My niece just screwed herself

[Anonymous]

You do not have a year to write a thank you note. https://emilypost.com/advice/wedding-thank-yous#:~:text=Contrary%20to%20popular%20myth%2C%20the,possible%2C%20set%20a%20daily%20goal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When was the wedding? Etiquette says you have three months to send thank you notes.

No it doesn’t.

Np but I remember 3 months as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do not have a year to write a thank you note. https://emilypost.com/advice/wedding-thank-yous#:~:text=Contrary%20to%20popular%20myth%2C%20the,possible%2C%20set%20a%20daily%20goal.

Emily Post also says you don't have a year to give a wedding present, so decide whose rules you want to play by.

[Anonymous]

News flash: niece does not care and won’t notice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound unhinged. She may not even care to get another gift from you. How long has it been since the wedding?

Ha this is true. I definitely have some family members that I'd rather never have to deal with again because of their behavior.

Sure, but I imagine that you're also happy to deposit their gifts. lol.

[Anonymous]

I'm fascinated by all these people who keep track of thank you notes they receive or don't receive!
I'm pretty sure we sent out our wedding thank you notes within a month or so (although who knows... maybe they're in one of those boxes in the attic.)

But when I give a gift, I never ever think about receiving a thank you note for it later. When one comes I read it, smile a little, and toss it. If it doesn't come, I definitely don't notice. I'm not waiting around to ensure some friend or relative meets my gratitude expectations. That's just gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm fascinated by all these people who keep track of thank you notes they receive or don't receive!
I'm pretty sure we sent out our wedding thank you notes within a month or so (although who knows... maybe they're in one of those boxes in the attic.)

But when I give a gift, I never ever think about receiving a thank you note for it later. When one comes I read it, smile a little, and toss it. If it doesn't come, I definitely don't notice. I'm not waiting around to ensure some friend or relative meets my gratitude expectations. That's just gross.

Most guests aren’t receiving $1k.

[Anonymous]

A few years ago, My nephew and his new wife didn't send thank you cards. We flew across the country. No acknowledged for a trip or gift. I spend $500 on an item from the registry. It has been bugging me for two years if they even got it, so at Christmas this year I finally asked the wife so how did you like the gift. "Oh that, we took it back, we really didn't want it." I wish I never asked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do not have a year to write a thank you note. https://emilypost.com/advice/wedding-thank-yous#:~:text=Contrary%20to%20popular%20myth%2C%20the,possible%2C%20set%20a%20daily%20goal.

Can't you read? You have one year in which to send a gift. https://www.vogue.com/article/weddings-wedding-gift-buying-spending-giving-rules#:~:text=How%20long%20do%20I%20have,give%20the%20gift%20the%20better.

[Anonymous]

I am 49. I’ve taught DD13 that not only do you send a thank you note, you take the time to tell the person something about the gift that you especially like or what you plan on spending the money on. It is the polite, grateful thing to do.

OP, you are justified in feeling miffed for not being acknowledged for an incredibly generous gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 49. I’ve taught DD13 that not only do you send a thank you note, you take the time to tell the person something about the gift that you especially like or what you plan on spending the money on. It is the polite, grateful thing to do.

OP, you are justified in feeling miffed for not being acknowledged for an incredibly generous gift.

+1

[Anonymous]

Totally with you OP. I am shocked by the absence of very basic good manners, and $1,000?!?! That deserves acknowledgement.

i'm sorry. No excuse for it in my book.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She couldn't bother to send a thank you note for her wedding. I am done.

[Anonymous]

You give a gift for the sentiment. Not to be acknowledged.

I've always send TY notes and appreciate them, for sure (but I'm "old"). But, I don't demand them or get my panties in a wad when I don't. That makes the gift about me.

And frankly, some of the self-absorbed replies on here are worse than not sending a TY note. Trust me. They're lucky to be "done" with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 49. I’ve taught DD13 that not only do you send a thank you note, you take the time to tell the person something about the gift that you especially like or what you plan on spending the money on. It is the polite, grateful thing to do.

OP, you are justified in feeling miffed for not being acknowledged for an incredibly generous gift.

This. Someone with some class.