Girlfriend Wants To Get Engaged Before Moving In
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Anonymous
| She's smart. And I say this as someone who moved in with her BF after 3 years and then moved out after 18 months because he was still hemming and hawing. One year is quick to get engaged. So why not date for another year and talk about it then? |
Anonymous
| Agree with all the other posters. Moving in without the commitment makes it too easy to break up just because the little things she does day to day annoy you, rather than working together to resolve the differences and learning to compromise before you are committed. Good for her. |
Anonymous
| Engagement isn’t marriage. If living together doesn’t work you call it off. |
Anonymous
| OP, how old are each of you? |
Anonymous
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Do you feel confident you'll want to marry her? If so, agree to the engagement but on the condition of no wedding planning for one year.
My DH proposed after 6 months of dating, and I asked for one full year of breathing room before the wedding. I would have felt too rushed with any shorter a timeline. |
Anonymous
| People used to date for 3-6 months tops before marrying. And most of the ones I know stayed married and were happy and honest with each other. People have too many choices these days I guess. |
Anonymous
+1 sht or get off the pot, op. |
Anonymous
If you are both 25 you may be rushing into things, if you are both 35 it makes sense that she needs that commitment to move forward. |
Anonymous
| Smart girl. I would never live with any guy before engagement. I have seen plenty of coworkers, friends and my sister who moved in with somebody, dated for years and then split. Honestly, dating for a year is long enough to figure out whether you are compatible or not. I never dated anyone longer than 1.5 year, I didn't have time for games. |
Anonymous
| S year is not that long, are you in a rush to start a family? |
Anonymous
| If your views on marriage start with “ My parents always told me,” you’re not mature enough to get married. End the relationship so she can find someone who is. |
Anonymous
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I said this to my now husband 17 years ago.
She’s being smart. Break off the engagement if it doesn’t work out. |
Anonymous
| If you’re not ready to get engaged after 18 months something is wrong. Break up. |
Anonymous
| I'd never move in even if engaged because that's how I was raised. Doesn't sound like you're very serious, yet, OP. Stop wasting her time. |
Anonymous
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Your GF sounds very traditional which is personally refreshing to hear.
I say you propose, then move in together. If you two are not compatible at all - then just break off the engagement. It really is quite simple. 💍 |