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My kid is in a class with a chair thrower
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Anonymous
Sadly I live in a west coast city where the default has been the latter. It’s bad. We can’t seem to find a solution between asylums and “die from exposure, malnutrition, untreated infections or violence”. |
Anonymous
Are people now blaming public schools for the homeless problem? |
Anonymous
Agree. |
Anonymous
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NP---My kid was a chair thrower in elem school. He was my 2nd and Yes I knew something wasn't right by about 2. I went to the dev ped who said wait and see. The regular ped had no advice. It wasn't until the end of PreK 3 that the preschool indicated that this was so far above the norm that they would no longer work with him.
Got my kid into PEP and with a high teacher/student ratio and small classes, he did fine. So well in fact that they closed his IEP going into K. At the general K meeting for incoming students in May, I asked what the plan was.....I was told that during the first few months of K, it is all hands on deck. That does not sound like a solid plan to me. I put my kid in private and the smaller classes worked well until 2nd grade. In 2nd grade, I moved my kid to public, met with the principal, told him what was going on and that I wanted to start the IEP process. He said we needed to wait. Not surprisingly, I got a call within the first week that we needed to start the IEP process. It took me 6 months to get his IEP back in place and that was with me providing an outside evaluation. Had I wanted to use the school psychologist, the timeline would have been longer. In retrospect, I wish I had sent my kid to public K. The IEP would have happened earlier in his school career. All this is to say---for parents with NT children, be grateful your kid can regulate. As many others have pointed out, many of us are doing all we can to get both our kids and your kids the appropriate education. We want our kids moved to the right environment. Even when the school is working with us, there are timelines everyone has to follow. It is not good for anyone. But to come on DCUM and tell us that we are crappy parents, that our kids deserve to be beaten, that they should be regulated to virtual learning, that our kids do not deserve the same education that your child receives is wrong and infuriating. I truly hope that no one in your family ever has to manage a child with an invisible disability. |
Anonymous
How is that poster blaming public schools for the homeless problem? Warehousing in asylums sounds good to me. I mean I'm not a callous person but that's more humane than ppl winding up living in the streets. And for some people, there really is no good alternative. |
Anonymous
A NT wouldn't completely snap and destroy a room. They wouldn't be NT then would they? And we can't have teachers jump through a 14 step de-escalation process to avoid one child's triggers at the expense of the other kids. They deserve an education too, not to walk on eggshells lest one child explode in rage. |
Anonymous
I do not think you're a crappy parent at all. You are doing all you can in a very difficult situation. Of course your kid doesn't deserve to be beaten (who said that?) and of course they deserve the same educational opportunities. However, safety should come first in school. How can anyone learn if someone in the classroom is being unsafe (throwing chairs or whatever type of violent, aggressive behavior)? And why is virtual learning not a decent alternative in the case that a violent kid is continually disrupting and terrorizing the class? |
Anonymous
To be fair, the parent of the neurodivergent child is telling others that their child deserves to have a chair thrown in his face again and again until his parents can't handle it and divorce. Do you think other kids deserve to be attacked in school as well? They are children too, deserving of an education in a safe environment, they aren't just tools serving as peer models in the classroom. |
Anonymous
Because in some cases, the parents relish that 8 hour break from their child. |
Anonymous
+100 AND other parents are mocking moving their kid to another class or getting a police report if their child is hit with a thrown chair. |
Anonymous
No, because in many cases, it requires 2 parents to work in order to keep a roof over the family and put food on the table. |
Anonymous
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I don't understand why perpetrators have more rights than the victims. I do think virtual schooling is a good alternative. After all, like teachers so often like to remind us, school is not daycare.
I think if parents had to deal with their own children, they would help get them more therapies, more medication (the parents of the chair thrower I know refused medication) and more consistent discipline. Most of these kids have nothing wrong with them other than ADHD. |
Anonymous
As do most, but how does that absolve one of parenting responsibilities? You want others to feel your pain. |
Anonymous
i would take this kid to the principal's office every single time and make them deal with the kid. Teachers do not get paid enough to handle this behavior much less be the victim of violence every day. Hell no. |
Anonymous
I wonder this too. I think there are just far too many kids now with disruptive and violent behaviour for schools to accommodate them in special classes or schools. Now way can all these kids have medical disabilities and diagnoses. The vast majority of these kids are this way because of poor parenting. Between the rise of screens raising kids and parents becoming less involved, this is what you get. I see trauma brought up here too. Our school places a lot of refugee kids into classes. They have experienced and seen the unthinkable. None of these kids are acting as described here. |