I asked out a 19/20 year old girl today who I thought was a grown adult woman

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Anonymous wrote:Even if this woman were 30 years old probability that she is single and would be interested in going out with a stranger, divorced, 10+ years older is miniscule. The probability that this is a highly unwanted interaction for her approaches 100 percent. The OP lacks judgment in more than one way.

Nobody thinks 30 & 40 is too big of an age gap. Nobody.

Really? When I was 30, no way I was dating a 40-year-old.

Don’t worry, a 40 year old man doesn’t want to date a washed-up 30 year old cat lady, or any woman over age 24 for that matter.

Yes, he wants to date college students, apparently

College-age women are attractive & hot.

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Anonymous wrote:Even if this woman were 30 years old probability that she is single and would be interested in going out with a stranger, divorced, 10+ years older is miniscule. The probability that this is a highly unwanted interaction for her approaches 100 percent. The OP lacks judgment in more than one way.

Nobody thinks 30 & 40 is too big of an age gap. Nobody.

Really? When I was 30, no way I was dating a 40-year-old.

Yeah. I dated a 40 year old when I was 30, and it was not common. It’s a big age gap.

Not at all. You were both fully grown adults.

An 80yo and a 20yo are both grown adults. Does that mean it's not a big age gap?

10 year age gap & both individuals being 30 or older is different from a 60 year age gap with a 20 y/o, genius

Ok, well the PP I was responding to said 30 and 40 is not a big age gap because both are "fully grown adults." I was pointing out that both being of legal age does not mean it's not a big age gap.

10 years isn't crazy, but it's definitely unusual and a big gap. Also, OP is actually 42, so it's 12 years, in this hypothetical where the college student he hit on was actually 30.

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Women peak in fertility and appearance around the age of 21. I’d rather marry at 20 y/o waitress than a 30 y/o lawyer.

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Anonymous wrote:Women peak in fertility and appearance around the age of 21. I’d rather marry at 20 y/o waitress than a 30 y/o lawyer.

Cool, both seem pretty unlikely for you

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Anonymous wrote:Women peak in fertility and appearance around the age of 21. I’d rather marry at 20 y/o waitress than a 30 y/o lawyer.

Cool, both seem pretty unlikely for you

Haha what a loser

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I ended up marrying a woman from Belarus, whom I originally selected to chat with based on her profile on a website. She is beautiful, feminine, submissive, young and has wide hips.

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Anonymous wrote:I ended up marrying a woman from Belarus, whom I originally selected to chat with based on her profile on a website. She is beautiful, feminine, submissive, young and has wide hips.

You sound like a winner!

PS we 40 something harpy lawyer cat ladies will help her gtfo away from you when she is ready.

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Anonymous wrote:I ended up marrying a woman from Belarus, whom I originally selected to chat with based on her profile on a website. She is beautiful, feminine, submissive, young and has wide hips.

You sound like a winner!

PS we 40 something harpy lawyer cat ladies will help her gtfo away from you when she is ready.

😂 what a grosser. He had to search out a mail-order late teenage bride who probably finds him disgusting.

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Please do not approach women when they are out jogging and walking! I'm a mom and have had this happen and it sucks. Trust me when I say that she was literally out walking and jogging to get a work out. No other reason at all. If you want to meet women, go to target rich environments meant for that.

This is a good point, to be honest. It's exhausting to feel like every activity, no matter how much one is doing it for themselves, is interpreted as an invitation to be asked out. Sometimes we just want to go for a run, even if we do it while cute.

Another woman who has to agree with this. Not only for the just-out-for-a-jog aspect but also the complete stranger part. It just gives me weird feelings like that a young woman can't simply exist in this world without being on display as a piece of meat for a man to feel is his for the choosing. Yes, it sounds like OP was perfectly respectable in his interaction, but the whole thing is creepy and not because of the age difference.

Juxtapose this with the threads by single women asking why they cannot find anyone.

You over exaggerate. You are not being asked out on every activity. It's just not happening. If OP doesn't try his hand, how else does he (or anyone else for that matter) meet people? We complain about online dating but then throw stones at those that try to meet in person.

There's nothing wrong with what you did, OP. You figured her age and backed off. Good for you.

Lol. For someone who likely purports to be an advocate for men, you sure have a low opinion of their capabilities.

Most men can easily understand that there is a time and a place to ask women on a date, and it is not while they are exercising after never having spoken to you before.

I’ve met one man who would literally hang out on street corners trying to pick up women as they walked past. It would work 1/100 times. This dude was possibly the creepiest and most mentally unstable man I have met - he threatened to burn my house down eventually.

how does that even remotely relate to OP who was respectful and left her alone after the rejection? And where was I advocating for young men? Lord, you people read so much into these posts that isn't even there.

Men should ask women out. Women should be able to ask men out. It should be respectful. We shouldn't be scared to talk to one another because of harpies like the PP

42 y/o men shouldn’t stare at teenagers out their windows for “months” and then ask them out while they’re walking alone.

It seems really, really weird that someone has to tell you that.

Men shouldn’t look out their windows and notice people? Men shouldn’t strike up conversations with women who are alone in public in broad daylight? You’ve got to be kidding.

Men should not hit on women who are exercising in public. The fact that he had been ogling her out the window and liked the way she looks in shorts does not give him license to hit on her.

What a weird rule about not talking to women who are exercising outside.

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Anonymous wrote:I remember being a babysitter at 16-17 when a dad came over to pick up his daughter. He was probably late 30s-early 40s. He commented on my nice soccer legs and proceeded to touch them. I froze. You are in the same creep category, OP.

Your story is in a very different category than OPs.

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I went to college when I was 35-40, I don't know why this guy assumed he knew the young lady's age simply from her statement about returning to college soon. I'm wondering why he didn't just ask her how old she was.

I'm also inclined to think this is a bored troll who made the whole thing up. If so 13 pages is a pretty good run.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to college when I was 35-40, I don't know why this guy assumed he knew the young lady's age simply from her statement about returning to college soon. I'm wondering why he didn't just ask her how old she was.

I'm also inclined to think this is a bored troll who made the whole thing up. If so 13 pages is a pretty good run.

People who go to college at that age are generally commuting to a local college & still working.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to college when I was 35-40, I don't know why this guy assumed he knew the young lady's age simply from her statement about returning to college soon. I'm wondering why he didn't just ask her how old she was.

I'm also inclined to think this is a bored troll who made the whole thing up. If so 13 pages is a pretty good run.

People who go to college at that age are generally commuting to a local college & still working.

OK but she could have been in law school or med school and been in her later 20s.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel gross.

I’m a 42 y/o divorced dad and live in a leafy UMC neighborhood. I WFH full time. For the past few weeks/months I’ve seen someone who looked to be a woman in her 30s speed walking and occasionally running in my neighborhood. She is about 5”3 and wears dark sunglasses, baseball cap, shorts, running sneakers & a tank top. Has long brown hair & is in amazing shape from what I could tell based on looking at her.

Anyway, I was out walking today and saw her. I must’ve startled her by walking far behind her on the same sidewalk. She looked behind, and that’s when I finally decided I would make a move. She looked a little startled, but I introduced myself and we both kept walking together. She quickly started chatting with me, and I complimented her on her walking/running. We were talking about how nice it was out & how hilly the neighborhood is. She spoke like a grown adult & seemed very confident. Anyway, as I was about to make a turn on my route after a few blocks, I asked her if she’d like to meet again and if there was any way I could contact her. She kindly but swiftly shut that down; she said “That is nice of you, but I am going back to college for the summer next week. Good luck with your walking” I said thank you and made a turn.

This girl was probably 19 years old & taking walks from her parents house. I feel like a creep.

Ok, so... swing and a miss... but can you imagine how great it would have been if she said yes?

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Please do not approach women when they are out jogging and walking! I'm a mom and have had this happen and it sucks. Trust me when I say that she was literally out walking and jogging to get a work out. No other reason at all. If you want to meet women, go to target rich environments meant for that.

This is a good point, to be honest. It's exhausting to feel like every activity, no matter how much one is doing it for themselves, is interpreted as an invitation to be asked out. Sometimes we just want to go for a run, even if we do it while cute.

Another woman who has to agree with this. Not only for the just-out-for-a-jog aspect but also the complete stranger part. It just gives me weird feelings like that a young woman can't simply exist in this world without being on display as a piece of meat for a man to feel is his for the choosing. Yes, it sounds like OP was perfectly respectable in his interaction, but the whole thing is creepy and not because of the age difference.

Juxtapose this with the threads by single women asking why they cannot find anyone.

You over exaggerate. You are not being asked out on every activity. It's just not happening. If OP doesn't try his hand, how else does he (or anyone else for that matter) meet people? We complain about online dating but then throw stones at those that try to meet in person.

There's nothing wrong with what you did, OP. You figured her age and backed off. Good for you.

Lol. For someone who likely purports to be an advocate for men, you sure have a low opinion of their capabilities.

Most men can easily understand that there is a time and a place to ask women on a date, and it is not while they are exercising after never having spoken to you before.

I’ve met one man who would literally hang out on street corners trying to pick up women as they walked past. It would work 1/100 times. This dude was possibly the creepiest and most mentally unstable man I have met - he threatened to burn my house down eventually.

how does that even remotely relate to OP who was respectful and left her alone after the rejection? And where was I advocating for young men? Lord, you people read so much into these posts that isn't even there.

Men should ask women out. Women should be able to ask men out. It should be respectful. We shouldn't be scared to talk to one another because of harpies like the PP

42 y/o men shouldn’t stare at teenagers out their windows for “months” and then ask them out while they’re walking alone.

It seems really, really weird that someone has to tell you that.

Men shouldn’t look out their windows and notice people? Men shouldn’t strike up conversations with women who are alone in public in broad daylight? You’ve got to be kidding.

Men should not hit on women who are exercising in public. The fact that he had been ogling her out the window and liked the way she looks in shorts does not give him license to hit on her.

What a weird rule about not talking to women who are exercising outside.

What a weird thing that you cannot understand this.