Was accidentally on a group text...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with others that everyone agrees with the person that sent the text. You now know where your group stands. They don't like your kid and/or how you handle your kid.

I agree that everyone agrees with the text. But, I don't agree that people don't like OP's kid. You can really love a tough kid and really enjoy being around them at the same time as you acknowledge that they are tough and that wine makes everything a bit better. I just don't think that anything that OP said would lead to a conclusion that the group didn't like OPs kid or OP and her family. In fact, just the opposite. Acknowledging that he is a handful, the family was invited.

And, FWIW, since we don't know anything more, we really don't know if OP could be doing better with her son. Maybe she is an amazing and totally attentive mom whose kid is just a handful despite attentive parenting. Not fair to make any assumptions about her parenting based on what she's told us.

That's DCUM for you.

The nasty responses are the parents who engage in this type of tacky behavior and are looking for a way to excuse it.

Actually, OP did make it very clear in her first post that her kid was "hyper and loud" and that she was "amused" that someone thought he was too much to handle, and she considered it "bad mouthing my kid!" and her only defense was "WTF lady...Nobody's kid is perfect."

So yeah, I think OP gave us plenty of information that she's a bad parent and that she's not even vaguely interested in trying to improve his behavior or lessen the impact on others.

You seem really mean, and also like you generalize. I hope this is just a persona on DCUM. You need a kindness infusion.

They were direct quotes. I know it sounds like something that someone would make up, but it's literally what she said. Go back and read the OP for yourself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with others that everyone agrees with the person that sent the text. You now know where your group stands. They don't like your kid and/or how you handle your kid.

I agree that everyone agrees with the text. But, I don't agree that people don't like OP's kid. You can really love a tough kid and really enjoy being around them at the same time as you acknowledge that they are tough and that wine makes everything a bit better. I just don't think that anything that OP said would lead to a conclusion that the group didn't like OPs kid or OP and her family. In fact, just the opposite. Acknowledging that he is a handful, the family was invited.

And, FWIW, since we don't know anything more, we really don't know if OP could be doing better with her son. Maybe she is an amazing and totally attentive mom whose kid is just a handful despite attentive parenting. Not fair to make any assumptions about her parenting based on what she's told us.

That's DCUM for you.

The nasty responses are the parents who engage in this type of tacky behavior and are looking for a way to excuse it.

Actually, OP did make it very clear in her first post that her kid was "hyper and loud" and that she was "amused" that someone thought he was too much to handle, and she considered it "bad mouthing my kid!" and her only defense was "WTF lady...Nobody's kid is perfect."

So yeah, I think OP gave us plenty of information that she's a bad parent and that she's not even vaguely interested in trying to improve his behavior or lessen the impact on others.

You seem really mean, and also like you generalize. I hope this is just a persona on DCUM. You need a kindness infusion.

They were direct quotes. I know it sounds like something that someone would make up, but it's literally what she said. Go back and read the OP for yourself.

And not one mention of a single thing she's been working on or trying with her child in 13 pages. Just the excuse from the beginning that she doesn't see it as her problem to do something about.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with others that everyone agrees with the person that sent the text. You now know where your group stands. They don't like your kid and/or how you handle your kid.

I agree that everyone agrees with the text. But, I don't agree that people don't like OP's kid. You can really love a tough kid and really enjoy being around them at the same time as you acknowledge that they are tough and that wine makes everything a bit better. I just don't think that anything that OP said would lead to a conclusion that the group didn't like OPs kid or OP and her family. In fact, just the opposite. Acknowledging that he is a handful, the family was invited.

And, FWIW, since we don't know anything more, we really don't know if OP could be doing better with her son. Maybe she is an amazing and totally attentive mom whose kid is just a handful despite attentive parenting. Not fair to make any assumptions about her parenting based on what she's told us.

That's DCUM for you.

The nasty responses are the parents who engage in this type of tacky behavior and are looking for a way to excuse it.

Actually, OP did make it very clear in her first post that her kid was "hyper and loud" and that she was "amused" that someone thought he was too much to handle, and she considered it "bad mouthing my kid!" and her only defense was "WTF lady...Nobody's kid is perfect."

So yeah, I think OP gave us plenty of information that she's a bad parent and that she's not even vaguely interested in trying to improve his behavior or lessen the impact on others.

You seem really mean, and also like you generalize. I hope this is just a persona on DCUM. You need a kindness infusion.

They were direct quotes. I know it sounds like something that someone would make up, but it's literally what she said. Go back and read the OP for yourself.

And not one mention of a single thing she's been working on or trying with her child in 13 pages. Just the excuse from the beginning that she doesn't see it as her problem to do something about.

She doesn't have to explain herself to us. The comment was rude no matter what.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with others that everyone agrees with the person that sent the text. You now know where your group stands. They don't like your kid and/or how you handle your kid.

I agree that everyone agrees with the text. But, I don't agree that people don't like OP's kid. You can really love a tough kid and really enjoy being around them at the same time as you acknowledge that they are tough and that wine makes everything a bit better. I just don't think that anything that OP said would lead to a conclusion that the group didn't like OPs kid or OP and her family. In fact, just the opposite. Acknowledging that he is a handful, the family was invited.

And, FWIW, since we don't know anything more, we really don't know if OP could be doing better with her son. Maybe she is an amazing and totally attentive mom whose kid is just a handful despite attentive parenting. Not fair to make any assumptions about her parenting based on what she's told us.

That's DCUM for you.

The nasty responses are the parents who engage in this type of tacky behavior and are looking for a way to excuse it.

Actually, OP did make it very clear in her first post that her kid was "hyper and loud" and that she was "amused" that someone thought he was too much to handle, and she considered it "bad mouthing my kid!" and her only defense was "WTF lady...Nobody's kid is perfect."

So yeah, I think OP gave us plenty of information that she's a bad parent and that she's not even vaguely interested in trying to improve his behavior or lessen the impact on others.

You seem really mean, and also like you generalize. I hope this is just a persona on DCUM. You need a kindness infusion.

They were direct quotes. I know it sounds like something that someone would make up, but it's literally what she said. Go back and read the OP for yourself.

And not one mention of a single thing she's been working on or trying with her child in 13 pages. Just the excuse from the beginning that she doesn't see it as her problem to do something about.

I'm the OP. I do not owe you a defense of my parenting. I don't spend all day on DCUM responding to random posts. I'm only just coming back online now. What's wrong with you? You're mean. I'm amused by the texter - not amused by my kid sometimes acting out.

Are you even a parent? If your child ever acts out. I wish you more kindness than you seem capable of displaying here.

I don't need to come here to explain how I've tried to parent my child as if that would somehow make the text more or less acceptable. It was hurtful and rude on its face. My parenting has zero to do with it. I am not a perfect mom but I try, My kid is not perfect either and no child is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with others that everyone agrees with the person that sent the text. You now know where your group stands. They don't like your kid and/or how you handle your kid.

I agree that everyone agrees with the text. But, I don't agree that people don't like OP's kid. You can really love a tough kid and really enjoy being around them at the same time as you acknowledge that they are tough and that wine makes everything a bit better. I just don't think that anything that OP said would lead to a conclusion that the group didn't like OPs kid or OP and her family. In fact, just the opposite. Acknowledging that he is a handful, the family was invited.

And, FWIW, since we don't know anything more, we really don't know if OP could be doing better with her son. Maybe she is an amazing and totally attentive mom whose kid is just a handful despite attentive parenting. Not fair to make any assumptions about her parenting based on what she's told us.

That's DCUM for you.

The nasty responses are the parents who engage in this type of tacky behavior and are looking for a way to excuse it.

Actually, OP did make it very clear in her first post that her kid was "hyper and loud" and that she was "amused" that someone thought he was too much to handle, and she considered it "bad mouthing my kid!" and her only defense was "WTF lady...Nobody's kid is perfect."

So yeah, I think OP gave us plenty of information that she's a bad parent and that she's not even vaguely interested in trying to improve his behavior or lessen the impact on others.

You seem really mean, and also like you generalize. I hope this is just a persona on DCUM. You need a kindness infusion.

They were direct quotes. I know it sounds like something that someone would make up, but it's literally what she said. Go back and read the OP for yourself.

And not one mention of a single thing she's been working on or trying with her child in 13 pages. Just the excuse from the beginning that she doesn't see it as her problem to do something about.

She doesn't have to explain herself to us. The comment was rude no matter what.

Even if your kid is struggling and you know he’s struggling , that doesn’t change the fact that it is hurtful to hear that other people think that. Come on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with others that everyone agrees with the person that sent the text. You now know where your group stands. They don't like your kid and/or how you handle your kid.

I agree that everyone agrees with the text. But, I don't agree that people don't like OP's kid. You can really love a tough kid and really enjoy being around them at the same time as you acknowledge that they are tough and that wine makes everything a bit better. I just don't think that anything that OP said would lead to a conclusion that the group didn't like OPs kid or OP and her family. In fact, just the opposite. Acknowledging that he is a handful, the family was invited.

And, FWIW, since we don't know anything more, we really don't know if OP could be doing better with her son. Maybe she is an amazing and totally attentive mom whose kid is just a handful despite attentive parenting. Not fair to make any assumptions about her parenting based on what she's told us.

That's DCUM for you.

The nasty responses are the parents who engage in this type of tacky behavior and are looking for a way to excuse it.

Actually, OP did make it very clear in her first post that her kid was "hyper and loud" and that she was "amused" that someone thought he was too much to handle, and she considered it "bad mouthing my kid!" and her only defense was "WTF lady...Nobody's kid is perfect."

So yeah, I think OP gave us plenty of information that she's a bad parent and that she's not even vaguely interested in trying to improve his behavior or lessen the impact on others.

You seem really mean, and also like you generalize. I hope this is just a persona on DCUM. You need a kindness infusion.

They were direct quotes. I know it sounds like something that someone would make up, but it's literally what she said. Go back and read the OP for yourself.

And not one mention of a single thing she's been working on or trying with her child in 13 pages. Just the excuse from the beginning that she doesn't see it as her problem to do something about.

She doesn't have to explain herself to us. The comment was rude no matter what.

Even if your kid is struggling and you know he’s struggling , that doesn’t change the fact that it is hurtful to hear that other people think that. Come on.

Exactly - the text was inexcusable.

[Anonymous]

Wonder why the sender thought you were not on the group text. Hope OPs son is not the topic of some inside joke

[Anonymous]

Some of you are just awful. Show some empathy

[Anonymous]

I am sure she feels like an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you are just awful. Show some empathy

+1,000

[Anonymous]

Hand her a bottle of Advil at the next practice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you are just awful. Show some empathy

+1,000

I think there probably has been months of not years of empathy for OP. And now the other parents are fatigued.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hand her a bottle of Advil at the next practice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK, OP here. I replied with Wow - had no idea you felt that way about my kid. And hate finding out this way.

The texter replied - "I'm sorry. Having a bad day and he was really loud last time we were together. Not personal. Must be too much time with family this weekend" with a stressed wine emoji.

So I guess that's that...

Of course she's going to save face. Keep your kid away from her and these people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK, OP here. I replied with Wow - had no idea you felt that way about my kid. And hate finding out this way.

The texter replied - "I'm sorry. Having a bad day and he was really loud last time we were together. Not personal. Must be too much time with family this weekend" with a stressed wine emoji.

So I guess that's that...

Did anyone else respond to you? Tell her to go to hell. She's full of it.