Husband sent private emails to a friend about our relationship

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Anonymous wrote:I think everyone should have at least one outsideperson they can confide in about their relationship. I can see why it would be hurtful to read. If you found these messages while snooping, you hurt yourself and further damaged your relationship. If you found them completely by accident, it's clear that you and your spouse are in a very adversarial place. I'd think seriously about whether you want to do the work to try and save the relationship. If you believe your spouse is lying to and manipulating the therapist, there may not be anything to save.

I totally agree it's ok to tell a friend what his problems are. To me it's overstepping to forward several email where I expressed my problems with the relationship and then not tell me about it.

Ohhhh he forwarded your emails to your friend? Yeah would tick me off. It’s forgivable but not without a big apology. That’s like him reading your journal.

No, I wrote my husband several emails about problems I had in our relationship and my husband forwarded his friend my emails without my consent.

That's a big NO. I would be ticked, too.

Is he too lazy to talk? Forwarding a spouse's emails to a friend is lame.

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^ so is having gay sex behind your spouse’s back.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you cheat? Is this what he’s confusing about?

No, he did.

With a man?

yes.

So you are his beard? Time to think about separation.

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Anonymous wrote:Nearly every woman I know or have been with has at least one friend that she tells EVERYTHING to and it's wrong, but they do it. It's why I'll never trust any woman, wife or not, with something I don't want anyone else to know. Your H sounds like a woman.

At least the women were not cheating gay.

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Anonymous wrote:To add on, my husband only has less than one handful of friends, and this is a friend we get together with somewhat regularly. I feel betrayed and also uncomfortable around this person now. I don't understand why the therapist wasn't enough for him. Or even a site like this to express anything about our relationship in a less personal way.

Translation: "My husband should deal with stress and issues in his life the same way I do! It's ridiculous that he doesn't."

I don't have high hopes for your therapy, OP.

Keep reading before you throw bombs.