
Okay. Your answer was BS. They don’t apply. The couple has a vision for the day. It doesn’t include children or it does, but not these specific children or whatever. “Guests” are part of it, but not really any specific guests. That’s it. That’s all. It’s not about whether it’s appropriate for children or about the cost of feeding children or about children ruining anything. Just stop with the BS. |
Sorry, keep your kids at home. It’s an adult party. You’re just not understanding for some reason. |
What makes you think I don’t understand? I do. The only thing that made it hard to understand was these weird explanations. For a lot of people, it’s just a party. Why don’t you just say that? |
Are you always this dense? |
I agree w you. The more gracious thing for that PP to do would be to say to her friend that she’d understand if friend could no longer be in bridal party since they had a newborn. I did not want to be separated from my kids at all when they were newborns, not even if they were close by w a “trusted sitter.” |
I think people have destination weddings for themselves and whoever can make it. If you are nursing a newborn it’s just not going to work. They obviously weren’t thinking of OP when they made this plan. It’s their wedding. |
Exactly. Your husband doesn’t NEED to witness your sister getting married. Leave kids in at hotel pool with husband while you go to ceremony and reception and then have a short family vacation otherwise. |
This is a destination wedding. |
Attending a wedding in another country is really expensive for most folks. I suspect many chose not to come due to the money. |
Money is clearly the issue. How could it be a hassle if not for money, kids, etc? What's left? People probably decided it wasn't worth the money/time to go to this wedding. Which is their choice and the PP doesn't seem to down about it. Wedding guests shouldn't get bent out of shape if a wedding doesn't conform to their particular needs, schedule, situation, geographical location, dietary needs, etc. |
For this to be OP sisters wedding something tells me the relationship is strained/they’re not close. It’s a dead giveaway when you’re not part of your sisters bridal party. The answer is no kids. Either leave your kid home and go or skip the wedding all together and just send a gift |
Currently planning my wedding and it will be a no kids wedding. It’s going to be small/intimate in the evening. Im not a fan of kids honestly so I don’t want them there and I’m not shelling out money for food for someone to pick over. Yes this includes relatives on each side who are under 21 years old since alcohol will be served. Idc if child is 1 or 17/18 no kids will be no kids |
Some ppl see weddings an an expression of their vision for what they want. Others see them as celebrations bringing loved ones together, throwing a party for their family and friends. Neither is better but the general stance usually defines the planning.
We got married in dc in the city and we hired two sitters to hang onsite (it was large mansion type place and we had created a playroom with some cots as well) for anyone who wanted to bring kids. We thought it would be helpful and allow our friends to have fun while being able to check on the kids easily not leave them with a stranger. Only a few ppl used the sitters but they were grateful and we were happy to make our wedding accessible. |
So what friends do the relatives expect you to cut from the guest list to fit the kids? Including those kids put you over capacity? What's a small wedding? Whatever the count each site at a venue or different venues have capacity limits and babies held count in capacity even when excluded from food and beverage counts on billing. Even apparatus requests for reception beyond the highchair -stroller, possible uppa baby bassinet attached, pack n plays. Had a relative who wanted a pack n play next to the dance floor rather than seated at a table where the venue oked the pack n play against a wall. |