Siblings kids not invited to wedding

[Anonymous]

Don’t ask. They already answered you and everyone else with kids. Have your spouse stay at the hotel with the baby during the wedding. Or, don’t go. It’s that simple.

[Anonymous]

Is it a destination wedding or is it just a different city where the bride and groom live?

[Anonymous]

Often no kids means kids running around, not a breastfeeding infant in a carrier. most will be understanding about that and I had a friend extend the offer when I had a newborn. I did babywear to that wedding as it was my first and I really wasn't ready to leave (and had husband ready to leave ceremony immediately if baby made so much as a peep) and it all went fine. If baby is older than a newborn though, and since it is your second, I would honestly if possible have in-laws come and babysit since it's only a few hours. That way you can be present for your sister. But I do think it is ok to ask if that is what you're most comfortable with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Destination weddings are selfish. Requiring your brother or sister to leave their kids home is doubly so.

Bullshit. No one’s putting a gun to anyone’s head. You just don’t go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Destination weddings are the worst, for all kinds of reasons not even mentioned by the OP. They are the height of selfishness and self absorption. If you want to have a wedding someplace else, just elope.

Again, bullshit. Nobody is forcing anybody to go. And some destinations are pretty cool.

[Anonymous]

You are being unreasonable. Leave the kids with the spouse at home. Or leave the kids at the hotel with the spouse for a few hours. I will never understand people who have no trouble sending their kids to daycare or school or who will go out to dinner and leave their kids with the babysitter but insist that for some reason their kids cannot be apart from them for a few hours for a wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Destination weddings are selfish. Requiring your brother or sister to leave their kids home is doubly so.

This. You don't leave your kids with a complete stranger. After the massive expense of coming to a destination wedding and using up leave it is beyond rude to expect people to hire sitters.

[Anonymous]

Infants in arms are an exception to the “no kids” rule.

I’m sorry though. Both of my siblings did this too. My brother wanted the kids to be in the wedding photos, but not at the wedding. So I had to bring them and get them dressed up, and then send them off to the hotel with the babysitter.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t go personally.
I think it’s rude not to invite kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’ll still be nursing the littlest so my preference is to bring the kids with ILs to watch them or pay for a trusted friend to come on the trip with us as a nanny. I’m not in the wedding. I have a small family so really only have family weddings every 10 years, so I don’t want my spouse to miss. Maybe I should be more specific and ask my sibling if we can baby wear the child under 1 since they won’t need a seat/plate and won’t be running around? The ceremony will be 30 mins and the breakfast reception will be 3 hours max since it’s non-traditional. Just not sure if I’m being unreasonable to ask.

Skip the wedding.

[Anonymous]

Logistically it seems a lot simpler to leave your kids home with your DH and ILs than to bring your ILs on the trip. Does the baby take a bottle? If not, I would just not go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Logistically it seems a lot simpler to leave your kids home with your DH and ILs than to bring your ILs on the trip. Does the baby take a bottle? If not, I would just not go.

Right. As they say on DCUM, it's an invitation, not a command performance. If the invitation requirements make it so that you cannot attend, then you can decline. Send your regrets, have a nice night doing something with your kids, and forget about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Destination weddings are the worst, for all kinds of reasons not even mentioned by the OP. They are the height of selfishness and self absorption. If you want to have a wedding someplace else, just elope.

Again, bullshit. Nobody is forcing anybody to go. And some destinations are pretty cool.

You had a destination wedding huh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are being unreasonable. Leave the kids with the spouse at home. Or leave the kids at the hotel with the spouse for a few hours. I will never understand people who have no trouble sending their kids to daycare or school or who will go out to dinner and leave their kids with the babysitter but insist that for some reason their kids cannot be apart from them for a few hours for a wedding.

x100000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it a destination wedding or is it just a different city where the bride and groom live?

+1

Or their families? Is it in the U.S.? We need more information, OP.