Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban split

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Anonymous wrote:They seemed like polar opposites to me from the beginning. Surprised they lasted this long (glad they did).
19 yrs is a lifetime in Hollywood .

Maybe they stuck it out long enough until the kids were flown & grown.

They have a 14 year old daughter! How is that flown and grown? She barely just started high school.

+1 The fact they didn't stick it out a few more years does suggest to me the issues were serious. Maybe he does have a new GF.

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Anonymous wrote:Divorce was clearly the intent once they split in June. They had all the pieces in order, ready to go, when she filed.

They clearly had a pre-nup, so needed to work out custody. The fact that he has such a minor custody piece makes me suspicious, and wondering if maybe his substance abuse issues haven't resurfaced. Seems strange he would agree to that when to date he's been the parent who's spent far more time at home.

I agree it's weird. Teenage girls can be very tough. Maybe he's had a tough time with them lately, they wanted more time with their mom, and he agreed to that. Still think it's weird though, especially when he has clearly been the more present parent for a while.

I can see him being okay with it if she's serious about doing projects in Nashville. I am sure he will still them in the midst.Its something she should've thought about beforehand but you cant change the hands of time.

I'd be surprised if the fact that teenage girls are involved isn't relevant. They need their mother in these crucial years. They probably also wanted to stay in the home they grew up in while they finish high school. He's the one who moved out. But it's not like Nicole won't be working. She has three projects to promote next year, and more slated for filming, including BLL. She may not be as busy as she's been for the last decade or so, but she won't exactly be a SAHM. Not that she needs to be!

Forcing teenagers to live in their dad's new place would be a little weird. Totally makes sense for them to stay in their home, which is gorgeous btw.

https://nypost.com/2025/09/30/real-estate/nicole-kidman-will-stay-put-in-nashville-home-source/

That's why "nesting" has become relatively popular, for sure easier for the kids.

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Obviously, none of us know what really happened.

I am not leaping to the conclusion Urban doesn't want to see his kids. He gets 59 days--a minor quibble. That sounds like 2 months to me. He's a touring musician. Maybe they just mutually decided that since he doesn't know his touring schedule 4 years out--the younger daughter is 14--the kids would live in the family home with mom during the school and he will take summers off from touring and spend it with his daughters. The fact that the kids are living with mom during the school year doesn't mean he won't see them when he's in town, it just means they won't live with him.

I suspect that, given their ages, the kids had some say in the custody schedule. If they are enrolled in a regular school, they probably said something along the lines of "I want to continue going to the same school and living in the same house. I don't want to enroll in some homeschooling program so I can be on the road with dad living out of a tour bus with no kids my own age around." He'll either take the summers off to be with them OR he'll take them with him on tour when that won't interfere with school.

As for prepaying support....that may just be because they didn't want to make their finances public. If monthly child support were part of the divorce settlement we'd all know how much it is. This way we don't.

It turns out that he signed the agreement August 29 and she signed September 6. I find it amazing that they kept their split under wraps that long. It probably was in the best interest of the kids to do so to give them time to adjust to the idea before it was the headline of The Tennessean.

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Interesting that winning a custody agreement will be the only that could possibly keep NK at home.

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Anonymous wrote:Divorce was clearly the intent once they split in June. They had all the pieces in order, ready to go, when she filed.

They clearly had a pre-nup, so needed to work out custody. The fact that he has such a minor custody piece makes me suspicious, and wondering if maybe his substance abuse issues haven't resurfaced. Seems strange he would agree to that when to date he's been the parent who's spent far more time at home.

I agree it's weird. Teenage girls can be very tough. Maybe he's had a tough time with them lately, they wanted more time with their mom, and he agreed to that. Still think it's weird though, especially when he has clearly been the more present parent for a while.

I can see him being okay with it if she's serious about doing projects in Nashville. I am sure he will still them in the midst.Its something she should've thought about beforehand but you cant change the hands of time.

I'd be surprised if the fact that teenage girls are involved isn't relevant. They need their mother in these crucial years. They probably also wanted to stay in the home they grew up in while they finish high school. He's the one who moved out. But it's not like Nicole won't be working. She has three projects to promote next year, and more slated for filming, including BLL. She may not be as busy as she's been for the last decade or so, but she won't exactly be a SAHM. Not that she needs to be!

There’s 0 chance she’ll be in Nashville 300 days a year.

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Anonymous wrote:Divorce was clearly the intent once they split in June. They had all the pieces in order, ready to go, when she filed.

They clearly had a pre-nup, so needed to work out custody. The fact that he has such a minor custody piece makes me suspicious, and wondering if maybe his substance abuse issues haven't resurfaced. Seems strange he would agree to that when to date he's been the parent who's spent far more time at home.

I agree it's weird. Teenage girls can be very tough. Maybe he's had a tough time with them lately, they wanted more time with their mom, and he agreed to that. Still think it's weird though, especially when he has clearly been the more present parent for a while.

It's in the name of stability. The girls are 17 and 14, in high school - not a great age or situation to be shuttling around house to house. It also forces NK to base herself in Nashville (probably a point of contention between the couple) and she's already committed to bring projects to Nashville, alongside Reese Witherspoon. Nashville is a small town, and even on tour, he's based in Nashville. It's Nicole who will be spending more time at home than ever before in her career.

This. They just want some stability for the teenage girls. I’m sure he’ll stay at the family house the many days she works out of town. His recording studio is at that house.

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Anonymous wrote:Obviously, none of us know what really happened.

I am not leaping to the conclusion Urban doesn't want to see his kids. He gets 59 days--a minor quibble. That sounds like 2 months to me. He's a touring musician. Maybe they just mutually decided that since he doesn't know his touring schedule 4 years out--the younger daughter is 14--the kids would live in the family home with mom during the school and he will take summers off from touring and spend it with his daughters. The fact that the kids are living with mom during the school year doesn't mean he won't see them when he's in town, it just means they won't live with him.

I suspect that, given their ages, the kids had some say in the custody schedule. If they are enrolled in a regular school, they probably said something along the lines of "I want to continue going to the same school and living in the same house. I don't want to enroll in some homeschooling program so I can be on the road with dad living out of a tour bus with no kids my own age around." He'll either take the summers off to be with them OR he'll take them with him on tour when that won't interfere with school.

As for prepaying support....that may just be because they didn't want to make their finances public. If monthly child support were part of the divorce settlement we'd all know how much it is. This way we don't.

It turns out that he signed the agreement August 29 and she signed September 6. I find it amazing that they kept their split under wraps that long. It probably was in the best interest of the kids to do so to give them time to adjust to the idea before it was the headline of The Tennessean.

He is not a big tour guy. He toured in 2022. No tour in 2023. He did ten shows in a Las Vegas Residency with 5 in Oct 2024 and 5 in Feb 2025. He started this tour in May and it ends at the end of October with 30 concerts over those 6 months. He has 4 concert dates in March- June 2026 listed. Most of his concerts are within a couple hours flight of home. He isn't living for months or years on tour buses. Living in the home with mom indicates she is at home but she works long projects and has lots of press to do for ones already filmed. I doubt she can mostly work from home either. Seems she would be away from Nashville more than Keith given his current schedule and her current projects.

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Anonymous wrote:Women can't ever win.

If they focus on their careers, they are criticized for not spending enough time at home with their kids.

If they focus on raising their family, they automatically lose out on the best professional opportunities.

Men are not subject to the same criticism, and gaily go about their careers while their wives raise the kids and mommy-track or stay home.

I don't think any of us should criticize Nicole for wanting to be the most famous actress she can be. Yes there is a family cost. Men do that all the time.

I stay home to raise my kids, but I will never criticize a woman for prioritizing her career.

I think the point is that someone needs to prioritize the children. As someone who has birthed children I cannot imagine being away from them that much and I know from family members that both parents prioritizing themselves is never good for kids.

Which brings up a good question who was taking care of the kids back in Nashville when both were out the country on tour/filming?

Keith only tours every 2-3 years. He's the primary parent, not Nicole.

I would assume that too, based on their respective schedules. But the custody agreement has Nicole as the primary:

TMZ: "The parenting plan says the kids will spend 306 days with Nicole and 59 days with Keith. They agreed that all major decisions involving their kids, including education and health care, will be made jointly."

There’s only one minor child, and it’s a girl. Probably thinks at fourteen, a girl should be with a mother primarily. Just guessing

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Anonymous wrote:All signs point to midlife crisis affair and return of substance abuse. Very strange custody arrangement.

You know, I do agree that the over-the-top displays of affection are a bit much, but I really feel for these high profile women. I think it’s very hard for most husbands to accept the fact that their wives are very famous. I remember Gwen Stefani always used to make a big deal talking about how hot she was for Gavin. And what did he do… eventually the stereotype of sleeping with the nanny. A decision that he clearly regrets since he’s clear in recent interview anout how he regrets fumbling Gwen.

I think some of it over the top displays were just to reassure Keith. I don’t know, I’ve never been much of a Nicole Kidman fan, but everything I’m reading about this really makes me sympathize with her.

Yes the spouse to the superstar has to have a certain personality and willingness to take the back seat in an abundance of ways and even then I imagine it is a difficult burden to carry over many years. We are all only human and we all have limits. Maybe he met his.

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There was a Deuxmoi blind of one of them cheating.

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Anonymous wrote:There was a Deuxmoi blind of one of them cheating.

She’s gets plenty of action during her many sexy projects including her last soft porn where she said all the orgasms were exhausting. I doubt she needed more extra-marital action.

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Well tonight I wanna cry.

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Anonymous wrote:She filed for divorce, thinks he cheated. One thing I will say—wives really should be with their husbands on tour. For the sake of the marriage. Too many temptations, especially if a man is feeling neglected.

Sad a man can’t keep commitments.

McConaughey‘S wife made family on set demand before agreeing to marry him.

Being with someone doesn’t stop them from cheating. Where there’s a will, there’s a way.

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Anonymous wrote:She filed for divorce, thinks he cheated. One thing I will say—wives really should be with their husbands on tour. For the sake of the marriage. Too many temptations, especially if a man is feeling neglected.

Sad a man can’t keep commitments.

McConaughey‘S wife made family on set demand before agreeing to marry him.

Being with someone doesn’t stop them from cheating. Where there’s a will, there’s a way.

His wife is a do-nothing gold digging "model". Actors are largely bi/gay, so I doubt Matthew would be cheating with a woman.

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Anonymous wrote:She filed for divorce, thinks he cheated. One thing I will say—wives really should be with their husbands on tour. For the sake of the marriage. Too many temptations, especially if a man is feeling neglected.

Sad a man can’t keep commitments.

McConaughey‘S wife made family on set demand before agreeing to marry him.

Being with someone doesn’t stop them from cheating. Where there’s a will, there’s a way.

His wife is a do-nothing gold digging "model". Actors are largely bi/gay, so I doubt Matthew would be cheating with a woman.

The bongo drums incident always made me think he was gay