Would you date a bisexual man?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Bi woman here.
1. I exist
2. I'm not a lesbian
3. I'm not looking for male attention
4. I'm monogamous and always have been. Have never cheated.
5. It is Bi-phobic to not date a Bisexual person. You are literally afraid of them and have prejudices against them. That's what a phobia is. That's what this entire thread is.

Get outta here!! Heterosexuals aren't "afraid" of you, we're just not attracted to you. It's 2021, it's time to return "phobia." The same way you have a right to choose a partner that's into humping all the things, I have a right to choose a person that just likes humping one thing.

You sound immature to the point that no one at all should date you. Ever.

Angry snowflake insists you consider dating everyone or you're a horrible bigot who hates bisexuals. Hahaha so laughable. Normal, well-adjusted men and women know this phobic garbage is not true and don't care who you sleep with or how you define your sexual preferences.

Seriously are you 15?? You absolutely do not sound like a well adjusted adult.

[Anonymous]

Just as I wouldn't date someone who is a known cheater and who is/was promiscuous, I wouldn't date a guy who has/had sex with another man/men. These are all deal breakers for me. There is nothing wrong with having standards for what you want in a partner.

[Anonymous]

Some of you are insane. First of all, no, not wanting to date a bisexual man isn't "biphobic" and you're all acting like right-wing trolls. "I GUESS THAT MAKES ME BIPHOBIC." Literally no one said that. If you're not attracted to them, don't date them. I'm not attracted to Asian men so I don't date Asian men. That's not racist, that's just a preference. Literally no one said you were biphobic other than maybe a Jacobin writer so stop playing the martyr.

Second of all, while, yes, a lot of gay and bisexual people are more, uh, kinky, I don't think that's true of all of them. Dating a bisexual doesn't automatically equate to "you need to be in an open relationship and have nightly MMF threesomes." Wtf.

[Anonymous]

I am the OP of this thread and I do not think it's "biphobic" to not want to date bi men. So you could just say "No I wouldn't" to answer my question rather than write a ten paragraph screed about how you're not biphobic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is bi and I love it! We’ve been together for 10 years so I’m pretty sure he’s not gay because we’ve had sex thousands of times. I’m a millennial and I find the idea of a MMF threesome very hot. I doubt he has ever been unfaithful because we are very open about the fact we are both still attracted to other people but monogamy is a choice not the result of lack of options.

But my favorite part of my husband being bi is that it really opened the door to challenging other gender stereotypes. My husband makes the $$$, works as an executive, vacuums and does the laundry without being asked, grocery shops and cooks without being micromanaged, and is great with kids. My life is easy.

That makes sense. A MFF threesome has been the male fantasy for as long as time, MMF seems like the female equivalent

The above is interesting and I wonder if its true. I think its pretty well know that the man in an MFF doesn't view the F's activities as cheating or problematic. However, it seems to me many women in an MMF would react emotionally to the M's behavior. I think women would prefer an MFM, but that wouldn't require bisexuality, so it's not relevant to this thread.

NP. Yeah, I'm a F who desires a MFM. Repulsed by a MMF.

Aren't these the same? MMF=MMF

[Anonymous]

One date yes, then find out he was bi sexual then no

I think he’s cheat on me given the right opportunity and even if we were settled down.
There’s something about actually physically being with the opposite sex, that I could never satisfy him with and I’d be crushed by it.

Even if I wouldn’t know that he’s cheating, it’s the thought that in the bedroom- I’m constantly having to make up for something and me being whole isn’t enough.

[Anonymous]

No. Would not date a bi man.

Isn't it potentially double the opportunity to cheat for bi men and doesn't it make it twice as hard to be monogamous (twice the temptation)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you are insane. First of all, no, not wanting to date a bisexual man isn't "biphobic" and you're all acting like right-wing trolls. "I GUESS THAT MAKES ME BIPHOBIC." Literally no one said that. If you're not attracted to them, don't date them. I'm not attracted to Asian men so I don't date Asian men. That's not racist, that's just a preference. Literally no one said you were biphobic other than maybe a Jacobin writer so stop playing the martyr.

Second of all, while, yes, a lot of gay and bisexual people are more, uh, kinky, I don't think that's true of all of them. Dating a bisexual doesn't automatically equate to "you need to be in an open relationship and have nightly MMF threesomes." Wtf.

Literally no one said that except for the people who literally said it in this thread. Are you literacy phobic?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you are insane. First of all, no, not wanting to date a bisexual man isn't "biphobic" and you're all acting like right-wing trolls. "I GUESS THAT MAKES ME BIPHOBIC." Literally no one said that. If you're not attracted to them, don't date them. I'm not attracted to Asian men so I don't date Asian men. That's not racist, that's just a preference. Literally no one said you were biphobic other than maybe a Jacobin writer so stop playing the martyr.

Second of all, while, yes, a lot of gay and bisexual people are more, uh, kinky, I don't think that's true of all of them. Dating a bisexual doesn't automatically equate to "you need to be in an open relationship and have nightly MMF threesomes." Wtf.

Literally someone on this thread DID say that and that is what people are responding to:

5. It is Bi-phobic to not date a Bisexual person. You are literally afraid of them and have prejudices against them. That's what a phobia is. That's what this entire thread is.

When you tell people they are biphobic for not wanting to date someone who is bisexual, even if they are in every other way tolerant and open to bi people (as friends, coworkers, as people with rights, as people who should get to choose their own sexual partners and not be persecuted for it), then yes, you wind up with a lot of people defensively saying they are NOT biphobic for not wanting to date a bisexual person.

Also, no one equated bisexuality with wanting an open marriage or having nightly threesomes. But some posters have said that one reason they are unlikely to date a bisexual person is that there is a higher likelihood that a bisexual person might want an open relationship in the future (if, say, they find over the longterm that marriage to a person of one gender does not enable them to sufficiently express their bisexuality) or might be more interested in exploring bisexual experiences like threesomes. I don't find open marriages or threesomes taboo or a mark of immorality, so I don't think the supposition that a bisexual person might be more interested in them, statistically, to be some kind of insult. It is reasonable for a straight person to be concerned that a longterm relationship with someone who knows they are attracted to multiple genders might cause issues down the road.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Would not date a bi man.

Isn't it potentially double the opportunity to cheat for bi men and doesn't it make it twice as hard to be monogamous (twice the temptation)?

It's more that 2x the temptation because it's not that easy for a straight man to find a woman to have sex with but gay and bi men can find multiple hookups daily

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the OP of this thread and I do not think it's "biphobic" to not want to date bi men. So you could just say "No I wouldn't" to answer my question rather than write a ten paragraph screed about how you're not biphobic.

People are responding to another post on the thread that asserted someone who doesn't want to date bi men is automatically biphobic. I also disagree with that poster but it is reasonable that people took issue with that comment and felt the need to more fully explain why disinterest in bi men does not mean they are biphobic.

If you want to take a poll, try Surveymonkey. Don't introduce a topic on a message board and then get mad when people talk about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Would not date a bi man.

Isn't it potentially double the opportunity to cheat for bi men and doesn't it make it twice as hard to be monogamous (twice the temptation)?

It's more that 2x the temptation because it's not that easy for a straight man to find a woman to have sex with but gay and bi men can find multiple hookups daily

This is the flawed assumption of so many people on this thread — you think that because there are more people to be attracted to there is an increased likelihood of cheating. It’s illogical AND insulting. People of all identities can be and are monogamous.

The characterization of people who aren’t straight as inherently having more cheating/non-monogamous proclivities than straight people, that’s the bi/homophobia.

If your partner wants to cheat on you they are going to do it regardless of how many types of people they’re attracted to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the OP of this thread and I do not think it's "biphobic" to not want to date bi men. So you could just say "No I wouldn't" to answer my question rather than write a ten paragraph screed about how you're not biphobic.

How dare someone discuss on a discussion board.

[Anonymous]

I just swiped left on an older bisexual guy on tinder who was searching for women on the app. He had pictures of his open relationship partner who was a young 20 something guy who looked like he could be his son. I thought so until saw pics of them snuggling vomit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is bi and I love it! We’ve been together for 10 years so I’m pretty sure he’s not gay because we’ve had sex thousands of times. I’m a millennial and I find the idea of a MMF threesome very hot. I doubt he has ever been unfaithful because we are very open about the fact we are both still attracted to other people but monogamy is a choice not the result of lack of options.

But my favorite part of my husband being bi is that it really opened the door to challenging other gender stereotypes. My husband makes the $$$, works as an executive, vacuums and does the laundry without being asked, grocery shops and cooks without being micromanaged, and is great with kids. My life is easy.

That makes sense. A MFF threesome has been the male fantasy for as long as time, MMF seems like the female equivalent

The above is interesting and I wonder if its true. I think its pretty well know that the man in an MFF doesn't view the F's activities as cheating or problematic. However, it seems to me many women in an MMF would react emotionally to the M's behavior. I think women would prefer an MFM, but that wouldn't require bisexuality, so it's not relevant to this thread.

NP. Yeah, I'm a F who desires a MFM. Repulsed by a MMF.

Aren't these the same? MMF=MMF

No, the positions matter. The middle is who is getting pleasured by both of the others.
MFM= both men pleasure the F, not each other
MMF= The F and M all pleasure the other M (bi guy)
FMF= Both F pleasure the M
FFM= The F pleasure each other and the M (bi girl)