Women who say they get hit on everywhere they go

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Are bark meets where singles get together with their dogs?

https://barksocial.com/pages/events. Recommended in the "haven't been on a date in two years thread"

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of women assume getting approached is about attractiveness but I don’t think thats usually the case. Of my friends, the one that gets hit on the most is ordinary looking but outgoing and has a very flirtatious way about her (just her way of speaking, holding eye contact for a long time etc). I have another friend who is genuinely beautiful and, while she gets checked out often, she never gets hit on unless we are at a bar. A lot of it has to do with approachability and the amount of interest the the woman is returning, in my opinion.

This is it. I am in my 50s and I get asked out more now than when I was 30. (I am a widow). I am way more outgoing and less guarded now. I know someone from a group and we have dated the same men a couple times (not at the same time, but met them from the app) and how they acted with me was very different than how they acted with her. I think it is about an approachable vibe. I mean, I am not hideous, but still.

[Anonymous]

This was all precovid mind you… I smile a lot. I’m not a flirt but I make good eye contact with people and am friendly. Being that so many people do their best to avoid interacting with others it prob makes a difference. I also have a giant rack that you can’t hide even in baggy clothes. Lol. But honestly I think it’s the smile. Men compliment my smile even in passing with no intention of trying to chat me up more. Friends remark on it. I’m in a relationship and it’s not something I put much stake in. Most guys are really nice about it, not gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women who "say" they get hit on -OP you sound like you are looking for a fight, discrediting, or ego trap. I had a friend who whenever we went out men would make out with her and try to sleep with her that weekend. Some women really are popular with men. Sorry it is not always the delusion you obviously wanted it to be.

True, but the cognitive defense is more important than making not of what really happens for some.

This is one of those times when it just isn't worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of women assume getting approached is about attractiveness but I don’t think thats usually the case. Of my friends, the one that gets hit on the most is ordinary looking but outgoing and has a very flirtatious way about her (just her way of speaking, holding eye contact for a long time etc). I have another friend who is genuinely beautiful and, while she gets checked out often, she never gets hit on unless we are at a bar. A lot of it has to do with approachability and the amount of interest the the woman is returning, in my opinion.

This is it. I am in my 50s and I get asked out more now than when I was 30. (I am a widow). I am way more outgoing and less guarded now. I know someone from a group and we have dated the same men a couple times (not at the same time, but met them from the app) and how they acted with me was very different than how they acted with her. I think it is about an approachable vibe. I mean, I am not hideous, but still.

+1

[Anonymous]

I am 48. I get hit on by guys who are young - I mean young not just younger than me. I think it’s weird. Wtf I could be their mom. This happens often and these guys are bold!
Men who are closer to my age hardly pay attention to me.
When I was young I only got hit on by old men.
I think I am sexy/cute not beautiful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 48. I get hit on by guys who are young - I mean young not just younger than me. I think it’s weird. Wtf I could be their mom. This happens often and these guys are bold!
Men who are closer to my age hardly pay attention to me.
When I was young I only got hit on by old men.
I think I am sexy/cute not beautiful.

I think I read someone that milf porn/older woman porn was one of the most popular porn searches

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People have very different ideas of what it is to get hit on!

I don't consider random compliments on my appearance from men to be getting hit on unless they are clearly doing it to start a conversation with me or continue the interaction. So an older man on the street saying "nice coat" is not hitting on me. He is complimenting my coat. I compliment random people's clothes on the street all the time. Women do this to each other to. Complimenting your hair or eyes or even just saying you look pretty is a bit more of something, but again, if it's just said in passing and then people go on with their day, no one has hit on anyone.

Catcalls and harassment are definitely not getting hit on. Ladies, come on. Some guy yelling at you about your boobs or grabbing himself as you jog by is not hitting on you! Stop with this nonsense.

Men in service roles providing good customer service and nothing else (even free items) are not hitting on you. They are working. It has to go beyond serving your lunch to count.

To me, someone is hitting on me if they are trying to to talk to me and suss out if I'm available, if I'm interested in them, and maybe ask me out. Sometimes it doesn't get to the asking out stage but it's really obvious what the intention is. So like when I random guy starts talking to me at a coffee shop or bar and asking questions about my life, maybe in addition to complimenting me or saying stuff like "you seem like the kind of of woman who..." -- that's hitting on someone.

Seriously, some of you are acting like any man talking to you while being friendly is hitting on you. Which, if a man said this, he would get called an incel and delusional. Sometimes people are just being friendly. That doesn't mean their trying to date you.

This x1,000. When I first moved to DC, and I was young and attractive, I noticed that people here are terrible at flirting. Where I’m from, men and women could interact in a lighthearted and friendly way and think nothing of it. This, by the way, would not include crude or aggressive comments. In DC, if you’re the least bit flirtatious, or even just friendly and polite, people take it seriously and think they’ve been “hit on.” It goes both ways, too — a woman can’t flirt with a man without him thinking you’re headed straight back to his house. I very quickly perfected a “friendly and polite, but slightly frosty” demeanor.

Every time I see people in this site comment that they are constantly being “hit on,” I think of this.

[Anonymous]

Well, I posted earlier that I get hit on a fair bit, but I have RBF, don't make eye contact a lot (I'm ND), not particularly approachable, flirty, warm, cuddly-- none of it. I'm not cold, either, but I'm in no way inviting attention. Nor do I think I give off a vulnerable or "easy" vibe. I've been wearing a wedding ring since I turned 20. Most of the time, I'm wearing headphones, leggings and a tee shirt, no makeup-- and my hair is questionable.

I get it-- I'm physically attractive, even when not presented perfectly-- but I don't *really* get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 48. I get hit on by guys who are young - I mean young not just younger than me. I think it’s weird. Wtf I could be their mom. This happens often and these guys are bold!
Men who are closer to my age hardly pay attention to me.
When I was young I only got hit on by old men.
I think I am sexy/cute not beautiful.

Young men driven by testosterone see you as an experienced woman who they can have a great time with and not be concerned about pregnancy and a lifetime commitment. If you are as you describe then you, and women like you, should have lots of options if you want that kind of fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 48. I get hit on by guys who are young - I mean young not just younger than me. I think it’s weird. Wtf I could be their mom. This happens often and these guys are bold!
Men who are closer to my age hardly pay attention to me.
When I was young I only got hit on by old men.
I think I am sexy/cute not beautiful.

Young men driven by testosterone see you as an experienced woman who they can have a great time with and not be concerned about pregnancy and a lifetime commitment. If you are as you describe then you, and women like you, should have lots of options if you want that kind of fun.

Also, I think the whole milf/cougar thing has shifted the zeitgeist a bit to give people the idea that women in their 40s actually want sex. Women in their 20s are sexy but are more likely to think guys are gross for wanting to have sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 48. I get hit on by guys who are young - I mean young not just younger than me. I think it’s weird. Wtf I could be their mom. This happens often and these guys are bold!
Men who are closer to my age hardly pay attention to me.
When I was young I only got hit on by old men.
I think I am sexy/cute not beautiful.

I think I read someone that milf porn/older woman porn was one of the most popular porn searches

I’m 55 and right before the pandemic on several occasions when I was at bars I was asked to go home with
Men who were in their 20s. One admitted that it was because he enjoyed cougar porn

[Anonymous]

I get hit on a lot. Not a big deal to me as long as someone is respectful and not pushy. I don't ever tell my friends about it though bc that is weird. Happens a lot at coffee shops, bars, shopping. Men will usually give a compliment and then ask if they can take me out for coffee or dinner sometime. Yes, I'm objectively beautiful and always told that I'm "exotic" looking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 48. I get hit on by guys who are young - I mean young not just younger than me. I think it’s weird. Wtf I could be their mom. This happens often and these guys are bold!
Men who are closer to my age hardly pay attention to me.
When I was young I only got hit on by old men.
I think I am sexy/cute not beautiful.

I think I read someone that milf porn/older woman porn was one of the most popular porn searches

46 year old dad here. When I'm pulling my pud I'm thinking about a handful of moms at my DD's school, not movie stars.

[Anonymous]

I’m 17 and guys of all ages are constantly asking me out, normally at work. I’m outgoing and friendly and I think I’m pretty but I know girls much prettier than me that don’t get this kind of attention. Men are normally nice about it but I’ve never said yes to anyone. One time I was driving down a two lane road and two guys pulled up beside me at a stop light and one asked for my number. I said no then he got mad at me and I ended up rolling my window up.