who expects fine meals, etc. So, this PP is just reacting that guy’s own admission that he knows how a woman should be treated, but yet he devalues his affair partner by lifting her up (providing the cheap meals he claims she is impressed by) then tearing her down (making fun of her for being so stupid to fall for his load of crap).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what do you do for a living. And I don’t mean all the lying, cheating stuff. I mean - what is your actual, income-producing job?

What does that matter ?

He’s compensating for his lack of effectiveness in his marriage (wife won’t touch him) and career (he never says in these threads what value he produces to society) by engaging in ridiculous undercover affairs with at least one woman he makes fun of behind her back for being gullible enough to settle for cheap dates where he won’t be noticed with her. And he expects us to high-five him for that. My point is that he’s a loser trying to compensate for being a loser.

Totally.

A lot of midlife affairs are like this. Power play by men to feel powerful and get their anger at the world out . Get an inferior woman to worship them and trash her and talk ill of her. Build her up and tear her down.

That’s not normal. That’s your dysfunctional husband with the Ashley Madison affair(s?).

Nice try PP, but there’s a poster on this thread (an OP impersonator lol) who gloats that his affair partner is gullible enough to be “impressed” by cheap “ethnic” eateries (his words, not mine) and cheap wine, as compared to his wife, who expects fine meals, etc. So, this PP is just reacting that guy’s own admission that he knows how a woman should be treated, but yet he devalues his affair partner by lifting her up (providing the cheap meals he claims she is impressed by) then tearing her down (making fun of her for being so stupid to fall for his load of crap).

I know a few men like this from my old job. They bragged about bagging these women and what kind of stupid shit they fell for, how dumb. Trading stories over the water cooler. Total sadistic behavior.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lame AMA, but it’s absolutely possible younger women these days still want older men. I’m 44 and a happily married man. Our nanny is a hot, athletic Gen-Zer that has made it clear shes attracted to me. Its kind of nice to feel wanted sexually and a dark side of me wants to explore. Thankfully for me, I have a built-in show stopper: I do not use condoms (nor does DW use birth control). At least for me, that makes the decision to not sleep around pretty easy.

How has she made it clear?
Men tend to think women in customer service are attracted to them because they're friendly. And they're almost always just doing their jobs as they're supposed to. Every woman has multiple cringe-worthy stories of men who thought they were interested.

+1

Dollars to donuts your nanny thinks you are gross and old, and is just doing her job by being nice to you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what do you do for a living. And I don’t mean all the lying, cheating stuff. I mean - what is your actual, income-producing job?

What does that matter ?

He’s compensating for his lack of effectiveness in his marriage (wife won’t touch him) and career (he never says in these threads what value he produces to society) by engaging in ridiculous undercover affairs with at least one woman he makes fun of behind her back for being gullible enough to settle for cheap dates where he won’t be noticed with her. And he expects us to high-five him for that. My point is that he’s a loser trying to compensate for being a loser.

Totally.

A lot of midlife affairs are like this. Power play by men to feel powerful and get their anger at the world out . Get an inferior woman to worship them and trash her and talk ill of her. Build her up and tear her down.

That’s not normal. That’s your dysfunctional husband with the Ashley Madison affair(s?).

Nice try PP, but there’s a poster on this thread (an OP impersonator lol) who gloats that his affair partner is gullible enough to be “impressed” by cheap “ethnic” eateries (his words, not mine) and cheap wine, as compared to his wife, who expects fine meals, etc. So, this PP is just reacting that guy’s own admission that he knows how a woman should be treated, but yet he devalues his affair partner by lifting her up (providing the cheap meals he claims she is impressed by) then tearing her down (making fun of her for being so stupid to fall for his load of crap).

I know a few men like this from my old job. They bragged about bagging these women and what kind of stupid shit they fell for, how dumb. Trading stories over the water cooler. Total sadistic behavior.

I work with several guys like this. "The 3 buck f*ck and chucks" they call them after the crappy Trader Joe's wine.

[Anonymous]

^^ Some women like to go slummin’. You know, take a walk on the wild side with a three buck f- and chuck guy, then have some useful fodder to laugh about with her friends while getting their nails done. Like how cheap he is, or ill-fitting and unstylish his clothes are, how he’s incompetent in knowing how to please a woman, how other people laugh at him and don’t respect him at all. A woman can use a good outlet like this. Just gettin’ her needs met, IYKWIM.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you guys honestly think this OP is real??? It's probably a fantasy. What grown ass old man goes to an online anonymous forum and says this? I mean, really, NOTHING better to do?

Typical DCUM always calling troll because it's unfathomable a younger woman may find an older man attractive.

Mid 30s F here, a 50 year old is *disgusting* to me, so I'm with troll/fantasy.

Also - where are this girl's friends?! I'm married (and faithful!) but truly if I or any of my friends were sleeping with some creepy old married man as the side piece, my friends would smack me back down to earth so fast. I feel very sad for this woman that she is either so ashamed that she hasn't told anyone, or that her friends haven't talked some sense into her. How depressing to waste all that time with someone you can't take to social gatherings, who doesn't know your world/family/friends, who literally has to pay cash to have mediocre old man sex in a sleazy hotel. No future in that, and honestly gross, gross, gross.

So what are you going to do when your "disgusting" husband reaches 50. Oh, never mind. You will have reached disgusting yourself.

[Anonymous]

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Can’t believe all the vitriol here! Disgusting. Much more disgusting than the OP’s story tbh
Good for you OP! At least you are better than so many sad American men who are too scared of society and their wives taking them to the cleaners to even think about getting some.
I am a female fwiw

[Anonymous]

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Can’t believe all the vitriol here! Disgusting. Much more disgusting than the OP’s story tbh
Good for you OP! At least you are better than so many sad American men who are too scared of society and their wives taking them to the cleaners to even think about getting some.
I am a female fwiw

Good for you OP! Keep on keepin on with the affairs and report back once your office or your wife finds out, or you catch the clap or your affair partner steals your wallet or shows up on your front door step. #Justiceforunderappreciatedmen #Woeisme #AnyonelookingtohireIlostmycorporatejobbecauseIhaveextremelypoorjudgment

[Anonymous]

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Can’t believe all the vitriol here! Disgusting. Much more disgusting than the OP’s story tbh
Good for you OP! At least you are better than so many sad American men who are too scared of society and their wives taking them to the cleaners to even think about getting some.
I am a female fwiw

Good for you OP! Keep on keepin on with the affairs and report back once your office or your wife finds out, or you catch the clap or your affair partner steals your wallet or shows up on your front door step. #Justiceforunderappreciatedmen #Woeisme #AnyonelookingtohireIlostmycorporatejobbecauseIhaveextremelypoorjudgment

I am not OP (you can ask Jeff)
You seem to be too agitated over all this...
-PP you responded to

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New poster
Can’t believe all the vitriol here! Disgusting. Much more disgusting than the OP’s story tbh
Good for you OP! At least you are better than so many sad American men who are too scared of society and their wives taking them to the cleaners to even think about getting some.
I am a female fwiw

You're a mistress, right? Go away.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:New poster
Can’t believe all the vitriol here! Disgusting. Much more disgusting than the OP’s story tbh
Good for you OP! At least you are better than so many sad American men who are too scared of society and their wives taking them to the cleaners to even think about getting some.
I am a female fwiw

You're a mistress, right? Go away.

+1. The men here are talking about how they use women and make fun of them. They are using terms like three dollar f- and chuck. You can pick that as your battle to defend, but not sure why you’d want to. Anyway, OP seems to be available for you if you like that kind of thing since his hot, 27 year younger affair partner seems to have dumped him months ago and he’s still pining for attention.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:New poster
Can’t believe all the vitriol here! Disgusting. Much more disgusting than the OP’s story tbh
Good for you OP! At least you are better than so many sad American men who are too scared of society and their wives taking them to the cleaners to even think about getting some.
I am a female fwiw

Good for you OP! Keep on keepin on with the affairs and report back once your office or your wife finds out, or you catch the clap or your affair partner steals your wallet or shows up on your front door step. #Justiceforunderappreciatedmen #Woeisme #AnyonelookingtohireIlostmycorporatejobbecauseIhaveextremelypoorjudgment

#NobodyCaresAboutHisAffair

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:New poster
Can’t believe all the vitriol here! Disgusting. Much more disgusting than the OP’s story tbh
Good for you OP! At least you are better than so many sad American men who are too scared of society and their wives taking them to the cleaners to even think about getting some.
I am a female fwiw

You're a mistress, right? Go away.

+1. The men here are talking about how they use women and make fun of them. They are using terms like three dollar f- and chuck. You can pick that as your battle to defend, but not sure why you’d want to. Anyway, OP seems to be available for you if you like that kind of thing since his hot, 27 year younger affair partner seems to have dumped him months ago and he’s still pining for attention.

No, that’s women claiming that they constantly hear about men cheating with women in order to destroy them, and that they share their misogynistic insults so freely that innocent DW’s get their ears burned when they overhear it at work.

That’s quite a story.

[Anonymous]

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Why not get a divorce? Does your marriage vows mean nothing? You are a first class asshole and I hope your wife finds out and divorces you

Not OP but _why_ should he get a divorce? His DW is not providing sex, and what do marriage vows say about that.

He might as well keep this up as long as possible. If divorce happens, might as well delay it. What benefit is there to him of doing it sooner rather than later?

I kept it up for 15 years. It became a way of life for me and worked out pretty well.