Women who say they get hit on everywhere they go

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get hit on everywhere I go, but I get enough comments and compliments from strangers of the kind I would describe as "getting hit on" even if they're fleeting moments on the street and no one is asking me out or asking for my number. I'm not a great beauty, but I have a good figure, pretty hair, and a "pretty enough" face. Nowadays a lot of the comments are not the crude, obvious leering kind, but more restrained comments. I'll give a few examples:
-older, dapper Black gentleman in a hat, downtown. Gives me an appreciative look as we walk towards each other, smiles, tips his hat, says "that's a very pretty dress you're wearing." I get a fair bit of that kind of interaction: guy checks me out, nods or smiles, says "nice coat", "great hair", "beautiful dress" etc.. Maybe I just dress really well and gusy in the area are very fashion aware...
- as I jog by, random guy checks me out and says "nice form, keep it up"
-younger guy asks me to dance and, while dancing, bashfully says "respectfully, you seem like an older woman, but you are very good looking" (this one really cracked me up)
- the friendly manager at a regular work lunch spot (now closed) who, almost every time I went would make some part of my lunch "on the house" (this was a running joke with my work colleagues who'd go with me and never got anything for free; they used to call him my "boyfriend")

None of these is getting hit on. It’s just pretty woman par for the course,most people this stuff out. You sound attention-seeking.

[Anonymous]

Old post, but I’m always curious about this. I’d like to think I’m fairly conventionally attractive (mid-30s, Eastern European, 5’8” size 4 and very fit, light hair and eyes, never leave the house without at the very least a bit of blush/mascara/concealer/lip gloss, always look “put together” etc) and yet I NEVER get hit on. I’m confident, friendly, chatty and smile a lot. I absolutely love a bit of friendly banter with strangers and I’ll start it any chance I get. I’ll have people occasionally offer to help or comment on something, but I have literally never once in my life had a “hey could I get your number I’d love to buy you a drink” type of interaction. And while I’m not losing any sleep over it I genuinely don’t understand why!

[Anonymous]

I almost never get hit on, but am also 5'10", which I assume is the issue. If I do get attention, the guy is usually several inches shorter than I am.

[Anonymous]

I honestly think that some men will hit on anyone. I am very overweight. I'm not attractive at all. I don't get hit on all the time but often enough. When I say hit on I mean asking me for my number, asking me if I'm single. I nannied a few years ago I told a guy that I wasn't single. After buckling my nanny kids into the car. He came over to the driver side and asked me if I was happy and if I was sure I didn't want to give him my number.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I honestly think that some men will hit on anyone. I am very overweight. I'm not attractive at all. I don't get hit on all the time but often enough. When I say hit on I mean asking me for my number, asking me if I'm single. I nannied a few years ago I told a guy that I wasn't single. After buckling my nanny kids into the car. He came over to the driver side and asked me if I was happy and if I was sure I didn't want to give him my number.

+1. Men flirt with me all the time because I'm not do dead gorgeous and i look relatable. I'm witty and can banter with the best of them. I also wear my wedding ring, and men love hitting on me for a little lift without any expectation of more

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Before I gained pandemic weight, I got hit on at bars, Wegman's, standing on the street, in Ubers.....

Define “ getting hit on” vs somebody making conversation, being nice.

Np. Are you suggesting it is all in our heads? Everyone who has been hit on know the script. It is way more than 'making conversation and being nice'

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to get hit on a lot in my early 20s. I think this is because I went to school in a college town with lots of guys my age. I’d usually get hit on at bars, on campus, or at my pt job. Now in my early 30s and I never get hit on. I never go to bars anymore, never really out to eat unless with DH, pretty much always with my kids when I go out. Fine by me

Did you get fat?

Pp oink oink for that rude comment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you met men?

#notallmen
#butalotofthem

Seriously, there is a very visible subset of men who seem off the charts pissed that "you can't approach women in public anymore" and "how am I supposed to meet women now?" And there is another visible subset who just keep doing it anyway.

Are these great men? No. Should you be honored to be a target? No. Are they hitting on women? Yes.

It helps a lot to have RBF. When you have resting-friendly-face, not so helpful in these cases.

The homeless man sitting in a cafe I was in the other day told me I had nice hair, then stared at me for awhile. Was he hitting on me? I don't tend to think of it as being hit on. Often times it's not legit or serious so I don't need to tell them "Sorry, I'm married."

Yeah some of the examples posters are giving are more being sexually harassed than hit on.

Dp it can be both inapprpriate snd being hit on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Old post, but I’m always curious about this. I’d like to think I’m fairly conventionally attractive (mid-30s, Eastern European, 5’8” size 4 and very fit, light hair and eyes, never leave the house without at the very least a bit of blush/mascara/concealer/lip gloss, always look “put together” etc) and yet I NEVER get hit on. I’m confident, friendly, chatty and smile a lot. I absolutely love a bit of friendly banter with strangers and I’ll start it any chance I get. I’ll have people occasionally offer to help or comment on something, but I have literally never once in my life had a “hey could I get your number I’d love to buy you a drink” type of interaction. And while I’m not losing any sleep over it I genuinely don’t understand why!

I’m fat, scarred face, no makeup, frizzy hair and overall ugly, but also 5’4” and never get hit on or cat called.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I’m fat, scarred face, no makeup, frizzy hair and overall ugly, but also 5’4” and never get hit on or cat called.

PP that you quoted - welp, it’s not a terrible boat to be in! 😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Old post, but I’m always curious about this. I’d like to think I’m fairly conventionally attractive (mid-30s, Eastern European, 5’8” size 4 and very fit, light hair and eyes, never leave the house without at the very least a bit of blush/mascara/concealer/lip gloss, always look “put together” etc) and yet I NEVER get hit on. I’m confident, friendly, chatty and smile a lot. I absolutely love a bit of friendly banter with strangers and I’ll start it any chance I get. I’ll have people occasionally offer to help or comment on something, but I have literally never once in my life had a “hey could I get your number I’d love to buy you a drink” type of interaction. And while I’m not losing any sleep over it I genuinely don’t understand why!

I'm exactly the same. The only times this has happened to me is like, after midnight at a bar. I don't think I have ever been hit on by a sober man. I get compliments from other women literally every day though!

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t say I get “hit on” because it’s rare they speak to you, but I get ogled, or, as my teen who is very keenly aware of it when it happens to me says, “Gross, mom! That guy won’t stop checking you out!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Before I gained pandemic weight, I got hit on at bars, Wegman's, standing on the street, in Ubers.....

What do you think attracted them enough they didn't heed to the me too fears?

That isn’t “me too.” Me too is when men take advantage of power imbalances. A man hitting on a woman isn’t that.

[Anonymous]

Because of threads like this, I never say hello or look at women going the other way when I go on walking paths, trails, etc. Why provide attention when it might be misinterpreted. But about 35% of the time, women do say hello or good morning to me. They're all over 50, but so am I!

[Anonymous]

I think some of those women do get hit on frequently but are likely exaggerating every time. Also think many confuse good manners for being hit on