Divorced women in their 40s seem to be doing better in the dating market

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ultimately, it's a supply and demand issue. And the lack of quality men of all ages is warping the market. It's not just men in their 40s and 50s. It's that a lot of young men are checked out from life - professionally, socially, fitness-wise. So that men who do have it together, whether they are 25 or 45, have an incredibly easy time finding dates and partners of all ages. Observationally, watching my single friends, it's the good looking men with great jobs that have a disproportionate amount of power in modern relationship dynamics. For every man who has it together, there are 20 wonderful, beautiful, smart, and kind women who really want to meet him. It's far easier for men these days. The competition for the good ones is fierce. I see it extending down all the way to the college level.

You are falsely assuming that young women who are looking for marriage and children value the same men that older divorced women who already have children do. It's not the same market. There is some overlap, but it's not entirely the same.

I know a late 40s acquaintance who is sleeping with a 20 something year old gym instructor. Were she younger and looking for marriage and children, she wouldn't go anywhere near him.

But she is looking for a good time with someone easy on the eyes. It works for both of them.

That's true. I have a 48 year old very attractive friend who does this. When she's in the mood, she just shows up at the pickle ball court or the college bar and goes home with whoever catches her eye. Women who want one night stands will always have an easier time of it. She certainly doesn't care about their professional prospects. She'd never date them, but that's not what she's looking for.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ultimately, it's a supply and demand issue. And the lack of quality men of all ages is warping the market. It's not just men in their 40s and 50s. It's that a lot of young men are checked out from life - professionally, socially, fitness-wise. So that men who do have it together, whether they are 25 or 45, have an incredibly easy time finding dates and partners of all ages. Observationally, watching my single friends, it's the good looking men with great jobs that have a disproportionate amount of power in modern relationship dynamics. For every man who has it together, there are 20 wonderful, beautiful, smart, and kind women who really want to meet him. It's far easier for men these days. The competition for the good ones is fierce. I see it extending down all the way to the college level.

You are falsely assuming that young women who are looking for marriage and children value the same men that older divorced women who already have children do. It's not the same market. There is some overlap, but it's not entirely the same.

I know a late 40s acquaintance who is sleeping with a 20 something year old gym instructor. Were she younger and looking for marriage and children, she wouldn't go anywhere near him.

But she is looking for a good time with someone easy on the eyes. It works for both of them.

That's true. I have a 48 year old very attractive friend who does this. When she's in the mood, she just shows up at the pickle ball court or the college bar and goes home with whoever catches her eye. Women who want one night stands will always have an easier time of it. She certainly doesn't care about their professional prospects. She'd never date them, but that's not what she's looking for.

Does she actually have sex? Its rare for menopausal women to want to do

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women in their 40s generally look way better than men in their 40s these days. I'm 30 and the 30-40 year old men on apps have been very rough looking, meanwhile the women I see on there are beautiful and still have a youthful look, usually more fit too. (I'm bi). I've dated older men and they are less likely to be feminists as well, which is what many women want.

Yea, this is far closer to the truth than the bro above. I think pretty single unburdened women of all ages get scooped out within weeks on the apps and ugly hateful guys are left as wallets and sperm donors to bank single pretty moms in their 30s to help raising her kids in exchange for her P… until kids are grown and she kicks him out.

That's so laughable that it is actually funny. Women in their 40s are like used cars. I would rather drive a brand new 2024 Lexus over a 2005 model.

Here is the deal, Einstein: Most people would rather drive a brand new car. Most cannot afford it, unfortunately.

Many 20 - early 30 something year old women want children, marriage etc. These terms are a very high price for a man in his 50s. Are you going to start all over just so you can have a new model? In most cases like this, the joke is on you!

In contrast, while many 20 something to 30 something year old men might be looking for marriage, many of them will be happy for a short term to medium term sexual relationship with an older woman who has no interest in marriage and kids.

So older women can afford a new model, and you can't.

As a 29 years old male who was a former D1 athlete with an MBA from University of Virginia, I have so many options for hooking up with women in their 20s. There is no need for me to hook up with leftover 40's women. Only guys without options (e.g. low value) hookup with 40's women.

So you’re so awesome you’re here trolling DCUM moms? Pathetic.

This whole exchange me laugh out loud, A 29 year old man coming on to a parent message board to insult older women? He’s a troll or incredibly pathetic. Probably both.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women in their 40s generally look way better than men in their 40s these days. I'm 30 and the 30-40 year old men on apps have been very rough looking, meanwhile the women I see on there are beautiful and still have a youthful look, usually more fit too. (I'm bi). I've dated older men and they are less likely to be feminists as well, which is what many women want.

Yea, this is far closer to the truth than the bro above. I think pretty single unburdened women of all ages get scooped out within weeks on the apps and ugly hateful guys are left as wallets and sperm donors to bank single pretty moms in their 30s to help raising her kids in exchange for her P… until kids are grown and she kicks him out.

That's so laughable that it is actually funny. Women in their 40s are like used cars. I would rather drive a brand new 2024 Lexus over a 2005 model.

Here is the deal, Einstein: Most people would rather drive a brand new car. Most cannot afford it, unfortunately.

Many 20 - early 30 something year old women want children, marriage etc. These terms are a very high price for a man in his 50s. Are you going to start all over just so you can have a new model? In most cases like this, the joke is on you!

In contrast, while many 20 something to 30 something year old men might be looking for marriage, many of them will be happy for a short term to medium term sexual relationship with an older woman who has no interest in marriage and kids.

So older women can afford a new model, and you can't.

As a 29 years old male who was a former D1 athlete with an MBA from University of Virginia, I have so many options for hooking up with women in their 20s. There is no need for me to hook up with leftover 40's women. Only guys without options (e.g. low value) hookup with 40's women.

All humans have value. In our society, men’s value is determined by materials. You didn’t say what materials you had besides your youth which is also fading.

Only guys that hookup are low value. It means he doesn’t value himself. You say you have an MBA but not what you do etc. And you have time to be on here telling women and moms don’t want them. When your alone at night, you wouldn’t turn them down. Get out of here.

And I have actually seen so many 25-29 former D1 athletes like me on apps. Why are they on there? You aren’t even in the NFL. D1 is still like HS. You don’t get paid LOL. It’s not the flex you think it is.

For the dating market yes 40 year old women that take care of themselves do well to date. Marriage is another thing. For men, the women mostly want marriage and it’s becomes complicated if he doesn’t see what the market says.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ultimately, it's a supply and demand issue. And the lack of quality men of all ages is warping the market. It's not just men in their 40s and 50s. It's that a lot of young men are checked out from life - professionally, socially, fitness-wise. So that men who do have it together, whether they are 25 or 45, have an incredibly easy time finding dates and partners of all ages. Observationally, watching my single friends, it's the good looking men with great jobs that have a disproportionate amount of power in modern relationship dynamics. For every man who has it together, there are 20 wonderful, beautiful, smart, and kind women who really want to meet him. It's far easier for men these days. The competition for the good ones is fierce. I see it extending down all the way to the college level.

You are falsely assuming that young women who are looking for marriage and children value the same men that older divorced women who already have children do. It's not the same market. There is some overlap, but it's not entirely the same.

I know a late 40s acquaintance who is sleeping with a 20 something year old gym instructor. Were she younger and looking for marriage and children, she wouldn't go anywhere near him.

But she is looking for a good time with someone easy on the eyes. It works for both of them.

That's true. I have a 48 year old very attractive friend who does this. When she's in the mood, she just shows up at the pickle ball court or the college bar and goes home with whoever catches her eye. Women who want one night stands will always have an easier time of it. She certainly doesn't care about their professional prospects. She'd never date them, but that's not what she's looking for.

Does she actually have sex? Its rare for menopausal women to want to do it with me

Fixed it for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ultimately, it's a supply and demand issue. And the lack of quality men of all ages is warping the market. It's not just men in their 40s and 50s. It's that a lot of young men are checked out from life - professionally, socially, fitness-wise. So that men who do have it together, whether they are 25 or 45, have an incredibly easy time finding dates and partners of all ages. Observationally, watching my single friends, it's the good looking men with great jobs that have a disproportionate amount of power in modern relationship dynamics. For every man who has it together, there are 20 wonderful, beautiful, smart, and kind women who really want to meet him. It's far easier for men these days. The competition for the good ones is fierce. I see it extending down all the way to the college level.

You are falsely assuming that young women who are looking for marriage and children value the same men that older divorced women who already have children do. It's not the same market. There is some overlap, but it's not entirely the same.

I know a late 40s acquaintance who is sleeping with a 20 something year old gym instructor. Were she younger and looking for marriage and children, she wouldn't go anywhere near him.

But she is looking for a good time with someone easy on the eyes. It works for both of them.

That's true. I have a 48 year old very attractive friend who does this. When she's in the mood, she just shows up at the pickle ball court or the college bar and goes home with whoever catches her eye. Women who want one night stands will always have an easier time of it. She certainly doesn't care about their professional prospects. She'd never date them, but that's not what she's looking for.

Does she actually have sex? Its rare for menopausal women to want to do

Lol. Tell us what else you know about female anatomy and biology.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ultimately, it's a supply and demand issue. And the lack of quality men of all ages is warping the market. It's not just men in their 40s and 50s. It's that a lot of young men are checked out from life - professionally, socially, fitness-wise. So that men who do have it together, whether they are 25 or 45, have an incredibly easy time finding dates and partners of all ages. Observationally, watching my single friends, it's the good looking men with great jobs that have a disproportionate amount of power in modern relationship dynamics. For every man who has it together, there are 20 wonderful, beautiful, smart, and kind women who really want to meet him. It's far easier for men these days. The competition for the good ones is fierce. I see it extending down all the way to the college level.

You are falsely assuming that young women who are looking for marriage and children value the same men that older divorced women who already have children do. It's not the same market. There is some overlap, but it's not entirely the same.

I know a late 40s acquaintance who is sleeping with a 20 something year old gym instructor. Were she younger and looking for marriage and children, she wouldn't go anywhere near him.

But she is looking for a good time with someone easy on the eyes. It works for both of them.

That's true. I have a 48 year old very attractive friend who does this. When she's in the mood, she just shows up at the pickle ball court or the college bar and goes home with whoever catches her eye. Women who want one night stands will always have an easier time of it. She certainly doesn't care about their professional prospects. She'd never date them, but that's not what she's looking for.

Does she actually have sex? Its rare for menopausal women to want to do

Oh, sweetie. No.

[Anonymous]

40s. widowed for 15+yrs. never remarried. single dad of two teens/almost adults.

I've been OLDing for 13+yrs with no intent to remarry (always upfront about that) as being a single dad to couple of toddlers was my biggest priority for over a decade.

When I was in my mid-late 30s I dated 20s-30s.

Now approaching 50 I still date the same age range.

I've tried to and honestly had scores (maybe hundreds) of first dates with 40+ women but 99% are just unattractive. even if they have work done and keep a gym rat toned body. they will never compare to 20s to early 30s.

I think a women's beauty and sexual worth falls off a HUGE cliff by mid-late 30s and no amount of botox can fix it.

someone pointed out JLO and Shakira but even those top 0.01% hot 40+ women can't keep their men interested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:40s. widowed for 15+yrs. never remarried. single dad of two teens/almost adults.

I've been OLDing for 13+yrs with no intent to remarry (always upfront about that) as being a single dad to couple of toddlers was my biggest priority for over a decade.

When I was in my mid-late 30s I dated 20s-30s.

Now approaching 50 I still date the same age range.

I've tried to and honestly had scores (maybe hundreds) of first dates with 40+ women but 99% are just unattractive. even if they have work done and keep a gym rat toned body. they will never compare to 20s to early 30s.

I think a women's beauty and sexual worth falls off a HUGE cliff by mid-late 30s and no amount of botox can fix it.

someone pointed out JLO and Shakira but even those top 0.01% hot 40+ women can't keep their men interested.

add: and having been OLD'ing for over a decade I agree with the posted above who stated all that is required to have late 20s/30s attractive women super interested is to be normal, nice and presentable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ultimately, it's a supply and demand issue. And the lack of quality men of all ages is warping the market. It's not just men in their 40s and 50s. It's that a lot of young men are checked out from life - professionally, socially, fitness-wise. So that men who do have it together, whether they are 25 or 45, have an incredibly easy time finding dates and partners of all ages. Observationally, watching my single friends, it's the good looking men with great jobs that have a disproportionate amount of power in modern relationship dynamics. For every man who has it together, there are 20 wonderful, beautiful, smart, and kind women who really want to meet him. It's far easier for men these days. The competition for the good ones is fierce. I see it extending down all the way to the college level.

You are falsely assuming that young women who are looking for marriage and children value the same men that older divorced women who already have children do. It's not the same market. There is some overlap, but it's not entirely the same.

I know a late 40s acquaintance who is sleeping with a 20 something year old gym instructor. Were she younger and looking for marriage and children, she wouldn't go anywhere near him.

But she is looking for a good time with someone easy on the eyes. It works for both of them.

That's true. I have a 48 year old very attractive friend who does this. When she's in the mood, she just shows up at the pickle ball court or the college bar and goes home with whoever catches her eye. Women who want one night stands will always have an easier time of it. She certainly doesn't care about their professional prospects. She'd never date them, but that's not what she's looking for.

Does she actually have sex? Its rare for menopausal women to want to do

Thats a wild statement dude lol. My wife just turned 60. She still enjoys sex. She has some dryness and sometimes I hurt but that's okay. While we men don't go through menopause we have our challenges that make sex challenging as well at this age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:40s. widowed for 15+yrs. never remarried. single dad of two teens/almost adults.

I've been OLDing for 13+yrs with no intent to remarry (always upfront about that) as being a single dad to couple of toddlers was my biggest priority for over a decade.

When I was in my mid-late 30s I dated 20s-30s.

Now approaching 50 I still date the same age range.

I've tried to and honestly had scores (maybe hundreds) of first dates with 40+ women but 99% are just unattractive. even if they have work done and keep a gym rat toned body. they will never compare to 20s to early 30s.

I think a women's beauty and sexual worth falls off a HUGE cliff by mid-late 30s and no amount of botox can fix it.

someone pointed out JLO and Shakira but even those top 0.01% hot 40+ women can't keep their men interested.

They date you because they want your materials and you spend $ on them.

Your 50 year old body and wrinkles cannot be fixed either. You can’t compare to any man in his lates 20s either though? Women see this? lol you think we don’t have eyes. Men are truly delusional.

Another one with time to tell us women are old but he’s not lol.

[Anonymous]

Both men and women are delusional. They both overvalue themselves. Nothing new folks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women in their 40s generally look way better than men in their 40s these days. I'm 30 and the 30-40 year old men on apps have been very rough looking, meanwhile the women I see on there are beautiful and still have a youthful look, usually more fit too. (I'm bi). I've dated older men and they are less likely to be feminists as well, which is what many women want.

Yea, this is far closer to the truth than the bro above. I think pretty single unburdened women of all ages get scooped out within weeks on the apps and ugly hateful guys are left as wallets and sperm donors to bank single pretty moms in their 30s to help raising her kids in exchange for her P… until kids are grown and she kicks him out.

That's so laughable that it is actually funny. Women in their 40s are like used cars. I would rather drive a brand new 2024 Lexus over a 2005 model.

Here is the deal, Einstein: Most people would rather drive a brand new car. Most cannot afford it, unfortunately.

Many 20 - early 30 something year old women want children, marriage etc. These terms are a very high price for a man in his 50s. Are you going to start all over just so you can have a new model? In most cases like this, the joke is on you!

In contrast, while many 20 something to 30 something year old men might be looking for marriage, many of them will be happy for a short term to medium term sexual relationship with an older woman who has no interest in marriage and kids.

So older women can afford a new model, and you can't.

As a 29 years old male who was a former D1 athlete with an MBA from University of Virginia, I have so many options for hooking up with women in their 20s. There is no need for me to hook up with leftover 40's women. Only guys without options (e.g. low value) hookup with 40's women.

Following the same logics, the women in their 20s who are a catch won’t be dating 40+ divorced leftover men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:40s. widowed for 15+yrs. never remarried. single dad of two teens/almost adults.

I've been OLDing for 13+yrs with no intent to remarry (always upfront about that) as being a single dad to couple of toddlers was my biggest priority for over a decade.

When I was in my mid-late 30s I dated 20s-30s.

Now approaching 50 I still date the same age range.

I've tried to and honestly had scores (maybe hundreds) of first dates with 40+ women but 99% are just unattractive. even if they have work done and keep a gym rat toned body. they will never compare to 20s to early 30s.

I think a women's beauty and sexual worth falls off a HUGE cliff by mid-late 30s and no amount of botox can fix it.

someone pointed out JLO and Shakira but even those top 0.01% hot 40+ women can't keep their men interested.

curious I am recently divorced and will join OLD soon. I am 46. I wouldn't mind dating a 30 years old. But waht would a 30 years do with a 46 years old divorced man with kids that is available to her only 2 days a week max??

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ultimately, it's a supply and demand issue. And the lack of quality men of all ages is warping the market. It's not just men in their 40s and 50s. It's that a lot of young men are checked out from life - professionally, socially, fitness-wise. So that men who do have it together, whether they are 25 or 45, have an incredibly easy time finding dates and partners of all ages. Observationally, watching my single friends, it's the good looking men with great jobs that have a disproportionate amount of power in modern relationship dynamics. For every man who has it together, there are 20 wonderful, beautiful, smart, and kind women who really want to meet him. It's far easier for men these days. The competition for the good ones is fierce. I see it extending down all the way to the college level.

You are falsely assuming that young women who are looking for marriage and children value the same men that older divorced women who already have children do. It's not the same market. There is some overlap, but it's not entirely the same.

I know a late 40s acquaintance who is sleeping with a 20 something year old gym instructor. Were she younger and looking for marriage and children, she wouldn't go anywhere near him.

But she is looking for a good time with someone easy on the eyes. It works for both of them.

That's true. I have a 48 year old very attractive friend who does this. When she's in the mood, she just shows up at the pickle ball court or the college bar and goes home with whoever catches her eye. Women who want one night stands will always have an easier time of it. She certainly doesn't care about their professional prospects. She'd never date them, but that's not what she's looking for.

Does she actually have sex? Its rare for menopausal women to want to do it with me

Fixed it for you.

OMG - This freakin’ made my day!

Signed,
50 year old woman who is super horny