Who Is Most Out Of Bounds Here?

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Anonymous wrote:"She has called my a dozen times and left horribly unkind VMs accusing me of 'sabotaging' her marriage. I replied with a text once stating take it up with Dave and do not contact me again. Then I blocked her."

Why is the wife saying OP is sabotaging her marriage? Just because it happened to be your post both of them were fighting on? What a misplaced reaction. Maybe she should talk to her shitty husband...

Well, if it's all the truth then it's fair. This group loves misplaced reactions. Nobody has any room to judge another here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"his vicious temper"
Omg lol. Outing a cheater is now a vicious temper. Anything to deflect blame off the cheater himself!! Amazing!

Ask OP how nice of a guy her DH is. This can't be the first time he's gone ballistic. If he cared about the right thing he would have dumped Dave and told his wife all about him. He's not that guy.

Nice guy? Who cares?

I want a guy who stands up against bullies not a “nice guy”.

Maybe you think lemmings are better but I don’t. I want somebody who is strong and doesn’t standby. Abuse.

Ha so you're ok with a an aggressive loser who treats you like garbage as long as he's ready to fight with bullies? Gee, what standards you have.

Nobody would ever treat me like garbage because I would leave them in the desk and I would blow them up on the way out the way DH Did with Dave.

I will love forever, a person that stands up against hatred. Just like that show What would you do?

I love the people that stand up to hateful people, but I can’t stand the people that just let it happen

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dave’s remark was outrageous, but your DH was even more out of bounds. He should have called Dave out for being an inappropriate pig, ideally offline, not blown up his marriage. Serious over escalation.

Dave said something rude and untrue.

DH said the truth.

Dh didn’t care to tell the truth until Dave hinted at his daughter being overweight. So cheating on your wife is fine until he feels insulted. Something is seriously wrong with that man, sorry.

He cared but he did say anything. Dave changed the rules when he said the inside thought publicly and DH thought oh okay we are just laying everything on the table. Let’s go.

Agreed. You don't insult peoples children. Especially a "friends" child.

No one is saying Dave isn't an arse. Of course what he did was wrong. But it doesn't justify OP's husband's behavior. You people act like someone doing something wrong opens the doors for any kind of response and that's not how it works. Or maybe it does in your worlds, which is unfortunate.

"You people"? You mean people who aren't sad a cheater got outed and think the full blame lies with him and his own actions?

What does that make you? Someone who would rather shoot the messenger than lay the blame on the actual person who wronged his family?

If he actually cared about the wife he would have told her when it first happened. He doesn't care about her or the kids. At all.

Exactly. They are cut from the same cloth. I feel bad for the innocent people in this situation.

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Anonymous wrote:Dave’s remark was outrageous, but your DH was even more out of bounds. He should have called Dave out for being an inappropriate pig, ideally offline, not blown up his marriage. Serious over escalation.

Dave said something rude and untrue.

DH said the truth.

Just because something is true doesn't mean it needs to be publicly broadcast.

True but not saying it is not right and saying it wrong.

DH was neither right nor wrong he just said a true statement aloud.

But trying to fat shame a child is categorically wrong

But ... saying somebody is fat is neither right nor wrong either. Rude, yes. Wrong, no.

Yes it is wrong and the fact you don’t know that says a lot about why you are defending a cheater.

He said she would like the food. That's it. The DH had a completely outsized response. I'm sure OP has seen plenty of his vicious temper before.

You said, saying somebody’s fat is neither right or wrong.

Now I get it you’re gonna walk that back.

The fact is Dave called her fat by saying looks like she’s gonna like the food.

I’m not sure why you’re defending Dave. Maybe you’re an ass too. Maybe you just want to think there’s a world where people let you go around being an ass nobody’s gonna call you out.

Here’s the thing I don’t care if my kids punch up to defend victim, That doesn’t mean, I really love violence. But sometimes people get what they deserve.

I wasn't that PP. There is more than one person disagreeing with you. But fact is Dave didn't say she was fat.

The fact is Dave did call her fat

How can that be true when those weren't his words. Do you know what a fact is?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"She has called my a dozen times and left horribly unkind VMs accusing me of 'sabotaging' her marriage. I replied with a text once stating take it up with Dave and do not contact me again. Then I blocked her."

Why is the wife saying OP is sabotaging her marriage? Just because it happened to be your post both of them were fighting on? What a misplaced reaction. Maybe she should talk to her shitty husband...

Well, if it's all the truth then it's fair. This group loves misplaced reactions. Nobody has any room to judge another here.

I'm not sure I understand the bolded. Which part is fair? That wife is blaming OP for the destruction of her marriage?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"his vicious temper"
Omg lol. Outing a cheater is now a vicious temper. Anything to deflect blame off the cheater himself!! Amazing!

Ask OP how nice of a guy her DH is. This can't be the first time he's gone ballistic. If he cared about the right thing he would have dumped Dave and told his wife all about him. He's not that guy.

Nice guy? Who cares?

I want a guy who stands up against bullies not a “nice guy”.

Maybe you think lemmings are better but I don’t. I want somebody who is strong and doesn’t standby. Abuse.

Ha so you're ok with a an aggressive loser who treats you like garbage as long as he's ready to fight with bullies? Gee, what standards you have.

Nobody would ever treat me like garbage because I would leave them in the desk and I would blow them up on the way out the way DH Did with Dave.

I will love forever, a person that stands up against hatred. Just like that show What would you do?

I love the people that stand up to hateful people, but I can’t stand the people that just let it happen

So you would be ok married to a guy who was friends with cheaters? Yuck. OPs guy is like that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dave’s remark was outrageous, but your DH was even more out of bounds. He should have called Dave out for being an inappropriate pig, ideally offline, not blown up his marriage. Serious over escalation.

Dave said something rude and untrue.

DH said the truth.

Just because something is true doesn't mean it needs to be publicly broadcast.

True but not saying it is not right and saying it wrong.

DH was neither right nor wrong he just said a true statement aloud.

But trying to fat shame a child is categorically wrong

But ... saying somebody is fat is neither right nor wrong either. Rude, yes. Wrong, no.

Yes it is wrong and the fact you don’t know that says a lot about why you are defending a cheater.

He said she would like the food. That's it. The DH had a completely outsized response. I'm sure OP has seen plenty of his vicious temper before.

You said, saying somebody’s fat is neither right or wrong.

Now I get it you’re gonna walk that back.

The fact is Dave called her fat by saying looks like she’s gonna like the food.

I’m not sure why you’re defending Dave. Maybe you’re an ass too. Maybe you just want to think there’s a world where people let you go around being an ass nobody’s gonna call you out.

Here’s the thing I don’t care if my kids punch up to defend victim, That doesn’t mean, I really love violence. But sometimes people get what they deserve.

I wasn't that PP. There is more than one person disagreeing with you. But fact is Dave didn't say she was fat.

The fact is Dave did call her fat

How can that be true when those weren't his words. Do you know what a fact is?

Yes I know what the facts are.

You don’t have to say the word fat to mean fat,

Is English your 2nd language?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"his vicious temper"
Omg lol. Outing a cheater is now a vicious temper. Anything to deflect blame off the cheater himself!! Amazing!

Cheaters are wild.

And here’s the thing about cheaters their mind is so effing demented. They actually don’t see how messed up they are

And yet the DH was friends with him for years and years. He was obviously ok with it.

Nice try cheater.

Many of us know cheaters we can’t just push them all out of our lives. Neighbors, friends, husbands, friends, wives, brother-in-law’s.., We can’t dump every single solitary cheater out there

So you choose to be complicit in their behavior because you need them in your life. But somehow have the never to come here and call everyone who disagrees with you a cheater. Why can’t you push cheaters out? Is it because you are ok with their behavior?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"She has called my a dozen times and left horribly unkind VMs accusing me of 'sabotaging' her marriage. I replied with a text once stating take it up with Dave and do not contact me again. Then I blocked her."

Why is the wife saying OP is sabotaging her marriage? Just because it happened to be your post both of them were fighting on? What a misplaced reaction. Maybe she should talk to her shitty husband...

Well, if it's all the truth then it's fair. This group loves misplaced reactions. Nobody has any room to judge another here.

I'm not sure I understand the bolded. Which part is fair? That wife is blaming OP for the destruction of her marriage?

Yep. Airing the private business in public is beyond the pale. OP got what she deserved because of how her husband went about it. He showed zero compassion for the wife, an innocent party. What a douche canoe.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:"his vicious temper"
Omg lol. Outing a cheater is now a vicious temper. Anything to deflect blame off the cheater himself!! Amazing!

Ask OP how nice of a guy her DH is. This can't be the first time he's gone ballistic. If he cared about the right thing he would have dumped Dave and told his wife all about him. He's not that guy.

Nice guy? Who cares?

I want a guy who stands up against bullies not a “nice guy”.

Maybe you think lemmings are better but I don’t. I want somebody who is strong and doesn’t standby. Abuse.

Ha so you're ok with a an aggressive loser who treats you like garbage as long as he's ready to fight with bullies? Gee, what standards you have.

Nobody would ever treat me like garbage because I would leave them in the desk and I would blow them up on the way out the way DH Did with Dave.

I will love forever, a person that stands up against hatred. Just like that show What would you do?

I love the people that stand up to hateful people, but I can’t stand the people that just let it happen

So you would be ok married to a guy who was friends with cheaters? Yuck. OPs guy is like that.

Of course.

My H is friends with cheaters, so am I. They all eventually get caught and blow up their families.

If you’re not friends with cheaters, then you just don’t know that they’re cheating. Which means you are friends with cheaters you’re just in the dark.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dave’s remark was outrageous, but your DH was even more out of bounds. He should have called Dave out for being an inappropriate pig, ideally offline, not blown up his marriage. Serious over escalation.

Dave said something rude and untrue.

DH said the truth.

Just because something is true doesn't mean it needs to be publicly broadcast.

True but not saying it is not right and saying it wrong.

DH was neither right nor wrong he just said a true statement aloud.

But trying to fat shame a child is categorically wrong

But ... saying somebody is fat is neither right nor wrong either. Rude, yes. Wrong, no.

Yes it is wrong and the fact you don’t know that says a lot about why you are defending a cheater.

He said she would like the food. That's it. The DH had a completely outsized response. I'm sure OP has seen plenty of his vicious temper before.

You said, saying somebody’s fat is neither right or wrong.

Now I get it you’re gonna walk that back.

The fact is Dave called her fat by saying looks like she’s gonna like the food.

I’m not sure why you’re defending Dave. Maybe you’re an ass too. Maybe you just want to think there’s a world where people let you go around being an ass nobody’s gonna call you out.

Here’s the thing I don’t care if my kids punch up to defend victim, That doesn’t mean, I really love violence. But sometimes people get what they deserve.

I wasn't that PP. There is more than one person disagreeing with you. But fact is Dave didn't say she was fat.

The fact is Dave did call her fat

How can that be true when those weren't his words. Do you know what a fact is?

+1 I am going on vacation and my friend said that I will love the food at my destination. Is she saying that I am fat? (Btw I am size 0.)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"his vicious temper"
Omg lol. Outing a cheater is now a vicious temper. Anything to deflect blame off the cheater himself!! Amazing!

Ask OP how nice of a guy her DH is. This can't be the first time he's gone ballistic. If he cared about the right thing he would have dumped Dave and told his wife all about him. He's not that guy.

Nice guy? Who cares?

I want a guy who stands up against bullies not a “nice guy”.

Maybe you think lemmings are better but I don’t. I want somebody who is strong and doesn’t standby. Abuse.

Ha so you're ok with a an aggressive loser who treats you like garbage as long as he's ready to fight with bullies? Gee, what standards you have.

Nobody would ever treat me like garbage because I would leave them in the desk and I would blow them up on the way out the way DH Did with Dave.

I will love forever, a person that stands up against hatred. Just like that show What would you do?

I love the people that stand up to hateful people, but I can’t stand the people that just let it happen

So you would be ok married to a guy who was friends with cheaters? Yuck. OPs guy is like that.

Of course.

My H is friends with cheaters, so am I. They all eventually get caught and blow up their families.

If you’re not friends with cheaters, then you just don’t know that they’re cheating. Which means you are friends with cheaters you’re just in the dark.

But DH knew and was ok with keeping the silence

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"his vicious temper"
Omg lol. Outing a cheater is now a vicious temper. Anything to deflect blame off the cheater himself!! Amazing!

Cheaters are wild.

And here’s the thing about cheaters their mind is so effing demented. They actually don’t see how messed up they are

And yet the DH was friends with him for years and years. He was obviously ok with it.

Nice try cheater.

Many of us know cheaters we can’t just push them all out of our lives. Neighbors, friends, husbands, friends, wives, brother-in-law’s.., We can’t dump every single solitary cheater out there

So you choose to be complicit in their behavior because you need them in your life. But somehow have the never to come here and call everyone who disagrees with you a cheater. Why can’t you push cheaters out? Is it because you are ok with their behavior?

Because some of them are related to me. Because some of them are having mental health breakdowns, and I’m trying to help them through it. Because I’m a compassionate person. I’m friends with addicts too. I’m friends with with somebody who has been in jail.

Your friends with people that commit crimes you just don’t know it. They’re probably probably white collar crimes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dave’s remark was outrageous, but your DH was even more out of bounds. He should have called Dave out for being an inappropriate pig, ideally offline, not blown up his marriage. Serious over escalation.

Dave said something rude and untrue.

DH said the truth.

Just because something is true doesn't mean it needs to be publicly broadcast.

True but not saying it is not right and saying it wrong.

DH was neither right nor wrong he just said a true statement aloud.

But trying to fat shame a child is categorically wrong

But ... saying somebody is fat is neither right nor wrong either. Rude, yes. Wrong, no.

Yes it is wrong and the fact you don’t know that says a lot about why you are defending a cheater.

He said she would like the food. That's it. The DH had a completely outsized response. I'm sure OP has seen plenty of his vicious temper before.

You said, saying somebody’s fat is neither right or wrong.

Now I get it you’re gonna walk that back.

The fact is Dave called her fat by saying looks like she’s gonna like the food.

I’m not sure why you’re defending Dave. Maybe you’re an ass too. Maybe you just want to think there’s a world where people let you go around being an ass nobody’s gonna call you out.

Here’s the thing I don’t care if my kids punch up to defend victim, That doesn’t mean, I really love violence. But sometimes people get what they deserve.

I wasn't that PP. There is more than one person disagreeing with you. But fact is Dave didn't say she was fat.

The fact is Dave did call her fat

How can that be true when those weren't his words. Do you know what a fact is?

+1 I am going on vacation and my friend said that I will love the food at my destination. Is she saying that I am fat? (Btw I am size 0.)

If you are a self proclaimed foodie are you calling yourself fat?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"his vicious temper"
Omg lol. Outing a cheater is now a vicious temper. Anything to deflect blame off the cheater himself!! Amazing!

Ask OP how nice of a guy her DH is. This can't be the first time he's gone ballistic. If he cared about the right thing he would have dumped Dave and told his wife all about him. He's not that guy.

Nice guy? Who cares?

I want a guy who stands up against bullies not a “nice guy”.

Maybe you think lemmings are better but I don’t. I want somebody who is strong and doesn’t standby. Abuse.

Ha so you're ok with a an aggressive loser who treats you like garbage as long as he's ready to fight with bullies? Gee, what standards you have.

Nobody would ever treat me like garbage because I would leave them in the desk and I would blow them up on the way out the way DH Did with Dave.

I will love forever, a person that stands up against hatred. Just like that show What would you do?

I love the people that stand up to hateful people, but I can’t stand the people that just let it happen

So you would be ok married to a guy who was friends with cheaters? Yuck. OPs guy is like that.

Of course.

My H is friends with cheaters, so am I. They all eventually get caught and blow up their families.

If you’re not friends with cheaters, then you just don’t know that they’re cheating. Which means you are friends with cheaters you’re just in the dark.

That's fine if I don't know. But knowing and choosing to ignore it, is inexcusable. You are mired in the mud with them.