Where do private schools really get you in life?

[Anonymous]

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Elite colleges/Ivy leagues are a reach for everyone, unless you can pay to play (see Rick Singer scandal). Going to an elite private school does not guarantee Ivy League admission.

I'd rather my children become confident leaders at a tier two college (e.g. Boston College, UVA) than be over their head outcasts on the margins because their inflated public school GPA helped them get into Northwestern or Cornell. An elite college is a waste if your child is passive and can't make fast friends with the polished rich kids who control campus.

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Since when is Uva a tier 2 college and Cornell a tier one?!

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Anonymous wrote:Since when is Uva a tier 2 college and Cornell a tier one?!

Boston College isn’t either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Since when is Uva a tier 2 college and Cornell a tier one?!

Boston College isn’t either.

Students that get into Boston College have an average SAT score between 1340-1500

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m PP - for the record, I’d LOVE to be able to send my child to public school. If I had no choice financially then yes, they’d be in public but because I can choose and I know the state of our schools, I choose and pay for private.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m PP - for the record, I’d LOVE to be able to send my child to public school. If I had no choice financially then yes, they’d be in public but because I can choose and I know the state of our schools, I choose and pay for private.

What public school system are you talking about?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^^
Elite colleges/Ivy leagues are a reach for everyone, unless you can pay to play (see Rick Singer scandal). Going to an elite private school does not guarantee Ivy League admission.

I'd rather my children become confident leaders at a tier two college (e.g. Boston College, UVA) than be over their head outcasts on the margins because their inflated public school GPA helped them get into Northwestern or Cornell. An elite college is a waste if your child is passive and can't make fast friends with the polished rich kids who control campus.

Do you live here? Your assessment of these days schools is inaccurate. Your post completely lacks credibility.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m PP - for the record, I’d LOVE to be able to send my child to public school. If I had no choice financially then yes, they’d be in public but because I can choose and I know the state of our schools, I choose and pay for private.

What public school system are you talking about?

LAUSD

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m PP - for the record, I’d LOVE to be able to send my child to public school. If I had no choice financially then yes, they’d be in public but because I can choose and I know the state of our schools, I choose and pay for private.

What public school system are you talking about?

LAUSD

I grew up there and went to private so I can attest to what you're saying. LAUSD is a mess and always has been.

[Anonymous]

Networking. I went with one DC to an MD appointment a few weeks ago. There was a gentleman in the waiting room that had on a sweatshirt for the school we were applying to- since we were limited in in person activities at the school I asked him if I could ask some questions about the school. His DC also went there and between the 4 of us we talked for 45’. We eventually accepted and this has happened 2 other times when DC has gone out in his new hoodie. It doesn’t add up to much now but that kind of connection can only be helpful.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m PP - for the record, I’d LOVE to be able to send my child to public school. If I had no choice financially then yes, they’d be in public but because I can choose and I know the state of our schools, I choose and pay for private.

What public school system are you talking about?

LAUSD

I knew you weren’t in the DC area. We have excellent public schools here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m PP - for the record, I’d LOVE to be able to send my child to public school. If I had no choice financially then yes, they’d be in public but because I can choose and I know the state of our schools, I choose and pay for private.

What public school system are you talking about?

LAUSD

I knew you weren’t in the DC area. We have excellent public schools here.

Most public schools still cannot offer the level of academic challenge at the elite private schools and certainly cannot offer the same transformational life experience that some of the elite private schools offer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think much of what ultimately influences what our experience in life is depends on what social class we were born into. I'm not saying this as a good thing, just an observation. There is not that big of a difference between someone whose family has a lot of money, has traveled extensively, etc, who goes to BCC and someone whose family has a lot of money and who goes to GDS. If at the same college they will both seem more cultured than a student whose family doesn't have a lot of money regardless of whether that other student went to private or public.

I don't know, I do think part of what you're saying makes sense, but having witnessed public and private school kids from the same neighborhood (literally the same street, so same SES or as close as you're going to get) act differently in public settings. Notably, one situation was in a coffee shop like place where high school kids routinely stopped for breakfast before school. I was also there often because it was close to my kids' school. The owner and other guests commented multiple times that the behavior of the two groups of students was vastly different yet they were all from the same area and I noticed the cars that many of the public school kids drove were vastly nicer than those of the private school kids, so I don't think it's totally a class thing.

But don’t you think people can differ from their neighbors? I know our family has different values than some of those living close to us. We value other cultures, travel, experience over possessions and have no interest in joining a country club. Not the same for some in our neighborhood. So my point is comparing apples to apples based on family life and social class and experiences out of school, the end result is similar whether at bcc or Sidwell, etc. similar not exactly the same. And I think the behavior description above desks more with parenting than the school.

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Deals not desks

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I think it really has to do with what your kid wants out of high school. Lots of social choices (public) more club, music, sports options ( public) smaller classes (private) stronger math and science (public) more electives in history or humanities ( usually private but only at sta gds Sidwell, etc)
It’s a personal choice. You are part of the community in public and part of a selected group in private. It depends on what your family is looking for and the private and public in question.