Siblings kids not invited to wedding

[Anonymous]

OP wants her kids to experience a wedding and to show them of course, the truth emerges. It's always the greedy ones insisting on taking advantage of others for their own selfish gain and guilt tripping by pretending an 11 month old is the same as a newborn nursing infant. This is why people don't want kids at the wedding. Guests like OP will put their kids front and center on the dance floor, let them cause a scene during the ceremony, demand special food, and just be pains, because aren't the kids just so dang cute all dressed up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t ask. They already answered you and everyone else with kids. Have your spouse stay at the hotel with the baby during the wedding. Or, don’t go. It’s that simple.

This. Or bring your ILs to watch the kids during the wedding.

Destination Weddings are inconvenient and expensive and I think it's perfectly acceptable to decline them, but I completely understand your desire to be there for your sister's wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here and definitely not a troll. Baby will be 11 months so not exclusively nursing. I wanted my children to experience a family wedding but I now realize that this wedding venue / experience is not conducive to that. Destination is a 1 hour flight / 4 hour drive / 3 hour train away. So DH and I will get ILs to stay with our kids at home and then make a day trip for the wedding. Since everything is non traditional, we won’t need a hotel stay for events prior or after. So will just take a day of PTO and attend.

So this isn’t really a destination wedding. Does your sister happen to just live 4 hours away? You had people thinking you were going to have to pay for your family and a nanny/ILs to fly to like Aruba for this wedding and that you had a 2 month old. You can’t wear an 11 month old to a wedding and reception. And your sister was explicit that this was a no kid wedding, so your desire for your kids to experience it really doesn’t matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here and definitely not a troll. Baby will be 11 months so not exclusively nursing. I wanted my children to experience a family wedding but I now realize that this wedding venue / experience is not conducive to that. Destination is a 1 hour flight / 4 hour drive / 3 hour train away. So DH and I will get ILs to stay with our kids at home and then make a day trip for the wedding. Since everything is non traditional, we won’t need a hotel stay for events prior or after. So will just take a day of PTO and attend.

This is closer than any wedding I have ever attended, with or without kids. How does this count as destination unless everyone else in the family lives on the west coast at least?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. Your sibling is getting married 4 hours away, and your in-laws are available to watch your kids. This is honestly about as easy as it gets to go to a wedding as a mother of three young kids.

Nothing like the first post indicated. Op doesn't even need to stay overnight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. Your sibling is getting married 4 hours away, and your in-laws are available to watch your kids. This is honestly about as easy as it gets to go to a wedding as a mother of three young kids.

Nothing like the first post indicated. Op doesn't even need to stay overnight.

Because the truth wouldn’t have gotten OP the answers she wanted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. Your sibling is getting married 4 hours away, and your in-laws are available to watch your kids. This is honestly about as easy as it gets to go to a wedding as a mother of three young kids.

Nothing like the first post indicated. Op doesn't even need to stay overnight.

Because the truth wouldn’t have gotten OP the answers she wanted.

neither did the way she worded it

[Anonymous]

Unbelievable. It's not a destination wedding if you can drive to it the same day. Smh

[Anonymous]

Oh, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You go and the other parent stays home with the kids. Simple.

This is what I did 20 years ago when my sister got married. At the time I was *shocked* she didn’t want her only niece and nephew to NOT be in/at the wedding (I really was, thank goodness I evolved over time). But, I went solo and it was a blast and my sister and now husband had the wedding of their dreams. Win-Win

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unbelievable. It's not a destination wedding if you can drive to it the same day. Smh

+1

The drama, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You go and the other parent stays home with the kids. Simple.

This is what I did 20 years ago when my sister got married. At the time I was *shocked* she didn’t want her only niece and nephew to NOT be in/at the wedding (I really was, thank goodness I evolved over time). But, I went solo and it was a blast and my sister and now husband had the wedding of their dreams. Win-Win

I’m always confused by this at a family wedding though. Siblings in law are very much family, at least in our families, with their presence desired at family events.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You go and the other parent stays home with the kids. Simple.

This is what I did 20 years ago when my sister got married. At the time I was *shocked* she didn’t want her only niece and nephew to NOT be in/at the wedding (I really was, thank goodness I evolved over time). But, I went solo and it was a blast and my sister and now husband had the wedding of their dreams. Win-Win

I’m always confused by this at a family wedding though. Siblings in law are very much family, at least in our families, with their presence desired at family events.

If you're always confused at this again and again, maybe the problem is you? Some parties are adults only. It's very easy to understand after hearing it just once.

[Anonymous]

I’m with the OP here! It’s a huge hassle to ask that if guests. I would graciously decline, which is a bummer, or if you really have the means and want to go, you could go with the in laws but skip out of the reception early. Your sister is probably oblivious but I really sympathize with you here! I had a good friend’s wedding when I still had a very young child and she asked us all to hike into the venue 2 miles at a very specific time and acted like I was high maintenance when I asked about other options!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You go and the other parent stays home with the kids. Simple.

This is what I did 20 years ago when my sister got married. At the time I was *shocked* she didn’t want her only niece and nephew to NOT be in/at the wedding (I really was, thank goodness I evolved over time). But, I went solo and it was a blast and my sister and now husband had the wedding of their dreams. Win-Win

I’m always confused by this at a family wedding though. Siblings in law are very much family, at least in our families, with their presence desired at family events.

If you're always confused at this again and again, maybe the problem is you? Some parties are adults only. It's very easy to understand after hearing it just once.

Oh I get that. I’m confused about families being happy with a solution where the adult BIL or SIL also can’t come.