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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][url][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We travel quite a bit, I wouldn’t say a lot, because we have one easy tween and we all enjoy it. 
What we don’t have is Stanley Cups and apple AirPods. Most of her peers at her  Christian private do. I don’t feel bad. I choose not to spend my money on stuff like that. 
Spending is about making choices. Don’t feel bad for the ones you make for you family. [/quote]
Agree. We go on amazing trips (think: safaris, Galapagos, French Polynesia, those kinds of places). But we choose to drive cars that are more than ten years old, we shop (rarely) for clothes at Marshall’s, etc. We live very frugally. Some of these PPs are using latest model iPhones, driving new cars, and shopping at Nordstrom but then they get all mad when you tell them about your amazing trips. Life is about priorities and my family prioritizes expensive travel. [/quote]

Please step out of your bubble. As someone who also prioritizes travel l, I can tell you that a lot of these families do not have the latest iPhone, drive new cars, etc. and they can still not afford to travel. So please don’t think that the secret to travel is to prioritize it. [/quote]

It is, though, for many in this area.

My daughter has known from three that I won’t spend money on little things so I can take her on great trips. So our water bottles come with us and we don’t get drinks and snacks when we’re out, we don’t buy much new clothes (shoes, underwear, bathing suits, everything else is hand me downs, second hand,  or shopped deals in advance) my car is ten years old and runs great so I’m not trading up just to have a new one. We have an iPad mini from 2016 and it’s my kids only movie-watching device.

There are plenty of people at the same level of income (I’m a fed we know everyone’s salary…) who have to have a new car every five years and dress their kids in Boden, and then are sad when they “can’t afford” to travel. I’m not saying that’s OP, just that it’s a not-uncommon phenomenon.[/quote]

Oh come on.  You can buy AirPods and Stanley cups for everyone in your family and get a new 65” TV for $1,000 total.  
You cannot say that this is the reason you can afford a $5,000 trip to the Galápagos Islands for spring break.  
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I notice you leave off the new cars ($35,000) and expensive wardrobes ($1,000x person, 4 person family) which absolutely do  add up to a $5,000 Galapagos trip.[/quote]

Lol at these numbers - “Regular” new cars are running $50k+ these days and $1k per person wardrobe is not buying much if you’re working in person in a corporate office or have a kid in an extracurricular like dance. And good luck with that trip to the Galapagos for only $5k. [/quote]

I am not sure exactly how much we spend on clothes per kid but it is probably around 1k per kid. I always thought we were casual. We dress very casual and comfortable.

We just spent 30k+ on spring break.[/quote]

Well you’re obviously wealthier than the people the PPs are talking about. We probably spend $5-10k on a vacation once per year and that feels like a splurge.[/quote]

I think this is who PP’s are talking about.  I doubt the OP is jealous of people who drive beater cars and buy all of their clothes second hand in order to afford going to OBX for a week in the summer.

I mean, that’s a totally valid choice, but it’s not the subject of the thread.  And the people saying that they can afford to spend $50k on multiple vacations every year by driving cars for three extra years and not buying Boden are full of doody.  [/quote]

I think OP should drive a beater car and no clothes and go to OBX if travel is her priority. Then I think she would feel better about going no where. Or if not, the problem is really comparison and you will never win. [/quote]

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