Nytimes: I’ve picked my job over my kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a lawyer who has worked part-time since my oldest was 2. Obviously, I made a different choice than Bazelon, but I'm willing to stipulate that she's a good enough mother. That said, though, what really annoyed me about this piece was her statement that she's never coached a team or chaperoned a field trip or organized a school event. Assuming her kids participate in these activities, it seems like the height of irresponsibility and arrogance for her to punk out and expect other parents (most of whom probably WOHM or have other significant time commitments) to do all the grunt work.

Another working mom. Nope. I have never done any of these things. DH does them for our family.

It doesn't mean neither parent participates and I do a lot of other stuff for us as a unit. Also, what on earth am I going to coach? I don't know the first thing about sports. I once did a presentation on birds for the Boy Scouts, that's pretty much the extent of my relevance to school events.

Being PTA mom is not a requirement. I am there for them in so many different ways you will never understand. Life is about more than school which in my school community is well-staffed by the many SAHMs. They don't need me there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She shouldn’t have had kids.

. She is a hard working, intelligent person with a strong social conscience. . . Of course she should have kids! She probably has great genes and she’s modeling to her children how to make a real difference in the world. Of course she should have kids! If someone like her shouldn’t have kids, then who should, in your opinion? Only people with no ambition? That makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

It is clearly a dcum "consensus" that only rich, UMC and MC women who want to be SAHM should have children! Wonder when Georgia will outlaw working moms?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is clearly a dcum "consensus" that only rich, UMC and MC women who want to be SAHM should have children! Wonder when Georgia will outlaw working moms?

Thankfully, most of us WOHM don't care too much what those other women think. I'm one of those who... gasp... chooses to work even though we could pretty easily give up some luxuries and have me stay home. There really isn't anything anyone could say to me to make me feel badly about my choices. Being a SAHM is not easy - I took 6 months of leave with each of my kids and found it hard, lonely and tedious. I'm a happier healthier person and a better parent because I work. I'm thankful that I get this choice and very thankful for women who have paved the way.