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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I did not enjoying living with my bf at that time at all. Paying for half the bills where he eats 80% of the food, and doing all the cleaning was tiresome.

Once we were married, these were more bearable. as I have claims to his savings as a result from me picking up his slack.

I wish we didn't live together so I had more time for my own hobbies or career advancement. It felt like all those years buried in tedious work were wasted, and seeing my friends who focused on themselves learned dance/ice skating/fitness, gotten CPA certification, or traveled carefree. Now they are coasting at comfortable director jobs and I am struggling to network and making the climb while running a household full of little people. [/quote]

This. All of this. It's best not to start domestic labor until you are married, or at least engaged. [/quote]

+1 Wives cook meals; girlfriends get taken out to dinner.
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^^^ taking advice from losers who can’t learn how a 50/50 relationship works. Not![/quote]

I guess I am the loser for handling 80% of life in my relationship, both domestic labor and financial.

But the world is not solely for winners. So hopefully my previous live-in situation where I worked my 20s away for an unfair relationship can heed warning for those who might not be winners in life.

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No it doesn’t work that way. You were walked upon because you were weak not beacause you moved in with somebody. He probably abused you before you moved in too.

Your experience is irrelevant to living together, it only relevant to your therapist to find out why you are weak and let yourself be used.[/quote]

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