Do you wear lingerie for DH?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DW asked me to buy her something sexy from Victoria's in 2020. Spent a fortune on it. She's never worn it.

How did you spend a fortune on a couple items at VS.

High end for DW is Target....$100 for a bra and panties that she's never worn...crazy!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm convinced by most of these comments and on other discussion threads that the majority of women on DCUM don't like their husbands or maybe just men in general. They don't want to have sex with them, don't want to ever wear lingerie. Then they come complain about their husbands possibly having affairs, and want huge alimony payouts when they divorce. It's all so...weird. Like, what's the point of even being married if you can't have fun with your spouse?

It's a relationship board, meaning people come on here usually when they are having issues. I found this board on a Google search when I was having similar problems, the first few years of my marriage work rate and I wasn't on something like this. Now I am one of those people in a growingly hostile, sexless marriage and probably will be back here talking about affairs as well.

It's self selection

This board is toxic brain poison. It's all about ending marriages. Why don't you find a source that discusses improving marriages?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lingerie is to men what a red cape is to a bull.

Yeah. Not all men. I have plenty of friends whose husbands either don’t notice or state they look ridiculous.

sorry your friends are frumpy chubbies.

[Anonymous]

For special occasions. That stuff is either expensive or it looks cheap.

I lost 50 lbs due to illness. My body looks so different now that it’ll have to be enough novelty for a while.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just a sample of my collection.

https://www.wickedtemptations.com/standard-sizes/sexy-lingerie-3/crotchless/luv-lace-teddy.html?swatchid=option-label-color-92-item-97

https://www.wickedtemptations.com/standard-sizes/sexy-lingerie-3/crotchless/cobalt-blue-mesh-cupless-babydoll-crotchless-panty-w-open-butt.html?swatchid=option-label-color-92-item-320

I would never wear that. It doesn’t look comfortable at all and DH would like I’m trying to be a porn star. This only works if both parties like it. Many women don’t like dressing like a sex bot and this wouldn’t work for them.

I have similar items. And since what he likes is on display, no need to take anything off!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm convinced by most of these comments and on other discussion threads that the majority of women on DCUM don't like their husbands or maybe just men in general. They don't want to have sex with them, don't want to ever wear lingerie. Then they come complain about their husbands possibly having affairs, and want huge alimony payouts when they divorce. It's all so...weird. Like, what's the point of even being married if you can't have fun with your spouse?

It's a relationship board, meaning people come on here usually when they are having issues. I found this board on a Google search when I was having similar problems, the first few years of my marriage work rate and I wasn't on something like this. Now I am one of those people in a growingly hostile, sexless marriage and probably will be back here talking about affairs as well.

It's self selection

This board is toxic brain poison. It's all about ending marriages. Why don't you find a source that discusses improving marriages?

Even the ones focused on improving marriages (John Gottman, Samantha Rodman), tend to lean toward saying that men need to do better. The only way you are going to find something telling women to wear more lingerie is to read Dr Laura.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm convinced by most of these comments and on other discussion threads that the majority of women on DCUM don't like their husbands or maybe just men in general. They don't want to have sex with them, don't want to ever wear lingerie. Then they come complain about their husbands possibly having affairs, and want huge alimony payouts when they divorce. It's all so...weird. Like, what's the point of even being married if you can't have fun with your spouse?

It's a relationship board, meaning people come on here usually when they are having issues. I found this board on a Google search when I was having similar problems, the first few years of my marriage work rate and I wasn't on something like this. Now I am one of those people in a growingly hostile, sexless marriage and probably will be back here talking about affairs as well.

It's self selection

This board is toxic brain poison. It's all about ending marriages. Why don't you find a source that discusses improving marriages?

Even the ones focused on improving marriages (John Gottman, Samantha Rodman), tend to lean toward saying that men need to do better. The only way you are going to find something telling women to wear more lingerie is to read Dr Laura.

Maybe if all the experts say men need to do better….then men need to do better?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lingerie is to men what a red cape is to a bull.

Yeah. Not all men. I have plenty of friends whose husbands either don’t notice or state they look ridiculous.

sorry your friends are frumpy chubbies.

Most 40+ women who’ve given birth are chubbies. Have you walked through and airport, the grocery store, or a restaurant. Most women in general are overweight. And many husbands are overweight as well.

Yet they are married. And some of them are having sex. I’m an overweight mom who has regular sex with DH. I don’t wear lingerie, because it’s really uncomfortable psychologically with my aged body. DH doesn’t ask/care about lingerie. It seems like a waste of money and we don’t need it to get us in the mood. Not everyone is you.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely! GF is very interested in this and always wear a nice set of thongs, g-strings. In fact, I have never seen her wearing hipsters or other big panties.

VS is always a go to for us but Savage X fenty has been good too lately.

[Anonymous]

I do and I also get dolled up for him. I enjoy it and it makes me feel sexy. I usually do it once a week with a nice self care routine and then sexy lingerie. I feel sexy and he enjoys it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm convinced by most of these comments and on other discussion threads that the majority of women on DCUM don't like their husbands or maybe just men in general. They don't want to have sex with them, don't want to ever wear lingerie. Then they come complain about their husbands possibly having affairs, and want huge alimony payouts when they divorce. It's all so...weird. Like, what's the point of even being married if you can't have fun with your spouse?

It's a relationship board, meaning people come on here usually when they are having issues. I found this board on a Google search when I was having similar problems, the first few years of my marriage work rate and I wasn't on something like this. Now I am one of those people in a growingly hostile, sexless marriage and probably will be back here talking about affairs as well.

It's self selection

This board is toxic brain poison. It's all about ending marriages. Why don't you find a source that discusses improving marriages?

Even the ones focused on improving marriages (John Gottman, Samantha Rodman), tend to lean toward saying that men need to do better. The only way you are going to find something telling women to wear more lingerie is to read Dr Laura.

Maybe if all the experts say men need to do better….then men need to do better?

But not all say that. The biggest issue is that most men have a list of about 3-4 things that they need to be happy. Womens lists have about 100 things on it and they can't understand why men won't help them complete the lists

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm convinced by most of these comments and on other discussion threads that the majority of women on DCUM don't like their husbands or maybe just men in general. They don't want to have sex with them, don't want to ever wear lingerie. Then they come complain about their husbands possibly having affairs, and want huge alimony payouts when they divorce. It's all so...weird. Like, what's the point of even being married if you can't have fun with your spouse?

It's a relationship board, meaning people come on here usually when they are having issues. I found this board on a Google search when I was having similar problems, the first few years of my marriage work rate and I wasn't on something like this. Now I am one of those people in a growingly hostile, sexless marriage and probably will be back here talking about affairs as well.

It's self selection

This board is toxic brain poison. It's all about ending marriages. Why don't you find a source that discusses improving marriages?

Even the ones focused on improving marriages (John Gottman, Samantha Rodman), tend to lean toward saying that men need to do better. The only way you are going to find something telling women to wear more lingerie is to read Dr Laura.

Maybe if all the experts say men need to do better….then men need to do better?

ALL the experts aren't in agreement on that. Men married to men have the lowest divorce rate. Women married to women have the highest divoice rate. Take men out of the equation and women are even more unhappy. Maybe it's not all the man's fault?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm convinced by most of these comments and on other discussion threads that the majority of women on DCUM don't like their husbands or maybe just men in general. They don't want to have sex with them, don't want to ever wear lingerie. Then they come complain about their husbands possibly having affairs, and want huge alimony payouts when they divorce. It's all so...weird. Like, what's the point of even being married if you can't have fun with your spouse?

It's a relationship board, meaning people come on here usually when they are having issues. I found this board on a Google search when I was having similar problems, the first few years of my marriage work rate and I wasn't on something like this. Now I am one of those people in a growingly hostile, sexless marriage and probably will be back here talking about affairs as well.

It's self selection

This board is toxic brain poison. It's all about ending marriages. Why don't you find a source that discusses improving marriages?

Even the ones focused on improving marriages (John Gottman, Samantha Rodman), tend to lean toward saying that men need to do better. The only way you are going to find something telling women to wear more lingerie is to read Dr Laura.

Maybe if all the experts say men need to do better….then men need to do better?

But not all say that. The biggest issue is that most men have a list of about 3-4 things that they need to be happy. Womens lists have about 100 things on it and they can't understand why men won't help them complete the lists

PP literally said that ALL experts except Dr Laura say men need to do better.

So which is it? All experts, or some experts?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm convinced by most of these comments and on other discussion threads that the majority of women on DCUM don't like their husbands or maybe just men in general. They don't want to have sex with them, don't want to ever wear lingerie. Then they come complain about their husbands possibly having affairs, and want huge alimony payouts when they divorce. It's all so...weird. Like, what's the point of even being married if you can't have fun with your spouse?

It's a relationship board, meaning people come on here usually when they are having issues. I found this board on a Google search when I was having similar problems, the first few years of my marriage work rate and I wasn't on something like this. Now I am one of those people in a growingly hostile, sexless marriage and probably will be back here talking about affairs as well.

It's self selection

This board is toxic brain poison. It's all about ending marriages. Why don't you find a source that discusses improving marriages?

Even the ones focused on improving marriages (John Gottman, Samantha Rodman), tend to lean toward saying that men need to do better. The only way you are going to find something telling women to wear more lingerie is to read Dr Laura.

Maybe if all the experts say men need to do better….then men need to do better?

But not all say that. The biggest issue is that most men have a list of about 3-4 things that they need to be happy. Womens lists have about 100 things on it and they can't understand why men won't help them complete the lists

PP literally said that ALL experts except Dr Laura say men need to do better.

So which is it? All experts, or some experts?

So someone on the internet said all the experts…lol.

[Anonymous]

In my corporate days when I was single I used to wear nice lingerie because the rest of my business attire was so “corporate”. It was my hidden rebellion. But now after many years I’m all about comfort and convenience and hand washing anything is not going to happen. My husband often compliments me on what I’m wearing but it has nothing to do with what’s under my clothes. I do have a few very nice nightgowns that I often wear because it creates a Pavlovian response in my husband.