Girlfriend Wants To Get Engaged Before Moving In

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Anonymous wrote:I did not enjoying living with my bf at that time at all. Paying for half the bills where he eats 80% of the food, and doing all the cleaning was tiresome.

Once we were married, these were more bearable. as I have claims to his savings as a result from me picking up his slack.

I wish we didn't live together so I had more time for my own hobbies or career advancement. It felt like all those years buried in tedious work were wasted, and seeing my friends who focused on themselves learned dance/ice skating/fitness, gotten CPA certification, or traveled carefree. Now they are coasting at comfortable director jobs and I am struggling to network and making the climb while running a household full of little people.

This. All of this. It's best not to start domestic labor until you are married, or at least engaged.

+1 Wives cook meals; girlfriends get taken out to dinner.

^^^ taking advice from losers who can’t learn how a 50/50 relationship works. Not!

I guess I am the loser for handling 80% of life in my relationship, both domestic labor and financial.

But the world is not solely for winners. So hopefully my previous live-in situation where I worked my 20s away for an unfair relationship can heed warning for those who might not be winners in life.

No it doesn’t work that way. You were walked upon because you were weak not beacause you moved in with somebody. He probably abused you before you moved in too.

Your experience is irrelevant to living together, it only relevant to your therapist to find out why you are weak and let yourself be used.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh and I’ve lived with slobs or inconsiderate partners and quickly learned they would not be good partners what we valued in a homestead and how to make it happen did not align.

OP will not get the benefit of this (and he wanted to!) because he is forced to propose first.

You don't have to live with someone to know if they're a slob who doesn't clean up after themself, or can't cook and live off take-out, or is generally inconsiderate to other people in their apartment/home.

Umm an 8 hour sleepover is enough for that?? Sure Jan gif. Keep trying to defend this gf but people live together to truly get to know watch other. OP wanted that, but he won’t get it.

Op will get it. As an engaged man.

Exactly and he will break off the “engagement “ if living together doesn’t work out. The ring is meaningless.

[Anonymous]

If you think she's forever material, get engaged. Move in. If living together proves that you aren't suited, you or she can end an engagement.

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Anonymous wrote:I did not enjoying living with my bf at that time at all. Paying for half the bills where he eats 80% of the food, and doing all the cleaning was tiresome.

Once we were married, these were more bearable. as I have claims to his savings as a result from me picking up his slack.

I wish we didn't live together so I had more time for my own hobbies or career advancement. It felt like all those years buried in tedious work were wasted, and seeing my friends who focused on themselves learned dance/ice skating/fitness, gotten CPA certification, or traveled carefree. Now they are coasting at comfortable director jobs and I am struggling to network and making the climb while running a household full of little people.

This. All of this. It's best not to start domestic labor until you are married, or at least engaged.

+1 Wives cook meals; girlfriends get taken out to dinner.

^^^ taking advice from losers who can’t learn how a 50/50 relationship works. Not!

I guess I am the loser for handling 80% of life in my relationship, both domestic labor and financial.

But the world is not solely for winners. So hopefully my previous live-in situation where I worked my 20s away for an unfair relationship can heed warning for those who might not be winners in life.

No it doesn’t work that way. You were walked upon because you were weak not beacause you moved in with somebody. He probably abused you before you moved in too.

Your experience is irrelevant to living together, it only relevant to your therapist to find out why you are weak and let yourself be used.

I am a weak loser, great. But ladies who are reading this, now you see who is in your best interest.

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Anonymous wrote:I did not enjoying living with my bf at that time at all. Paying for half the bills where he eats 80% of the food, and doing all the cleaning was tiresome.

Once we were married, these were more bearable. as I have claims to his savings as a result from me picking up his slack.

I wish we didn't live together so I had more time for my own hobbies or career advancement. It felt like all those years buried in tedious work were wasted, and seeing my friends who focused on themselves learned dance/ice skating/fitness, gotten CPA certification, or traveled carefree. Now they are coasting at comfortable director jobs and I am struggling to network and making the climb while running a household full of little people.

This. All of this. It's best not to start domestic labor until you are married, or at least engaged.

+1 Wives cook meals; girlfriends get taken out to dinner.

^^^ taking advice from losers who can’t learn how a 50/50 relationship works. Not!

I guess I am the loser for handling 80% of life in my relationship, both domestic labor and financial.

But the world is not solely for winners. So hopefully my previous live-in situation where I worked my 20s away for an unfair relationship can heed warning for those who might not be winners in life.

No it doesn’t work that way. You were walked upon because you were weak not beacause you moved in with somebody. He probably abused you before you moved in too.

Your experience is irrelevant to living together, it only relevant to your therapist to find out why you are weak and let yourself be used.

I am a weak loser, great. But ladies who are reading this, now you see who is in your best interest.

Stop giving advice and get therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you think she's forever material, get engaged. Move in. If living together proves that you aren't suited, you or she can end an engagement.

^^^ this is the funniest part

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Anonymous wrote:I did not enjoying living with my bf at that time at all. Paying for half the bills where he eats 80% of the food, and doing all the cleaning was tiresome.

Once we were married, these were more bearable. as I have claims to his savings as a result from me picking up his slack.

I wish we didn't live together so I had more time for my own hobbies or career advancement. It felt like all those years buried in tedious work were wasted, and seeing my friends who focused on themselves learned dance/ice skating/fitness, gotten CPA certification, or traveled carefree. Now they are coasting at comfortable director jobs and I am struggling to network and making the climb while running a household full of little people.

This. All of this. It's best not to start domestic labor until you are married, or at least engaged.

+1 Wives cook meals; girlfriends get taken out to dinner.

^^^ taking advice from losers who can’t learn how a 50/50 relationship works. Not!

I guess I am the loser for handling 80% of life in my relationship, both domestic labor and financial.

But the world is not solely for winners. So hopefully my previous live-in situation where I worked my 20s away for an unfair relationship can heed warning for those who might not be winners in life.

No it doesn’t work that way. You were walked upon because you were weak not beacause you moved in with somebody. He probably abused you before you moved in too.

Your experience is irrelevant to living together, it only relevant to your therapist to find out why you are weak and let yourself be used.

I am a weak loser, great. But ladies who are reading this, now you see who is in your best interest.

Stop giving advice and get therapy.

Cant get a free servant to cater to your benefit?

Woot