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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We travel quite a bit, I wouldn’t say a lot, because we have one easy tween and we all enjoy it. 
What we don’t have is Stanley Cups and apple AirPods. Most of her peers at her  Christian private do. I don’t feel bad. I choose not to spend my money on stuff like that. 
Spending is about making choices. Don’t feel bad for the ones you make for you family. [/quote]

Is this really a good trade-off for your tween, though?  
My mom was like this.  She grew up poor, was in 4H, and made most of her own clothes.  Then she went to medical school, married my dad who went to law school, and sent us all to UMC public school. My mom thought that in-season clothes and accessories were beyond ridiculous and money was better spent on other things.  The thing is, that’s really the only time in your life it really matters.  When I was 14, 15, 16, I would have given up almost anything to look like the other kids and wear the kinds of clothes that the other kids had.  [/quote]

Especially if you are 13-16 at a private school (Christian private included), it's much more important to fit in and have certain things than it is to travel..[/quote]
Again, fashion and “fitting in” is your priority. My family prioritizes awesome trips and we just.don’t.care about fashion and what’s considered “in”. [/quote]

Sure.  We all believe that you middle schooler cares more about going on trips with her parents than fitting in with her peers at school.

If you are sending your child to a private school, why don’t you send her to one that’s more in line with your values and where you don’t need the latest product to fit in?  [/quote]

Maybe her peers are actually being raised with better values than you realize, and she fits in just fine? I’m a DP but I think the hypermaterialism is not universal.[/quote]

This started with the pp saying that most of her daughter’s peers had Stanley cups and AirPods.

My kids go to a school where no one has any of these things.  That’s how I know schools like that exist.  I have three teenagers and I thought a Stanley Cup was a golf tournament until yesterday.  
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