I had a 5 year affair with a gorgeous woman who’s 17 years younger (and I’m not rich) - AMA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what do you do for a living. And I don’t mean all the lying, cheating stuff. I mean - what is your actual, income-producing job?

What does that matter ?

He’s compensating for his lack of effectiveness in his marriage (wife won’t touch him) and career (he never says in these threads what value he produces to society) by engaging in ridiculous undercover affairs with at least one woman he makes fun of behind her back for being gullible enough to settle for cheap dates where he won’t be noticed with her. And he expects us to high-five him for that. My point is that he’s a loser trying to compensate for being a loser.

[Anonymous]

^^ It’s like compound interest. Only it’s compound loser behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what do you do for a living. And I don’t mean all the lying, cheating stuff. I mean - what is your actual, income-producing job?

What does that matter ?

He’s compensating for his lack of effectiveness in his marriage (wife won’t touch him) and career (he never says in these threads what value he produces to society) by engaging in ridiculous undercover affairs with at least one woman he makes fun of behind her back for being gullible enough to settle for cheap dates where he won’t be noticed with her. And he expects us to high-five him for that. My point is that he’s a loser trying to compensate for being a loser.

I didn’t have to spend a ton of money on her. We had jobs where we traveled together and the company paid for nice hotel rooms and good meals.

[Anonymous]

And fwiw, there are multiple different people posting here as OP.

[Anonymous]

What ethnicity or heritage was she?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And fwiw, there are multiple different people posting here as OP.

Lol!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what do you do for a living. And I don’t mean all the lying, cheating stuff. I mean - what is your actual, income-producing job?

What does that matter ?

He’s compensating for his lack of effectiveness in his marriage (wife won’t touch him) and career (he never says in these threads what value he produces to society) by engaging in ridiculous undercover affairs with at least one woman he makes fun of behind her back for being gullible enough to settle for cheap dates where he won’t be noticed with her. And he expects us to high-five him for that. My point is that he’s a loser trying to compensate for being a loser.

I didn’t have to spend a ton of money on her. We had jobs where we traveled together and the company paid for nice hotel rooms and good meals.

Gettin’ busy on the company dime - classy!! Willing to risk both your marriage and your career for love. Lol!!! Oh to be a fly on the wall if he got busted in the hotel by a co worker. Bye-bye nice hotel and good meals. Bye-bye paycheck and respect in your profession. The reason he’s so stupid is because he doesn’t realize how stupid he is ! Keep explaining away OP - you are wildly entertaining!!

[Anonymous]

Lame AMA, but it’s absolutely possible younger women these days still want older men. I’m 44 and a happily married man. Our nanny is a hot, athletic Gen-Zer that has made it clear shes attracted to me. Its kind of nice to feel wanted sexually and a dark side of me wants to explore. Thankfully for me, I have a built-in show stopper: I do not use condoms (nor does DW use birth control). At least for me, that makes the decision to not sleep around pretty easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lame AMA, but it’s absolutely possible younger women these days still want older men. I’m 44 and a happily married man. Our nanny is a hot, athletic Gen-Zer that has made it clear shes attracted to me. Its kind of nice to feel wanted sexually and a dark side of me wants to explore. Thankfully for me, I have a built-in show stopper: I do not use condoms (nor does DW use birth control). At least for me, that makes the decision to not sleep around pretty easy.

How has she made it clear?
Men tend to think women in customer service are attracted to them because they're friendly. And they're almost always just doing their jobs as they're supposed to. Every woman has multiple cringe-worthy stories of men who thought they were interested.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think anyone is jealous of a woman having an affair with a much older loser like OP, whatever her height. I'm just perplexed that anyone thinks 5'0'' is even noteworthy. It's a few inches shorter than average.

4 inches is a big deal.

Average American man is 5’9”...5’5” for a man is very short just like 5’0” for a woman is very short.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think anyone is jealous of a woman having an affair with a much older loser like OP, whatever her height. I'm just perplexed that anyone thinks 5'0'' is even noteworthy. It's a few inches shorter than average.

4 inches is a big deal.

Average American man is 5’9”...5’5” for a man is very short just like 5’0” for a woman is very short.

Since average American woman is 5’4”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lame AMA, but it’s absolutely possible younger women these days still want older men. I’m 44 and a happily married man. Our nanny is a hot, athletic Gen-Zer that has made it clear shes attracted to me. Its kind of nice to feel wanted sexually and a dark side of me wants to explore. Thankfully for me, I have a built-in show stopper: I do not use condoms (nor does DW use birth control). At least for me, that makes the decision to not sleep around pretty easy.

How has she made it clear?
Men tend to think women in customer service are attracted to them because they're friendly. And they're almost always just doing their jobs as they're supposed to. Every woman has multiple cringe-worthy stories of men who thought they were interested.

Would sitting on my lap without prompting, qualify? Maybe I’m off base.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lame AMA, but it’s absolutely possible younger women these days still want older men. I’m 44 and a happily married man. Our nanny is a hot, athletic Gen-Zer that has made it clear shes attracted to me. Its kind of nice to feel wanted sexually and a dark side of me wants to explore. Thankfully for me, I have a built-in show stopper: I do not use condoms (nor does DW use birth control). At least for me, that makes the decision to not sleep around pretty easy.

Whew, I thought for a second there that because you lack a conscience or integrity that you might cheat on your wife and take advantage of a low-paid, much younger domestic helper who is entrusted to care for and presumably has bonded with your children. But thankfully you hate the inconvenience or feeling of wearing condoms, so wife and nanny are safe. “Integrity” prevails after all!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what do you do for a living. And I don’t mean all the lying, cheating stuff. I mean - what is your actual, income-producing job?

What does that matter ?

He’s compensating for his lack of effectiveness in his marriage (wife won’t touch him) and career (he never says in these threads what value he produces to society) by engaging in ridiculous undercover affairs with at least one woman he makes fun of behind her back for being gullible enough to settle for cheap dates where he won’t be noticed with her. And he expects us to high-five him for that. My point is that he’s a loser trying to compensate for being a loser.

Totally.

A lot of midlife affairs are like this. Power play by men to feel powerful and get their anger at the world out . Get an inferior woman to worship them and trash her and talk ill of her. Build her up and tear her down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think anyone is jealous of a woman having an affair with a much older loser like OP, whatever her height. I'm just perplexed that anyone thinks 5'0'' is even noteworthy. It's a few inches shorter than average.

4 inches is a big deal.

Average American man is 5’9”...5’5” for a man is very short just like 5’0” for a woman is very short.

I promise you, it's not a big deal.