Husband refusing to push his surgery

[Anonymous]

OP, if you had a chronic pain condition, would you prioritize pain relief or this IVF cycle?

I’ve done both, and I’ve had an husband prone to man colds, and frankly, I would choose to get his pain under control before conceiving, provided there was a plan in place to do so.

The absolute last thing you want is to be at the later stage of a high risk pregnancy (potentially on bed rest?) or the early stages of parenthood with a husband who can’t give you his version of 100 percent. Fix this issue, remove as many excuses as you can, and then get pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP should continue with her IVF cycle and get donor sperm.

Agree. I wouldn't want this loser's sperm at this point. What a selfish baby.

[Anonymous]

What I don't understand is he doesn't have a complicated medical problem. Why did it take three years to figure out a solution when the solution is an apparently very minor, elective, in-and-out don't even spend the night in the hospital surgery? And THEN to decide he NEEDS to do it at the exact time to mess with the IVF? Heck no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I don't understand is he doesn't have a complicated medical problem. Why did it take three years to figure out a solution when the solution is an apparently very minor, elective, in-and-out don't even spend the night in the hospital surgery? And THEN to decide he NEEDS to do it at the exact time to mess with the IVF? Heck no.

He probably noticed at the beginning of IVF that his pain was no longer the absolute center of their lives and resented it, now he’s put himself back in the role he’s used to— Most Important Thing.

[jsteele]

It looks like the OP has abandoned this thread so I am going to lock it.