My boyfriend steals groceries

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Now I have yet another reason to like Trader Joe’s and their trustworthy shoppers.

No psychos in the self checkouts.

You are insane. There are shoplifters at all stores. In rockville there is a security person standing by the entrance door (in the afternoon/evening) for those who think they can just walk out with full unpaid for carts and bags of food.

Montgomery County used to be the richest county in America. Now it's becoming a ghetto.

[Anonymous]

It’s white supremacy to demand OP’s BF pay for his groceries.

[Anonymous]

I had an ex who also thought he was above the law. Unsurprisingly, he was a cheater.

Meanwhile, I’m so honest that I go back inside to pay for things if I missed scanning them because they got tucked back in the cart.

Now I’m married to someone equally scrupulous. We’re both government lawyers like your boyfriend. We would be surprised if any of our coworkers jeopardized their licenses for such a petty thrill.

[Anonymous]

W
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And the craziest part of this whole story is that the title doesn’t say EX-boyfriend. The bar is prison apparently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I 'forget' to scan about $10 worth of stuff each time I use the self scan. If they force me to do their labor, I'm getting paid.

Even if the store paid you to check out your own groceries, it doesn’t take half an hour to ring up your groceries.

[Anonymous]

This is why grocery stores and drug stores close due to rampant theft.

If he will steal from a store he will steal from you and/or your family.

He has no values or integrity.

Do not build a relationship with this man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whenever he goes to the self check out, he only rings up about 75% of his cart. He says that the store assumes people are stealing and already bake that into the price. He says most men do this.

I am a rule follower and am horrified by this behavior, and terrified he’s going to get arrested.

Do men really steal from the self check out?

And no, he’s not that poor. This isn’t an Aladdin situation.

How could you trust him if he does this? Would he also say “most men cheat” if he cheats on you? I mean come on! And he will get caught eventually!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I 'forget' to scan about $10 worth of stuff each time I use the self scan. If they force me to do their labor, I'm getting paid.

So you’re a thief?

Raising prices for the rest of us, thanks! If you don’t want to do the labor then wait in line at the regular check out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I got caught up in the evening routine, so apologies for the delay. To answer questions:

1. We shop at Aldi. They have one of those scanner gun things so you can just scan all the items in your cart, pay, and then go over to the counters to bag your groceries. So you don’t unload your cart, and there isn’t the bag station/scale thing like at a Safeway.

2. He is 55. I am 47. So we are not having kids together.

3. I do have kids in the house. My kids have met him, but we’re not really “blended”, and I don’t plan to get married until my kids are much older (if at all). So I’m not worried about him teaching them bad things.

4. He’s a fed. I’m not with him for his money. Again, he shops at Aldi.

5. I have only witnessed him doing this once. And I asked once we got to the car, and he admitted to doing it frequently. I told him that was really dishonest and he laughed and to me I was too much of a rule follower. This was over the weekend, and it’s been lurking around in my brain ever since. I started this post as a gut check that I wasn’t being too much of a goody two-shoes.

6. But I think everyone is right, and this is probably indicative of an attitude that enables even more shady behavior. And it’s just weird. Like a teenager stealing nail polish at the dollar store. It’s about risk taking, which a 50-something man should have outgrown long ago.

What in the hell are you doing justifying that no kids are involved? Do you think this makes it okay? Not something anyone outgrows. Normal people (normal to me) don't routinely shoplift groceries. Period.

He is a fed and he also steals? You have got to be kidding me. Does he have access to taxpayer $$ or accounting, financials in his taxpayer funded job?

Also, the fact he said you are too much of a rule follower and he is also a fed makes me question what his judgment is like at work.

I hope he gets arrested and looses his job and pension. People are ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every time I scroll through Recent Topics and see this title I laugh and shake my head. Especially since I know he's in his 50s!

Except this isn’t funny at all.

[Anonymous]

It’s insane to be gainfully employed and stealing from ALDI, the cheapest store in the whole entire world, of all places. Ugh!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had an ex who also thought he was above the law. Unsurprisingly, he was a cheater.

Meanwhile, I’m so honest that I go back inside to pay for things if I missed scanning them because they got tucked back in the cart.

Now I’m married to someone equally scrupulous. We’re both government lawyers like your boyfriend. We would be surprised if any of our coworkers jeopardized their licenses for such a petty thrill.

It is truly psycho behavior.

You live with him, OP?

Something is wrong with you too, if you are not a troll.

[Anonymous]

Man here. Yes, prices are insane but I would never steal groceries like my 77 year old Boomer mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be concerned about one thing: it seems like the trend nowadays is to prosecute normal taxpaying citizens and let all sorts of fringe populations get away with the same things or worse. Since he isn’t a homeless guy or some such, the store might virtue signal by prosecuting him.

Way to make this all about the store "virtue signaling" instead of about the guy being a common dirty thief.

Your post basically condones theft, as long as it's done by the right people of the right hue, who aren't part of (gasp!) "fringe populations."

No. I am for equality. If it’s ok for a homeless guy to eat food at the hot bar and to steal, or for URM youth to swarm the store and steal merchandise, it should be ok for a middle age white man who pays taxes, too. Or it should NOT be ok for both.
Make your pick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be concerned about one thing: it seems like the trend nowadays is to prosecute normal taxpaying citizens and let all sorts of fringe populations get away with the same things or worse. Since he isn’t a homeless guy or some such, the store might virtue signal by prosecuting him.

Your post is freaking rude and ridiculous. You are in la la land. No fringe (code word Black and brown I assume) people are getting away with anything. Me and my family are as innocent as can be and are followed around the store like we are hoodlums.

No I actually meant homeless.
Sorry that race wasn’t on my mind!