Siblings kids not invited to wedding

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Responding to PP's question about possible motivations for a kid free wedding:

Cost
Venue Capacity
Adult party environment not appropriate for kids


How do these apply to a nursing infant?


Noise, loud music, and a lot of people aren’t good for infants.


You think that people aren’t allowing their family members to bring a nursing infant to a wedding because they are concerned about the *infant*?


You asked how they applied.


Okay. Your answer was BS.

They don’t apply.

The couple has a vision for the day. It doesn’t include children or it does, but not these specific children or whatever. “Guests” are part of it, but not really any specific guests.

That’s it. That’s all. It’s not about whether it’s appropriate for children or about the cost of feeding children or about children ruining anything. Just stop with the BS.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Responding to PP's question about possible motivations for a kid free wedding:

Cost
Venue Capacity
Adult party environment not appropriate for kids


How do these apply to a nursing infant?


Noise, loud music, and a lot of people aren’t good for infants.


You think that people aren’t allowing their family members to bring a nursing infant to a wedding because they are concerned about the *infant*?


You asked how they applied.


Okay. Your answer was BS.

They don’t apply.

The couple has a vision for the day. It doesn’t include children or it does, but not these specific children or whatever. “Guests” are part of it, but not really any specific guests.

That’s it. That’s all. It’s not about whether it’s appropriate for children or about the cost of feeding children or about children ruining anything. Just stop with the BS.


Sorry, keep your kids at home. It’s an adult party. You’re just not understanding for some reason.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Responding to PP's question about possible motivations for a kid free wedding:

Cost
Venue Capacity
Adult party environment not appropriate for kids


How do these apply to a nursing infant?


Noise, loud music, and a lot of people aren’t good for infants.


You think that people aren’t allowing their family members to bring a nursing infant to a wedding because they are concerned about the *infant*?


You asked how they applied.


Okay. Your answer was BS.

They don’t apply.

The couple has a vision for the day. It doesn’t include children or it does, but not these specific children or whatever. “Guests” are part of it, but not really any specific guests.

That’s it. That’s all. It’s not about whether it’s appropriate for children or about the cost of feeding children or about children ruining anything. Just stop with the BS.


Sorry, keep your kids at home. It’s an adult party. You’re just not understanding for some reason.


What makes you think I don’t understand?
I do.

The only thing that made it hard to understand was these weird explanations. For a lot of people, it’s just a party. Why don’t you just say that?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Responding to PP's question about possible motivations for a kid free wedding:

Cost
Venue Capacity
Adult party environment not appropriate for kids


How do these apply to a nursing infant?


Noise, loud music, and a lot of people aren’t good for infants.


You think that people aren’t allowing their family members to bring a nursing infant to a wedding because they are concerned about the *infant*?


You asked how they applied.


Okay. Your answer was BS.

They don’t apply.

The couple has a vision for the day. It doesn’t include children or it does, but not these specific children or whatever. “Guests” are part of it, but not really any specific guests.

That’s it. That’s all. It’s not about whether it’s appropriate for children or about the cost of feeding children or about children ruining anything. Just stop with the BS.


Sorry, keep your kids at home. It’s an adult party. You’re just not understanding for some reason.


What makes you think I don’t understand?
I do.

The only thing that made it hard to understand was these weird explanations. For a lot of people, it’s just a party. Why don’t you just say that?


Are you always this dense?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When people are important enough to you to have them at your wedding, you help them find a way to be there. One of my bffs had a newborn and we hired a trusted sitter for her, and the sitter followed the wedding party everywhere so the mom could feed or hold the baby whenever she needed to.


This doesn't sound that great to me. I wouldn't have wanted a "trusted sitter" I've never met around my newborn. I would think it was strange that you thought it was so important for me to be in the wedding party that I would need to be separated from my newborn in order to participate, when you have a newborn that's your priority not a sibling wedding party. That's me though maybe your friend didn't care.


I agree w you. The more gracious thing for that PP to do would be to say to her friend that she’d understand if friend could no longer be in bridal party since they had a newborn. I did not want to be separated from my kids at all when they were newborns, not even if they were close by w a “trusted sitter.”
Anonymous
I think people have destination weddings for themselves and whoever can make it. If you are nursing a newborn it’s just not going to work. They obviously weren’t thinking of OP when they made this plan. It’s their wedding.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:You are being unreasonable. Leave the kids with the spouse at home. Or leave the kids at the hotel with the spouse for a few hours. I will never understand people who have no trouble sending their kids to daycare or school or who will go out to dinner and leave their kids with the babysitter but insist that for some reason their kids cannot be apart from them for a few hours for a wedding.


x100000


Exactly. Your husband doesn’t NEED to witness your sister getting married. Leave kids in at hotel pool with husband while you go to ceremony and reception and then have a short family vacation otherwise.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Destination weddings are the worst, for all kinds of reasons not even mentioned by the OP. They are the height of selfishness and self absorption. If you want to have a wedding someplace else, just elope.


Again, bullshit. Nobody is forcing anybody to go. And some destinations are pretty cool.


You had a destination wedding huh


Some people would say that my daughter did, but they’d be wrong. She was living abroad at the time of her wedding and married a man from that country. They had their wedding a couple hours drive from the city they were living in.

Family members and friends, who elected to come had an absolute blast. It really was an extraordinary event. Those who elected not to come - mostly because they viewed it as too much of a hassle, not because of money, kids, etc - really missed out. But that’s OK. We certainly were not offended because everyone is an adult and can do it whatever he or she wants. Some people are just more adventurous than others. We get that.

The key is to do what you want and not get all worked up when people decide for whatever reason not to come.


This is a destination wedding.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Destination weddings are the worst, for all kinds of reasons not even mentioned by the OP. They are the height of selfishness and self absorption. If you want to have a wedding someplace else, just elope.


Again, bullshit. Nobody is forcing anybody to go. And some destinations are pretty cool.


You had a destination wedding huh


Some people would say that my daughter did, but they’d be wrong. She was living abroad at the time of her wedding and married a man from that country. They had their wedding a couple hours drive from the city they were living in.

Family members and friends, who elected to come had an absolute blast. It really was an extraordinary event. Those who elected not to come - mostly because they viewed it as too much of a hassle, not because of money, kids, etc - really missed out. But that’s OK. We certainly were not offended because everyone is an adult and can do it whatever he or she wants. Some people are just more adventurous than others. We get that.

The key is to do what you want and not get all worked up when people decide for whatever reason not to come.


This is a destination wedding.


Attending a wedding in another country is really expensive for most folks. I suspect many chose not to come due to the money.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Destination weddings are the worst, for all kinds of reasons not even mentioned by the OP. They are the height of selfishness and self absorption. If you want to have a wedding someplace else, just elope.


Again, bullshit. Nobody is forcing anybody to go. And some destinations are pretty cool.


You had a destination wedding huh


Some people would say that my daughter did, but they’d be wrong. She was living abroad at the time of her wedding and married a man from that country. They had their wedding a couple hours drive from the city they were living in.

Family members and friends, who elected to come had an absolute blast. It really was an extraordinary event. Those who elected not to come - mostly because they viewed it as too much of a hassle, not because of money, kids, etc - really missed out. But that’s OK. We certainly were not offended because everyone is an adult and can do it whatever he or she wants. Some people are just more adventurous than others. We get that.

The key is to do what you want and not get all worked up when people decide for whatever reason not to come.


This is a destination wedding.


Attending a wedding in another country is really expensive for most folks. I suspect many chose not to come due to the money.


Money is clearly the issue. How could it be a hassle if not for money, kids, etc? What's left? People probably decided it wasn't worth the money/time to go to this wedding. Which is their choice and the PP doesn't seem to down about it. Wedding guests shouldn't get bent out of shape if a wedding doesn't conform to their particular needs, schedule, situation, geographical location, dietary needs, etc.
Anonymous
For this to be OP sisters wedding something tells me the relationship is strained/they’re not close. It’s a dead giveaway when you’re not part of your sisters bridal party. The answer is no kids. Either leave your kid home and go or skip the wedding all together and just send a gift
Anonymous
Currently planning my wedding and it will be a no kids wedding. It’s going to be small/intimate in the evening. Im not a fan of kids honestly so I don’t want them there and I’m not shelling out money for food for someone to pick over. Yes this includes relatives on each side who are under 21 years old since alcohol will be served. Idc if child is 1 or 17/18 no kids will be no kids
Anonymous
Some ppl see weddings an an expression of their vision for what they want. Others see them as celebrations bringing loved ones together, throwing a party for their family and friends. Neither is better but the general stance usually defines the planning.

We got married in dc in the city and we hired two sitters to hang onsite (it was large mansion type place and we had created a playroom with some cots as well) for anyone who wanted to bring kids. We thought it would be helpful and allow our friends to have fun while being able to check on the kids easily not leave them with a stranger. Only a few ppl used the sitters but they were grateful and we were happy to make our wedding accessible.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Currently planning my wedding and it will be a no kids wedding. It’s going to be small/intimate in the evening. Im not a fan of kids honestly so I don’t want them there and I’m not shelling out money for food for someone to pick over. Yes this includes relatives on each side who are under 21 years old since alcohol will be served. Idc if child is 1 or 17/18 no kids will be no kids


So what friends do the relatives expect you to cut from the guest list to fit the kids? Including those kids put you over capacity? What's a small wedding? Whatever the count each site at a venue or different venues have capacity limits and babies held count in capacity even when excluded from food and beverage counts on billing. Even apparatus requests for reception beyond the highchair -stroller, possible uppa baby bassinet attached, pack n plays. Had a relative who wanted a pack n play next to the dance floor rather than seated at a table where the venue oked the pack n play against a wall.

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