Sidwell college advisor leaves

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the actual point of this thread. Is Bryan Garman going to meet with rising senior families to discuss the state of the counseling office and address concerns?

I wouldn't count on it. Over the 10+ years we've had kids at Sidwell, there have been lots of changes, but the lack of transparency and forthright communication with parents has been a constant. It's a great school in many ways, but the administration and many parents find it hard to acknowledge missteps and areas of challenge.

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Anonymous wrote:99.9% of the SFS parents are fantastic —- having had kids at SFS over the past 6 years, I can attest that every class has one loon who thinks their child is candycorn and rainbows. This kind of parental delusion is not unique to Sidwell, it’s everywhere, public and private. And not just related to academics. Think about all the crazy sports Dads you’ve known over the years. Unfortunately, college admissions is a stressful scene and the 1-2 loony voices can drown out the majority of the sane parents and families and can wear down the people who are trying to support their kids. Having had kids in multiple privates, trust me, there are those types everywhere. It’s truly sad to see Patrick leave, no doubt as he is a great guy that the kids really loved, but I don’t think you’ll find one DMV private that doesn’t have a taste of the crazy. I wish Patrick all the best.[/quote

I wish both of them the best. Patrick will be missed in part, but the other one’s exit can’t come fast enough.

There unfortunately are some parents who go over the top in their demands or say inappropriate things and they need to be called to account. That said, the director of the office is accountable for the office's uneven quality and particularly for not addressing, but rather inexplicably keeping, a weak hire who didn't work out.

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Anonymous wrote:Editing an essay 10X is not that different than re-writing it. It seems like you don’t see there isn’t much of a distinction at that point...giving feedback 1-2x is fine, 10 times??

Agree. Don’t see much real difference between this and paying someone to “coach” my kid through a few tough SAT questions. The entire system sucks, and we all know it yet continue to support it.

I agree completely. We may not be the ones doing the “editing” or making the lists or pocketing the cash but we are all complicit.

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On another note, these private schools need to increase the number of counselors. The ratio is just too high.

Lecturing people about ethics while adopting an openly misogynistic tone. Well played!

New poster. "Honey" is not misogynistic. It's condescending -- probably deliberately used that way -- and can be applied to either sex, male or female.

Of course it is... just as calling someone "boy" is meant to invoke racial imagery, using "honey" as a condescending expression is meant to invoke the stereotype of the uneducated and helpless female, whether it's directed at a male or female.

If directed towards a male, it's not really different to saying to a straight person that their dump POV is "gay."

So, yes, it's misogynistic. Incidentally, the US government calls it out as an example of sexual harassment: https://www.doi.gov/pmb/eeo/Sexual-Harassment

Per that link, Biden is in deeeeep trouble.

"Examples of Sexual Harassment
Any of these elements may constitute sexual harassment or discrimination. These examples are not meant to be all inclusive.

Physical contact
Squeezing a worker's shoulders or putting a hand around his or her waist..."

Thanks for posting, Sen. Gillibrand. Your tactics may have worked with Al Franken, but it won’t work with Biden. America now sees you for the craven hypocrite that you are. Trump was perhaps right about one thing: you will do anything for money and to get ahead in politics. You’re a loser.

Honey, that's what the US government says.

I agree, it's way overboard, and can't wait for Trump to deregulate this too so that my esteemed friend Joe can keep squeezing our shoulders in his lovely fashion and also telling those fun off-color jokes (also considered to be sexual harassment down in the list).

Honey, I’ve put my hands on my colleagues’ shoulders - to praise, comfort, bond. I’m female and have done this with both male and female colleagues. Calling it sexual harassment is what morons in government with no common sense call it.

np: Honey, being blind to the fact that quite a few people don’t want to be touched that way in a work setting is obtuse and disrespectful to your colleagues.

Generally, I think intent is a big part of how an action is perceived, but just because you think being handsy is warm, not everyone agrees. Now that is common sense.

+1

+2. I personally find it to be creepy behavior, including when it comes from my well intentioned female supervisor.

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Anonymous wrote:Patrick came from Georgetown Prep and is leaving to go to Gonzaga.

Oh, so this is good news for Gonzaga I assume?

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On another note, these private schools need to increase the number of counselors. The ratio is just too high.

Lecturing people about ethics while adopting an openly misogynistic tone. Well played!

New poster. "Honey" is not misogynistic. It's condescending -- probably deliberately used that way -- and can be applied to either sex, male or female.

Of course it is... just as calling someone "boy" is meant to invoke racial imagery, using "honey" as a condescending expression is meant to invoke the stereotype of the uneducated and helpless female, whether it's directed at a male or female.

If directed towards a male, it's not really different to saying to a straight person that their dump POV is "gay."

So, yes, it's misogynistic. Incidentally, the US government calls it out as an example of sexual harassment: https://www.doi.gov/pmb/eeo/Sexual-Harassment

Per that link, Biden is in deeeeep trouble.

"Examples of Sexual Harassment
Any of these elements may constitute sexual harassment or discrimination. These examples are not meant to be all inclusive.

Physical contact
Squeezing a worker's shoulders or putting a hand around his or her waist..."

Thanks for posting, Sen. Gillibrand. Your tactics may have worked with Al Franken, but it won’t work with Biden. America now sees you for the craven hypocrite that you are. Trump was perhaps right about one thing: you will do anything for money and to get ahead in politics. You’re a loser.

Honey, that's what the US government says.

I agree, it's way overboard, and can't wait for Trump to deregulate this too so that my esteemed friend Joe can keep squeezing our shoulders in his lovely fashion and also telling those fun off-color jokes (also considered to be sexual harassment down in the list).

Honey, I’ve put my hands on my colleagues’ shoulders - to praise, comfort, bond. I’m female and have done this with both male and female colleagues. Calling it sexual harassment is what morons in government with no common sense call it.

Precisely.

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Anonymous wrote:How about meeting with the parents of the 2019 seniors to "clarify" the alleged terrible behavior of some of the parents? Personally, I think less than 5 of the 260 parents have done anything "wrong" --- Blaming -all- the parents is misleading and diversionary...

Who is blaming all the parents?

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Anonymous wrote:How about meeting with the parents of the 2019 seniors to "clarify" the alleged terrible behavior of some of the parents? Personally, I think less than 5 of the 260 parents have done anything "wrong" --- Blaming -all- the parents is misleading and diversionary...

Who is blaming all the parents?

People in this forum.

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It is parental behavior.
Bryan should meet with junior parents and explain what is expected of them as well as explain what he is doing to improve the counseling office. Doubt he will though. He'd rather summer in Martha's Vineyard and drink cocktails with the fancy parents.

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what exactly did the senior parents do?!

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Anonymous wrote:It's somewhat difficult to judge this whole situation without knowing the specific nature of what the parent communicated to the college, whether the information was true/relevant, and whether the school had suppressed the information in the interest of protecting its own reputation.

Nope, there is NEVER a time when someone should be anonymously sending notes to colleges to disparage other kids. Never. That is just batsh1t crazy.

Exactly. This should never happen but it does. I know of at least two other cases. One involved a parent sending in comments about another applicant. Another involved a student sending in disparaging material about a kid applying to the same college. It says so-much-more about the person doing the oppo research that the alleged target.

It really does!

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Anonymous wrote:It is parental behavior.
Bryan should meet with junior parents and explain what is expected of them as well as explain what he is doing to improve the counseling office. Doubt he will though. He'd rather summer in Martha's Vineyard and drink cocktails with the fancy parents.

+1

Hope he or one of his deputies is reading this.

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Anonymous wrote:It is parental behavior.
Bryan should meet with junior parents and explain what is expected of them as well as explain what he is doing to improve the counseling office. Doubt he will though. He'd rather summer in Martha's Vineyard and drink cocktails with the fancy parents.

+1

Hope he or one of his deputies is reading this.

Current students and their parents should celebrate that the admin finally decided effectively clean house in the CCO.

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Agreed. But that would mean Bryan Garman would have to possess the strength and morals to take a stand.

If Bryan Garman and SFS really believe the school's values of respect for others, these people should be shown the door. There are plenty of other families who would love to be there and could contribute in a more positive way.

So Bryan Garman knew about these egregious incidents and did nothing?

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Anonymous wrote:How about meeting with the parents of the 2019 seniors to "clarify" the alleged terrible behavior of some of the parents? Personally, I think less than 5 of the 260 parents have done anything "wrong" --- Blaming -all- the parents is misleading and diversionary...

Who is blaming all the parents?

People in this forum.

I see people blaming some parents. Find me a post where all parents are being blamed.