Shared family beach house - how to handle politely?

[Anonymous]

Op only made this thread because she wanted a few people to encourage her to go over MIL’s head and/or for husband to call and make a demand to MIL. Things she wanted to do before making the thread. Notice how the normal adult response, book a place, was ignored and pushed back (‘MIL wouldn’t want that’ lol). The only option was how to passive aggressively strong-arm elderly MIL and nephew, so those were the only posts she entertained.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op only made this thread because she wanted a few people to encourage her to go over MIL’s head and/or for husband to call and make a demand to MIL. Things she wanted to do before making the thread. Notice how the normal adult response, book a place, was ignored and pushed back (‘MIL wouldn’t want that’ lol). The only option was how to passive aggressively strong-arm elderly MIL and nephew, so those were the only posts she entertained.

+1

Spoiled brat OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op only made this thread because she wanted a few people to encourage her to go over MIL’s head and/or for husband to call and make a demand to MIL. Things she wanted to do before making the thread. Notice how the normal adult response, book a place, was ignored and pushed back (‘MIL wouldn’t want that’ lol). The only option was how to passive aggressively strong-arm elderly MIL and nephew, so those were the only posts she entertained.

+1

Spoiled brat OP.

And the bullying and name-calling continues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op only made this thread because she wanted a few people to encourage her to go over MIL’s head and/or for husband to call and make a demand to MIL. Things she wanted to do before making the thread. Notice how the normal adult response, book a place, was ignored and pushed back (‘MIL wouldn’t want that’ lol). The only option was how to passive aggressively strong-arm elderly MIL and nephew, so those were the only posts she entertained.

+1

Spoiled brat OP.

And the bullying and name-calling continues.

NP. The shoe fits.

[Anonymous]

Ah yes, the family beach house drama. Always a DCUM classic!

[Anonymous]

I bet OP read the posts encouraging her to buy out MIL's share of the beach house to herself and thought, 'why waste money buying her out when we get it for free when she dies?'

OP, word of advice. If MIL is being weird about beach house use in her advanced age, there might be behind the scenes financial and mortgage moves being made. That's what happened with our family. Our grandpa was sort of broke the last few years of his life and the beach house ownership changed hands, unbeknownst to the family. You also might assume the beach house is paid off, but in the case of our grandfather, he had gotten numerous mortgages and spent the cash to maintain his lifestyle and upkeep and bills at the beach house.

Point being, don't assume that house is paid off, don't assume it's going to your husband when she dies. If you want that house, make a move for it now before nephew, brother in law, and/or MIL alters your inheritance prediction.

[Anonymous]

I'm the OP and gave up commenting on this thread because of the intense projection and ascription of ulterior motives and nasty name-calling. LOL at the person who can spot a conniver a "mile away."

We don't want MIL's house. Ever. We go other places for vacations. I suppose we will inherit a portion someday, maybe, shared with about seven people and we will take a week here and there. If we don't, well, that's fine too, since we have other vacation spots we love. We literally just needed to plan our kid's birthday weekend where she has celebrated every year with two other girls.

That's IT. This isn't some murder mystery weekend where we want MIL to croak so we take up residence in a swanky beachfront estate. Oh yes, that post suggesting how fancy the house must be was pretty funny too. It is literally two bedrooms in a very humble community near a small, remote lake in western PA...Not St. Tropez. But I suppose the fantasy allows for more meanness. I am shaking my head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP and gave up commenting on this thread because of the intense projection and ascription of ulterior motives and nasty name-calling. LOL at the person who can spot a conniver a "mile away."

We don't want MIL's house. Ever. We go other places for vacations. I suppose we will inherit a portion someday, maybe, shared with about seven people and we will take a week here and there. If we don't, well, that's fine too, since we have other vacation spots we love. We literally just needed to plan our kid's birthday weekend where she has celebrated every year with two other girls.

That's IT. This isn't some murder mystery weekend where we want MIL to croak so we take up residence in a swanky beachfront estate. Oh yes, that post suggesting how fancy the house must be was pretty funny too. It is literally two bedrooms in a very humble community near a small, remote lake in western PA...Not St. Tropez. But I suppose the fantasy allows for more meanness. I am shaking my head.

Doesn't matter how big or small the place is. You asked MIL and didn't get thr answer you wanted. Your post sounded entitled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP and gave up commenting on this thread because of the intense projection and ascription of ulterior motives and nasty name-calling. LOL at the person who can spot a conniver a "mile away."

We don't want MIL's house. Ever. We go other places for vacations. I suppose we will inherit a portion someday, maybe, shared with about seven people and we will take a week here and there. If we don't, well, that's fine too, since we have other vacation spots we love. We literally just needed to plan our kid's birthday weekend where she has celebrated every year with two other girls.

That's IT. This isn't some murder mystery weekend where we want MIL to croak so we take up residence in a swanky beachfront estate. Oh yes, that post suggesting how fancy the house must be was pretty funny too. It is literally two bedrooms in a very humble community near a small, remote lake in western PA...Not St. Tropez. But I suppose the fantasy allows for more meanness. I am shaking my head.

Doesn't matter how big or small the place is. You asked MIL and didn't get thr answer you wanted. Your post sounded entitled.

In your opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP and gave up commenting on this thread because of the intense projection and ascription of ulterior motives and nasty name-calling. LOL at the person who can spot a conniver a "mile away."

We don't want MIL's house. Ever. We go other places for vacations. I suppose we will inherit a portion someday, maybe, shared with about seven people and we will take a week here and there. If we don't, well, that's fine too, since we have other vacation spots we love. We literally just needed to plan our kid's birthday weekend where she has celebrated every year with two other girls.

That's IT. This isn't some murder mystery weekend where we want MIL to croak so we take up residence in a swanky beachfront estate. Oh yes, that post suggesting how fancy the house must be was pretty funny too. It is literally two bedrooms in a very humble community near a small, remote lake in western PA...Not St. Tropez. But I suppose the fantasy allows for more meanness. I am shaking my head.

You don't get to "NEED" (your word, look up, it's right there) someone else's property. Ever. Point blank period.

If you NEEDED to make plans NOW, all you had to do was pick up a phone or bring a up a rental website with your credit card on your hand.

Bye.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP and gave up commenting on this thread because of the intense projection and ascription of ulterior motives and nasty name-calling. LOL at the person who can spot a conniver a "mile away."

We don't want MIL's house. Ever. We go other places for vacations. I suppose we will inherit a portion someday, maybe, shared with about seven people and we will take a week here and there. If we don't, well, that's fine too, since we have other vacation spots we love. We literally just needed to plan our kid's birthday weekend where she has celebrated every year with two other girls.

That's IT. This isn't some murder mystery weekend where we want MIL to croak so we take up residence in a swanky beachfront estate. Oh yes, that post suggesting how fancy the house must be was pretty funny too. It is literally two bedrooms in a very humble community near a small, remote lake in western PA...Not St. Tropez. But I suppose the fantasy allows for more meanness. I am shaking my head.

You don't get to "NEED" (your word, look up, it's right there) someone else's property. Ever. Point blank period.

If you NEEDED to make plans NOW, all you had to do was pick up a phone or bring a up a rental website with your credit card on your hand.

Bye.

See you!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP and gave up commenting on this thread because of the intense projection and ascription of ulterior motives and nasty name-calling. LOL at the person who can spot a conniver a "mile away."

We don't want MIL's house. Ever. We go other places for vacations. I suppose we will inherit a portion someday, maybe, shared with about seven people and we will take a week here and there. If we don't, well, that's fine too, since we have other vacation spots we love. We literally just needed to plan our kid's birthday weekend where she has celebrated every year with two other girls.

That's IT. This isn't some murder mystery weekend where we want MIL to croak so we take up residence in a swanky beachfront estate. Oh yes, that post suggesting how fancy the house must be was pretty funny too. It is literally two bedrooms in a very humble community near a small, remote lake in western PA...Not St. Tropez. But I suppose the fantasy allows for more meanness. I am shaking my head.

Doesn't matter how big or small the place is. You asked MIL and didn't get thr answer you wanted. Your post sounded entitled.

In your opinion.

If you polled 100 Americans, 90 of them would have said the post sounded entitled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP and gave up commenting on this thread because of the intense projection and ascription of ulterior motives and nasty name-calling. LOL at the person who can spot a conniver a "mile away."

We don't want MIL's house. Ever. We go other places for vacations. I suppose we will inherit a portion someday, maybe, shared with about seven people and we will take a week here and there. If we don't, well, that's fine too, since we have other vacation spots we love. We literally just needed to plan our kid's birthday weekend where she has celebrated every year with two other girls.

That's IT. This isn't some murder mystery weekend where we want MIL to croak so we take up residence in a swanky beachfront estate. Oh yes, that post suggesting how fancy the house must be was pretty funny too. It is literally two bedrooms in a very humble community near a small, remote lake in western PA...Not St. Tropez. But I suppose the fantasy allows for more meanness. I am shaking my head.

Doesn't matter how big or small the place is. You asked MIL and didn't get thr answer you wanted. Your post sounded entitled.

In your opinion.

If you polled 100 Americans, 90 of them would have said the post sounded entitled.

+1

The other 10 would have been OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP and gave up commenting on this thread because of the intense projection and ascription of ulterior motives and nasty name-calling. LOL at the person who can spot a conniver a "mile away."

We don't want MIL's house. Ever. We go other places for vacations. I suppose we will inherit a portion someday, maybe, shared with about seven people and we will take a week here and there. If we don't, well, that's fine too, since we have other vacation spots we love. We literally just needed to plan our kid's birthday weekend where she has celebrated every year with two other girls.

That's IT. This isn't some murder mystery weekend where we want MIL to croak so we take up residence in a swanky beachfront estate. Oh yes, that post suggesting how fancy the house must be was pretty funny too. It is literally two bedrooms in a very humble community near a small, remote lake in western PA...Not St. Tropez. But I suppose the fantasy allows for more meanness. I am shaking my head.

You don't get to "NEED" (your word, look up, it's right there) someone else's property. Ever. Point blank period.

If you NEEDED to make plans NOW, all you had to do was pick up a phone or bring a up a rental website with your credit card on your hand.

Bye.

See you!!

No, you won't. I don't associate with entitled, spoiled people. So when I said bye, I meant girl BYE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP and gave up commenting on this thread because of the intense projection and ascription of ulterior motives and nasty name-calling. LOL at the person who can spot a conniver a "mile away."

We don't want MIL's house. Ever. We go other places for vacations. I suppose we will inherit a portion someday, maybe, shared with about seven people and we will take a week here and there. If we don't, well, that's fine too, since we have other vacation spots we love. We literally just needed to plan our kid's birthday weekend where she has celebrated every year with two other girls.

That's IT. This isn't some murder mystery weekend where we want MIL to croak so we take up residence in a swanky beachfront estate. Oh yes, that post suggesting how fancy the house must be was pretty funny too. It is literally two bedrooms in a very humble community near a small, remote lake in western PA...Not St. Tropez. But I suppose the fantasy allows for more meanness. I am shaking my head.

You don't get to "NEED" (your word, look up, it's right there) someone else's property. Ever. Point blank period.

If you NEEDED to make plans NOW, all you had to do was pick up a phone or bring a up a rental website with your credit card on your hand.

Bye.

See you!!

No, you won't. I don't associate with entitled, spoiled people. So when I said bye, I meant girl BYE.

OK! Bye.