How not to feel bad when other families go on a trip every break

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Anonymous wrote:We travel quite a bit, I wouldn’t say a lot, because we have one easy tween and we all enjoy it.
What we don’t have is Stanley Cups and apple AirPods. Most of her peers at her Christian private do. I don’t feel bad. I choose not to spend my money on stuff like that.
Spending is about making choices. Don’t feel bad for the ones you make for you family.

Agree. We go on amazing trips (think: safaris, Galapagos, French Polynesia, those kinds of places). But we choose to drive cars that are more than ten years old, we shop (rarely) for clothes at Marshall’s, etc. We live very frugally. Some of these PPs are using latest model iPhones, driving new cars, and shopping at Nordstrom but then they get all mad when you tell them about your amazing trips. Life is about priorities and my family prioritizes expensive travel.

Please step out of your bubble. As someone who also prioritizes travel l, I can tell you that a lot of these families do not have the latest iPhone, drive new cars, etc. and they can still not afford to travel. So please don’t think that the secret to travel is to prioritize it.

This is PP. I know I am privileged. I grew up poor (which is why I still live frugally). I am not living in a bubble. I work hard for my money and I will spend it as I please.

No one cares.

PP here. Apparently OP cares about my fantastic trips!

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Anonymous wrote:We travel quite a bit, I wouldn’t say a lot, because we have one easy tween and we all enjoy it.
What we don’t have is Stanley Cups and apple AirPods. Most of her peers at her Christian private do. I don’t feel bad. I choose not to spend my money on stuff like that.
Spending is about making choices. Don’t feel bad for the ones you make for you family.

Agree. We go on amazing trips (think: safaris, Galapagos, French Polynesia, those kinds of places). But we choose to drive cars that are more than ten years old, we shop (rarely) for clothes at Marshall’s, etc. We live very frugally. Some of these PPs are using latest model iPhones, driving new cars, and shopping at Nordstrom but then they get all mad when you tell them about your amazing trips. Life is about priorities and my family prioritizes expensive travel.

Please step out of your bubble. As someone who also prioritizes travel l, I can tell you that a lot of these families do not have the latest iPhone, drive new cars, etc. and they can still not afford to travel. So please don’t think that the secret to travel is to prioritize it.

It is, though, for many in this area.

My daughter has known from three that I won’t spend money on little things so I can take her on great trips. So our water bottles come with us and we don’t get drinks and snacks when we’re out, we don’t buy much new clothes (shoes, underwear, bathing suits, everything else is hand me downs, second hand, or shopped deals in advance) my car is ten years old and runs great so I’m not trading up just to have a new one. We have an iPad mini from 2016 and it’s my kids only movie-watching device.

There are plenty of people at the same level of income (I’m a fed we know everyone’s salary…) who have to have a new car every five years and dress their kids in Boden, and then are sad when they “can’t afford” to travel. I’m not saying that’s OP, just that it’s a not-uncommon phenomenon.

Oh come on. You can buy AirPods and Stanley cups for everyone in your family and get a new 65” TV for $1,000 total.
You cannot say that this is the reason you can afford a $5,000 trip to the Galápagos Islands for spring break.

I notice you leave off the new cars ($35,000) and expensive wardrobes ($1,000x person, 4 person family) which absolutely do add up to a $5,000 Galapagos trip.

Lol at these numbers - “Regular” new cars are running $50k+ these days and $1k per person wardrobe is not buying much if you’re working in person in a corporate office or have a kid in an extracurricular like dance. And good luck with that trip to the Galapagos for only $5k.

DP here. A feasibly equipped Hyundai Tucson or Honda CRV is mid 30’s. A loaded 3 row SUV is not a “regular” new car. And I certainly don’t spend $1k/year on new clothes for anyone in the family. Maybe all four of us together!

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Anonymous wrote:We travel quite a bit, I wouldn’t say a lot, because we have one easy tween and we all enjoy it.
What we don’t have is Stanley Cups and apple AirPods. Most of her peers at her Christian private do. I don’t feel bad. I choose not to spend my money on stuff like that.
Spending is about making choices. Don’t feel bad for the ones you make for you family.

Agree. We go on amazing trips (think: safaris, Galapagos, French Polynesia, those kinds of places). But we choose to drive cars that are more than ten years old, we shop (rarely) for clothes at Marshall’s, etc. We live very frugally. Some of these PPs are using latest model iPhones, driving new cars, and shopping at Nordstrom but then they get all mad when you tell them about your amazing trips. Life is about priorities and my family prioritizes expensive travel.

Please step out of your bubble. As someone who also prioritizes travel l, I can tell you that a lot of these families do not have the latest iPhone, drive new cars, etc. and they can still not afford to travel. So please don’t think that the secret to travel is to prioritize it.

It is, though, for many in this area.

My daughter has known from three that I won’t spend money on little things so I can take her on great trips. So our water bottles come with us and we don’t get drinks and snacks when we’re out, we don’t buy much new clothes (shoes, underwear, bathing suits, everything else is hand me downs, second hand, or shopped deals in advance) my car is ten years old and runs great so I’m not trading up just to have a new one. We have an iPad mini from 2016 and it’s my kids only movie-watching device.

There are plenty of people at the same level of income (I’m a fed we know everyone’s salary…) who have to have a new car every five years and dress their kids in Boden, and then are sad when they “can’t afford” to travel. I’m not saying that’s OP, just that it’s a not-uncommon phenomenon.

Oh come on. You can buy AirPods and Stanley cups for everyone in your family and get a new 65” TV for $1,000 total.
You cannot say that this is the reason you can afford a $5,000 trip to the Galápagos Islands for spring break.

I notice you leave off the new cars ($35,000) and expensive wardrobes ($1,000x person, 4 person family) which absolutely do add up to a $5,000 Galapagos trip.

Lol at these numbers - “Regular” new cars are running $50k+ these days and $1k per person wardrobe is not buying much if you’re working in person in a corporate office or have a kid in an extracurricular like dance. And good luck with that trip to the Galapagos for only $5k.

I am not sure exactly how much we spend on clothes per kid but it is probably around 1k per kid. I always thought we were casual. We dress very casual and comfortable.

We just spent 30k+ on spring break.

Well you’re obviously wealthier than the people the PPs are talking about. We probably spend $5-10k on a vacation once per year and that feels like a splurge.

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Anonymous wrote:We travel quite a bit, I wouldn’t say a lot, because we have one easy tween and we all enjoy it.
What we don’t have is Stanley Cups and apple AirPods. Most of her peers at her Christian private do. I don’t feel bad. I choose not to spend my money on stuff like that.
Spending is about making choices. Don’t feel bad for the ones you make for you family.

Is this really a good trade-off for your tween, though?
My mom was like this. She grew up poor, was in 4H, and made most of her own clothes. Then she went to medical school, married my dad who went to law school, and sent us all to UMC public school. My mom thought that in-season clothes and accessories were beyond ridiculous and money was better spent on other things. The thing is, that’s really the only time in your life it really matters. When I was 14, 15, 16, I would have given up almost anything to look like the other kids and wear the kinds of clothes that the other kids had.

Especially if you are 13-16 at a private school (Christian private included), it's much more important to fit in and have certain things than it is to travel..

Again, fashion and “fitting in” is your priority. My family prioritizes awesome trips and we just.don’t.care about fashion and what’s considered “in”.

Sure. We all believe that you middle schooler cares more about going on trips with her parents than fitting in with her peers at school.

If you are sending your child to a private school, why don’t you send her to one that’s more in line with your values and where you don’t need the latest product to fit in?

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Anonymous wrote:We travel quite a bit, I wouldn’t say a lot, because we have one easy tween and we all enjoy it.
What we don’t have is Stanley Cups and apple AirPods. Most of her peers at her Christian private do. I don’t feel bad. I choose not to spend my money on stuff like that.
Spending is about making choices. Don’t feel bad for the ones you make for you family.

Agree. We go on amazing trips (think: safaris, Galapagos, French Polynesia, those kinds of places). But we choose to drive cars that are more than ten years old, we shop (rarely) for clothes at Marshall’s, etc. We live very frugally. Some of these PPs are using latest model iPhones, driving new cars, and shopping at Nordstrom but then they get all mad when you tell them about your amazing trips. Life is about priorities and my family prioritizes expensive travel.

Please step out of your bubble. As someone who also prioritizes travel l, I can tell you that a lot of these families do not have the latest iPhone, drive new cars, etc. and they can still not afford to travel. So please don’t think that the secret to travel is to prioritize it.

It is, though, for many in this area.

My daughter has known from three that I won’t spend money on little things so I can take her on great trips. So our water bottles come with us and we don’t get drinks and snacks when we’re out, we don’t buy much new clothes (shoes, underwear, bathing suits, everything else is hand me downs, second hand, or shopped deals in advance) my car is ten years old and runs great so I’m not trading up just to have a new one. We have an iPad mini from 2016 and it’s my kids only movie-watching device.

There are plenty of people at the same level of income (I’m a fed we know everyone’s salary…) who have to have a new car every five years and dress their kids in Boden, and then are sad when they “can’t afford” to travel. I’m not saying that’s OP, just that it’s a not-uncommon phenomenon.

Oh come on. You can buy AirPods and Stanley cups for everyone in your family and get a new 65” TV for $1,000 total.
You cannot say that this is the reason you can afford a $5,000 trip to the Galápagos Islands for spring break.

I notice you leave off the new cars ($35,000) and expensive wardrobes ($1,000x person, 4 person family) which absolutely do add up to a $5,000 Galapagos trip.

Lol at these numbers - “Regular” new cars are running $50k+ these days and $1k per person wardrobe is not buying much if you’re working in person in a corporate office or have a kid in an extracurricular like dance. And good luck with that trip to the Galapagos for only $5k.

I am not sure exactly how much we spend on clothes per kid but it is probably around 1k per kid. I always thought we were casual. We dress very casual and comfortable.

We just spent 30k+ on spring break.

Well you’re obviously wealthier than the people the PPs are talking about. We probably spend $5-10k on a vacation once per year and that feels like a splurge.

I think this is who PP’s are talking about. I doubt the OP is jealous of people who drive beater cars and buy all of their clothes second hand in order to afford going to OBX for a week in the summer.

I mean, that’s a totally valid choice, but it’s not the subject of the thread. And the people saying that they can afford to spend $50k on multiple vacations every year by driving cars for three extra years and not buying Boden are full of doody.

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Anonymous wrote:We travel quite a bit, I wouldn’t say a lot, because we have one easy tween and we all enjoy it.
What we don’t have is Stanley Cups and apple AirPods. Most of her peers at her Christian private do. I don’t feel bad. I choose not to spend my money on stuff like that.
Spending is about making choices. Don’t feel bad for the ones you make for you family.

Is this really a good trade-off for your tween, though?
My mom was like this. She grew up poor, was in 4H, and made most of her own clothes. Then she went to medical school, married my dad who went to law school, and sent us all to UMC public school. My mom thought that in-season clothes and accessories were beyond ridiculous and money was better spent on other things. The thing is, that’s really the only time in your life it really matters. When I was 14, 15, 16, I would have given up almost anything to look like the other kids and wear the kinds of clothes that the other kids had.

Especially if you are 13-16 at a private school (Christian private included), it's much more important to fit in and have certain things than it is to travel..

Again, fashion and “fitting in” is your priority. My family prioritizes awesome trips and we just.don’t.care about fashion and what’s considered “in”.

Sure. We all believe that you middle schooler cares more about going on trips with her parents than fitting in with her peers at school.

If you are sending your child to a private school, why don’t you send her to one that’s more in line with your values and where you don’t need the latest product to fit in?

Maybe her peers are actually being raised with better values than you realize, and she fits in just fine? I’m a DP but I think the hypermaterialism is not universal.

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Anonymous wrote:We travel quite a bit, I wouldn’t say a lot, because we have one easy tween and we all enjoy it.
What we don’t have is Stanley Cups and apple AirPods. Most of her peers at her Christian private do. I don’t feel bad. I choose not to spend my money on stuff like that.
Spending is about making choices. Don’t feel bad for the ones you make for you family.

Is this really a good trade-off for your tween, though?
My mom was like this. She grew up poor, was in 4H, and made most of her own clothes. Then she went to medical school, married my dad who went to law school, and sent us all to UMC public school. My mom thought that in-season clothes and accessories were beyond ridiculous and money was better spent on other things. The thing is, that’s really the only time in your life it really matters. When I was 14, 15, 16, I would have given up almost anything to look like the other kids and wear the kinds of clothes that the other kids had.

Especially if you are 13-16 at a private school (Christian private included), it's much more important to fit in and have certain things than it is to travel..

Again, fashion and “fitting in” is your priority. My family prioritizes awesome trips and we just.don’t.care about fashion and what’s considered “in”.

Sure. We all believe that you middle schooler cares more about going on trips with her parents than fitting in with her peers at school.

If you are sending your child to a private school, why don’t you send her to one that’s more in line with your values and where you don’t need the latest product to fit in?

Maybe her peers are actually being raised with better values than you realize, and she fits in just fine? I’m a DP but I think the hypermaterialism is not universal.

This started with the pp saying that most of her daughter’s peers had Stanley cups and AirPods.

My kids go to a school where no one has any of these things. That’s how I know schools like that exist. I have three teenagers and I thought a Stanley Cup was a golf tournament until yesterday.

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I also don’t know that valuing travel is necessarily a better value than valuing fashion or whatever. It’s fine, but there isn’t anything inherently more valuable about it.

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Anonymous wrote:We travel quite a bit, I wouldn’t say a lot, because we have one easy tween and we all enjoy it.
What we don’t have is Stanley Cups and apple AirPods. Most of her peers at her Christian private do. I don’t feel bad. I choose not to spend my money on stuff like that.
Spending is about making choices. Don’t feel bad for the ones you make for you family.

Agree. We go on amazing trips (think: safaris, Galapagos, French Polynesia, those kinds of places). But we choose to drive cars that are more than ten years old, we shop (rarely) for clothes at Marshall’s, etc. We live very frugally. Some of these PPs are using latest model iPhones, driving new cars, and shopping at Nordstrom but then they get all mad when you tell them about your amazing trips. Life is about priorities and my family prioritizes expensive travel.

Please step out of your bubble. As someone who also prioritizes travel l, I can tell you that a lot of these families do not have the latest iPhone, drive new cars, etc. and they can still not afford to travel. So please don’t think that the secret to travel is to prioritize it.

It is, though, for many in this area.

My daughter has known from three that I won’t spend money on little things so I can take her on great trips. So our water bottles come with us and we don’t get drinks and snacks when we’re out, we don’t buy much new clothes (shoes, underwear, bathing suits, everything else is hand me downs, second hand, or shopped deals in advance) my car is ten years old and runs great so I’m not trading up just to have a new one. We have an iPad mini from 2016 and it’s my kids only movie-watching device.

There are plenty of people at the same level of income (I’m a fed we know everyone’s salary…) who have to have a new car every five years and dress their kids in Boden, and then are sad when they “can’t afford” to travel. I’m not saying that’s OP, just that it’s a not-uncommon phenomenon.

Oh come on. You can buy AirPods and Stanley cups for everyone in your family and get a new 65” TV for $1,000 total.
You cannot say that this is the reason you can afford a $5,000 trip to the Galápagos Islands for spring break.

I notice you leave off the new cars ($35,000) and expensive wardrobes ($1,000x person, 4 person family) which absolutely do add up to a $5,000 Galapagos trip.

Lol at these numbers - “Regular” new cars are running $50k+ these days and $1k per person wardrobe is not buying much if you’re working in person in a corporate office or have a kid in an extracurricular like dance. And good luck with that trip to the Galapagos for only $5k.

I am not sure exactly how much we spend on clothes per kid but it is probably around 1k per kid. I always thought we were casual. We dress very casual and comfortable.

We just spent 30k+ on spring break.

Well you’re obviously wealthier than the people the PPs are talking about. We probably spend $5-10k on a vacation once per year and that feels like a splurge.

I think this is who PP’s are talking about. I doubt the OP is jealous of people who drive beater cars and buy all of their clothes second hand in order to afford going to OBX for a week in the summer.

I mean, that’s a totally valid choice, but it’s not the subject of the thread. And the people saying that they can afford to spend $50k on multiple vacations every year by driving cars for three extra years and not buying Boden are full of doody.

But that’s not what was said. They’re saying—or at least I’m saying— that by driving my car five more years, not wasting money on junk, and dressing my kids mostly in hand me downs I get to take a $10k vacation at spring break, which is what OP is specifically envious of.

Again I’m a fed, everyone knows how much we make, and some of us spent last week traveling and some of us spent last week at home, some of the folks at home have much newer cars than I do.

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Anonymous wrote:I also don’t know that valuing travel is necessarily a better value than valuing fashion or whatever. It’s fine, but there isn’t anything inherently more valuable about it.

As long as you’re not complaining about the outcome of your values, I think that’s true.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are all these families dealing with jetlag to ski in Europe? Snobbery? Plenty of nice places in the US.

For us, it's the fact that the trips are often similarly priced, but many EU countries have cheaper food, drinks, and activities once we are there so why not go for that while we can

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Anonymous wrote:We travel quite a bit, I wouldn’t say a lot, because we have one easy tween and we all enjoy it.
What we don’t have is Stanley Cups and apple AirPods. Most of her peers at her Christian private do. I don’t feel bad. I choose not to spend my money on stuff like that.
Spending is about making choices. Don’t feel bad for the ones you make for you family.

Is this really a good trade-off for your tween, though?
My mom was like this. She grew up poor, was in 4H, and made most of her own clothes. Then she went to medical school, married my dad who went to law school, and sent us all to UMC public school. My mom thought that in-season clothes and accessories were beyond ridiculous and money was better spent on other things. The thing is, that’s really the only time in your life it really matters. When I was 14, 15, 16, I would have given up almost anything to look like the other kids and wear the kinds of clothes that the other kids had.

Why didn't you earn/spend your own money on clothes then? Starting at 13 my parents stopped paying for my clothes. I babysat and bought my own. This was in the late 80s/early 90s.
Same with makeup, any hygiene products beyond Dove bar soap and Crest toothpaste (so any facial cleaners, moisturizers, shampoo/conditioner/styling gel, etc.)

You say you would have "given up almost anything" but all it would have taken is giving up some evenings and weekends to work a job.

Your parents wouldn't provide shampoo? That seems a bit crazy, surely clean hair is a hygiene issue. Or were they weird "use soap for your entire body including your hair " people? I do hope you didn't have to purchase your own feminine hygiene products.

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Anonymous wrote:We travel quite a bit, I wouldn’t say a lot, because we have one easy tween and we all enjoy it.
What we don’t have is Stanley Cups and apple AirPods. Most of her peers at her Christian private do. I don’t feel bad. I choose not to spend my money on stuff like that.
Spending is about making choices. Don’t feel bad for the ones you make for you family.

Agree. We go on amazing trips (think: safaris, Galapagos, French Polynesia, those kinds of places). But we choose to drive cars that are more than ten years old, we shop (rarely) for clothes at Marshall’s, etc. We live very frugally. Some of these PPs are using latest model iPhones, driving new cars, and shopping at Nordstrom but then they get all mad when you tell them about your amazing trips. Life is about priorities and my family prioritizes expensive travel.

Please step out of your bubble. As someone who also prioritizes travel l, I can tell you that a lot of these families do not have the latest iPhone, drive new cars, etc. and they can still not afford to travel. So please don’t think that the secret to travel is to prioritize it.

It is, though, for many in this area.

My daughter has known from three that I won’t spend money on little things so I can take her on great trips. So our water bottles come with us and we don’t get drinks and snacks when we’re out, we don’t buy much new clothes (shoes, underwear, bathing suits, everything else is hand me downs, second hand, or shopped deals in advance) my car is ten years old and runs great so I’m not trading up just to have a new one. We have an iPad mini from 2016 and it’s my kids only movie-watching device.

There are plenty of people at the same level of income (I’m a fed we know everyone’s salary…) who have to have a new car every five years and dress their kids in Boden, and then are sad when they “can’t afford” to travel. I’m not saying that’s OP, just that it’s a not-uncommon phenomenon.

Oh come on. You can buy AirPods and Stanley cups for everyone in your family and get a new 65” TV for $1,000 total.
You cannot say that this is the reason you can afford a $5,000 trip to the Galápagos Islands for spring break.

I notice you leave off the new cars ($35,000) and expensive wardrobes ($1,000x person, 4 person family) which absolutely do add up to a $5,000 Galapagos trip.

Lol at these numbers - “Regular” new cars are running $50k+ these days and $1k per person wardrobe is not buying much if you’re working in person in a corporate office or have a kid in an extracurricular like dance. And good luck with that trip to the Galapagos for only $5k.

I am not sure exactly how much we spend on clothes per kid but it is probably around 1k per kid. I always thought we were casual. We dress very casual and comfortable.

We just spent 30k+ on spring break.

What did you do? Where did you go? Asked sincerely, not snarkily.

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Anonymous wrote:We travel quite a bit, I wouldn’t say a lot, because we have one easy tween and we all enjoy it.
What we don’t have is Stanley Cups and apple AirPods. Most of her peers at her Christian private do. I don’t feel bad. I choose not to spend my money on stuff like that.
Spending is about making choices. Don’t feel bad for the ones you make for you family.

Agree. We go on amazing trips (think: safaris, Galapagos, French Polynesia, those kinds of places). But we choose to drive cars that are more than ten years old, we shop (rarely) for clothes at Marshall’s, etc. We live very frugally. Some of these PPs are using latest model iPhones, driving new cars, and shopping at Nordstrom but then they get all mad when you tell them about your amazing trips. Life is about priorities and my family prioritizes expensive travel.

Please step out of your bubble. As someone who also prioritizes travel l, I can tell you that a lot of these families do not have the latest iPhone, drive new cars, etc. and they can still not afford to travel. So please don’t think that the secret to travel is to prioritize it.

It is, though, for many in this area.

My daughter has known from three that I won’t spend money on little things so I can take her on great trips. So our water bottles come with us and we don’t get drinks and snacks when we’re out, we don’t buy much new clothes (shoes, underwear, bathing suits, everything else is hand me downs, second hand, or shopped deals in advance) my car is ten years old and runs great so I’m not trading up just to have a new one. We have an iPad mini from 2016 and it’s my kids only movie-watching device.

There are plenty of people at the same level of income (I’m a fed we know everyone’s salary…) who have to have a new car every five years and dress their kids in Boden, and then are sad when they “can’t afford” to travel. I’m not saying that’s OP, just that it’s a not-uncommon phenomenon.

Oh come on. You can buy AirPods and Stanley cups for everyone in your family and get a new 65” TV for $1,000 total.
You cannot say that this is the reason you can afford a $5,000 trip to the Galápagos Islands for spring break.

I notice you leave off the new cars ($35,000) and expensive wardrobes ($1,000x person, 4 person family) which absolutely do add up to a $5,000 Galapagos trip.

Lol at these numbers - “Regular” new cars are running $50k+ these days and $1k per person wardrobe is not buying much if you’re working in person in a corporate office or have a kid in an extracurricular like dance. And good luck with that trip to the Galapagos for only $5k.

I am not sure exactly how much we spend on clothes per kid but it is probably around 1k per kid. I always thought we were casual. We dress very casual and comfortable.

We just spent 30k+ on spring break.

Well you’re obviously wealthier than the people the PPs are talking about. We probably spend $5-10k on a vacation once per year and that feels like a splurge.

I think this is who PP’s are talking about. I doubt the OP is jealous of people who drive beater cars and buy all of their clothes second hand in order to afford going to OBX for a week in the summer.

I mean, that’s a totally valid choice, but it’s not the subject of the thread. And the people saying that they can afford to spend $50k on multiple vacations every year by driving cars for three extra years and not buying Boden are full of doody.

I think OP should drive a beater car and no clothes and go to OBX if travel is her priority. Then I think she would feel better about going no where. Or if not, the problem is really comparison and you will never win.

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Anonymous wrote:I also don’t know that valuing travel is necessarily a better value than valuing fashion or whatever. It’s fine, but there isn’t anything inherently more valuable about it.

This is true - it’s all about your own priorities.