Do you wear lingerie for DH?

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Yes for D appointments.

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Anonymous wrote:For special occasions. That stuff is either expensive or it looks cheap.

I lost 50 lbs due to illness. My body looks so different now that it’ll have to be enough novelty for a while.

you say that like it's a bad thing

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Anonymous wrote:I'm convinced by most of these comments and on other discussion threads that the majority of women on DCUM don't like their husbands or maybe just men in general. They don't want to have sex with them, don't want to ever wear lingerie. Then they come complain about their husbands possibly having affairs, and want huge alimony payouts when they divorce. It's all so...weird. Like, what's the point of even being married if you can't have fun with your spouse?

It's a relationship board, meaning people come on here usually when they are having issues. I found this board on a Google search when I was having similar problems, the first few years of my marriage work rate and I wasn't on something like this. Now I am one of those people in a growingly hostile, sexless marriage and probably will be back here talking about affairs as well.

It's self selection

This board is toxic brain poison. It's all about ending marriages. Why don't you find a source that discusses improving marriages?

Even the ones focused on improving marriages (John Gottman, Samantha Rodman), tend to lean toward saying that men need to do better. The only way you are going to find something telling women to wear more lingerie is to read Dr Laura.

Maybe if all the experts say men need to do better….then men need to do better?

But not all say that. The biggest issue is that most men have a list of about 3-4 things that they need to be happy. Womens lists have about 100 things on it and they can't understand why men won't help them complete the lists

I would say that most women have one thing on their list for their husbands:

- Have your own goals for yourself, your family, your home, and your career, tell your spouse what they are, and take some initiative in accomplishing them.

Most men do these things before they are married, then somehow give them up and hand everything over to their wives. If a man isn’t taking the lead in any other part of marital life, the idea of DW also being the person to initiate things in the bedroom by wearing sexy lingerie is not appealing.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm convinced by most of these comments and on other discussion threads that the majority of women on DCUM don't like their husbands or maybe just men in general. They don't want to have sex with them, don't want to ever wear lingerie. Then they come complain about their husbands possibly having affairs, and want huge alimony payouts when they divorce. It's all so...weird. Like, what's the point of even being married if you can't have fun with your spouse?

It's a relationship board, meaning people come on here usually when they are having issues. I found this board on a Google search when I was having similar problems, the first few years of my marriage work rate and I wasn't on something like this. Now I am one of those people in a growingly hostile, sexless marriage and probably will be back here talking about affairs as well.

It's self selection

This board is toxic brain poison. It's all about ending marriages. Why don't you find a source that discusses improving marriages?

Even the ones focused on improving marriages (John Gottman, Samantha Rodman), tend to lean toward saying that men need to do better. The only way you are going to find something telling women to wear more lingerie is to read Dr Laura.

Maybe if all the experts say men need to do better….then men need to do better?

But not all say that. The biggest issue is that most men have a list of about 3-4 things that they need to be happy. Womens lists have about 100 things on it and they can't understand why men won't help them complete the lists

I would say that most women have one thing on their list for their husbands:

- Have your own goals for yourself, your family, your home, and your career, tell your spouse what they are, and take some initiative in accomplishing them.

Most men do these things before they are married, then somehow give them up and hand everything over to their wives. If a man isn’t taking the lead in any other part of marital life, the idea of DW also being the person to initiate things in the bedroom by wearing sexy lingerie is not appealing.

This is just batsh#t crazy. You say women have one thing on their list and go on to make a list. It seems likel you just want to hang out and be waited on hand and foot. Go marry a royal because it is not happening IRL.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm convinced by most of these comments and on other discussion threads that the majority of women on DCUM don't like their husbands or maybe just men in general. They don't want to have sex with them, don't want to ever wear lingerie. Then they come complain about their husbands possibly having affairs, and want huge alimony payouts when they divorce. It's all so...weird. Like, what's the point of even being married if you can't have fun with your spouse?

It's a relationship board, meaning people come on here usually when they are having issues. I found this board on a Google search when I was having similar problems, the first few years of my marriage work rate and I wasn't on something like this. Now I am one of those people in a growingly hostile, sexless marriage and probably will be back here talking about affairs as well.

It's self selection

This board is toxic brain poison. It's all about ending marriages. Why don't you find a source that discusses improving marriages?

Even the ones focused on improving marriages (John Gottman, Samantha Rodman), tend to lean toward saying that men need to do better. The only way you are going to find something telling women to wear more lingerie is to read Dr Laura.

Maybe if all the experts say men need to do better….then men need to do better?

But not all say that. The biggest issue is that most men have a list of about 3-4 things that they need to be happy. Womens lists have about 100 things on it and they can't understand why men won't help them complete the lists

I would say that most women have one thing on their list for their husbands:

- Have your own goals for yourself, your family, your home, and your career, tell your spouse what they are, and take some initiative in accomplishing them.

Most men do these things before they are married, then somehow give them up and hand everything over to their wives. If a man isn’t taking the lead in any other part of marital life, the idea of DW also being the person to initiate things in the bedroom by wearing sexy lingerie is not appealing.

Lol. My list for my husband is a lot longer than that.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm convinced by most of these comments and on other discussion threads that the majority of women on DCUM don't like their husbands or maybe just men in general. They don't want to have sex with them, don't want to ever wear lingerie. Then they come complain about their husbands possibly having affairs, and want huge alimony payouts when they divorce. It's all so...weird. Like, what's the point of even being married if you can't have fun with your spouse?

It's a relationship board, meaning people come on here usually when they are having issues. I found this board on a Google search when I was having similar problems, the first few years of my marriage work rate and I wasn't on something like this. Now I am one of those people in a growingly hostile, sexless marriage and probably will be back here talking about affairs as well.

It's self selection

This board is toxic brain poison. It's all about ending marriages. Why don't you find a source that discusses improving marriages?

Even the ones focused on improving marriages (John Gottman, Samantha Rodman), tend to lean toward saying that men need to do better. The only way you are going to find something telling women to wear more lingerie is to read Dr Laura.

Maybe if all the experts say men need to do better….then men need to do better?

But not all say that. The biggest issue is that most men have a list of about 3-4 things that they need to be happy. Womens lists have about 100 things on it and they can't understand why men won't help them complete the lists

I would say that most women have one thing on their list for their husbands:

- Have your own goals for yourself, your family, your home, and your career, tell your spouse what they are, and take some initiative in accomplishing them.

Most men do these things before they are married, then somehow give them up and hand everything over to their wives. If a man isn’t taking the lead in any other part of marital life, the idea of DW also being the person to initiate things in the bedroom by wearing sexy lingerie is not appealing.

Haha!

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Anonymous wrote:DW asked me to buy her something sexy from Victoria's in 2020. Spent a fortune on it. She's never worn it.

If you spent a fortune at Victoria's Secret, you must have bought the whole store.

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Anonymous wrote:DW asked me to buy her something sexy from Victoria's in 2020. Spent a fortune on it. She's never worn it.

How did you spend a fortune on a couple items at VS.

High end for DW is Target....$100 for a bra and panties that she's never worn...crazy!

It probably doesn't fit or is uncomfortable.

My husband bought me a lacy babydoll PJ set which in theory I like ok and would wear, but he got a size small. All my clothes are medium/size 8, so it would have been a very minor lift to check the tag before buying something not in my size. I wore them a couple of times to be nice but the shorts are too tight in the waist and not comfortable for sleep

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Anonymous wrote:DW asked me to buy her something sexy from Victoria's in 2020. Spent a fortune on it. She's never worn it.

How did you spend a fortune on a couple items at VS.

High end for DW is Target....$100 for a bra and panties that she's never worn...crazy!

It probably doesn't fit or is uncomfortable.

My husband bought me a lacy babydoll PJ set which in theory I like ok and would wear, but he got a size small. All my clothes are medium/size 8, so it would have been a very minor lift to check the tag before buying something not in my size. I wore them a couple of times to be nice but the shorts are too tight in the waist and not comfortable for sleep

Unrelated by I intentionally erred on the smaller size for my wife when I first bought her lingerie. She was flattered that I thought she was a small. Better than buying the too large size?

Anyway, I miss those days. She won't wear anything sexual and at age 44 has become completely asexual despite my reassurances. It sucks. I am super envious of the men married to sexual women.

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely! GF is very interested in this and always wear a nice set of thongs, g-strings. In fact, I have never seen her wearing hipsters or other big panties.

VS is always a go to for us but Savage X fenty has been good too lately.

Love Savage X fenty. DH loves it. Their g-strings are very sexy.

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely! GF is very interested in this and always wear a nice set of thongs, g-strings. In fact, I have never seen her wearing hipsters or other big panties.

VS is always a go to for us but Savage X fenty has been good too lately.

Love Savage X fenty. DH loves it. Their g-strings are very sexy.

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely! GF is very interested in this and always wear a nice set of thongs, g-strings. In fact, I have never seen her wearing hipsters or other big panties.

VS is always a go to for us but Savage X fenty has been good too lately.

Love Savage X fenty. DH loves it. Their g-strings are very sexy.

After 3 C-sections of very large children (one was almost 11 lbs) thongs, g-strings and really sexy Savage X stuff doesn’t cut it for me. I’d laugh at myself. But I can still make a long silk nightgown work quite nicely on my husband. It hides the blemishes but the overall effect is very effective.

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DH wears my lingerie! 😈

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Anonymous wrote:I wish my DH would buy me lingerie. It would e nice to know he still finds me hot after a decade of marriage and kids.

That’s so sad. Why do you think he doesn’t still find you hot? I get the “she’s a mom and not my GF” issue but not the rest.

Because I’m not 25 anymore, I guess.

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Anonymous wrote:I wish my DH would buy me lingerie. It would e nice to know he still finds me hot after a decade of marriage and kids.

That’s so sad. Why do you think he doesn’t still find you hot? I get the “she’s a mom and not my GF” issue but not the rest.

Because I’m not 25 anymore, I guess.

Met wife at 26, she is 42 now and just as hot if not hotter.